| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:20:08 PM | When do you ever really know anyone? Eleven years with my ex and it turned out I didn't know her all too well ... or so it seems. Simple fact is, people are different depending upon the company. I'm not the same person at a formal event that I am at a tailgate party. I'm not the same peron when I'm on a date with a woman when I am out on the town for a night with the guys. I wasn't the same person when I was married that I am now.
Truth is, you'll never really know someone. Hell, most people don't even know themselves. | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/29/2006 9:06:18 PM | | You will always find out new things about people over time, in different situations. People's opinions and actions change over time, just like your own. I have dated one person in the past that I really felt I knew so well, and things still didn't work out. I've also dated someone that even after about 5 months, I didn't feel I knew anything about him at all. And to me, that was a big problem, and was probably the reason my feelings faded. What you have to determine, is whether what you are finding out about this person is bothering you. If every new trait you discover concerns you, then maybe it is time to move on. Is there anything new that you are learning about him that is strengthening your feeling towards him, making you understand and appreciate him more? | |
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kaliel
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Joined: 11/24/2006
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 12:22:27 AM | | When every question is answered immediatly and without reservation. If only we could find that person and have awesome sex with them too. we'd all be married. | |
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fairyx
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Joined: 5/18/2006
Msg: 30 | |
| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 3:20:51 AM | It is difficult to say. If you think logic, you know that there is no formula for a person to find out! Why you ask. Because we change all the time. Sometimes you think you know this person, but you sense that you were wrong. check if he/she stands by you in the time of trouble! You usually see their true colour.  | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 4:17:17 AM | when you wear each others underwear maybe ?
I don't know -- you can be with someone all your life and still not know them
You may only know what they want you to know
as for people not knowing themselves - well this is very true
If my name wasn't stitched onto my underwear -- I would have no idea who i was | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 7:33:52 AM | Ha, a question I definately know the answer to, how rare is that? VERY RARE!
The answer to your question is (drum roll please).....
NEVER
we are constantly evolving and changing as our relationships with those we care about. That is what makes life so damn interesting!  | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:08:42 AM | "If you truely want to know someone, marry them , then file for a divorce, then the real person shows up, and I you stand in shock wondering what happen to the person you fell in love with remember that nothing brings out the real person in us like a divorce"
If only there was a way to fake a marriage and fake a divorce eh | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:10:59 AM | | You never fully know someone. I have been with someone for 7 years, and married for 6 months, and still learning things I did not know. Ending things can only be up to you. Theres always going to be good and bad, in any relationship. Question is how bad is it, and can you work on it and live with it. No one said relationships were easy. | |
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~Joy~
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Joined: 10/6/2006
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:22:18 AM | Communication is KEY to a relationship and then there will still be some things you may learn about your SO that you didn't know before....but its all relative...they may find things out about us also...I'm with Suzy...there is good and bad in any relationship. | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:25:58 AM | Unless they're an open book?.........You TRULY never know someone..from one step of maturity to another, to old age.i would think people change constantly.
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:26:49 AM | | there is no set formula and life is about being taking risks sometimes,i think you never really get to know anyone unless you have spent a great deal of time with them or lived with them,this is the chance we all have to take unfortunalty,there are no garrantees in life only taxes and death are the only two i know of so far.and my speeeling is shit lol. | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:14:03 PM | some people are open books tell you everything, now i would worry about this person. some people are so closed mouth i am scared of this person. some people tell you only what they think you want to hear. So the person in the present is the person that is evolved from the events that happend in the past be aware of this type of behavior and move on to the future.  | |
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BethD
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Joined: 12/1/2006
Msg: 40 | |
| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 12:07:12 AM | | I thought I knew somone,love him with all my heart and still do,I truly thought the relationship would work,but I guess I wasnt what he wanted in life,it was 7 months for me,and u have to do what u think is best for u,noone can really tell u what to do,but if u feel that u should end it then do so,have u talk to him bout his behaviour? I wish I knew all the answers but sometimes there are no answers only heartace,I hope the best for you | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 12:15:59 AM | Anyone who thinks they 'know' themselves or anyone else is delusional and needs medication.
Mind you, some people hammer out a 2-dimensional personality and stick with the parameters of it till death do them part. There is comfort in familiarity, after all.
More accurately the question should be: When can you be comfortable with the depth of knowledge about someone that you can make reasonably accurate judgement calls on their potential future actions? The answer to this is, of course, never as well. Unless, again, you're with someone who has a very shallow personality and works like hell to keep it there. | |
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BethD
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Joined: 12/1/2006
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 12:51:37 AM |
oh so u know all the answers,delusional and meds u say,mmmm how did u get so smart?
I'm smart enough to know I'm not smart enough to know.
That help?
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 2:29:26 AM | | I know exactly how you feel. I am similar to where u r right now but after 3 months, it really sux when the other person thinks that over time the mistakes they made at the beginning are meaningless. The excuse I got from mine was that she cheated (though she didnt call it that) because she felt I was a flight risk, and had to look at other alternatives... I am still with her but like you my confidence is pretty low and the end is looming. When you find yourself looking thru your partners cellphone on the few occasions it was left unlocked... then you know the experience is changing you. Do you feel yourself changing? | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 3:15:11 AM | | When people do things that are not acceptable to you...sometimes we go into denial and TRY to accept that behavior just to keep the relationship going...but in time if it REALLY does bother you...speak up and if they get defensive about it..tell them to get with the program or split... | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 3:31:47 AM | | I've been with myself all of my life, and I'm still trying to get to know me. If I can't figure myself out, my chances of fully doing so with others is zero. I'm ok with it though. | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 3:45:27 AM | | It is a psychological fact that 4 to 6 months is as long as a person can "act" nice. Many lose patience long before that. The trouble with being in love is that you look at everything through rose colored glasses and ignore warning signs that you are involved with a middle aged adolescent who eventually will make your life hell. People have become so self-absorbed that I don't see much hope for lasting relationships. It takes a great deal of strength and understanding to put up with a person long enough to really "know" them. | |
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 3:59:56 AM | In my experience, observe them. Do their words match their actions? Is there integrity? When they say one thing- but act in another way, that usually means they are being dishonest- maybe with you, or simply just to themselves. How 'real' are they with themselves and others? there should be some consistency in everything they do.
Also, ask yourself if the things that leave you questioning are serious enough to be 'deal breakers' or is there a chance you are feeling scared, and lookign for a way out? (that is being real and honest with yourself).
good luck
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| When do you truly know someone?
Posted: 12/19/2006 5:03:26 AM |
It is a psychological fact that 4 to 6 months is as long as a person can "act" nice.
Where'd you learn this? | |
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