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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:28:03 PM | | I met one guy from another site thinking-----i need to kill some time----well, I ended up REALLY falling for this guy. Neither one of us knew what each other looked like! The chemistry was great. It was one of the most wonderful 2 weeks of my life! THEN, he had to leave back to his country :( .....For me it was a great experience and something I will treasure forever.... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/1/2008 11:57:56 AM | I actually left my picture off on purpose a couple years ago, I was new and not sure about this site, and I chatted back and forth with a real sweet guy for a couple months, he was curious about my appperance of course, I gave him a couple clues as to my looks. We ended up meeting and he thankfully was relieved at "his words" how beautiful I was...we dated for about 6 months, had lots of fun..nice guy, we're still friends. Then I went back on here, with a picture this time...at first I got so much response..I think I was happpier without the picture...lol. But most guys want a picture...that's just the way it is..but I make sure to keep my pictures respectable...cause I am a classy lady. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/1/2008 3:54:07 PM | Nope. There is no excuse these days for not having a photo up.
There must be a real personal reason they dont - insecurity, looks, too broke, etc that
I dont want to deal with anyway.
Those are the only ones that get "Unread, Deleted" .
I set my POF mail so you *have* to have a picture to contact me, so that helps with that. But in other arenas, no photo, no go. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:16:05 AM |
-- it is not fair for them to see me and me not see them
-- if they end up being a creepy stalker I want to know what they look like
-- when we meet people in real life, we see what they look like
-- I am here to find people I am attracted to... if I do not know what they look like then I do not know if I am attracted to them
(1)it is not fair for them to see me and me not see them. What's the difference if you see some picture or not. A picture is just a picture. It doesn't tell you anything tangible about the person.
(2) if they end up being a creepy stalker I want to know what they look like. That doesn't matter either. There are to many on here with fake pictures. If there gonna stalk there gonna stalk. Most of the ones i have been told about get stalked by guys that have seen nothing but a picture.
(3)when we meet people in real life, we see what they look like. Sorry to bust your bubble but this isn't real life. Theres people on here that can be any thing you want them to be. Just seeing what a guy looks like in a picture isn't going to tell you squat about what kind of guy he is.
(4)I am here to find people I am attracted to... if I do not know what they look like then I do not know if I am attracted to them. What a pity. A very shallow statement. If you really want to be attracted to a person try getting to know the person within first. There are lots of people who look good on the outside and on the inside totally nothing. One day we all are going to get old and looks aren't gonna matter. I know, There are some exceptions to this. There are some things that are just complete turnoffs and deal breakers. But looks shouldn't be the do all say all of attraction. | |
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mlbee
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Joined: 6/28/2008
Msg: 1980 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:33:58 AM | SNAP!!!!! same thing happened to me.... a guy contacted me, with no pic and we emailed and he phoned me several times. I didnt even ask about his looks, but agreed to meet as he seemed such a nice guy.
We met up and the first date lasted 12 hours!!! WOW we both fell in love, I couldnt have chosen a more handsome, loving wondeful guy if I had tried!
(I must admit that I wouldnt have made the first contact without a picture, but him contacting me has been the best thing to ever have happened. We are both crazy about each other!!!!! I hate to think what I might have missed out on  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:52:31 AM | | Just to see who the shallow sobs are out there? I don't get it. Wanting to see what someone looks like doesn't make them bad or shallow. When meeting someone in public you see what they look like, yes? When meeting someone here I'm sure most people want to know what the other person looks like. Of course people want someone with a good personality, things in common and so forth, but there is physical attraction as well. To say that someone is shallow just because they want to know what another person looks like is being narrow-minded right there. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:57:34 AM | | yes i have the month of july 08 and had a very good time. u can check my file . i call it the bag date or first date. i have had some girls call me a jurk over this but i think it weeds out the jurks and i have the best just for me. i have faith and have driven up to 10 h just to go to breakfast with a great lady. then back home. so if you have that kind of faith email me lookin for my best friend (((((thanks fish))))) loveidaho | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:45:58 AM | In my experience women who dont have a picture on their profile do so for a very good reason.
I have met 3 women for dates whio didnt have a picture and to say I didnt fancy them woudl be a gross understatement.
No picture to me smacks of dishonesty.
They can see how I look so why cant I see how they look before we get into a relationship? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:31:16 PM |
To say that someone is shallow just because they want to know what another person looks like is being narrow-minded right there.
