| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/30/2008 11:52:46 AM | I'll be next :) I also live in a small town, so I think you have to have some moxy to post ones picture....but at the same time, I find that one could quite easily get into ones head about things...such as having expectations or maybe wondering that my friends are going to see me or what what they are going to say or think of me....or even having someone I don't even know thinking the same thing. One can drive ones-self crazy, with all that.
Looks on the other hand, can be quite decieving. I have experienced this for myself :)
I can be quite taken with ones beauty if I were to let myself.....and at the same time let my vision be clouded or totally blinded towards the inside of them. Not all are as beautiful on the inside as they are on the outside.....or perhaps I should say..."beauty izz in the eye of the beholder", on both accounts.
They say, men are more visual than women...not sure who say's this..?? lol.
Anyway, I now like to mix "visual with things in common", rather than "extreme beauty and being opposite".
I have contacted women and have been contacted by women with no picture, but in general, I think we all like to see who were talking with...don't you think..??
What I would like to "see" izz...those with pic's posted of themselves, can view everyone....and those who don't have pic's of themselves posted, can only view those with no pictures......after all, fair is fair, to both women and men :) | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/30/2008 5:42:57 PM | | As I said pages back I did and he was nice looking and we had a great relationship for 6 months. It ended for reasons having nothing to do with looks. Having said that I have NOT met one single man who looked anything like his pictures! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/2/2009 11:15:26 PM | I have spoken to someone on here without a picture, i'm happy to see if we have anything in common before asking for a picture. When simply e-mailing or talking i see no problem with not knowing what they look like. Too many people judge others from a picture, or mostly a BAD picture.
I'm not so shallow that i can't talk or hang out with someone if i don't think they are drop dead georgous.
Long story short, i would meet someone without a picture if i felt a connection with our chats or e-mails. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:04:00 PM | | Well, I cannot speak for anyone else. But many women feel no need to advertise, since looks are the LEAST of their worries. If they woman is really beautiful, she has to be very selective. If she is a woman of any substance, she is probably allready sick of being treated, like a decoration. Or having men, stalk them. Or ask to marry them, after the second date. Or perhaps just have someone show some interest, in more than HOW they look. I am shallow, I do look at the photos first. Because your first question is (hopefully) answered. Is she attractive, in my eyes? I hate asking for photos though, because if your talking. And then your not attracted to her, you end up kind of cornered. How do you say, I am not attracted to you physically (and directly), to someone who might be a FANTASTIC person anyway? That is the problem, if you see it thru their eyes. They send you a photo, and now what do YOU do? Crush their feelings? Not me, since it happened 1x to a 300 lb. sweetheart. This woman was so great, and she was so huge. I vowed, that will never happen again. To her, or me......... | |
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bsg789
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Joined: 12/4/2007
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:31:32 PM | So why didn't you tell her that you are not attracted to larger women and not communicate with her at all? I have not desire to send a pic to a man when he says he does not care for larger women.
Maybe he would date a larger woman up to a certain point. There is a big difference between chubby and morbidly obese. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:51:55 PM | Very courageous and it worked out well. Admire your adventurous spirit.
A picture and words really are no evidence of much. On line emailing isn't my thing anymore or favorites list either. If you're interested and free than go for it. If not so what. I don't like the word shallow but I find that some men make a judgement on my writing and my photo without even a spoken word on the phone. Well that weeds them out. We are all here for many reasons. It's tiring that so many are here but hold off.
Whatever happen to hello? lol lol lol Some are collectors of favorites... Is it ego? I'm not sure. So I just go for it. It's a laborious task finding someone. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:53:46 PM | I did because his opener cracked me up and I saw a common wit. At that point it didn't matter what he might look like.
Turned out he was really weird-looking, but I got past it in the first few moments because he was just so kind and easygoing. It wasn't a love connection at all - either way! - and that's okay. He let me down easy .. I wasn't his type. Serves me right, eh?!
Anyway that was a long time ago, not on POF actually, and we remained on good terms .. I wonder whatever became of him.
