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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:04:48 PM | I got engrossed in reading this thread, and so glad I have. I thought, Oh God, not more doom and gloom of pic verses no pic.
But it hasn't been. It's so positive more than anything.
I think it's great there are people on here that don't put so much need in a pic and have had really positive experiences because of it.
Seems to me, that it's the experiences of people who insist on pic's that haven't had that good a time and not the other way round. Fake pic's, bad pic's, lies about when they were taken, glam shots etc. Total disappointment in meeting because they put so much expectation on what the person looks like and not who they are.
I know there are horror stories on both sides, but for me, I'm staying without a pic. For those who feel this means I have something to hide, so be it, don't mail me demanding I send (which happens a lot) just move along.
I'm definitely going back to being choosy who I send my picture to.
The people I have sent on demand after one email, 9 times out of 10, only end up steering any conversation thereafter to sex anyway, it's only head and shoulders, but obviously, a polo necked sweater really works for some men on here .... And I don't think I'm a beauty queen either, but neither am I Shrek, and that's all it takes apparently for some on here to decide you've passed the 'do-able' test.
I've met people off here, with and without pics, and although I haven't found 'the one' yet, (bad timing on my part) I've not been disappointed with any of the people I have met. They are lovely men who I still have contact with. Their characters and personalities shone through in their conversation and they actually want to know the person and have something to say. I'm happy with that. And I'm sure that when the time is right, that one mail will be......'the one'.
Happy fishing in 2008 people!
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:04:50 PM | | I need to see some picture of the person before I meet them. My reason for that is because I need to have an idea of what the person looks like before I meet them. One more reason is that unless they have a great personality that I click with there has to be some sorta physical attraction to them otherwise its not worth my time to meet them. Nothing against big people, I am one myself but if the girl I am gonna meet looks like they weigh a whole lot more than myself I don't even bother. There has be some responsibility of a person to not make them self not look like a fat blob. Not saying I am the greatest role model on that subject but I take care of myself for the most part to not let myself look like the "Stay Puff Marshmallow Man." | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:36:16 PM | I would not contact anyone who had not posted a pic with their profile, nor would I respond to somebody who didn't have a pic in their profile.
If somebody hasn't posted a pic, I can't help but think either or both of the following possibilities apply:
1. They have low self-esteem or
2. They are hiding something. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:43:23 AM |
I have normal self esteem and I am not hiding anything. I am a teacher, and do not want the parents of my students seeing my pic online and gossiping about me in the smaller town where I reside.
My son is 7,, I send him to school with a shirt saying,,
"My Daddy needs a new Mommy" kidding,,, but the thought did cross my mind..
so how are us single dads supposed to know you are looking without you advertising that your looking............
I'd say let the world know,, a much better chance of meeting some one,, and you still can be picky if need be.. ...I know I am,, thats why I'm still single.... one last thought...
and doesn't have to become a Harpper Valley PTA meeting either............ | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 7:12:02 AM | | very few single fathers in my school, actually probably none in my age range, since I am 50. sorry, not going to have someone talk about me after seeing a pic online, a coworker had a pic on a dating site, and she was made fun of by coworkers, a parent referred to her pic at a meeting involving her child where the principal was present and that caused all kinds of problems, and she received a call from someone of importance shall we say advising her to remove the pic, or she would be investigated since unfortunately teachers are still expected to have some unreal degree of moral turpitude. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:23:27 AM |
she received a call from someone of importance shall we say advising her to remove the pic, or she would be investigated since unfortunately teachers are still expected to have some unreal degree of moral turpitude.
Thats to bad,, in my opinion,, I will never let society or my employment rule who I am,, if what we do is in good taste, and causes harm to no one,, then we all have that right. Yes I agree, we all have rules, when your not in the work place, your employers should have no right in controlling what you do. Here are a few examples,, many years ago. I worked for a company,, my position was lead tec. I had the responsibility of directing men under me.. Now in my spare time,, I was also an exoitc male dancer,, You can imaginethe grief I got over that,, they also had a drug and drinking policy.. if durning a randon test we failed,, we would be fired on the spot.. My point,, I would have a few drinks on weekend,, this company would call and ask me to go to work,, I said I couldn't,, because I had a few beers,, next thing you know I'm in the office,, and my bosses suggesting I have a drinking issue.. All because when they wanted me to work... My response is,, you want me to sit home and not drink,, then pay me,, what I do in my own time is my business.. The funny part is,, most of the time I wasn't drinking,, it was a just an excuse not to work.. because we also could not refuse over time.. However I lasted 15 yrs with that company before resigning to start my own.. My point,,, we can use some work policies to our advangae..and live life ,and be in contol ... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:16:15 AM | I am not interested in seeing any person without a picture of themselves. If I take the trouble to put my picture on the profile , the another person should as well.
I am not comfortable with wondering what somebody looks like, I want to see a picture of their face. And if I am comfortable enough maybe I will continue talking to them, and maybe not! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 12:42:06 PM | I met someone once from Yahoo dating a LONG time ago without a picture and without talking on the phone - just emails. BIG MISTAKE!!! He said he was a tall cowboy-type. He was very short, no way any kind of cowboy-type. If I remember correctly, he was disfigured. I think he had a heavy German accent as well. I almost ran when I saw him, but I thought it would be out of integrity.
We met at a very cool market with gourmet food....but he said he wasn't hungry...what? Then while I ate, he cursed every other word. As soon as I finished eating, I made an excuse to leave and THEN I ran.
I was very angry that he had made himself out to be such a wonderful guy. I couldn't believe all the cussing. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 2:38:17 PM | TWU, I don't blame you at all. Anybody that lies about their features, their size, or job or anything else are pretty crappy people.
Guys have tried to pull that with me too, saying they didn't want to provide a picture for different reasons. I don't have anything to do with them.
I have no interest in mystery, if you want to meet someone they should out of honesty provide a picture of themselves and if they don't they are hiding things about themselves..
I wouldn't trust them. Don't have anything to do with those kind of people. They are jerks or jerkettes.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 3:08:13 PM | | Some of us are not jerks and jerkettes just because we do not have a profile picture. I send a pic to any man who is interested in meeting me, and some have not liked my appearance and some have. Nothing different than men who view women with pics and pass them by due to thinking they are not physically attractive. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2008 3:27:48 PM | I think the truth is, this is the internet. The only guarantee - is that there are no guarantees. You just have to keep your wits about you. Use your intellect, instincts, experience, be watchful for the red flags and go about dating on here in the way that suits you best. Chat for as long as you feel comfortable – IM, phone etc. You also have the right to request a picture if one hasn’t been offered before you meet. If you FEEL you would like to meet at a certain point, then go for it, safely. As long as you feel you have done everything to make yourself feel comfortable with the situation, the rest is fate. I have to say though, that I wouldn’t like to have been dealing with this kind of forum when young.
If you require a profile with a pic, then only have contact with those. If you need someone who cams, then let them know that. At the end of the day, the only guaranteed way of getting to actually know someone is eventually by meeting them. Up to that point is pure chance to a certain extent on here, pic or not.
I have no problem with how anyone wants to ‘fish’ on here, but, I do get a bit rankled when people who choose to have their pic’s on their profiles get SO het up and personal about the ones who don’t.
Why is that? Some get really, REALLY annoyed…………I mean ….angry, insulting,........ “SHOOT the no picture profilers and ban them ALL !!! Are ya with me people??!!” ........ Kinda angry.
They’re the ones that scare the bejeezes outta me I can tell ya…………..wide berth given there methinks………call it instinct………nice pic's tho’…………
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