I can't totally agree with you there even though it is true that we as humans size people up by how they dress,you know, Like bummy looking cloths, unshaven that sort of thing. But i have met many who take the "looks" thing way to far. They look for the woman with the super model looks or the guy that is all GQ. Thats shallow. I have met women that will not go out with a guy if he doesn't look a certain way no matter how decent a guy he is. It's shallow to me when a woman meets a good decent man that would be good to her in every way he can but she will not give him a chance simply because he doesn't look like her kind of man. When all the time if she would just look deeper she would see he is the man she has always wanted and more. People now are just to stuck on looks and being attracted to the shell of the person. Simply put, The shell of a person will lie to you. Looks doesn't matter in the long run. Looks will not keep you with a man or a woman. We may be attracted to whats on the out side but in the long run it's what on the inside that makes us stay with or leave that person. I will go along and say wanting to know what a person looks like is natural. But for me, Wanting to know who they are and what they are in more important. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/3/2008 10:34:46 AM |
Just to see who the shallow sobs are out there?
i don't think it's shallow at all to expect some mutual physical attraction. that doesn't mean i think physical attraction is the only basis for a relationship, but it's a necessary item pre-empting most others. for me, there has to be a certain level of looks *and* a certain level of education. if either one is missing, i will not be attracted. each of us has our own tolerances/ranges for what is and what isn't acceptable.
too many people who are complaining about 'shallow' are trying to date out of their leagues. like begets like. in some cases, the person may have, at one time, been able to attract the desired caliber, but is no longer able to do so and is unwilling to accept that fact. i have a friend whose 'sort of' bf is going through that. he's pushing 40 and he's still living in his college football star days when all the girls liked him! time for a current reality check! (...not to mention, she needs to dump him & find someone who appreciates her...ah, but she will not listen!) | |
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kmb74
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Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 1987 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:15:34 AM | I think it's wrong to generalize that those without a picture are ugly or lying. I don't have a pic up b/c I am not looking to date. I can assure you, I have nothing to hide and I am not ugly.
When I first joined, I didn't have my picture up and got very few emails. When I uploaded some, my emails went thru the roof, but MANY consisted of inappropriate sexual comments. Some of us chose not to post a pic b/c we don't want the attention from the perverts. If there was someone I was interested in or if someone expressed interest in me, I'd send them my pictures. I still do that with people I correspond with thru the forums.
Ironically, the first guy I dated from here met me without seeing my picture. I asked him if he wanted to and he said he's rather wait til we met. We dated for 6 months.
To answer the question, I don't think I'd want to meet someone without seeing a picture first. I understand pics can often deceive you, I'd rather have an idea of what the person looks like upfront. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/10/2008 10:37:34 AM | | I never usually even read a profile if there's no pic but a terrific profile caught my eye. The guy sounded wonderful so I emailed and asked about a pic. He said he was in the 'entertainment' industry and didn't want to be recognized. Being skepical, I asked him to send me a picture. He did, he's gorgeous, we met, I really like him! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/11/2008 9:03:34 AM | | you are a goodlooking girl.but your missing out.what if your potential husband is out there with out a picture.your single and will problaby remain that way because youkeep choosing the same type of men good luck your going to need it. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/11/2008 9:12:17 AM | | i have and have had no regrets as far as looks but turned out he just wasnt my type. Ive found looks isnt everything its how u get treated and the attraction u find if its there. some pics they put may be 5 years old that happen to me once and the guy was not what he claimed. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/11/2008 9:14:50 AM | Yes I did...but not from here.
He said he had a "few extra pounds..." Well, those "few extra pounds" were like 150 extra pounds.....he was about 5'9 and probably weighed close to 400 pounds......we met at a local diner, and had to sit at the counter, because he needed two stools, and fitting into a booth was out of the question.......
And HE said that I was not what he thought I would be!!!!!
NEVER AGAIN! | |
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tenino
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Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 1997 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:09:23 AM | Have I been brave enough? Heck yeah - I was a foolish brave woman 
NEVER AGAIN!
I have zero issues with not having a photo on your profile - everybody has a reason that to them is a GOOD reason. But I do request that a photo be sent along right quick if we are to remain in contact. That's my right, and nobody else's business.
I did NOT enjoy meeting up with my ex-husband's drunken buddy - he thought it was a wonderful joke bleeeaagh. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:33:25 AM | It sounds like you rolled the dice and it happend to work out - just a quick reality check here...
Would you go to a POF singles event, bar, club, etc. wearing frumpy clothes, a name tag, and a bag over your head – trying to introduce yourself to people? No, of course not!
POF profiles refusing to give out pics are the online equivalent. .
Just my two cents. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/17/2008 9:36:35 PM | Sometimes it does work out. Not seeing a pic beforehand.
Of course I was curious, not having any idea what he looked liked prior, but I was so intrigued by what his emails were saying to me, and I understood his rationalization for not having a pic on his profile. He ran his own business and didnt want customers and neighbors to see him online. He did offer to email a pic of him, I declined.
We had talked online, daily for a month, something like 50 emails. 50???? OH MY GOD!!! But I learned his mind, and he learned mine. He learned my secrets, my faults, a vice/versus. First date after one month of emails, (yes he waited that long, till I was comfortable) I pulled into the parking lot, saw a man sitting in a car, 200 pounds too heavy, was that him? NO. Car tags were from a different county and state. So, I walk to the door of the restaurant, then out he comes, smiling, and says "you must be S****". The waitor came to our table 4 times to take our order, cause we were so busy talking, we couldnt look at the menus. During our month of conversation, which most people abhor, we really learned about what we had in common, and we couldnt stop talking. Now, a month later, we're still talking up a storm. In fact, I attended his family reunion this afternoon. Met his children, and parents.
And before this, I had demanded a pic before meeting anyone, and getting disappointed with each meet, even though I saw the pic.
No, if its right in your heart, you dont need a pic, just an openmind. | |
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