| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:02:08 AM |
Oh yes men do look at them!
As
Dull
Bland
Lifeless
Sexually void
Timid
Pathetic
Wallflowers
I am old fashioned by my definition--meaning I don't sleep around and I have 'family values' (that is always up for discussion in another thread). I can take care of myself but would like to be sheltered by the right man.
I am anything but dull or bland--I majored in theater-have a full time day job and do improv in the evenings on occasion. My IQ is in the upper measures. I speak a couple of languages, have done advisory capacity over the state in my field. I think I can reparte' with the best of them.
Lifeless? Oh, give me a break! I am told I have a vibrant personality.
Timid--Rifle team in college, hand gun permit, 99 points out of 100. I have trained stallions and done trail rides. Held snakes, calmed down an irate, 6'6 300 pound man and put another in his place.
Bland? Never--life is always a new adventure to be discovered. I know how to please a man--there have been very few in my life--count them on one hand with fingers left over--but they never complained about life with me. Even my ex-husband tells me how stupid he was for leaving--he did not realize what he had until he was gone.
Pathetic? Only if I settled for any man just to have one and NO THANKS!
Wallflower--I teach dancing and go to a singles dance each week--I never sit down.
Get your head out from under a rock-----------I am sure there are some old fashioned women who fit your sad discription-------but don't generalize me and paint me with that stale paintbrush. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/14/2008 5:47:57 PM | Finding a "old fashioned" girl is like finding buried treasure. You have to look very hard and most of your efforts are failure. But if a guy does find a old fashioned girl, he wont let her go. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 3:38:46 AM | | The women say they are, the men say they don't exist.........are we then, only the figment of our own imaginations? Or is it that we have different conatations of what old fashioned is? Mars says she waits on me hand and foot, Venus says I could, but you are a grown man............why don't we do this together? | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 3:41:21 AM | Or is it that we have different conatations of what old fashioned is?
Yes, we have. Perhaps women should listen to men's definition sometimes, since they are the ones trying to attract men.
Mars says she waits on me hand and foot, Venus says I could, but you are a grown man............why don't we do this together?
Mars says "no thanks, I'll keep looking". Venus gives a tantrum. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:57:08 AM | Trust me, if Mars keeps looking, Venus will too.
Mars has a lot more time to keep looking.
Enlighten me, Rock, what is your definition of old fashioned.........besides on the rocks?
Let's see...
She knows how to cook.
She has none or too little mileage in her.
She takes care of herself and of her man, for herself and for her man.
She prefers family to career.
She stands by her man, always.
She doesn't think that doing things for her man is demeaning. On the contrary, she is happy to make her man happy.
She has values and lives them, always.
She doesn't treat sex as a commodity to be exchanged for things or to be used as a weapon to force submission.
She is not a reborn virgin.
She is not a "women were soooo oppressed, now it's payback time" feminist
Now, before the usual crowd start their barrage, let me tell you that this is my personal definition of old-fashioned. And yes, I think that if a man is lucky enough to find a woman like this, he must reciprocate her commitment with his faithfulness, love and ultimately with his own life.
Yes, I realize I might end alone, but as the Good Book said:
Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.
Proverbs 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:12:26 AM | It might surprise you, but I agree with you. All of those things must be returned in kind by both.
Your statements are followed by my comments (too much to put the quote things)
She knows how to cook ----and he is willing to prep or help clean up while they discuss the day.
She has none or too little mileage in her ----and the same goes for him.
She takes care of herself and of her man, for herself and for her man ----and he returns in kind.
She prefers family to career ----and there is no discussion of whose money it is.
She stands by her man, always ----and he always has her back and shelters and wants no other woman but her.
She doesn't think that doing things for her man is demeaning. On the contrary, she is happy to make her man happy -----and he keeps her happy.
She has values and lives them, always ----and so does he.
She doesn't treat sex as a commodity to be exchanged for things or to be used as a weapon to force submission -----and he understands that sex is a gift not a right.
She is not a reborn virgin..-----Virginity can't be reborn but a man can have the knowledge she did not sleep around while she waited for him.
She is not a "women were soooo oppressed, now it's payback time" feminist--not me.
Perhaps if more men contacted me to get to know me instead of trying to discuss sex in the first five minutes.....they might see a softer side and see I really am an old fashioned girl.
I couldn't control the years but I have controlled the milage............ | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:58:26 AM | Perhaps if more men contacted me to get to know me instead of trying to discuss sex in the first five minutes.....they might see a softer side and see I really am an old fashioned girl
Perhaps if so many others hadn't poisoned the well, they might want to.
