| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:08:09 PM | I'm intelligent, creative, open-minded, progressive, strong... and NOBODY gets into my pants (or up my skirt, for that matter) until I'm married!
I guess I'm a hybrid. But that's fine, because hybrids are good for the environment. :) | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:08:13 PM |
They only want someone they can have sex with as soon as possible and then dump them. I'm still considered attractive at the age of 48. Where are the men in my area that want someone like me?
That is such an unfair thing to say. I've been dumped and worse, cheated on, because I wasn't ready to commit to sex in a relationship. | |
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Raos
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Joined: 8/7/2006
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 1:34:08 AM | | If I hear "old fashioned girl", I think somebody who expects me to hold doors open and pay for everything, because I've got a****between my legs. Who might get the vapours if anything vulgar should offend her delicate sensibilities. Thanks, but I'll pass. I'd prefer a modern woman, who'll sometimes hold the door open for me when she gets there first, can carry her end of an intelligent conversation and can handle a little diversity of opinion rather than expect everything to fit into a narrow outdated worldview of what's suitable for "polite" company. I'd prefer a woman who's looking for a man as an equal partner in a relationship, not a chaperone and guardian. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:38:40 AM | I'd have to agree that I don't see much in those 'lists' that I would consider old-fashioned....the sewing skills, maybe.
Of course most men would prefer the positve qualities you mention, just as women would prefer the positive qualities of a 'real man'.
But do they want the taciturn, non-communicative, unromantic, 'where's my dinner?' woman in her place,detached, physically abusive stereotypical male of days gone by? Probably not.
Just as most men probably don't want the mousey Susie Homemaker stay-at-home, 'not tonight, I have a headache' '50's sitcom wife.
As in the above post, I'm much more interested in an equal partner..... | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:46:58 AM | | There still are some great men out there,I guess we just have to wait a bit longer then other,s ,i was just trying to see where they were and if they were looking for the same,and yes after 40 we are still good looking and we can take care of ourselves,and we can be who we want to be but not ever lose fact as to whom we are and the way our parents raised us,An oldfashioned girl can be just as sensual and erotic when the time is desired,i will never ever consider my self a chaperone or a guardian for anyone nor do we need those things,we need to be loved and cared for and understood vice versa,the problem is not many want this anymore yet iwe are out there,its just some just do not want to find it or they are blind to the fact that we do exist,its called love and reality from the bottom of our hearts,seek and you shall find,Pinch me and tell me if i am real, | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 6:22:35 AM | What I don't understand is that some guys think that because you're old fashioned because you decide to be your own person and not necessarly do what everybody else does around you....be it drinking, wearing as little clothes as possible, or God forbid, that you don't want to have sex until you get married and/or until you truly feel for that person....
Shiloh you are right in what you are saying, we are who we are and decided keep living the way our parents raised us...so you don't need to get pinched, you're real all right!
And the word "old fashioned" does make us sound like young grannies.....we need to find another term...like "unique" or "trailblazers"...we need to update the "old fashioned" mental image some men get...
So ya, it's not because we have what seems like "old values", that we're not strong, capable women of our own! 
And can handle...so sorry, but I like Canada too much to ever move to the States....even if it's getting deathly cold out here! 
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 6:42:19 AM | Ikusa:
Maybe I worded that wrong, most men only want someone they can get into bed fast, then dump them. Which makes a decent man as yourself look bad.
Your right some women do the same to decent men. Which makes the rest of us look bad.
It's just that more of us are finding out that what we feel is the right way to start a lasting relationship is hard to find. I hope you find the woman of your dreams, you seem like a man that deserves it.
To the OP: I'm not the mending, cooking, baking, wait on my man hand and foot woman. In that area maybe I'm more modern. A man does not have to hold the door open for me, it's nice, but it is also nice to do that for my man. Will I love my man 100%, be honest and loyal? You bet. I'm not the June Clever woman, but I still consider my morals to be old fashion. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 6:48:34 AM | Yes, some of us are still looking for an old fashioned woman.
Here are some of the characteristics I associate with old fashioned women.
1. A woman who loves a man for who he is, not for his looks or his earning potential.
2. A woman that will stand beside her man as an equal, not in front or behind him.
3. A woman who recognizes the gentlemanly way her man opens doors for her because he loves her, not because she deserves it. (Yes, there is a difference.)
4. Old fashioned woman enjoy the little things a man will do for her becuase she recognizes them as gifts of love and adoration in contrast to modern women who take them for granted as if anything short of that is beneath them.
5. Old fashioned woman, to me, don't engage in casual sex as it devalues the significance of it when two people love each other enough to build that strong of a bond between them. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 7:32:33 AM | | I am totally into a girl who is "old fashion"...people laugh at yesterday's values and morals but I love a woman who has both of those. I think it makes for a more solid relationship. I dont want someone who has been with everyone,that's just my opionion. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 7:34:01 AM | Hummm "old fashioned" meaning a flour sack dress and flat black shoes or bobbie pins in the hair or stuffing her money in envelopes each week or pinning her saving in her bra strap or wearing stockings with sandles or coming to a dead complete stop and then turning on her turn signal or are you refering to her sexual experience?
Oh yes there's a different flavor to be found if you dig deep enough. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 8:02:26 AM | Personally, i don't understand people who think there is a fashion when it comes to someone's character.
Fashion is for clothes, not for who we are.
If there is one thing missing from the old days, thats respect. We don't respect each other anymore.
The products of our times, are definitions like "open minded" and "free spirited" which most of the time mean, egocentric , self centered personality. People that don't care about whats going on outside their own bubble.
I think our generation is so screwed up when it comes to relationships, and thats cause we have rejected anything that the past had to offer us as inheritage. Morals, values, respect, patience, forgiveness.
