| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/13/2007 1:07:36 PM | Well I look at the pics, doesn't matter if they are the best looking man on this planet, if that pic doesn't reach out and grab me then I give it a miss. Sometimes I send an email to a man whose pic does just that. I am not interested for one reason or another but I just have to compliment on their eyes, or smile or whatever it is.
Next I READ the profile, I have specifics I look at first and then I read what they have to say. The content of the profile can turn me on or turn me off. I accept typing errors but I do have a problem with less than proper grammar. I don't think less of the person, I just know that I would not be interested.
People can say shallow, don't know what your missing, yadayadayada. Simply put, it is all about me and my choices and decisions UNTIL I make that connection. Nobody can possibly connect in any shape or form with everyone. Judge me if you will, doesn't make any difference to me. I control my life!!!!
Having said all that sometimes if I come across a really good profile and no pic, I will send an email to compliment them on their profile. Then they can make the decision to contact me or not.
With me its an overall thingy, sorta feelings about the person. AND BEFORE YOU ALL JUMP ON ME I've been wrong, I have been naive, gullible BUT I sure have met some of the world's best players! Its not about me at all. Players are players and some are predators. Some people just don't know themselves or are liars! Pic no pic makes no different with those people! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/13/2007 1:27:11 PM | | I have never been brave enough to meet a person without a pic - sure i've spoken to ones with out one - but eventually we exchanged pictures - some just dont' want to have it adveritsed all over... with the amount of scams that are coming out lately - i really wouldn't want to either.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/13/2007 2:21:53 PM | I feel that if no picture is posted then perhaps the individual has something to hide. Therefore won't even bother to look at a profile. Why should someone hide behind anonymity whilst signing onto a "dating" site". What do they have to hide?
This website is a breath of fresh air. I am so grateful to site owner; thank you dear one. It's free---goodness how many times have you and I been taken for a fool with paying money "up front" and then when deciding not to follow through have had so many problems trying to stop the payments through either the bank account or credit card agency?
Yes, there are some really wonderful people out there for us to just try and communicate with. It's for us to be able to sort the "wheat from the chaff" and in time yes we will do that, if that's what we want. 'tis for us to be able to use our perception within this site.
Whether you are single, divorced or widowed; use your own intuition; I feel that this will help you along the way to finding your own true path.
Myself? Well been on the site for a month and am truly happy with those that I have chosen to contact and also those who have contacted me (LOL).
regards Barbara | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/19/2007 3:08:47 PM | | what difference does it make most men on these sites think they got it all when they show thier stupid**** 'sicking'i think how do you know the person in that picture is the same person i could show a picture of my son how would you know or not so just go by description is good enough PS. chances are you will never meet any body on these sites any way most of them are just teaseers | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/22/2007 9:24:27 PM | >Bosslady I haven't met anyone personally as of yet. probably won't due to I am surrendering to the fact....it just isn't going to happen. Photo or not.
>Many people are placing quite older photo's of themselfes, with the intention to....lets say...warn.."no photo...don't bother to respond", yet what in reality they are screening you, if your too attractive...they will chat and maybe give every excuse to delay the transition. It's true.
>Photo smoto....like many people state, looks are only part of the package. Of course BL your still at the stage where that is a priority, I imagine.
>Soon, the mind and whats in that shell is the priority. Not everyone.
>Hey great to hear he was a knock out and that you guys had a ball!!!! :)
>notice......no photo.............
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/23/2007 2:39:28 AM | | Hi, just thought I'd add to this quickly. I had not added a picture and was contacted by a guy who quite frankly I would not have given a second glance in the street. Anyhow we chatted for a couple of weeks, his sense of humour was brill and he was just a genuinely nice guy. We arranged to meet and hit it off straight away, we are still chatting, calling and texting every day we've seen each other a few times, and get along great. Pictures mean nothing, you find out alot more about a persons personality by talking, looks can be deceiving believe me. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:40:23 PM | Hi. I just read your story about meeting someone without a photo and i did this last year and it was a complete disaster. The lady i met was not bad looking but we did not have a thing in common. I took her out for a coffee and she told me that she was looking for someone to help her as she had just come out of hospital. she wanted someone to take her to visit friend, do shopping for her but she only wanted me for a month and then she was going to the other end of the country and go back with her ex-husband. I thought this lady had more cheek than my back side.
All the best. Geoff. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/23/2007 4:09:58 PM | | Chippie1 how meeting someone without a photo and the rest of your posting. It may have been a disaster but even if you'd seen her photo sounds like it would have been a disaster. It is more about personality than looks apparently according to your posting so to me that means that you didn't do your homework on getting know something about her BEFORE meeting her. It has nothing to do without a pic. | |
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mogwen
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Joined: 10/1/2006
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/23/2007 4:29:11 PM | I met a couple of guys without pictures. They had pictures of me so they knew who they were looking for. One fellow said he would meet me at a pof event. The evening went without anyone coming up to say "hi, I'm the fellow you've been talking to". I figured he wasn't there. He emailed me and said he was there the whole time and spoke of the events and the food...I knew he was there. He asked me if I wanted to go out for dinner. I refused. It felt creepy, like I had been stalked, and I told him so. He didn't think there was anything wrong with his behaviour. Having a picture is good. The fellow I am now dating used his passport picture and he looked like an axe murderer. I thought...public place, nothing ventured, nothing gained and whoa! Glad I took the bait. Landed in a rather nice boat. LOL
With a picture you think you can make a more educated guess but the real person comes out when you spend time with them. Not everyone is photogenic. So a picture may be worth a thousand words and it's not the be all and end all. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/23/2007 4:59:14 PM | Well I am expanding my horizons to include contacting those of interest to me who don't have a pic posted. BUT I would expect that at some time in our conversations, he would be a gentleman and send me one privately with all his clothes on. After I put my out there, tit for tat, he can send me one off site.
