| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2009 2:15:56 PM |
-- I am here to find people I am attracted to... if I do not know what they look like then I do not know if I am attracted to them.
Books shouldn't always be judged by their covers. I know what you mean but sometimes it's not what's on the outside that makes someone attractive.
-- worst case scenario: they do not have pic cause they are married/have gf and they do not want their significant other to see them using dating services
I totally agree, you tend to find that there is something a-miss. It could be a 45 year old advertising their self as a 25 year old. Internet dating has a lot of bad press from word of mouth, and this doesn't help, it just makes users more weary and tends to make them back off a little. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:51:45 PM | | At least if there is no pix, you can meet without a preconceived notion of what they look like. I have met some with pix that either gained 50+ lbs since the photo or were far better looking than the photo. I now look at their main profile and see if I can relate to what was written. But let's face it, pix or not, we must meet one on one to get a good idea if this is a match. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:57:40 PM | I did a no pic one time and it was scary. No, I do judge books by their covers. You can tell how they have been treated or treat themselves.
I had no problem getting to know someone once I knew what they looked like, but a picture was and still is a must. One too many crazy people out there. After emailing and talking on the phone, when I felt I knew them well enough, I would meet. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:43:19 PM | | I don't do blind dates so I won't even consider anyone without a picture. What gets me are those folks who still try to get me to meet them even after the warning that I don't talk to folks without pictures, as if they are owed the opportunity to "change my mind." | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:59:56 PM | Sadly not having a pic up means that person is truly terribly unattractive. And they know it which is why they don't have a pic up hoping someone will fall in love with their wit and personality and that will overcome the lack of physical beauty which rarely happens.
Sometimes as the op pointed out you get lucky and they do look attractive to you but that is the exception to the rule.
I'm not as handsome or as tall or as slim as other men but i post a pic because i would hate to have someone fall in love with my personality only to vomit when they see me in person, the smell is worse than a skunk.
Believe me when i say i have tried to find someone with no pic because i'm truly not shallow considering my flaws but attraction is a biological as well as a social mechanism, and honestly some women i have talked to who later send me pics wind up looking like butch lesbians, or next years contestants for the worlds biggest losers, which may be a turn on to other lesbians and severely obese people but i don't sadly for them find that a hot bed of tantric inspiration for my loins. As i'm quite sure others viewing my pic would feel the same about me.
So honesty is the best policy, post a pic and learn to love yourself for your finer points but don't cry yourself to sleep at night because the hot model doesn't return your emails, that's life. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/19/2009 11:14:05 AM | I suspect 99% of the people who don't posts pics are one or more of the following:
1. Ugly
2. Married.
3. Older than they claim.
4. Fatter than they claim.
5. Perverts.
6. Trolls.
7. Hiding from the law.
But this is just a wild-ass guess.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/19/2009 11:33:25 AM |
Books shouldn't always be judged by their covers. I know what you mean but sometimes it's not what's on the outside that makes someone attractive.
No one should judge a book by it's cover unless to judge the attractiveness of it's cover. 
Physical attraction comes from the outside. To most it is important to some degree. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/19/2009 5:21:50 PM | Yes I have, but it was on another site about 3 years ago. He was a nice looking guy, however, he was stationed overseas and was home for the weekend. Our date was nice though. Would I do it again? Sure. I don't post my pictures online simply because I don't want the whole world to see my picture. You never know who is looking and what they are doing with your photos. Photos can easy be copied and pasted...never know, your head my just end up on a sex video, lol. Anyway, if someone message me and I'm interested in knowing them, I will send a picture...but most guys that message me are fat or chubby...never really the type I'm attracted to anyway...so why bother.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/20/2009 2:26:15 AM | I do not need pics to talk with people. I love women with no pics in their profiles!. I find them much more interesting. I am more interested in her consciousness than what she looks like. From my experience, on different sites, I have met such women who were drop-dead good looking. Looked better than the ones who had pics. To me, it blows away the theory that people with no pics are ugly, are hiding something, or other nonsense.
On the other hand, I have met women who had pics in their profiles. Talk about conceited! OMG. Turned off by the attitudes.
So, I prefer women who have no pics. I have had a lot of success. Currently, I have met a few women (from various sites) who add a lot to my life. None of them had pics with their profiles. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:12:36 AM | | I have received more responses in the past few weeks since I posted a pic on my profile, but they are either half my age, looking for sex only, or tell me that I am ugly looking. When I did not have a pic posted the men who responded to my profile had actually read it, although the responses were few and far between. I would meet someone with no pic at all, as when I have done so no one has ever even vaguely resembled Quasimodo's younger brother. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:32:54 AM | I have a pic and they always ask for another one like I am still hiding something. So it doesnt make a difference if you have one is someone is just looking for attraction only.
What I think IS necesary for a relationship to be great is that first you MUST be attracted physically. Once that is out of the way then you meet and see if there is any sort of intelectualy attraction. If there is both of those then what does anything else matter? But you must be attracted to someone in order for an intimate relationship to work. Those that say you do not just dont have intimate relationships or if they try to they end up cheating on their partner because people need that part of attraction as well as being intelectually stimulated. And if they do not cheat then they are just miserable until someone leaves the other one. But if you dont think that there needs to be physical attraction then you are just as as shallow and niave to think that element can be missing from a relationship as those that just go after every good looking person they see. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/3/2009 9:06:59 AM | I don't think so that meeting a "blind date" is being brave.
What comes into my mind is the fact I live by: "Treat others as you would like to be treated" and if I don't have qualms to put my pic on here - and sure my profession keeps me non-stop in public eye - why should I be "brave" and go to meet Mr Incognito?!
I have plenty of excitment in my life and adding to it looking for someone with a red rose in his hand or newpapers folded under his arm well, I leave it to others who need this kind of game.
