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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:39:37 PM | | Ya i met this chick without a pic before I became online dating educated. She was a sweet heart, she adopted her sisters baby, she was athletic(or she said) attractive(or so she said) . So we met and I am 6'2 she was 4'10, and not so slim, and a voice that sounded sooooo annoying. But by now I have already been freindly trading emails with her and even lots of flirting!!!! so we had a fun and she kept emailing me wanting to go out again and i had to let her know there was NO WAY!!! so now I like to see lots of pics, not from 10 years ago either!!! If they have seen me, its only fair i get to see them!!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/12/2007 5:06:57 PM | I haven't *met* someone without seeing them, but I have started several correspondences with men without pics. In every case, when the pictures finally showed up, they were NOT ugly, lol! And the one I did actually spend time with looked exactly like his pic.
Try a little courage peeps, you might be surprised.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/12/2007 5:12:14 PM | I have a question - why is it that if you do post a pic - and it doesn't clearly show your face, its taken off - you are warned, but its okay not to have pics? Does that confuse anyone else?
But again, how can you guarantee that the person in the pic is them - and that it wasn't taken years ago? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/12/2007 5:46:19 PM |
But again, how can you guarantee that the person in the pic is them - and that it wasn't taken years ago?
You can't, never any gaurantees, I have to say though that most people that I see by looking and reading their profiles, I trust that they are genuine and are who they say they are but I also expect the unexpected. One other thing about the whole not putting a pic on, can you imagine if everybody on here didn't have a pic, it just wouldn't feel right, people with no pics can say what they want about wanting to be judged for who they are as a person etc. but the fact is our faces are part of our character and I like seeing loads of unique faces on here whether I find them attractive or not. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/12/2007 7:50:24 PM | my first pof date was with a guy whose pic was undecipherable. but he was a great writer, thinker and even greater talker. when i did meet him, i learned he was an even greater liar--however it did take two weekends to figure all that out! he was good looking however, if that is your concern. since we lived quite a ways from each other, he came to my town for the weekend. however, most people you meet only require an hour or two coffee date. if you do seem to like what they have to say, you might not be attracted, but you could still be friends and have a nice time.
my guess, from what people tell me, is that many people's pictures are not truly a real reflection. for me, they can look one way in a picture, but the energy and the way they move and their eyes might paint a totally different reality when we meet in person. i believe you never really know, so it's worth the chance. if you doubt their sincerity or smell a rat, however, you should meet in a place where they cannot interfere with your household or trace you to where you live. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/13/2007 5:30:07 AM | I actually prefer the no pic profiles....Too many "Glamour shots"..or pic's from years ago...
And i can honestly say i've been more than suprised at the few meetings i've had.....
And the reason my pic isn't posted is my job....As a Exec. for a luxury automobile manufacturer,i do not want or need to be seen by either my fellow co-workers...or by the people at the dealerships i visit...
And having a prominent Sicilian family in the area i live in is also another helluva reason!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/13/2007 5:41:07 AM | I don't have a pic, I have met several woman without a pic.
All of them were about how they described themselves.
If you don't have a sense of adventure and humor about all this,
chances are I won't get along with you anyway.
Happy fishing all. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/13/2007 6:05:56 AM | | I did and it was the biggest mistake of my life. He told me he was tall and good looking. When in truth he was short, fat and ugly. He showed up wearing flip flops in the middle of winter. I have kids and I was so happy I did at the time. He went out for a cigarette and when he came in I pretended I was on the phone and there was trouble with the kids and had to leave. lol. Luckily the phone didn't ring while I was pretending to talk on it lol. | |
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| ABSOLUTELY !
Posted: 10/13/2007 11:06:47 AM | We come into this world as we are. I will admit, I too, requested a picture.....at first.
Eventually, I grew to understand that it is a persons soul that is the most important factor.
As a matter of fact, if no one was allowed to post a picture, where would you stand?
What are you looking for in the first place? Do you want someone to love you for who, and what you are, or for what your facial features portray? I will agree that many of us need to be attracted to a person... We need a common thread.
Simultaniously, different hearts, beat on different strings.
Visual attraction plays a major role in the perpetual evolution of the human species, in my opinion. "Beauty and the Beast" has been the love story for centuries, has it not?
It is funny to me how the human conception of "true beauty" has changed throughout time.
Thin is in, thin is out. Whatever it takes I suppose...........Look what it has created. Anorexia, and bulimia are simply two examples, and still the list goes on.
Where does the madness end, and the sanity begin? What are you truly looking for? Great sex and a college education? A rich spouse to support you for the rest of your life? Someone to raise your kids? A showroom beauty? Seriously folks...
I met my soulmate right here on PLENTYOFFISH. She did not have a picture to post. She had one on a different site, however, I gave up on the idea that I had to see her face first. By doing this, I had to trust my inner voice, and reevaluate the true meaning of my heart's desire. For weeks, we had "very deep" conversations. This also developed my ability to express my true intentions, not just the words that I thought she wanted to hear. I do not believe it is a good idea to second guess anyone's intentions, including your own.. Was I nervous? Yes, I was... Was I dissapointed? Absolutely not! We are very happy together, and she is just as beautiful as I imagined. The most important factor: We share the same sense of values...... To me, similar values are the very foundation of a healthy relationship. Yeah, it is a long hard road, and no one is perfect.. It is a matter of "give and take" from both the man, and the woman, to keep any relationship whole.