Oh well, it just shows you can't tell a person's contents by their wrapping. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:57:53 PM | | If a woman says she is a plus size woman, she wears clothes in the plus size department.....I have a cousin who is 9 inches taller than me, I weigh 20 pounds more than she does, but we wear the same size clothes. Going by weight is not always a good idea, since at my weight I am considered huge to men who look at weight, and men who love larger women tell me that I am too small for them. Again, he should tell a woman that he will date her if she is a certain size, and she should be honest and tell him the size she wears. (although my experience has been that there are few men who talk to women of all shapes and sizes, most like women to be a size 8 or smaller with a certain body shape) | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/10/2009 1:12:45 PM | I have met many blindly,I don't post a picture myself,because,I hate myself in pictures,and feel I look more like me in person. I read profiles first.Those who make a "big" issue over not having a photo,maybe missing out on something good in their life,you never know,unless you take that chance...............It doesn't hurt,or cost you a thing to talk or email,and picture or not,it takes a mature person to admit nicely to the other,that yes,they feel there is chemistry or no,they don't.Anybody else,was probably not worth meeting after all,if they only have to see the beauty,in a photo first.......    | |
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Rob_SA
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/18/2009 8:22:07 AM | | I used to, but not any more. Why invest time and emotional energy messaging, chatting and maybe talking on the phone only to discover that you don't find yourself attracted to the other person? Inevitably when I took the chance and then either met them or perhaps got a photo MMS'd to me and didn't find any attraction it seemed to be my personality flaw, where it would have been so easy for them to just have a photo on their profile, or even have a private photo that can be revealed early in the messaging (as allowed on some sites). It's 2009 and the "I don't have the technology" excuse doesn't cut it. I'd guess 8 out of 10 people have a digital camera or a camera phone. Surely the few people who don't know someone who does. Cameras phones usually come with a cable and software to transfer photos to a PC, and even a low quality camera phone will take a passable photo in reasonable light. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/31/2009 6:54:45 PM | | I will go out without a picture. I have met a woman that way. No pictures never turn me off. I just like to know if they are married or have a boyfriend. I don't like to go out with women who play two men at a time. Even if they don't have a profile . A picture and a paragragh and a few questions cannot tell the whole story of a person. I know myself it hard to talk about me and for pictures can be deceiving. So Yes I will go out and meet a person withouta picture. I am willing to date a disabled women. All women are open as long as they are single!!!!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/1/2009 12:56:14 PM | | I'll take my picture off of my profile sometimes, but I usually send a pic of me to a guy in private if he requests one. I usually like the same in return. A guy's looks aren't that important to me, but for safety reasons, I like to at least get an idea of what they look like before I meet them. I suppose I'd be ok with meeting with no picture at all, but so far, guys usually send me their pics right away. I don't know if I'd meet someone who refused to send me a pic before we meet in person. I'd be wondering what the big deal is. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/1/2009 1:36:23 PM | | nope but i don't really get too many messages if any without pictures . and i 'd have a hard time believing anyone my age didn't have any pictures of themself that they could post on here . mean digital cameras and facebook have massively increased the number of photo's available | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/2/2009 5:51:33 AM | | Sometimes it works out well, sometimes not so much. But what do you have to lose and you only live once right? Sometimes they are attractive and sometimes not, and sometimes they run away from me lol but that's life and dating. I tihnk internet dating is always kinda blind dating because you never really know what or who you are talking to. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/3/2009 8:45:56 AM | | Oh hells no...I wouldn't dare!!! But I have to confess that many many moons ago before the computers were all the rage, I did meet people on "the party lines" via telephone. There was no pictures to see, just voices and descriptions to go by....sort of like a crap shoot. And I can bet right now if there were no pictures to shoot across the cyber waves, we all would get primative and go only by decriptions LOL!!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/5/2009 11:34:37 AM | | Sure I have gone to meet ladies that do not have a picture up. Ill even ask for a picture and then take one for them when I meet them if that is what she would like. Lots of people just don't have a picture up for any number of reasons, there are a lot of good looking ladies with no picture up on POF. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/6/2009 10:27:27 PM | | Yes I did I was on here for dating, (not on here for dating now), and no, I didnt post my pic either. Most of the ones (not all) that tuned out to baddddd dates were ones with pics, like the dinner-no dinner date, lol. Most of the ones without pic (not all either) tuned out to be ok, even though nothing came out of it dating wise. Just depends on the luck of the draw. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/8/2009 1:42:04 AM | | A lot of times in the past i found myself wanting to go out with someone because they looked pretty on there picture which was very shallow of me. Now, i been mostly going out or talking with people that have a profile that interest me the most an a lot of the one's that intice me the most are usually the one's with no pictures. Being that i am in to working out i would prefer for someone to want to date me because they found me interesting and not because of my physique. We can always mail out pictures to one another before meeting for comfortabilty sake if need to be. But i would rather judge a book by it's story than it's cover. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/8/2009 10:11:00 AM | I did it for the first time this past December. My dating profile has several current pictures of me and I also have a picture on my msn. His reason for not having a picture was that he apparently does not have a camera or any friends with one that could upload a pic for him. He also stated that pic or no pic it doesn't matter because he has met women with a pic and has been disappointed just the same. I was very skeptical but he was quite persistent and seemed friendly enough. He also assured me that I would not be disappointed. I figured if he was confident enough to make a statement like that he must have met quite a few people who considered him to be a good looking guy.
We agreed to meet for coffee and I arrived first. As I was watching people come in I only saw one guy who came close to his description of himself except that he was shorter, much older looking and nowhere close to having the athletic build he claimed to have. I'm sure he thought he was being honest but I felt like I had been misled which put a damper on things for me. I think if I had known what to expect beforehand I would have enjoyed myself more because there wouldn't have been that element of disappointment. | |
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