tokr
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Joined: 9/2/2006
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 5:21:37 AM | DS: Did you ever stop to consider the fact that this was not a thread about a "dead dog"? This was a thread about my loss. I guess I just thought that putting it into writing would help me deal with her being gone much easier. I thought that you could post things totally unrelated to dating (as many of you have, YOU included) just for support. That was all I was trying to do. I am done defending myself to any of you.
However, I will say the following: "Those that live in glass houses should not throw stones." Why do I say that you? Look at your thread: carstruck. That has absolutely nothing to do with dating either. Don't feel as though you need to rush the forums with non-dating-related threads just to prove that a thread about my "dead dog" didn't belong here. I will say it again, and for the last time, I was looking for support. Trust me, I will not make this mistake again. Maybe I should just not respond to forums at all. Maybe that would make you happy.
As for sweetie, unless you read every single thread that has been written by both of us, you have no idea what I said or did not say. I was not bashing her. I was simply stating a fact. I guess I should have also named this forum "What is wrong with people?" That is okay though. I got my answer. You have also provided your input into that answer.
So, I am done. Delete both threads, I don't care. If I knew how to delete these threads, I would do it in a heart beat. I am so sorry that I asked the question of what is wrong with people? Why? Because I don't like the answer. I would like to think that there are good people in the world. I would like to think that we live in a compassionate society. I am wrong. That saddens me.
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Posted: 12/3/2006 8:43:12 AM | Sorry about your loss.Person was probable worried about getting in trouble or dog owner suing them and/or beating them up.The cops have literally clocked people going 50mph on my 25 mph street..there's been some real close calls with kids.And although kids (pets too)are suppossed to be supervised doesn't give anyone the right to run them over if they aren't.
Summary Of Dog Laws
Dog must be kept on the owner's premises in a locked fenced yard,confined,locked pen or enclosure with a top,or to be tied with a leash or tether so the dog is adequately restrained.
Owners are liable for damages in any injury,death,or loss to person or property that is caused by the dog unless victim committed or was attempting to commit a trespass or other criminal offense or provoked the dog on the property. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 6:32:38 PM | I'm sorry for your loss. Reading your story brought me to tears. You are grieving the loss of a life that touched your heart. Being an animal lover, I completely understand. Perhaps your pain could have been eased a bit, if the driver had stopped & acknowledged what had happened. Unfortunately, everyone is not that caring & compassionate. How sad.  | |
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tokr
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Joined: 9/2/2006
Msg: 29 | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 4:08:44 PM | | debseyes: Thank you. I miss her terribly. My family thinks that I am strange because I have ordered a grave marker for her. My mom always said that I loved her too much. I even called myself her mommy. She was a part of my family. I said when we buried grandma, we put a grave marker on her grave; so, why should it be any different for my dog, whom I loved very, very much? She didn't have any response except to say that my love for my dog was "unhealthy". Sunny got me through a lot of difficult times. Dogs don't judge. She would know when I was upset and would crawl up in my lap and put her head on my shoulder and just look at me and wag her tail like crazy. She always made me feel better. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 4:41:35 PM | | TOKR, Having a dog that I am very attached too, I can relate to your loss. Unless somebody has a pet they have no idea how attached you can become. It is amazing how much company they give you. They ask for so little and give so much in return. I have a 4yr old boxer and would be lost without her. I did not have a dog for a long time as I lost the dog I had before and did not want to get another as I know how attached one can get to them. I feel for you | |
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tokr
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Joined: 9/2/2006
Msg: 31 | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 5:03:45 PM | | romance man: Thanks. My Sunny was part boxer and part staffordshire terrier. She was beautiful. I think you are right that people who do not have animals will never understand how close you can be to those animals. I have always thought of my dog as part of the family. I never thought of her as being owned by me. I do appreciate your sympathy. I think in time I will end up getting another dog, but right now the wound is too fresh. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 5:37:42 PM | | Tokr, You're welcome. There is nothing strange about ordering a grave marker for Sunny. You are showing tribute to a loved one. In my opinion, there is nothing unhealty about showing your love. There is something about the feeling you get when you walk in the door & fur is there to greet you. It is an unconditional love, some people will never understand. I had to make a difficult decision & put a beloved dog (Wiley) to sleep a few years back. I choose to have him cremated & bring his ashes home. He will remain in his mommy's heart always. Hold your head high. You don't have to explain or seek approval from anyone for your feelings & the heart felt decision you have made. That's what makes us each unique individuals. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 6:02:15 PM | | I agree with Debseyes. Whatever you feel is right in your heart is what you need to do. Just as in the grieving of a human everybody handles it different. You have to do what ever you feel is right. Having to put a dog to sleep is a very difficult thing to do. Last year my boxer was very sick and I ended up spending almost $300.00 at the vets and at the time it was money I really could not spare but I did with out thinking twice. As with every thing in live you have to go with what your heart tells you is right. At some point you will probably want another dog but it has to be when you feel it is right | |
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tokr
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Joined: 9/2/2006
Msg: 34 | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 10:01:49 AM | | Romance Man: Thanks again for your support. I don't know whether to look at it as fortunate or unfortunate that I did not have to put her to sleep. She died from the car hitting her. When I found her, she was already dead. That, however, did not stop me from sitting down on the side of the road, holding her, and crying and crying. My 16-year-old son was with me. He dug the hole and covered her up to bury her except for her head. He just couldn't do it. I leaned down, kissed her on the head, and then finished burying her. I miss her so much. | |
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