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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/5/2008 1:32:48 PM | | Never again! I know don't say never, but the guy was fat, balding, and stalked me! He was nuts and told me about how he broke into his last gf's place, smashed her 60" tv, coffee table, and did who knows what all. Oh yeah, I was thrilled when he moved to Texas...sorry Texans. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/5/2008 1:44:34 PM | | My sweetie never had a pic on here and we became very special friends before i ever even saw a pic and now I am moving to Ga with him......so I was lucky, but even if i had not seen his pic I would have met him sooner or later because of his heart and soul that he has shown me over and over again...... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/8/2008 11:50:05 AM | ^^^^Aluria, that is a sweet story. I wish you all the best. If you are moving to the greater Atlanta area, that is one fine city and you will have lots to keep you interested there besides your boo. *claps* I have read so many horror stories, it's nice to be able to acknowledge a happy one.
Anyhoo, I have mailed a couple of blokes without pics because it really shouldn't matter in the end. I just hope for the best that I'm not being lied to about the details I do have. Many people say profiles without pics are married peeps and while that may be true, it's easy enough to call a married person's bluff. Getting the house phone number, meeting on weekends...there's an entire thread dedicated to ways, so I'm not too worried about that anymore.
I figure I can ask for an emailed pic at any time, or Web cam it. By being on here, I'm already in the race, might as well run it to win it.  So I'd definitely risk it...it makes things more interesting too. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/19/2008 8:12:28 PM | I sent this woman from Plenty of fish who didn't have her picture. She sent me a very subjective picture that was probably half her age. Needless to say, I blocked her e-mail. I think, that someone is trying to hind something. Perhaps a spouse from finding out?  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2008 11:15:16 AM | | I signed on in Sept 07. I had no picture to start with and yet was supprised that a few men were brave enough to e-mail and then call me. I applaud them. My current sweetie was one of them. We were both dating other people at the time and he's actually long distance from me. I was not looking for another LDR. I love music and he plays guitar so I was eager to talk to him. I could tell he was hesitant but I suggested we could be friends since we were seeing other people. We hit it off right away discussing music and he would bug me once-in-awhile about posting a pic. Finally I got one up and he was like, "WOW"! I didn't want to admit it but I've totally fallen for you, the picture sealed the deal! We got together in November. Even though it's long distance, he's more than worth it! I'm hoping like hell that the distance issues resolve themselves with time. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2008 1:14:38 PM | Yes, I unfortunately made this mistake a couple of times. Never Again!!! The first time, the guy said his body type was average, not so much, he had trouble fitting into the booth. Did he think this was something I just wouldn't notice? The second time I actually talked this guy over the phone and he said his looks were better than average. Now who says this about themselves? And when I finally met him well sweet jeezuz, just shoot me now. Above average? In whose world, not mine that's for sure.
Really tired of these not so pleasant surprises. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2008 7:19:08 PM | I guess most of the men I've met thru here had pics. We never made it to the first date. Oh, they asked - but I didn't feel 'it', so no dice. But my current beau is from here, did not have a pic, and is the hottest thing breathin' air on the planet. Hands down. Hubba hubba! Just think. If he'd of had a pic, he'd of been so swamped with women I may never have met him.................  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2008 9:50:49 PM | I have met two men without a picture. The first seemed to be a nice man, and was clearly honest and upfront about his looks.His lack of confidence when he shuffled into the coffee shop was the thing that totally disenchanted me, not his lack of good looks.
Guy number two claimed to be 6' tall and 210lbs., dark hair and blue eyes... How dreamy, hmmm? Imagine my surprise when he walked into the restaurant for breakfast, and before me stood a 5'9", 300 lb., (at least) man. His confidence level was off of the charts. He thought nothing of the lies he had told me.
Date over!
I still see his profile online occasionally.
The lesson I learned from these experiences were to beware. I do not show my own picture until I have talked to a person for a bit. I like to connect mentally first. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:46:11 AM | | I met one guy from the internet without a pic and he was not my type. However, I also met a guy on yahoo in person who looked nothing like his picture on profile. In his picture, he was young and hot but in person he was the opposite. I was pissed. It is easy for someone put up old or fakes online so you can't always go by their pics. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2008 1:11:31 AM | I met my ex and he had no picture. I don't really care about looks or age though. As long as they are not younger than 18 or older than 50. I'm more about the personality since that lasts and usually tells more about a person than the way they look.
If someone with no picture sends me a messie, the only reasons I would not respond are:
1: They use poor grammar and/or spelling and punctuation.
2: They talk in ebonics.
3: They start off showing their pervy side.
