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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:26:48 PM |
My name was given to me by two parents that loved me. If someone that is supposedly 'close' to me can't "remember" it, then I can't be "bothered" with them.
She said that she's been speaking to this person for a week, I wouldn't consider that to be very close, hell even a year I wouldn't count on being close if I did not meet the person.
And as for chatting to loads of people - who doesn't? Think we all got contact lists a mile long lol | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:50:46 PM | | I dated someone for several months and called him a wrong name. Oops! The whole day was a dejavu and it just happened. I was so mad at myself. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 3:59:55 PM | | He could be dyslexic! If he is, it could explain why he got your name wrong and if he was embaressed that you drew attention to it, it could be why you got the 'watever' response and also why he spelt it wrong! | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 4:07:02 PM | | I forget peoples names a lot, it's not that I disrespect or don't care, it's just I'm really really bad at remembering names unless you share the name of someone I already know really well. Plus, alot of times when I meet people, I'm meeting several at a time which just can get confusing, especially since I meet most people at parties where I'm drunk. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 5:48:31 PM | A few weeks ago, a contracting company called to offer me a job.
As I've already found a new job, I turned them down and suggested they call my former co-worker; a man I had been working directly with for almost a year and had last seen a scant month or two ago.
I COMPLETELY blanked on his name.
It's not that I don't know it. It comes easily to mind now. I just couldn't bring it to the forefront at that moment. Sometimes it happens.
To answer your question: No, I would not be offended as I would not concude such a failure to remember my name resulted from "not paying attention". | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 6:07:25 PM | For some of us its a serious problem, there's been times when I thought I recognized some-one but wasn't sure only to make my-self the fool.
In the on-line world I confuse user_names with real names and e-mail addresses.
However the ,"what-ever" is rude, I admit.
Accept these things, for all you know he remembered the first time you met or your birthday.
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Posted: 11/25/2006 6:35:18 PM | I am terrible with names especially when people online have a few names - I never forget a face but I am known for forgetting names. Not because of a lack of interest, but because of a lack of association with that name. It takes real life meetings for me to remember names - until then they will just have to forgive my inability to remember names or start including their name in not only their nick but at the end of each post.
Kay
(yep - my name IS my nick - I like things simple) | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 6:44:10 PM | | its rudde by anymeans to either message or talk to any woman using a wrong name after all didn't your parents teach you anything? the day's of of the knight are obviously gone why not try to salvage something besides the fact you might be a blue collar fool!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 7:41:52 PM | Some may consider using 'cursive words' as 'rude' in that they may reflect one's inability to recogize the social sensitivity of their audience.
This is why we have enough pro-nouns to address those who we may not be able to other wise address by name alone.
If one argues that they are polite like those white Knights you speak of, then they should present their sense of etiquette in a consistent manner.
I also don't see the justice in empowering ones-self by attacking those who have made an un-intentional mistake. I think those White Knights would agree with me, that it is simply NOT the Noble way.
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Joined: 11/16/2006
Msg: 37 | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 7:54:19 PM | | Be more offended if you have an encounter with someone with whom you are interested in and he calls you something like, "Susan." | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 10:50:58 PM | | It's the most fundamental sign of respect. To him, you were probably one of dozens. It would be good to learn to recognize this pattern. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 12:21:30 AM | | I think it would have been forgivable if he simply forgot your name bc the conversations ( as you mentioned ) were very good....BUT the " watever " part and THEN the freaking out part is unforgivable. For that, he is rude. Too bad...you did have some good conversations, as you mentioned. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 1:14:04 PM | I very much agree with what you have posted.
There are some of us who really do have a problem remembering names to faces; I know my short-term memory remains within the 31 percentile, this is why I depend so heavily on my palm pilot and PC notes.
I believe what should be considered more is how that person who has made the mistake deals with it. And that the other party is not quick to jump to negative conclusions before learning more.
As a note, the term, "what-ever" is within my view, only reflects a complete disregard for the other person's views. I call ,"what-ever" the sad ending to no resolution.
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Posted: 11/26/2006 4:14:48 PM | | He just made a mistake, I wouldn't like it but if I liked the guy I would try to let it slide. Is he really sorry and told you so? It wasn't very smooth, that's for sure. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 4:22:18 PM | | I think an apology was in order for him. I have forgotten names but when I did I was VERY embarrassed and said I'm sorry. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 9:14:08 PM | I would have to say it would be annoying but like others have said I think he has "issues" and is talking to way to many people to remember your name. I would move on, no use in wasting time on someone who has a hair trigger response to a simple "what's my name" could be a red flag for his serious personality flaw.
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Posted: 11/26/2006 11:02:10 PM | | I dated a guy once who accidentally did this in an email. I was hurt and pissed. But I teased him about it. He apologized all over himself, and we were good. We both had a good laugh. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 7:29:30 AM | His forgetfulness and his attitude suck - time to say bye bye!!!
He just wants to interact with anyone with boobs and a vagina!!  | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 7:34:49 AM | U R the one, Sarah.... Boobs let names stick to our memories  | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 9:42:09 AM |
I had been talking to someone for a week on msn, and he got my name wrong
You're getting it all wrong.
I can understand forgetting some things but a person's name
He didn't forget your name. He mixed you up with some other broad. Yes, I said broad. | |
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Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 48 | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 9:47:09 AM | | girls or guys that say "what ever" or something like that, really means they don't care | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 10:59:56 AM | Or maybe they felt embarrased and just didnt want to admit to it.... so they brushed it off....
Like I said before... maybe it's a memory thing..... | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 9:11:34 PM | I have forgotten people's names many times because I am terrible with names. I try really hard especially when it is someone I do talk to lots but every once in awhile I have a brain fart and it slips right out. I tend to remember people by the things they say, their picture and the people themselves but sometimes I forget to add their name to my list and only get their e-mail to work with. There are many reasons why..could even be tired or the system acting up, give him the benefit of the doubt.  | |
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