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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:03:26 AM | Yeah I have.
In fact I tend to prefer profile that do not have pics. This way you can totally concentrate on WHO they are, without any subconscious first impressions being made. People cant help their appearance therefore to jude somebody by a pic alone is nieve to say the least.
I think it makes for a far moe exciting date when you dont know what they look like. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:41:14 AM | Brave enough? You mean desperate enough! I am here to find people I am attracted to... if I do not know what they look like then I do not know if I am attracted to them
I suspect they do not have a pic because they are married/have a girlfriend and they do not want their significant other to see them using dating services! Even though some use a picture that is way old, at least it gives you a starting point. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:44:59 AM | I've talked to and met a lot of women without a pic. Sometimes it's because they don't have a way to download or scan a photo into the computer. Other times I think it's because they're ashamed of their looks, esp. overweight women so they refuse to post any. Most of the women I've met without a photo are average or decent looking. I did meet one woman without a pic who told me she was huge. She kept emphasizing how she just had a baby so she was really big. I met her anyway and she turned out to be really good looking. I was really surprised. She was obviously too hard on herself. I've seen all of those profiles from women who say they won't respond to a guy without a photo. Obviously those are the women who care way too much about what a guy looks like and not enough about his personality or what a guy is like on the inside. Think about it. We consider a woman who's only out after money as a gold digger, so if a woman primarily cares about looks then is she a hunk digger? Besides, it's not like she has to marry him or even go out with a guy without a pic so what's wrong with writing back to someone without a photo? Personally, I'd rather date a woman who's a 5 but with the personality of a 10 than a woman who's a 10 with the personality of a 5. Love and making love can be incredible if your personalities blend, but who wants to do a hot model type of woman who's a witch? Well, I guess some would but not me.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 6:05:47 AM | | yes i have once but did see them on cam before meeting as well..most the meetings that happened nothing came out of it but a few hang outs then never really hung out again...i won't add a pic to my profile ever...so i don't expect anyone else to. besides i'm not meeting people from here. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 6:41:05 AM | """People cant help their appearance therefore to jude somebody by a pic alone is nieve to say the least. """
as well, to judge based on physical appearance at all, is superifical. that having been said and agreed, its not always about that either. True, one should be taken upon their merit as a person. But what we are talking about is humans relating and mating. It has been proven, that when it comes to the mating rituals of humans, there are two initial key components which have to be in place in order for their to be any success. There are two ket attraction components,, one is the physical and thats primary, the secondary is cerebral/emotional. while you may not even admit it to yourself, if you find a person the least bit attractive in the physical you will be drawn to find out if there is the secondary attraction.
so, not dealing with ppl who wont post a pic isnt naive, anymore than its noble to say things like "looks dont count" . because in the end, looks do count.
i can see from a mans pov how it can be more exciting, but for us girls, we are already at a disadvantage, not knowing what he looks like. this dating world can be pretty scary,, theres a lotta nutjobs out here. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 6:52:53 AM | I've talked to and met a lot of women without a pic. Sometimes it's because they don't have a way to download or scan a photo into the computer."""
see, now thats a crock! you can go into just about any retail establishment,( Target, Kmart) with a photo and they will scan it and save it to a disc for you. a 5 yr old can upload a pic.
Obviously those are the women who care way too much about what a guy looks like and not enough about his personality or what a guy is like on the inside"""
again, a load of _ _ _ _!
we dont care more, we want to have a visual of who we are dealing with. i know for me, knowing what that person looks like allows for a comfortability that you dont get with "blind" dating. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 7:15:28 AM |
see, now thats a crock! you can go into just about any retail establishment,( Target, Kmart) with a photo and they will scan it and save it to a disc for you. a 5 yr old can upload a pic.
The pics I can email are in my profile but I clicked the 'private' option so they're not shown. I bet there's a lot less contact between people here because they have pics posted. Which may be a good thing, but maybe it's not.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 7:27:13 AM | Well you have one story, and I have another. I met a woman once without a pic, and she turned out to be a fat disgusting pig. So fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me.
First there isn't any excuse for not having a pic up. Anyone can master the simple skill required to put a pic up. Next, in most cases, there is a good reason why there isn't a pic. You can check into the why, but I don't have the time to play detective.
I know of a big fat ugly guy that posts on this site who has multiple profiles. He's into playing games, he doesn't have anything else to do with his time, and he'll happily waste hours of yours and thoroughly confuse you with his screwed up motives for being here.
Some people don't really want a relationship perhaps due to illness or some other reason that incapacitates them, likely their weight. What they want is a pen pal. That's fine if you want one too, but often their motives aren't disclosed in their profiles.
So bottom line if your time is important to you, set up some rules for introductions and follow them.
The Eagle | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:55:45 AM | Kind of. After talking for a few weeks and still no pic, I decided to give up asking, and stop talking to this guy.
He then sends me a pic. He looked great and I couldnt see why he hadnt shown me one before.
we arranged to meet, I walked into the place, and had it not been for him seeing me i would have walked back out because he wasnt there.