We are generation of wimps that want all the pleasure and none of the responsibility. We know all about sex and nothing about love. Hell, there are people in these forums that don't believe love even exists! How sad is that!
Back to the subject though... I like traditional women. As long as they don't see their role as derogatory but as something that they are proud of. But in a relationship both parties can do a little bit of everything, so i wouldn't define that role as detailed as the OP did. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 2:40:10 PM | Well i got to say that i am a down to earth old fashioned girl, that don't jump into any guys bed. I am looking of a man that respects me and wants to know me for me before I become physical with them. I mean what happened with people in the past years, sure you go out and nobody wants to have the joy of dating and before you take that next step.
Old fashion is to me more sexier than someone that rushes into anything, it's more exciting to get to know a person and when you do take that step to become physical, i believe people are more satisfied in bed and emotionally connected
that is my opinion | |
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JWA
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Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 39 | |
| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:19:15 PM | Yes we DO look for them---but sadly they've been made extinct by the Feminazi's who prowl our streets the world over!! It's a sad day when we come to that realization---like what can we believe in from then on!!!
Woe is us! | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:28:20 PM | | It's the mutual love, admiration and respect that's most important. Two people who love each other and want to make each other's lives the best they can be. Division of chores, who pays for what isn't really much of an issue, if an issue at all. They live together, share love and take care of what needs to be taken care of so they can spend their personal time together and enjoy each other. A couple truly in love really are in some ways in their own world, in a very good way. Egos, careers, prestige materiality aren't a factor or a concern. They each think they're the luckiest person in the world for having this amazing person in their life. And that, unlike mastercard, IS priceless! | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 6:15:09 PM | I hope men still are because I consider myself to be an "old-fashioned girl".
I'm not a prude, but I don't jump into bed (or relationships) with just anyone. The connection has to be there.
and re: "granny skills" like sewing, crocheting, etc., how does that make a woman less "real"? those are really useful skills to have. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/21/2006 7:25:59 PM | I can't speak for all men - for that matter many at all. As I see it many guys want that perfect woman. Thin. Pretty. Good cook. Cleans the house. Does what she is asked and never complains. You know..."lady on the street and a whore between the sheets."
Problem is women want that same level of perfection (if that is what you call it) in a man.
So where is a common ground? I personally like an attractive woman who takes care of herself. I could care less if she cooks, but it would be nice. Help clean? Good. I like women with old fashioned morals - who like doors held for them, notes in their purses in the morning, and not afraid to be affectionate in public. Holding hands, coy smiles, and sublte touches...
I'm old fashioned and believe in wooing the woman I'm with...every day. Does she exist? I'm still looking... | |
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| do men want unique women?
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:40:23 AM | | i changed my title,ill always have a bit of my oldfashon ways along with my new traditions but by all means i do not want a man to chaperone me or open doors for me i can do all that,im still gonna continue to be who i am and i am unique in my ways,and proud of who i am,and there is nothing wrong with a woman whom is creative either, | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/22/2006 11:14:37 AM | | profesor you are a breath of fresh air..you can be old fashioned and still KNOW what the moves by candle light in the right timing (mariage) and place I agree with you. | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/22/2006 11:30:44 AM | I dont think they do, because they are too busy being egocentric and selfabsorbed!
But in the end the man that end up with the girl next door will be the one that is the one who is the lucky guy because he doesnt have to worry about the competition . | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/22/2006 11:56:04 AM | Damn right! Even though society has generated the equality amongst the sexes, its still nice to see a guy open a door for a woman, and a woman know how to cook a killer meal, or enjoy decorating the house. Lets face it, gender roles in society are influenced from birth. Girls have long hair, guys have short hair. Women wear nail polish and earings, guys don't. That has somewhat changed in the acceptable norms, but gender influences and expectations still exist. This is in no means an insult to women, or discrediting them; I believe in equality. I have no problem cooking, cleaning or doing laundry. If the wife was working a full day and I have the day off, I will likely have dinner made and the have cleaned the house. Although if she has the day off while I work a long day, I appreciate the same curteousy.
However, when it comes to traditional things, its becoming harder to find a woman who takes pride in cooking good meals, enjoys doing laundry, and has a nack for making a house a home. Most guys just don't have the ability to make the finer touches to turn a house into a home. On the other hand, I enjoy the heavy work; working on the vehicles, yardwork, home maintenance and repair... Both people tackle the list of chores together, working as a team.
But I garantee one thing, a traditional woman as you described is soooo appreciated and valued. Unfortunately, they are far and few between, just as guys that incredible are also a rarity. But don't give up hope, keep fishin, it may take a few casts to catch the rare fish in the lake, but it only takes one bite to catch him ;) | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/22/2006 12:05:29 PM | | Yes, we sure do....been looking two years for that girl next door that liked hot cars, playing outside and enjoying the simple things in life. I think they must be an endangered species down my way:) | |
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/22/2006 1:39:58 PM | Don't be daft. Of course men do. The problem is that every Betty, Jane and Margot tells a guy she is old fashioned. It's just girl speak for "show me the money"....lol
The real deal is much harder to find. And even more difficult when some of them are predators as well.
Makes for an interesting day in the shark tank....
~Where is my snorkel? What was that tugging sensation?~ | |
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geegal
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Joined: 11/17/2006
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| Do men still look for old fashioned girls?
Posted: 11/22/2006 8:29:52 PM | You got that RIGHT!! Dont ever under estimate an 'old fashioned' gal!! Im one and believe me ..when you get my engine started watch out!!! it gets reeally h.ot...just ask my boytoy of nearly 2 years..
My friends/family/work collegues would die of shock if they knew  | |
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