| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/31/2009 8:31:28 AM |
As for people that won't talk to people without pictures, It seams shallow and superfisual to me
Thats because it is. I can understand wanting to see a picture before meeting, but needing a picture just to talk to someone is extremely shallow. A picture can always be sent privately later on. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/31/2009 8:40:10 PM | | NO WAY!!!!! Call me shallow, but we're all visual beings and looks count, no matter what anyone says. Now, what might me attractive to me might not be attractive to someone else, so I'm not saying we all have to be the same . . . but there should be at least one picture before meeting someone. Picture connecting with someone on POF and later on MSN and everything is going well. His "I'm not ugly" has you sold . . . and then you meet him and find out just how different his "not ugly" is compared to your version of "not ugly". Still feelin' it? I'm thinking, "no". Myself, if a girl doesn't have a picture on POF, I'm not contacting her. Period. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/3/2009 4:21:27 PM | | There are some people like me, who do not like having their picture taken. Whatever the event is I always find a way to avoid having my picture taken. The best way to make sure that I will never talk to you is to try to take my picture at any cost. The only picture that I allow is the driver's license and that is it. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/3/2009 4:30:33 PM | And then there are folks like me who used to post a picture all of the time while looking to date. Not now, although I do have private images that I can send.
For now, I maintain my anonymity just for posting in the forums.
I did actually meet a man without a picture once, and that was a lesson to be learned.
Nothing like he described, too heavy, too scruffy, and no mustache! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:57:33 AM | The idea that you will not respond to anyone without a picture is limiting. Just because someone wants to maintain some sort of privacy doesn't meant that they are ugly or fat or... well whatever everyone is scared of. I won't post a pic but am willing to share one once I know there is something interesting going on. I have a life outside of POF and never the two shall meet. I've heard the thought that if you don't have a pic then you're hiding something... Damned right. We all (or some of us anyway) have jobs. We all interacrt with people in the real world. I would rather not have someone judge me because I'm on a "dating" site. I've met a few women on POF. About evenly matched between those who psot and those who don't. In all honesty those who don't have been much more interesting and better matches. Okay... there was one who was NOTHING like she had stated she looked like... Wow... but then that was an easy clue as to her worthyness. She wasn't because she lied. Others have been amazing. Several of the women that I have met with pictures were little more than pretty faces. If there is nothing in the soul then it's a waste of time.
If I'm talking to someone on here and there is some sort of spark, then I'm more than happy to take it to the next step but why would I expose myself before I knoew that there might be something there? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/4/2009 2:03:36 PM | | One man I met told me that I was fat and ugly, another man said I was pretty and a lot smaller than the other women he had met who said they were bbws, both said that I looked different in person than in a pic, and that I had a great personality. I wonder how some of the people on POF ever meet anyone, they seem to live in fear that all women are 500 pounds and ugly and send men bogus pics, and heaven forbid they might have to spend 5 minutes with someone who is not drop dead gorgeous. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/5/2009 12:45:29 AM | | I posted to this thread a long time back but anyway' I have put pictures up' and i have taken them down more than once. I've been out with women who posted pictures and i have been out with women who didn't. I have never had a problem either way. To be honest' I have said this more than once. They say that pictures are worth a thousand words. When it comes to on line dating there not worth a dam.n. Pictures lie. A lot of the women i have been out with there pictures look no way like them. (ALL) the women i have been out with from here say the same thing about me. They say i look better in person than i do in my pictures. So far i have been out with only 2 that there pictures did them justice. They looked the same. The other 10 or 15' Well' Lets just say i was surprised both ways. I talk to everyone' Pictures or none. I give each person equal opportunity based on who they are and what they are if there true to there pictures. But when i meet a woman that has' Well' Doctored her pictures for lack of a better word to make herself look better in her pictures be it some kind of camera trick or glamor shot and she can't hold up to that in person' Then she has misrepresented herself and i am turned off forever. If she post pictures and she is as true to those pictures as she can be' Hasn't tried to hide anything' Well' Then it's just a question of whether i am willing to accept it or not. Just like me. My pictures are as close to the real me as i can make them. You either accept them or you don't. But if you are the type' The type this web site seems to be full of' The type that takes a look at a picture and read a few words in a profile and decides from there that i or who ever your looking at the time isn't the one for you based on that' Then you lose. Because you can't go by that. It tells you nothing about the person. The pictures on ones profile only serves to do one thing. Bring out the shallowness and narrow mindedness in people. So far' I've seen a lot of that here. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/10/2009 5:07:15 AM | | i barely even bother looking at profiles without picks only with a few exceptions I'm not shallow i really don't care what a guy looks like but my experience is that the ones who don't have a pick are the ones that never show up or stop talking to you at some random time | |
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Bev955
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Joined: 3/26/2009
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/10/2009 12:22:43 PM | I met a man last fall who had no profile posted. We e-mailed for awhile, then had several phone conversations. He was quite well-spoken and intelligent, interesting and witty. I asked him to send a picture, but he wasn't able to (he said...). Anyway, I decided to meet him for drinks------- He was not bad looking, but definitely looked older than his age. I'm not a shallow person at all, but although he wasn't offensive to the eye, he was definitely not my type.