Balance is the key to success, in my opinion.
We both must remain flexible, and open minded to "change."
In conclusion:
" THE ONLY THING THAT IS FOR SURE, IS THAT " NOTHING" IS FOR SURE."
- Klaatu 2007 | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/13/2007 2:10:21 PM | Yes the first time ya meet is an adventure ,like life, but beauity is only skin deep. the whole pkg. is when ya get to know them thats what ya want. Blind Dates the best. you can always weed out the onions. not all pictures are true, either. have fun I do.   | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/24/2007 11:28:24 AM | | I guess I'm in a bad mood today but I read all these platitudes and they are all meaningless. A simple yes or a simple no is all that is required. Justifying what one may or may not do is innocuous. Either you do or you don't. Its a personal choice and yet it is not a selfish choice. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/26/2007 12:57:59 PM | | I have heard many hilarious reasons from men for not having a pic. Some were genuine reasons, but I would say around two thirds were suspect. And so I prefer to avoid 'the faceless ones' alltogether. I don't buy the 'sensitive occupation' reasoning either. I've known plenty of people (me included!) who have been in sensitive occupations or senior positions and who have been brave enough to post a pic. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/27/2007 6:26:16 PM | I met him on yahoo messenger in 2005. Only one i ever met with out a picture. We had talked for 6 weeks on a pretty regular basis . When i finally met him in person i was not disappointed at all. We have been seeing each other ever since. We do break up from time to time . But all in all it was a good turn out.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:23:30 AM | | OP. Speaking personally, I don't even reply to messages from no-pics, never mind date them. I realise that there are some people on dating sites who prefer people to see them as a person, before they care about what they look like (even some of the better looking ones) but there is a very real danger that they may be in a relationship already, or there is some other reason for them hiding their picture (such as being afraid that their mates will see them, which in my eyes makes them a dishonest coward.) I'm pleased for you, or at least I'm pleased for you unless you find out there was some specific reason which is dishonest behind his lack of picture, but speaking for myself, I need to see an honest looking face on profile before I even look at the written. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:01:50 AM | Sometimes people with great pictures turn out to have used phoney pics.... or the dreaded glamor-shot from 9 years ago(and 40 pounds ago). Sometimes people look better in person than they do in their pictures. Just the same, sometimes people without pictures can falsely describe themselves... but, sometimes they can turn out to be suprisingly attractive as well.
I find that I can usually get a decent feel for how physically attractive a person is after having talked to him/her for a while.
Personally, I choose not to post my picture simply because I am not terribly comfortable with the idea of putting my face up for public display. It's not because I feel I am so repulsive that I am afraid it will scare people away. I do have pictures that I'm willing to share upon request, and have never heard any negative feedback from them. In fact usually people ask for more and more lol.
The only frustrating thing about not having a photo on my profile is the fact that about 50% of all pof users have the "only receive email from people with pictures" option selected, so I can't contact them. In fact just 5 minutes ago I was going to mail a gal just to let her know that I really enjoyed her forum post... but I couldn't because I don't have a picture  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2007 10:05:17 AM |
The only frustrating thing about not having a photo on my profile is the fact that about 50% of all pof users have the "only receive email from people with pictures" option selected, so I can't contact them. In fact just 5 minutes ago I was going to mail a gal just to let her know that I really enjoyed her forum post... but I couldn't because I don't have a picture
The question being, is it no pics who have sellected not to be contacted by no-pics on their profile, or is it the ones who have pics up? If it's only the ones who have pics up, then what are you complaining about. There's a whole world of no-pics out there who are probably just waiting for you to contact them. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2007 12:00:54 PM | Queen, I often wonder the same thing. Its a non sequentor! No pic is fine BUT then only accept clear human face shots? Doesn't compute to me. I like a pic just to get a feel but I also know that not pictures are indicative of that person. I take my own with an auto timer and can rarely get a smile. It feels so silly posing for a pic but I don't know how else to get them. Suppose I could stop someone on the street But then they might cut my head off like an old aunt used to. EVERY PICTURE, every time. | |
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| ABSOLUTELY !
Posted: 10/29/2007 2:34:56 PM | Klaatu,
You have completely answered the question for me.
Great job. Congratulations on your friendship!
Thank You and Take Care. Blurose. | |
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| ABSOLUTELY !
Posted: 10/29/2007 3:13:38 PM | | No, if a person refuses to send me a pic even after several email/phone conversations, then I think that he is hiding something. However, this can be a double edged sword. A person can send you a pic that is old, deceptive or fake. | |
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| ABSOLUTELY !
Posted: 10/30/2007 3:36:24 AM | I try to give people the benefit of positive feeling in this one. I'm going to trust until it is proven else wise. I really do a current picture that lets me "see" the person! Again I'm a physical person and I get a lot out of a picture IF its the correct picture.
mmmmm wonder if you can sue for misrepresentations?! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/30/2007 12:43:31 PM | If people can't post a photo cus they're in the public eye,
they can always send one to a private email.
If they refuse, there is a reason.
I wouldn't meet em.
I've have met a few ladyfish without seeing their pics.
Yes, I live dangerously/LOL
It was awkward. Not cus they were bad looking.(well one was).
It is just jarring to see someone who's face and personality is completely different than
what I could visualise in their words. Happens even with attractive women.
I PREFER someone know what I look like.
Just easier.
We can talk and skip the "Damn you look different than I imagined" conversation. | |
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