| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 12:33:42 PM | @ Deacon and well everyone that considers looks first.
I was sitting and reading the forums and I happened back here. Well I reread this thread and from what I have noticed is most are into the brains and looks more than age. Now I am not trying to vary from what you have posted here but I was thinking on this. I am guilty as well on the looks. Now with that out of the way take into consideration this. Suppose I can tell you a person that does not go by looks. But appears to go more by strickly the persons mentality and intelligence. As well as their wit and personality. As far as age it may play a role but not in the way we think. For example, Take a Blind person. Now they can not visually see the person that they are talking to. Nor can they tell you the color of thier eyes, hair, cloths, complexion, or even the great sky above. They can however determine thier height, the type of personality, and most definately thier intelligence by strickly talking to them.
Now I know for a fact that some blind people call tell by touch on certain things. Like the denomination of a dollar bill. be it a 5, 10, 20 ect. They can also determine the softness in a persons face by touch as well as feelings, and the sound of thier voice. They can determine things by smell like perfumes, foods, chemicals, and ect. Now if we went to the aspect on age would the blind person really know the age of the person that they are talking to. I don't really think so. They could be told an age on the person and they would go with it. The way that some speak would give an indication on age. Like that of a child before they have reached tier teens. Then on up into thier twenties, this depending on thier maturity. As far as if the person were on up in age then possibly, if they were not as some, and well preserved. LOL (sorry loose term).
Now before i make this statement it refers to another thread and I am not trying to go there. The out look on this position of this thread will also bring into account the fact of a disability in the blind person. But do you actually call it a disability. My great grandmother was totally Blind since 1949 two years before I was born. She was the most independant woman I ever knew. She could do more than a lot of people that had sight. My whole point is that if we base our total outlook on a person as far as looks and brains then we are being somewhat lacking in our search for the total companion that we seek and that also goes in reverse if we are more into age. What we need to do is take and use all aspects of a person and learn them from inside out. Make our choice by the complete person not just superficial outlooks. Not based on age, looks, or intelligence. This person we seek must contain all to make the complete person. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 3:38:12 PM |
....What we need to do is take and use all aspects of a person and learn them from inside out. Make our choice by the complete person not just superficial outlooks. Not based on age, looks, or intelligence. This person we seek must contain all to make the complete person.
There words you speak are very true. I'm not sure there are many who would disagree. Perhaps I am more vain than some, less vain than others. I do know, however, that while I prefer to unwrap a pretty package, it's the desire to find the complete package that motivates me in the long run. If I am to be faulted for that, then so be it. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 4:19:10 PM | | No I can say I have to agree on that it is always nice to unwrap a lovely package and find the treasure with in. And to fault you no it is human to do this. My point was not all depends on looks to judge thier life long companion. A lot of threads have been over this issue in several ways. Some asking if there can be true love with out ever seeing the other that they are in love with. I have to say yes. There is also doubt that age is a factor in this decision. From the blinds aspect most is to be based on personality and emotional values. Senses play a lot in the developement of love whether any wish to acknowledge it. Had thought of, if all were blind then would there be so much as far as divorce. Makes you wonder on this. I don't think that age would be a factor as much as the inner being on the two that would compliment each other from the inside out. Only if we all could be so lucky. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 5:08:00 PM | I know that you do not want to get off the track of this thread and I do not either. What I was asking and still do ask is for some discussion dealing with what seems to be boundaries set on here by POF members.
I have now been around long enough to observe some things about the profiles and limits placed here. The fact that some refuse to place a picture on their profile, and others wanting just younger individuals to respond or set the limit to be very narrow. I see older men drooling over 18 to 20 year olds and now older women doing the same thing but handling it in a different way.
I have seen both men and women put down ages but their pictures make them look significantly different from their stated age. While voting on some pictures here and then going to profiles, I have even seen some women say that they are younger, then say they lied in order to get a look and vote. That is my point......both women and men are doing it when what is truly important is how they look to attract you.....then how bright they are to keep you around. It is a package that I feel some fail to enjoy because of the limits they set.
I am willing to consider any woman of legal age as someone to know and maybe enjoy.....and that goes both ways....from 20 to 60....it does not matter and if 70 and can attract me and keep my interest....more power to them.
That was the point of this thread and I continue to enjoy all the responses....sorry for being sooooo wordy.......  | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 5:15:24 PM | I want looks (in my eyes)
Brains...he has to at least match me...other wise, it won't work
Age...close to mine would be awesome.
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Posted: 4/10/2005 5:26:20 PM | @squeak
So....I am not in the running then for you because I am over 70?....smiles  | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 8:21:41 PM | @squeak,
LOL...omg..you like my cheeks and I am an old man....smiles....must be all the running that I do....lmao  | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 8:40:41 PM | Y'all ain't old!!!!!!!!!!!
