zanne9
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Joined: 8/9/2008
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/28/2008 8:32:28 AM | I'm one of those women who hasn't posted a pic with the profile. I guess that I would get more responses,but I agree with another poster here,that I don't need 10x the responses in my in mailbox. This online stuff is pretty time consuming as it stands.
I have met men IRL where I had a picture prior to the date. Oh yeah,let me tell ya,the picture was either very old or photo shopped to death.The guys looked nothing like the photo. Then I've met men w/out a photo and they were pleasant enough to look at,but there wasn't enough chemistry or common interests to warrant a second date.
I am very self assured and I am honest about what I look like.I really believe if you think you might have a spark with someone you 've been chatting with,then why would you lie and misepresent your self.
So I don't put any stock into a picture.If the man is being honest with me about his physical appearence I can do without a photo and let nature take it's course.
The bottom line is looks are superficial, and they do "open the door". However, if there isn't anything of depth beyond the handsome face, the ripped body, well the attraction is doomed to fail because it's based upon looks only. How shallow is that?What's going to sustain a relationship is personality,character,integrity and chemistry
and that will be revealed after a few dates. I've dated my share of pretty boys,I'll take a "real man" anyday. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/28/2008 7:17:18 PM | I really don't know. I chatted with someone online for 5 years before i saw their photo and webcam and they saw mine. At that point I really wasn't much into looks cause by then I was totally sold on their personality. The photo did not impact in anyway.
Today I am not so sure. I will have to get a photo before I actually meet the person, and there are an ample amount of ways this can be achieved. Just on the cautionary side. Live Webcam is even better. The world is a much more dangerous place and I don't have the habit of grooming delusions that "it can't happen to me". | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:59:03 PM | Yes twice - the first one he was not cute and he had no teeth but that was ok until he turned out to be a jerk.
The second one - oh my god - he was handsome beyond belief and more so because he was my type. I turned into a blithering idiot. Luckily he liked me a lot and the rest is history...
I do like to see a pic because I do have a type and it includes teeth I have decided. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/30/2008 9:52:09 AM | | u've been lucky so far , coz the guys i saw without a pic turned to be a disaster , i learned my lesson, i don't chat for hours if there is no pic, sometimes u get attached to words and pray that the guy behind the screen can be your type....i can say the look is not evrything but there is a minimum acceptable. good luck and take care | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/1/2008 9:59:41 PM | | I've met several guys without having seen a photo first - not from this site, but from Craig's List. Most of them were pretty interesting and decent looking. One guy was fun online but incredibly boring - and incredibly overweight - in person. However, on a site like this I'd probably ask for a photo first. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:06:05 PM | Beatles, you know I usually agree with your thoughts on the man/woman thing, but I do think that you had a couple of sentences in there that were zingers and might have been a tad harsh.
While we may see most of what you wrote as logic, I don't run into that very often on here. And while we may see it as logic, others don't. Who is right? I prefer to believe my sun sign description is right - it tells me my ideas are "ahead of my time - genius in fact" lol, but I digress. I too find myself exasperated by some people who don't seem to "get it".
I also believe that even more women are becoming more visual due to online dating. I know I am and there has to be at least one thing I find physically attractive about a man's picture.
I have found myself getting a message from someone without a picture. The profile seemed really great, but then they sent the photo and I have to admit, I was dissapointed. It's much more difficult for someone to say "I'm not interested" after they have emailed back and forth and then suddenly see the pic.
I mean if you have a pic already, at least someone is not telling you outright "thanks for the interest, but I don't find you physically appealing". I sure wouldn't want to get a message like that! At least with a pic, it gives us all a politically correct way of rejecting someone :D | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/3/2008 12:32:49 AM | ~OP With web dating you have to be open and truthful also be -optimistic on things here on the web. Most are really nice people just wanting the samething as you and I also others want on here.
Go into it with your eyes wide open , it's odd that some don't have a photo but I'm
not going to be bias and shallow judge someone cause they don't! Nor will I cut my
nose off to spite my face either.
Most have cams now days and some have there photos on here too - Never judge a
book by it's cover till after you've read the whole thing. I talk to men on here people on here that don't have photos and have met and dated some too!
It's a chance you take when you put your self out here- but why be shallow and cut the
ones out that have there reasons for not posting photos it's there choice and I respect it.