But nowadays it's simply too late. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 3:17:40 PM | | I agree with u I am one of those old fashion girls there is nothing wrong with a women with values an morals an I have had men try to talk me into being different which to them is friends with benefits or just sex sorry cant do that i have to care about someone before it goes there an if a man cant respect that then i am better off single which i have chosen to be for awhile an now have decided i will try dating again if i can find some nice men which i havent had much luck also that does not mean we are boring or no fun in other areas believe me we just dont go around braggin about it lol | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:56:16 PM | > Perhaps if so many others hadn't poisoned the well, they might want to.
The total disregard which “average” (generic) women have shown for men, their feelings, and their needs for past 30-40 years has destroyed a huge reserve of generalized goodwill toward the “average” (generic) woman which the “average” (generic) man used to have. Just as the “average” (generic) woman has tended to overspend her income and borrow on her (monetary) credit cards, the “average” (generic) woman has also emptied out her “emotional” bank account and maxed out her credit line. For a lot of “average” (generic) men, it has become a “pay as you go” situation.
- zed the zen priest
> But nowadays it's simply too late.
I agree. Us guys are totally onto this gambit they try and pull where they get to be "modern" gals when that's to their benefit, and then switcheroo to being "old fashioned" gals when they think that's to their benefit.
This usually manifests itself in the equality/choice switch: saying "equality" is the dominant factor when that leads to the better thing for them, but then it suddenly becomes about "choice" as the important operative principle when that gives them what they want. Basically they've become like spoiled brats who can't see much beyond just wanting what they want, though in their minds they're better now than they or their mothers/grandmothers used to be. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:11:04 PM |
I refuse to believe it is ever too late...............................
You can refuse as much as you like, it won't change the fact that most guys will seek you only for sex.
Besides (it may not be your case, so don't take it personally), I wonder how much of that "old-fashionism" some women display comes from real convictions and values, and how much of it is simply that they grow tired of the rat race or realized that their looks won't support them for much longer, and want a guy to support their lifestyles.
Call me skeptic, but if a woman is not "old-fashioned" when younger, becoming "old-fashioned" when older is awfully suspicious. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:26:30 PM | aparently not. I consitter myself old fashioned and I'm still single.
I have enven had men say that they wont even date some girls if they dont put out. WTF!
grrrrrrr... I just hope that my other half finds me before its too late!!!!!! I know hes out there somewhere!
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:59:09 PM |
You can refuse as much as you like, it won't change the fact that most guys will seek you only for sex.
Besides (it may not be your case, so don't take it personally), I wonder how much of that "old-fashionism" some women display comes from real convictions and values, and how much of it is simply that they grow tired of the rat race or realized that their looks won't support them for much longer, and want a guy to support their lifestyles.
Call me skeptic, but if a woman is not "old-fashioned" when younger, becoming "old-fashioned" when older is awfully suspicious.
Rock, I don't take offense, I have been old fashioned my whole life, so it is not a new thing. I normally don't tell my personal business........I have slept with two men and was married to both. No complaints in the the bedroom--the issues were other things.
Trust me, I have never made it on my looks so I won't start now adn as far as a guy supporting my lifestyle...........I can do that on my own, it is the emotional connection I seek. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:15:34 AM | > as a guy supporting my lifestyle...........I can do that on my own, it is the emotional connection I seek.
That hardly sounds "old-fashioned" to me. Quite the contrary. All that "emotional connection" and "fulfillment" talk (as well as both "partners" contributing equally financially) is the hallmark of the newer paradigm. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:18:09 AM | | i see this topic has alot of pages. i never read the veiws on it, but i'm guessing theyll be similar to mine. the answer is yes! men wnt old- fashioned type women. or at least alot do. it's not only men that play the mind games and date with the player type attitude--- there are plenty of the ladies in the game too. i'm a traditionalist, so i have no problem with a woman playing the stereo-typical stay-at home mom type role while i'm the workin guy. whoa! easy ladies! not saying i expect it, just saying that it doesnt bother me. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 6/25/2008 2:12:34 PM |
That hardly sounds "old-fashioned" to me. Quite the contrary. All that "emotional connection" and "fulfillment" talk (as well as both "partners" contributing equally financially) is the hallmark of the newer paradigm.
Women were self-supporting in Bibical times. A number of woman business owners are found in those pages. It is not a new concept. World War begat the majority of women in the workplace. One of the posters made a comment about women seeking men simply for support. I don't look for that, but if he had enough income that I could stay home..........I would in a heartbeat, but I am reasonable enough to know that a lot of men in my age bracket have been financially depleted, so I don't seek a sugar daddy. Besides, I am too old to be arm candy. | |
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