Who told you that.......
Lemmee at em......I'll................teach em what old is......
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 9:12:16 PM | Oh you deacon...I wanna teach you a thing or two....
oops...this isn't a private message is it?
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/10/2005 9:18:19 PM | I promise I won't hurt ya
Much
Tiz your brains I am after...honest.........................................
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/12/2005 8:23:19 PM | | thinks this thread ties in with dating older men...and women or just older overall....if you look good and can think for yourself and hold your own...should your age really matter? | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/12/2005 8:31:48 PM | | Deacon that depends on what we are looking at as to whether age should matter. Let me think on it a moment. hell no age doesn't matter if you know what you want and are not afraid to go for it. But we still have to think of what people say that can cause a problem before we tell them to mind thier own ******* business. Then we have to think of are we worth the extra attention of the lady we are after or have and trying to hold onto. Damn right and nothing can stop us and the pleasure we have together. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/12/2005 8:40:35 PM | mound,
Just as long as the woman thinks the same way....you may want her and think nothing can stop you...and you may be the best for her...but if she thinks that a limit on the age is a must....you may be just spitting in the wind..... | |
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Posted: 4/12/2005 8:45:43 PM | | spitting is fine until it slaps you back in the face. But does a guy ever know what a woman wants oh heck no. Some don't know what they want and some say they do until the time comes to face it then it changes. I think it is to keep us guys guessing is all and drive us nuts. To give us a case of clapping knees and aching feeling. Twisted senses and a running nose. Wet eyes balls and red lids. Then they turn around and change again and all is fine until they see we are getting to understand again then whamo it is on again. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/12/2005 11:25:13 PM | Okay, my last post made absolutely no sense because I was responding to a very old post upthread god knows how far.
Sorry for any confusion that may have caused. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/13/2005 2:07:56 AM | age means nothing when it comes to friendship.
as for intimacy, it does matter. i can't see me having any short or long term goals in common with a 25 year old. and, well, i want kids. i'm looking for a father for these kids....not a grandfather. he can't be closer to my mother's age than mine. no way. besides, if i dated a guy closer to her age, i'd be wondering if he's checking her out!!! ew!
with the age factor out of the way, looks are what attract me initially, but his brains need to keep my interest. | |
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| Looks and brains versus age
Posted: 4/13/2005 5:54:44 AM | Looks AND brains vs. age. What a weird choice. This is another one of those shopping questions, as if finding someone to love was like judging livestock. The problem is that subjective judgements like looks and brains are based in your own perceptions, which change accoridng to how well you know someone. It is perhaps comforting to think of people as changing over time a day at a time in the same direction from young to old, and in one small way, we do. But then there is the matter of their mind, soul, and personality, which can hop all over the time spectrum like Billy Pilgrim's life in Slaughterhouse 5. Montana Wildhack knew this and was happy in the end. A lesson for us all, I think.
If I like you, you look good. That takes care of looks. If you're able to use the language, you have as many brains as the next person. Trust me, I have proved this point thousands of times speaking to people with advanced degress. Your age matters in a legal sense. Growing older is different for us all. Some have the same childhood day over and over until they die of old age. Others are scary children thinking adult thoughtsm until they collapse in middle age when the world finally matches their chronology and leaves them with no momentum or advanatge. Age shows up mostly in the condition of the body, which can be more or less wrinkly. I grant you that some find old skin less desireable to look at or touch. These people just haven't looked at or touched the right old skin yet. Their loss.
The things that make someone desireable change as they age, or when they are acting smart or stupid. It is not about what your qualities are, it's all about whether you're having a goiod day or a bad one. The way to make anyone have a good day is to love them. Love first, ask questions later. The ones who can't or won't love you back, they are holding out for someone better, and help them find that, sometimes by just getting out of their way as they look past you.
Given the choice between smart and stupid I would tell the smart person they aren't as smart as they think they are, and I would tell the stupid person they aren't as dumb as they look. Given the choice between an old person and a young person, I would lick my lips and see if that made them smile, or wrinkle up their nose in disgust. Given the choice between a good looking person and an ugly person, I would go for the ugly person every time, because I find once in time one becomes the other anyway, so start down the road you want to arrive at its destination.
Old people look good to me so I don't have to make this kind of choice. I am not shopping for a mate like I was at the auction buying a prize cow. She will look as she does, know what she does, and be whatever age it has been that many years since she first got here. These things matter not in the least. What matters is how she reacts to me, whether I want to hump her leg like a dog, and what on earth she is doing here in the first place. We all have something to do in this life, and some of us belong together, and some of us don't. On a good day if we're here for the same reason, we'll know that and settle into together nicely once the fireworks stop.
This is all I have to say about this subject.
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