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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/18/2009 10:47:02 AM | | These comments crack me up. No one knows what makes another person tick, so to speak, or why they do not have a pic. I am not ashamed to show what I look like, and my self esteem seems to be a lot healthier than many I have seen posting on forums. I might be hiding, as I do not want to be the talk of the school were I teach, or the smaller town that I live in, as being a teacher puts me in the public eye, and as I have seen several co workers ostrasized for having pictures and profiles on internet sites, I can do without that. As much as I would like to say that the opinions of others do not matter, after having seen an administrator embarrass a co worker at a meeting with a parent by talking about how she had posted a picture on an online site and was looking for a man ( Why was the married administrator prowling the site?, but that is neither here nor there), I do not care to post a picture. What other things are people hiding? they are on America's Most Wanted list, or are married? Sure, some could be and most are probably not. If a man sparks my interest enough for me to consider meeting him, he will be sent a picture of me, so he can decide if I look good enough to meet, but I also want a picture of him, but might not even open it, as I prefer what is inside most packages over the wrapping. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:12:17 PM | I've met people from this site who haven't had pictures on their profiles, but they've sent me a picture before I met them so I knew who to look for in the coffee shop.
I've met people from elsewhere without ever seeing pictures though. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:28:16 PM | | I don't have much choice in the matter. Being blind, looks mean absolutely nothing to me. Fortunately, most people I've met during my 34 years on the planet have turned out to be quite reasonable and basically good folks. A picture is worth a thousand turds. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/14/2009 4:29:57 PM | I'm with the first person who responded.
I, too, don't even connect with someone with no picture. I heard a statistic once that said that 40% of people online are married or are already in a relationship. For those who post no picture, that statistic comes close to 90%.
No way, no how, no thanks. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/14/2009 7:07:51 PM | | I have met a few people without photos and have usually been pleasantly surprised. It's about what's inside. Now, I'm not saying that chemistry doesn't count. Chemistry is absolutely necessary for me. However, to get to know the inside of a person first usually is a good indication of whether you've made a good friend or wasted your time and minutes. There are signs however, when someone absolutely refuses to provide a photo - as opposed to someone who just hasn't gotten around to it, or for professional/private reasons chooses not to put one up on the site. I've had one guy tell me if I can't trust him, he didn't want to be bothered. Didn't lose sleep over him. But, yes, I have met a few without pics, and I'm glad I did - none have been disappointments. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:17:00 AM | I know this thread is very old and quite lengthy but... very relevant. In the present, I'm wondering if 'bosslady' met her dream man in the dark after all? Inquiring minds want to know. 
To answer her initial question: No, I wouldn't meet a stranger without a picture posted and it doesn't have anything to do with bravery. I'm pleased to hear bosslady's experience was positive (having not read the entire thread) but ~ I would NEVER meet, be easily impressed nor influenced by anyone that chooses to fly below the radar. She mentioned his "private pilot" profession and deterrence for superficiality ~ blah! I suspect his reasons are deeper than that.. and never positive. He (like many) choose to be 'strangers' for a reason. I say own it without expectation from those who choose to be fully present. I leave it alone without interest... but that's me.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:32:12 AM | | Although I now have a pic posted (no increase in replies), I would meet someone who does not post a pic. The replies that I have received obviously did not read my profile or view my pic, as they all were asking what I looked like, said they date only thin women, and all smoked. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:59:07 AM | I've had guys with no picture contact me and quite honestly, I feel it's unfair. They've seen what I look like and wanted to contact me, so why are they allowed that advantage while I'm not?
I usually ask them if they're in the Witness Protection Program as a lighthearted way of letting them know that I'm not comfortable with the imbalance. That's when they'll either request my email address so they can send me a picture (which I refuse to do) or they start giving me a bunch of excuses as to WHY they don't have a picture. One guy even went as far as sending this freakin' dissertation about online safety, identity theft, and how "no one is safe and COULD use your pictures for nefarious reasons." I'd had enough of that nonsense and blocked him at that point.
Lastly, there IS an option to upload a picture (or pictures) and keep them private, choosing to send them only to those you care to share them with. I think it's ridiculous to ask for someone's email address just because someone doesn't want to put a picture in their profile.
No, I won't meet someone unless I've seen their picture. They've seen mine, so the only fair thing to do is give me the same respect as I've given them. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/29/2009 5:25:44 PM | What can you derive from someone with no picture?
There are several things to consider my dear.
First, He/she may have security issues. Insecure about who they are or how they look.