IMO, it takes a certain dose of courage ~ will ~ hope and hopefully budding chemistry to go and meet Mr Right in flesh. Relying on mental picture of him and scanning the place ... is fun enough  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/16/2009 3:18:29 PM | Photos.... why bother?
The one thing I have noticed over the last year since I started on dating sites has been the abundance of deceptive or non-photos attached to women's profiles.
Ladies... while I am very understanding of the consciousness of how you feel about your looks, it bewilders me as to why you would even expect to meet a man online when you post images that either have no clarity or even pictures of your pets or foreign landscapes? Recently I came across a profile with photographs of the back of a woman’s head... all five of them! What is this woman thinking? How do you expect to get any response when you can't even show your true self? The game is two sided and while you think that you should be the one to make a choice on what is appealing to you, this doesn’t apply to the man who is viewing your profile. I have heard the classic lines... “I don’t put my picture up because I have a reputation to protect.”, or "I attract too many weirdo’s because I am a good looking woman.” These excuses generally don’t fly with most guys and are prone to pass you up simply because they don’t want to take a chance based alone on just what you written about yourself.
Gentlemen... Although my observation is from the viewpoint of a man and since you will never finding me looking at a man's profile, these thoughts should still also apply to you as well. In their defense. I have found that many women have a hard time putting ourselves out there when there are so many men that make either very superficial choices or are looking for something to fall into easily without much effort. Please take this in mind that this can go both ways.
The object of a dating site is to meet someone that you are compatible with. But physical attraction is the key. This is most ALWAYS going to be the first part of the formula for any kind of connection. It can be very discouraging to men (as I am one of them and I feel I can speak for most of us) when they come across a profile that in the mist may be composed with the most eloquence, but because you have either posted no photo, or a photo that is blurry and obscure, or some mundane object, it is an immediate red flag.
We now live in a world of technology and instant gratification where deception is a common thread in our everyday lives.... Everything from Nigerian love scams to Russian mail order brides. It's hard enough for decent people to filter through the crap hoping to find that one true soul that will fulfill the void in their lives. So why add to the pile of garbage by being vague and ambiguous about your true physical being? By misrepresenting your appearance and in many cases, your persona, you are only setting yourself up for a big letdown in the long run.
We all have expectations of what we want in a partner. It is only human nature and it should not necessarily be perceived and being "shallow." Disappointment comes from within when we raise these expectations higher than common sense would have, and because of this attitude, we find ourselves chasing our tails in a vicious circle over and over again.
So in summary, you need to be honest with yourself before you consider the alternatives when posting your profile with fallacious or deceptive photographs, if even none at all. Just remember that a photograph is usually looked at, but seldom looked into.... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/16/2009 3:36:59 PM |
I suspect 99% of the people who don't posts pics are one or more of the following:
1. Ugly
2. Married.
3. Older than they claim.
4. Fatter than they claim.
5. Perverts.
6. Trolls.
7. Hiding from the law.
But this is just a wild-ass guess.
Was your wild ass guess based on anything in particular? If it was based on your experience, it differs quite a bit from mine. Granted, my experience isn't based on no photo at all but no "public" photo (which is what the filter here works on). I've met several ladies that have private photos (but no public photo) and so far none fit into the 99% category up there. Seems to me quite a few people are missing the boat by blocking people with no public photo, especially when they have private photos they're perfectly willing to share by email. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/16/2009 11:16:59 PM | ^^^ I absolutely agree with that. I've met several men who I emailed first with no photos (I didn't have one myself until recently) and, after chatting a short time, we exchanged photos. I was happily surprised and, in two cases and it led to more.
Only in one case did I meet someone with no prior photo. It was not a romantic match, but I enjoyed the conversation and met someone interesting. It's just silly to block someone from contacting you if they don't have a photo. They can always choose to send a private photo with an introduction. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/16/2009 11:46:04 PM | Well this is just great!!! 96 pages of predominately "shallow" people giving there lame excuses about why they won't talk to, or meet up with someone who has no pix... What a joke some people areSo none of you people ever considered thatmaybe everyone can't afford a digital camera or a scanner, to post pictures on POF, does that mean they should'nt be able to meet anyone on here?
I guess I shouldn't be surprised.... people on here are no different than anywhere else...
about 75% have absolutely no common sense, and about 95% don't know how to think before they open their mouth.
May God have mercy on all of you pitiful lost souls. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/23/2009 3:01:00 PM | Looks matter. Even as you grow older. We change what we find attractive and reality tells us that we won't find someone without a wrinkle or some fat at certain ages, but who goes out and zeroes in on the ugly person?
Unfortunately, most folks won't go out to a POF sponsored event; and most people ARE better looking in person, so all we have to go on is a photo and if we don't like what we see? I wouldn't want someone to date me who found my photo unattractive. I WANT my man to be attracted to me both physically and emotionally.
And most times, it will be the face that is the turn off. Both men and women have said this often enough in forums.
The best result I had in dating other than real life was phone dating - between reading a profile with no photo or hearing a profile, I would still prefer hearing it. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:24:25 PM |
Was your wild ass guess based on anything in particular? If it was based on your experience, it differs quite a bit from mine. Granted, my experience isn't based on no photo at all but no "public" photo
My comments were in reference to no photo at all as the OP question is framed. And like I said, it's a wild-ass guess. So. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:16:24 AM | Wild Heart writes:
The best result I had in dating other than real life was phone dating - between reading a profile with no photo or hearing a profile, I would still prefer hearing it.
No offense here, I'm just curious. Considering what you've said in your post (which makes sense), I'm a bit baffled by why someone with no photo would activate the "no photo, no email" block??
(yes, I tried to email to ask what a "ccked gun" is ) | |
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