I met the tenth man with no photo since 2004 from POF two weeks ago , he was just
as he said he was and so much more. His eyes were deep , he was handsome very gentel also sweet and such a gentelmen and to0k care of me and saw to it that I had a good time! We both met half way and went dutch treat but with all that being said Paul and I
had a wonderful time and I look so forward to seeing him again.
Not once did it bother me him not having a photo , this man had a wonderful heart and
is someone special to me I've got a new friend :) someone that makes me laugh and cares about me and put my needs above his - I liked the fact that we were both stright shooters and open , honest very sincere with one another. But I have and will date men with no photos and if they want to furnish one great but I am street smart and we met in a public place that I go to all the time - I had that comfort zone and chemistry with
him .
Oh I met my tax accountant last night - never once seeing his handsome face only years of faxing and texting - emails countless phone calls and again I never once judged him. Michael was a gentelmen helped me lots and he even bought me a nice
dinner afterwards and again I walked away with a good feeling and another new friend that has entered my life!
Called taking a chance and seeing them for who they really are :) Pictures are worth a thousand moments but heart and soul is what makes us all ! If you choose not to date someone with no photo then it's your preference I say live by your rules and I'll live and learn by mine I'm my own judge of character!
God is the only judge of us all...
Thanks for a great time to all the gentelmen I've met off and on since 2004 without photos and when I looked into your smiling faces I saw great men with outstanding personalities and big wonderful hearts ... (( Hugs )) walked away with friendships !
How can you go wrong with that.
Good Luck All !
-Brenny-
Peace With Love I'm Out  | |
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VAPurr
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Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 2064 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/3/2008 1:08:45 AM | I have met guys with w/o a picture. I always talk to men on the phone first.
There are laws against telephone harasement and if someone will give yoiu their number, then I would not see them.
People seem to more real on the phone than online.
Listen to what they said and how they treat you.
Normal people are a litlle nervous and don't have a down pat
story line.
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Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 2065 | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/3/2008 3:56:06 AM | Yes. About half the folks I meet and go out with from the Internet have not had a photo posted.
From some of the other responses here, I get the feeling that my reasons for dating over the years  were differen than a lot of the other men and women on here. 
Viva la difference!  
Take care,
Brian | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/3/2008 8:05:57 PM | | This is a long running problem for me...I almost never do and even state this in my profile...but on occasions I have had to repond just to tell them hey..did u read my profile..no pic no response...just makes me think they have something to hide!...wife, girlfriend, sexual preditor...prisoner..u never know? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/4/2008 6:13:18 AM | [I don't even talk to people without pictures]
I suppose you haven't heard of many people putting false pictures on the net. even if they are good looking it doesn't make them the ideal men/women. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I prefer a man with a good heart than his beauty. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/4/2008 6:32:52 AM | | I myself enjoy the magical mystery and intrigue of getting to know someone without a picture. It's like Christmas morning.....unwrapping the colorful paper....untying the curly bows.....imagining what's inside.... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder....."It" starts with the brain....for me. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/4/2008 7:05:51 AM | I've always looked at it this way...........I will meet anyone once with or without a picture to see for myself. To me that is the only way to find out who is real on here......and who is not. I have no problem enjoying a ladies company for a couple of hours over drinks/coffee talking and having a few laughs......even when right up front you know.......the chemisty is not there.
If someone does not want to meet me.............I can only assume, they are not interested.......to busy........ or they are hiding something.
I'm sure everyone has encountered at one time or another.......whose who choice to mis-represend themselves on dating sites.......a lady who choices to not post a picture is being more honest than one who posts and old outdated one.
For me.........nothing is real on these sites.........until I look into a ladies eyes..........hear her laugh........and see her smile. 
Than it all becomes real.  | |
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TBLZ
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Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 2075 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/4/2008 6:35:04 PM | I met someone once from another site and against my better judgement met them without seeing a good photo....There was one up but it wasn't good.
Never again, he looked so bad I couldn't even eat or find the nearest exit. I was just speechless (not like me at all). And he smelled. Honestly, he looked like he hadn't bathed or changed clothes in a week. Hair wasn't comb and just not put together well...
Then I come to POF and well, well, well, look at what we have here...He's on here wit that same a$$ tired picture!
I've got to be more careful!!!! | |
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