4: They sound absolutely dull. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2008 6:37:28 AM | Hi there! I'm so happy that it worked out for you. Personally, I don't meet people without pics. For a number of reasons, some are probably sound, some are probably silly. LOL
#1 I had a stalker at one time. The very idea of going somewhere knowing that a person would know me before I knew them-makes me queasy. What if he is a stalker type, what better way to find a new victim- someone who doesn't know who he is while he sits there and watches her... follows her home. Absolutely not. I will not do that.
#2 Some people don't post pics because they are married. They don't want their spouses or a friend coming across their profile. I don't have an interest in someone who is here to cheat.
#3 Meeting someone who has seen you, but has not allowed you to see them can be an indication that they have control issues, or they only want to deal with you from a step up perspective- you're going in blind, they hold all of the cards.
I am sure there are other, more savory reasons why some people choose not to put up their pics. I'm just giving you the reasons why I, personally, will never meet any of them. Those are the ones that stick out in my mind the most. Basically not having a face to go with the words and/or messages makes me nervous and erodes my ability to trust from the get go. Not a way that I want to start a possible new relationship. I'm unwilling to take a chance with any of those situations. Hopefully, "Mr. Right" understands that and can still find me somehow. ;-) Just as the non pic profiles can hopefully find their "Mr. & Mrs. Rights" despite not having pics. It all works out in the end, right?
I'll meet anyone- their pic isn't to weed out people based on looks. I don't value looks... I need people who make me laugh, think, relax, get excited about things...etc. A pretty face doesn't do any of that. A terrific personalty, kind heart, wise soul- do those things for me. Yes, some people judge me for not dating people without a pic. I'm not concerned about people who are so judgmental. Not my type anyway then, you know? LOL.
Seriously though- I'm happy that it worked out well for you. A man without a pic contacted me and literally had the same things to say, he's a private pilot, he is NOT ugly... etc. When I said that I would not meet someone without a pic, that it made me uncomfortable, he wrote me back in a very verbally abusive way. ALL IN CAPS, clearly enraged. That was so alarming and I was so glad that I had listened to my instincts in that situation. I immediately blocked him. After sending his post off to ensure that the appropriate people are aware of this man's abusive nature. Just in case. . . I mean- he's seen me. I DO go to POF events. (Always with a friend for safety.) You never know. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2008 6:53:17 AM | My favorite was a guy that emailed me. Very attractive. Was going to be in my neck of the woods for a medical conferance. So we exchange numbers and I tell him he can come meet my friends and I later for drinks.
Well I get a phone call from "his friend" that tells me, "Bob isn't going to make it, but he wants me to come in his place." lol Um thanks but no thanks.
Doesn't matter if they have pictures or not. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2008 7:43:18 AM |
I simply told my online buds who the shallow easy girls were) Wanna get laid; show yer abs. ;)
To Frosty - Message 22
Hmmm. looks to me like you might be a bit 'shallow & easy' yourself, bud. Bad case of double standards there.... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/22/2008 8:15:54 PM | Won't do it again...my ONE experience turned out to be a lying drunk guy who wanted any drugs he could get his hands on while he stayed home and I worked to support us both.....aw, baby, I am looking for a job...
Live and learned...never again...sorry to anyone who is honest and has no pic...
earthen
And ladies, this winner is in POF again...but with a pic now... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:41:48 AM | Hi I am very self consuse of my looks and dont have a pic on my profile. I contacted and arranged to meet a man and even without a photo he agreed.
Anyway we got on so well we have now meet 3 times and he makes me feel great about myself.
SO come on people dont judge us because we have no photo we are just shy. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:33:29 PM | | I'm glad I found this question..I began talking to a man I met on POF and he did not have a pic, he told me what he looks like and we exchanged phone numbers. I've never done this before and I'm very shy and backwards and I was very nervous. I'm a little leery because he said he was 5'10 but on his profile it says he is 5'4...I asked if he could send me a pic via text so I can at least put a face to the voice that makes me laugh but he said he cannot because his phone won't let him. Should I take this as a warning? I have to be careful because I'm a single mom and I would never want to put my daughter in harms way...I'm not sure what to do.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:52:17 PM | | ^^^^ If things he is telling you in email or on the phone are contradictory to what he has listed about himself it should make you wonder. I mean, most people know their own height. If you have asked for a photo and the hesitations don't jive with you, yes you should be leery. Keep asking questions and see if things stay consistent, photo or not if anyone is lying about their appearance you truly aren't going to know until you are face to face. Always meet in public, might even want to keep it to just a short meet at a coffee house or food court at the local mall. Many times if someone isn't up front about how they look they won't meet up anyway. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:05:58 PM | The last guy I met off of POF didn't have a picture either. When he picked me up I was pleasantly surprised as well. He was a puddle maker. Phew, thinking about him now...
I do meet people without pictures. I don't mind not knowing what they look like, as long as they warn me of missing body parts first... | |
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