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Posted: 11/27/2006 9:33:00 PM | | We meet a lot of people in our day-to-day lives... now add all the people you meet online, who you haven't necessarily met... the human brain is hard-wired to match names to a face, and no photograph on the net is going to suffice. I wouldn't take it so hard. If you care that much, put your name in your MSN handle. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 10:34:23 PM | shy gal40......Have you ever considered this very well could be a medical problem? Perhaps his Temporal Lobe (Data Bank) in the brain has been abused. (Excessive drinking perhaps?).
This can be a major problem, as it get's worse and is not repairable. This part of the brain affects memory, both short and long term. It affects people in the sense that they have difficulty remembering what is read/seen or heard. Food for thought. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 10:43:01 PM | | No BIGGIE........I'm terrible with names but I never forget a birthday. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 11:41:28 PM | | Honestly I forget peoples real names all the time when I only talk to them on MSN. Unless your MSN name is your real name I wouldn't feel to offended. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 6:11:28 PM | Ok, I have to tell this story here because thanks to this thread I'm laughing just remembering it!
I dated this guy for a few months or so, yes in person met him at the bar, and we were at his parents house for the weekend again. Some friends of his parents stopped by and when he introduced me he called me Mary (or some such name, nothing even close to my own)! Of course I'm standing there wondering wether to correct him or not when he looks at me, and says Julie, this is Julie. He turned beat red, pulled me aside and in a complete panic tried to explain." Oh my god, I'm so sorry, I don't think I know a Mary. I never dated a Mary!" It was actually so cute! No he wasn't a dog, he was loyal and a great catch (ended when he moved out of the country) and he felt horrible about it. The next time I was over his mom told me how she gave him such a hard time about it, she almost had him in tears so she decided to stop (with a typical "serves him right" girl attitude!). Of course he also told me about how his mother had called his grandma to tell her that he had brought me home to meet his parents (apprently I was the first person he had brought home before) and what a nice girl I am (yeah for me!) and the first words out of his grandmother's mouth were "Oh thank god he's not gay!
So the moral of the story, if he gets the name wrong it really can be an honest mistake (unless your having sex at the time, that I would take great offence to! ). It's all about how he handles it when he realizes he was wrong. Handled correctly it's just a funny story to share in the forums! | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 8:35:54 PM | | if he was really super interested he would remember your name, so he's probably not even interested, you probably just happen to be the only one online on his list that he has to talk to.. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 10:06:46 PM | | He isnt interested. Not as much as you would like him to be, i think it is 99% proberbal he is talking to other woman on the net. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 10:13:22 PM | The answer is so simple
the dudes an "interent player" who most likley has spoken to 20 or more ladies as long as you and cant keep up with it all
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Posted: 12/3/2006 3:48:08 PM | for me, when i talk to someone online i forget a lot about them- their names and details about their life, even if i'm really interested in the person. i dont' know why but i need to see the person to really remember it. once i meet someone i have a fantastic memory.
i wouldnt' take it to personally OP, but that's just me. i would tend to tease them about it actually... but if it bothers you it bothers you. you decide what's important to you! | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 8:17:42 AM | Well I was dating someone and we were going out and everything. All he ever called me was Baby. Baby this and Baby that. I asked him one day if he remembered my name and he sd of course but he never called me by my name.
One day he introduced me to a couple of his Military friends and he called me a different name. I casually corrected him when I shook hands with his friends but I was very offended and told him so. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 10:04:49 AM | | you just told him you were offended?? ^^^^ you still dated him??? | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 12:15:59 PM | Average Jay is right.......you can see these guys a mile a way....... | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 2:19:36 PM | | Have to see some one's face to best remember stuff about them. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 4:02:35 PM | first off: a week isnt a long time to b talkin to someone. and if u talk to alot of new ppl in a short amount of time, its hard to remeber names. dont get mad just tell him again. i kno im bad with names. if it happened more than once id b a lil mad but other than that give him a break | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 4:56:21 PM | | Sounds like someone I know on here too. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 5:03:36 PM | It wouldn't have bothered me if someone forgot my name because I have forgotten people's names that I've known for years. Some people just have bad memories with that type of thing. But his attitude on your correcting was telling, kinda shows he may not have concern for others. On the other hand, I'm taking into consideration that you didn't get all pissed off and freak out yourself over something so minor.  | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 5:19:57 PM | Welcome to the world of online dating...
Really! What's the big deal, most people out here are multi-tasking, talking to numerous people at once... this is a good sign for you, he screwed up time to move on... obviously you did not make an impact on him for him to remember your name, count yourself lucky you did not have to meet him face to face and call you Missy or something along those lines... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 9:54:25 AM | some people are just poor at remembering names .I am one of them .it is never done out of any kind of disrespect or lack of intrest in a person, ,the name goes in one ear and out the other .I ask over and over again sometimes what a persons name is ...I will eventually get it ......
...some of us are just poor at remembering names..dont read so much into it .... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 11:57:01 AM | He sounds like an idiot - especially saying whatever when you corrected him about your name. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 12:01:28 PM | just curious....is he perhaps 12 with a comeback like watever? also its the net and he is probably talking to quite a few people...perhaps hard to remember everyones name.
take it in stride dont get upset or offended...learn from it. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 12:20:28 PM | OP If I fix your coffee pot, I can tell you ten years later what it looked like inside, what was wrong and how I fixed it. It is not that I give a darn about your coffee pot, it is how my mind works. Long ago I learned visual and auditory memory are different. I also learned I am in the 99th percentile on visual, the 5th on auditory. I can only remember a ladies name by mentally writing it on a card and hanging it around her neck so it covers her ... chest. But if I get your ... chest ... confused with someone else's and call you by the wrong name, I would surely apologize profusely while mentally struggling to get the right name back where it belongs. Anything else is bad manners.
To the previous poster, your suggestion would not work for me. If your boobs are out, I forget all about remembering your name anyway!  Didn't we all learn long ago to never ever ever use a person's name in bed?  | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 3:28:30 PM |
I had been talking to someone for a week on msn, and he got my name wrong. Now when I would message him my name would come up. I also told him my real name. Now we had talked about alot of stuff, and I can understand forgetting some things but a person's name. Well when I brought this up his response was watever [ yes that is how he spelled it] now I asked him why the attitude, he freaked out, now i ask you would you be offended if someone forgot your name if you had been talking to this person for a while.
I see it as a sign of respect. I mean he was important to me as a person to have the decency for me to pay attention to what this person was saying.
just curious
It he first tried Mulva, then Dolores, I could understand your outrage
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Posted: 4/19/2008 3:36:47 PM | | I wouldn't have been offended, but I wouldn't talk to the person again. Next!!!! I see it as lack of interest. I have talked to many women on here just to chat with them, and really I am not worried if I remember their name or not, because more than likely nothing will ever happen. If it is a lady that I know there is a chance to go somewhere, I will DEFINITELY remember her name. In the big scheme of things, it isn't worth worrying about IMO. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 3:42:15 PM | Forget him if it happens again....
He's not worth your time....
Start chatting up someone else so you can forget his name.... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 9:18:01 AM | A week of chatting to someone on msn is not huge in the great scheme of things...
It is an easy mistake to make, I often forget names of friends I have known for ages, lol.
Can't understand why you are getting your knickers in such a twist. | |
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