And to be honest, if you cannot love yourself, how can you love someone else?
Second, does he/she have any friends? 1 in 2 people have a camera, so how hard would it be to get a photo up?
Three, He or she has something to hide, which is dishonest.
So generally no photo = no contact.
These are the general assumptions that should be and are made.
Pictures are a must. Because attraction is the first step to anything we fall in love with. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:09:07 AM | | No...I like to see who I'm chatting with and would never meet someone without a picture....It's not because it sounds shallow , but if someone is sincerely interested in dating, a picture should be up otherwise I would wonder what he is hiding. As for those who claim they can't put them up due to professional reasons....I don't get that...if someone from their work happens to see them on here...they're also on here so what's the big deal? The only time I may reconsider, is if it is a law enforcement officer due to his own safety about putting his picture up...but in that case, I would make it somewhere very public and have someone call me in half hour and then decide if I want to stay or leave. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:13:48 PM | Why does it have to mean there's something wrong with a person if they'd rather share their photos with you privately? Why is having it posted so mandatory?
I'd expect to have to share photos before I met anyone from here. I have no problem with that. But this demonization of people who just aren't comfortable having their friends, family, and colleagues know they're using a dating site is a bit excessive.
Most of the single population still isn't comfortable using dating sites, and the stigma is a big reason why. Are they all undateable too? Are they not serious about dating? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/3/2009 4:37:56 AM | JG'08 wrote:
there IS an option to upload a picture (or pictures) and keep them private, choosing to send them only to those you care to share them with.
Exactly. And I sometimes wonder why people choose to block them (us) too. I've ruled out "shallowness" in many cases. I prefer to have a picture too before meeting someone. I think maybe "jaded" would be more likely. And from some of the experiences I've heard about, I can't say that I blame them. Frankly, if I contact someone that already has a photo up, I send a few photos with my first contact email. Like you say, it's only fair. Obviously, I can't contact anyone using the "No photo" filter though.
I think it's ridiculous to ask for someone's email address just because someone doesn't want to put a picture in their profile.
Do you run across that often?? I'm not sure I would follow that logic either. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/3/2009 4:57:06 AM | | Oh! ... and I've never met anyone without exchanging photos with them first. About half had them posted already and half didn't. The only two ladies I dated more than once had no photo posted originally (if that tells you anything). And so far, I haven't regretted meeting anyone. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/10/2009 8:49:18 PM | Yes, three times so far, and yes, in my case all 3 of the ladies had a real reason not to have a pic of them. I gave it 3 chances and I refuse to acknowledge any contact with out a pic of them. I am not that brave man I thought I was any more. Picture or no contact.   | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/10/2009 10:06:13 PM | A lot of women try to avoid unwanted attention - not having a pic largely solves the problem.
It means they have to make the initial contact, but they do get to control the process a little more. Without knowing their stories I wouldn't judge them based on that alone. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:44:47 AM | | I'm currently seeing someone from another dating site who didn't have a photo up; it didn't really make a difference to me in deciding to meet her. She's quite overweight, so that may be why she didn't want to use a photo, but she's very nice, we have lots of interests in common, and appearance isn't a big deal to me. It's like a book cover; a good book cover can be an attention getter, but it's the actual book inside that's important. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2009 5:51:53 AM | It only takes a second to change your settings to show photos, email someone with a restriction against those that don't show photos, and then change it back. I don't like emails from faceless people. I have had stalkers etc. and it is not fun.
I always look at the cover of a book before I buy it. I always make sure that it is a recent photo too. It is important that the person is healthy. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:26:37 AM | It only takes a second to change your settings to show photos, email someone with a restriction against those that don't show photos, and then change it back.
I've been told that a number of times but it just seems to me like a bad way to start. I don't really understand what people actually have against those of us who keep their photos private, but whatever it is, I'd rather respect their restriction and pass them by.
I don't like emails from faceless people
Granted, I want to see who I'm communicating with too, which is why I send photos with my first contact email. But from what I've gathered on this thread, that's not the point for many people. They see something sinister in the fact that you choose to keep your photo off the Web. Frankly, I don't see it but, -shrug- to each his/her own. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:49:55 AM |
Most seem to think that no pic means married and/or ugliest person on Earth.
You're probably right. And they're probably right part of the time and wrong the other part. Nobody actually knows how those "parts" would break down percentage wise.
Seems to me, if someone is going to be misleading, they can do it with a public photo just as easily as they can without. | |
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