We had a pleasant time-- one drink turned into two, then three,and the conversation was engaging, but the real deal-breaker was that he kissed me goodnight after I had asked him not to. I wouldn't mind being friends with him, but his e-mails since have all hinted at romance---------
I no longer correspond to men without photos------- looks aren't everything, but there has to be an initial attraction. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/11/2009 5:05:35 PM | the guy i met didnt see a picture of me but i saw a picture of him..
we met in october and we're still seeing each other.
not sure if i could ever do that.. i like to see the person im going to meet..
i was a little nervous when i met him wondering if he would like me...
i was thinking maybe hes desparate and doesnt care what someone looks like.. lol
i was wrong... hes a classy sexy guy... i asked him why he didnt ask me for a pic and he said he liked my personality and i was fun to talk to in the messages and it didnt matter....
we met within 24 hours of talking here... and it was amazing..
im sure if we didnt meet right away he would have asked me eventually... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/12/2009 4:29:48 AM | | Hell & No lol I could never meet anyone without a picture in their profile. Nor, would I ever return their messages, if there was no picture. I am a very visual person, and I would need to see what he looks like, and take it from there. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/12/2009 11:45:01 AM | | I met a couple without a pic, one i dated for a couple of months and the other was a total disaster. He didn't look anything like he described , I made my excuses and left, however I would date without a pic cos you can't tell how it would turn out. The only thing that worries me is are they married | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/14/2009 4:36:33 AM |
Why I do not talk to people with no pics:
-- it is not fair for them to see me and me not see them
-- if they end up being a creepy stalker I want to know what they look like
-- when we meet people in real life, we see what they look like
-- I am here to find people I am attracted to... if I do not know what they look like then I do not know if I am attracted to them
-- worst case scenario: they do not have pic cause they are married/have gf and they do not want their significant other to see them using dating services
Who says you're pics are you? I have seen people use someone's else pics like their friend or niece/nephew. Cowboy have mentioned he met about 100 women from POF, he only recognized 3 women from their pics. So much for that theory.
Seriously you're not even worth stalking, just wishful thinking on your part. ;)
Yes us men all married or have girlfriends we just want sex on the side. Talking about paranoid.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/14/2009 5:51:34 AM | I my self do not like having my face on the internet in the way of looking for a mate. I work with the public and I do not want the people in the town that I have lived in for the last 20 years know that I am looking... I like my privacy...
I have met a couple of ladies sight unseen and have had no bad experiances, we are all just people and sure some have issues and they should have a section here to report players, jerks, and the like... and yes women can be players as well...
How do you really know anyone? You can be married for a decade or two and your partner that you thought you knew... can turn into one of those crazy's you are trying to not run into on the internet... go figure....
Just be safe, Take a friend for the first coffee, Find a place where they have a back door near the washrooms and park a car close to the door, Or if they are truly creepy when you first meet. Tell them that you are so sorry but you forgot you have an important appointment you forgot with your cyst doctor or something gross like that.
I have met sight unseen and have been met the same way and it was ok. Some very attractive people don't want to be seen on the internet for good reason...
One more thought the Media is good at spinning the very worst as well...
Happy hunting fishies... | |
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dman82
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Joined: 3/30/2009
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/14/2009 8:47:41 AM |
Why I do not talk to people with no pics:
-- it is not fair for them to see me and me not see them
-- if they end up being a creepy stalker I want to know what they look like
-- when we meet people in real life, we see what they look like
-- I am here to find people I am attracted to... if I do not know what they look like then I do not know if I am attracted to them
-- worst case scenario: they do not have pic cause they are married/have gf and they do not want their significant other to see them using dating services
Bingo!!!!!
1 time in my life I met a woman without a pic when I was like 18 and she lied about everything I even had to make an excuse up as to why I had to go...and I dont lie but I felt very disrespected and pissed off for her lying to me..
Im sorry but I always say You dont go to an airport and expect to get on a plane without a ticket do you?
you dont play baseball without a bat
you play hockey without a puck..
YOU DONT GO ON A DATING SITE WITHOUT A PIC!!! DURRRRRRR
People want to know who they're talking too If your not their type your not their type but at least have the courtesy and respect to allow others to judge accordingly.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/14/2009 9:52:40 AM | | Oh, looks do matter. Otherwise, no one would be alone! A great personality can always shine through thou, Joseph Merrick (aka the elephant man) had many friends and even a few ladies that admired him. But generally, looks do matter to me, although many so called beauties are not my type, I think Sigourney Weaver is quite beautiful, as well as Mary McDonnell. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/26/2009 9:28:56 PM | | Nooooo wayyyyy.... not because I'm shallow, but in this day & time you cannot TRUST someone you've never met...... hellllloooo..... I still can't believe how easily some women will just meet up with a guy and leave w/him to go somewhere else on the first date!?!? I feel like the guy is hiding something if he doesn't post a pic.... like a wife??? UGHHH... and yeah, I've had some guys lie to me on singles sites... couldn't prove the wife thing, but had a suspicion. | |
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