Turns out my date had shown me a pic of when he worked in the Gulf, and he now looked the spit of Kenny Rogers! Complete with white beard and gut!
I told him later that evening that I didnt think he was my type, and he had the cheek to ask if my mate would go out with him.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 10:15:09 AM | | I've never done a complete "blind date" but did meet a few women who offered me a pic just before the "date", too late to cancel without looking like a jerk. And it never turned out nice. There was a very definite reason they had no pic up and it had nothing to do with privacy issues. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 11:09:07 AM | "Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?"
Yes of course. My chat experience started out on BBS (no pics), then moved onto the early chat rooms (no pic), and eventually onto instant messaging (started with no pics). All those times I was perfectly comfortable with meeting people without pictures.
It still is perfectly natural for me to message people without pictures based purely on the content of their profile and of course their responses to my questions and comments.
Having met countless people off the internet, traveled with, even lived with I don't find anything odd about contacting them. It's important to remember, be safe - trust your gut, and if anything seems out of expectation you can always back out.
No two encounters are alike, and with that said there have definitely been negative experiences; it's all part of life, or in this case e-life.
I look forward to my next picture, or pictureless contact. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 4:51:01 PM | Absolutely! The man I met, fell in love and am unfortunately no longer with, didn't have a pic posted and didn't send me a pic until just before we met. Granted, I didn't have a pic posted either (and still don't) and he didn't get to see a pic of me until just before we met too. I got to know him for him while chatting on the phone. When we met, I was pleasantly surprised (he looked better in person than in his pic - not that he looked bad in his pic though either)! I'm interested in the whole package, not just looks, considering he won't look like that forever! Keep an open mind, you never know who you'll find (or who will find you!). | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 8:10:21 PM | | I simply meant that I was attracted to his personality before being attracted to his looks. It has nothing to do with being noble (with or without a visual). There's more to people than looks, although, there would have to be a physical attraction as well. The question is asking if anyone has been brave enough to meet someone without a pic. My answer is yes. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 8:44:45 PM | LOL, funny in my opinion it is a delusion to think that just because someone has a photo posted they are somehow more trustworthy and honest than those that don't post one. I have found that to be the exact opposite. Not one person I met without a photo lied about their height, age, occupation, marital status or even where they live yet all the lies I heard came from people that had pictures, a few lied about multiple things.
It has nothing to do with being brave or noble, but everything to do with not being so delusional that you believe there is any kind of true attraction from a pic, profile or a couple of phone calls. You have to meet someone to know if there is a real “attraction” anyway so what difference does it make if you see them before or at the meet? How many times do people meet and there is just no “chemistry” did seeing a picture beforehand change that all too often occurrence? What about the fake photos? Since you are basically taking a chance even with a photo why is it any more delusional than those that take a chance without one? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:26:40 PM | ""It has nothing to do with being brave or noble, but everything to do with not being so delusional that you believe there is any kind of true attraction from a pic, profile or a couple of phone calls"""
you bet it doesnt,(funny,THATS WHAT I SAID) but those ffolks who talk yaya about not requiring a pic on profile come off as an attempt at being somehow more enlightened, or "above it all", etc etc. they are just as likely to turn tail and run or make a hasty exit if when meeting that person there isnt the "snap" or "spark".
""LOL, funny in my opinion it is a delusion to think that just because someone has a photo posted they are somehow more trustworthy and honest than those that don't post one.""
when i used the term "delusional" i was referring to the ppl who come off as all high and mighty about not requiring the pic on profile or before a meeting.
what it is about is a level of familiarity,not one of trust. some of us actually want a visual to go with the dialogue.
fake photos dont count imho, cuz they are way to easy to spot. LOL, some of em are sooooooooooooo obvious. I had this guy once try and pass himself off as tyson beckford,, LMAO. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/2/2008 8:28:05 PM | Normally I prefer to see who I am talking with because I do believe we are either attracted to someone or not, plus I believe we can get a good feeling about a persons character by their eyes.their look. In additon why would either person desire to waste the other persons time and our own. It simply does not make sense to me.
Once and only once I chatted with a man who did not post a picture or provide one, for sometime because I was out of the country at the time we could not meet in person, he described himself, he gave me a story about a high profile job reason and not having one he could download etc. I started to like him, we shared lots of info then when we did meet months later... well lets just say his description and what he really looked like was completely different. In real life he looked like a short out of shape santa claus. A person I was definately not attracted to. In addition he was different typing responses then in person on the internet he was charming, self confident, witty, interesting... but in person he was so self conscious, so not funny, so blunt.. I guess online he had time to think.He also had a good reason for the no picture
( yeah ! he was in an unhappy relationship so he was thinking he would see if he met anyone better. then break up ) Sad but true. Unbelievable!
So from now on no picture no communication for this girl, at least not the let me get to know you typing kind. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/2/2008 8:35:15 PM | | N.O. NO! I wont do it no matter how brave I am . I need to know who you look like before hand. I have my pictures up to show people what they are gettin into if they meet me, so no I wont do it sorry. I do not care how well the concversations go, you want me to meet you better have or send a pic. | |
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