And to the poster earlier who said the guy she was supposed to meet was there all the time. Well if he thought so much about contacting you later and ask you to meet him again, I'd tell him he missed his shot. If he was interested in you then he should have come over. Just call him a peeping tom BUT realize that their obsessions and stalking grow into very serious proportions.
My vote/advice is don't see him!!!!! He blew it! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:23:31 AM | 
And now we have the professional reason for not posting your thread this is over and above the wife/husband catching you out on here.
I cant think of any profession - without a doubt - that would stop you posting a picture of yourself on dating site.
Someone might see you D'OAH THATS THE IDEA!!!!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:34:27 AM | .........I have, and guess my instncts were't as good as yours, because most every time I have, it was not at all what I was looking for, and worse. There is always a reason for someone not posting a pic, and very few are because of a job, etc...... I learned the hard way but still have confidence that people are just people..............some lie, & some don't. Gotta sort the good from the bad and Go Forward.............  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:12:58 AM | hate to sound superficial...but I rarely speak to anyone without a pic...unless something about them stands out...
I wasted alot of time e-mailing a guy on here..seemed interesting.. & even spoke on the phone...he kept trying to get me to meet him...promised he was attractive...finally sent me a pic...then I have to feel guilty & be the bad guy..& say sorry...u just don't do it for me...
if he had had a pic to begin with...it wouldn't have happened...  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:44:46 PM | I have but nothing ever came of the meetings. There was one man who showed up all dirty, fresh from the field look, including dirt under his nails. I was a bit insulted that, despite planning the meeting for over a week, he could not show up with clean nails, but I guess that is how it goes.
I have no aversion to talking to men who have no picture, and sometimes you can really get to know the personality behind the looks and sometimes(as in your case) it really works out positively. Even with a picture, I don't think real attraction is possible until you have met and spent time together..ANYONE can say ANYTHING online. The picture can also be false or really old....It's only the face to face meeting and time spent together that shows if what they have said is true ...
Good Luck to you! May God Bless | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/29/2007 9:58:43 PM | Hi! I am also new at this and met two men whose picture I did not see first. Both of them were very nice and fairly attractive to me, however, no chemistry. Then I met another guy who advertised himself as "Handsome" well I thought he was very ordinary looking and just 'blowing his own trumpet'! It seems some just want to talk late at night....lonely perhaps?you have to meet each other (public place of course) as soon as possible..get it over with..remove the "fantasy" you will both know if there is any chemistry and it saves time, assuming you want to get on with it and meet your kindred spirit and love match.   | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:32:54 PM | | I agree with you Spiderwoman. We are all on this site to find people we are attracted to and it's a great way to weed out the ones you have no physical attraction to. I'm ready for a long term relationship....I already have lots of friends. Maybe I'm a little shallow, but if I'm not attracted to what's on the outside....I couldn't care less about what's on the inside. I would never meet someone without a photo. It's bad enough when you meet someone with a photo, then you get there to learn that the photo was taken 8 years ago and they look nothing like that now. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:43:50 PM | Yes, well sort of. Her face and body was obscured in the picture, but she seemed a nice person so I went along. DUFUS! Never again...still haven't stopped the self flagellation 
Superficial? I hope not, just need a little something to feel attracted to. | |
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Joined: 4/20/2007
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:51:39 PM | | If you have the ability to put on a profile, you should have the ability to post a picture. I suppose if it could put your job on the line, or if someone is harassing you it's understandable, provided you are willing to cough up a photo.Looks aren't everything, but physical attraction is something I find an asset. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:56:12 PM | | YES i did and i was really pleased to meet her and we are still going out its not serious but we arent looking for that just some one to do things with, what got me to email her was she smoked and she didnt put a picuter up till after we meet and i would have still meet het with her picture. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/9/2007 6:53:06 PM | Remember the game show Let's Make A Deal? You can take the cash or go for what's behind box # 2? Sure, it's a big chance, but you would be surprised what's behind box #2 (a profile without a picture).
I've talked with a few people without pictures on their profile. I even had coffee with one woman. We met at Perkins and had coffee and met. No great expectations to be let down or gained, but we met like we said and now when I see her at work I wave or stop and say hi and still talk with her. I'm glad to say she's a new friend.
I'd have just as much fun meeting up with a blind person that can carry a conversation than I would with someone that could see things and judge based on appearances. | |
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