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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/17/2007 4:12:36 PM | | Who says? I, for one, have no problem with physical handicaps -- they are actually much easier to deal with then mental handicaps for sure. Don't you think? The obvious is more easy to deal with then finding out - alcoholic or gambler, etc. I was raised with a brother in a wheelchair, so to be honest, I could care less. It is the attitude that is much more important. Just as with all issues in the male/female relationship problems, the issue of toileting and sex may arise -- because with a physical handicap such as wheelchair women will want/need to know what the issues are. As Dr. Phil says "It is what it is." But luckily once those two issues are addressed...the issue of the chair becomes a non-issue. There are other handicaps out there that people deal with all the time - epilepsy -- sight-impaired- hearing-impaired -- and those folks seem to overcome issues and marry and have successful relationships. I say handle the chair issue as a minor issue and push to the front the positive aspects of your personality - and remember EVERYBODY has issues! My favorite thing about my brother was that because he was in a chair, we got to go to the front of all the lines at the amusement parks - and he hollered the loudest on all the rides -- it was great! As my Polish grandmother would say - There is nothing bad that does not turn out good. Best of luck to you in this game. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:18:33 PM | WoW !!! Kinda hit a nerve... So to speak.... Even if you can fly a plane or build a plane or your own car or motorcycle. unless it's on your shoulder , the average women see what she sees... a guy in a chair ...however capable, handsome or charming.....
In the event you get together there are still giant hurdles while she "thinks about it". You could be the worlds greatest lover....and your likely not going to get the opportunity to show your stuff and I hate to say it MONEY is almost always an issue. Fortunatly, I am talking about tha average single woman . I have been truly blessed in my quest to find a few extraodinary single women. Their out there, just quite hard to find. Either way you seem to have what it takes to get what you desire . hang in there,Go for it !!! With all you got !!!! Roll on Bro | |
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cgid3
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:26:02 PM | This is my first post, bear with me. I am trying to quote MetallicBlue, but if it doesn't happen, oh well.
[qoute]I assure you, women in general don't give a rat's ass about your wheel chair, as long as "you" don't give a rat's ass about it.
Anyway, she is completely off in saying that women aren't shallow and can see past the chair.
I, too, am in a wheelchair a good bit of the time. The rest, I use a crutch to get around. I dont publicize it on my profile, but I let them know in my first or second conversation. I dont harp on it, I just tell them what the deal is with that, and move on, unless they have questions.
I have met several women from initial online conversations. We talk on the phone, most see my webcam, and they seem to really like me online.
So we meet face to face. I do not bring up my disability, I am the same exact guy they talked to online and saw on my cam. Out of all the women my age I've met in person (10+), two stayed in contact with me.
To say that 'honestly' women dont care about the chair is bull. But hey, I do not blame a woman for that. I have things that I do not want in a relationship and I will not pursue any woman who has those things in her life.
I have no qualms with the way things are. I enjoy my situation, and I do like the parking. I just have to have an 'edge' when I play the dating game. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/26/2007 9:13:00 PM | personality will get people far. plus people are superficial. people want perfect.
well **** being perfect. you don't want to be a carbon copy of barbie cuz people consider her perfect. be happy to be yourself. cuz youre unique. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/26/2007 10:11:19 PM | | who says women don't go for men in wheelchairs? i noticed a very cute guy in a wheelchair passing by me on the street a couple weeks ago...he turned my head, the wheelchair made no difference. had we been in a more conversational environment (a coffee shop for example) i would've certainly said hello and flirted a little ; ) | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/26/2007 10:53:32 PM | | Hey Wheels, just paint a ****in flame job on that chassis of yours. Hell put the SS emblems on it to. :P All kiddin aside, I got respect for people who are handicapped. You are probably twice the man Ill ever be dude. The obstacles you have to overcome must be insane, and yet you can do it. Thats what makes you cool. In my opinion those selfish punks are just thinking about themselves, they dont want to have a burden on themselves. When they probably dont realize alot of handicapped people can do what we non handicapped people can do. You just do it a little differently is all. Plus Id hate to arm wrestle a person who uses their arms for everything. Just keep on truckin bro. Youll find someone. A friend of mine was shot in a gang shooting, wasnt involved, just caught in the cross fire and was paralyzed from the waist down. His wife is a fox, and shes a physical therapist to. So not all chicks are selfish and dont want a burden. In do time bro, you will find someone. BTW your name is awesome. I dig someone who can stand up and joke about their disabilities because it doesnt bother them none. Kudos. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/26/2007 11:29:33 PM | dont know if anyone else has ALready 'Addressed' MSG#5
(as, i can barely see straight after reading IT!)
if no?...
-WTF?!?!-
"shortcomings that were present beFORE chair *came along*"
???!!!
FIRSTLY: how in zee HE11 does one know WHEN/howLoooong
OP has been in a wheelchair? (mayBE whole life!)
GRRRRRR!
SECONDLY: "came along"???!
O! as if a wheelchair just came a rollin down zee street one day, OP thought
"oh, gee-dat shuuure looks like a FUN time, i think i wanna Hop in,spend the Rest of my Life there"
GRRRRR!
THIRDLY: "Shortcomings"???! Who da HE11 do some people THINK they Are?
really, my stomach is TURNING
LASTLY: (Certainly NOT Least!)
OP? P L E A S E do NOT put ANY stock in THOSE words-just rude rude rude
(ashamed to even be of the same HUman 'race')
*NOTE* there Is a DIFFERENCE between ~Honesty~ and Ridiculous Psycho BABBLE!
OT: just keep on truckin, besides the 'common' reasons that folks shy away from/are reluctant to date folks with physical differences/challenges/?
i can not guess as to why you havent found a ~LOVE~ yet
i DO know that matters of zee heart are a challenge for all
i FINALLY found zee BEST ~LOVE~ of MY life at age 36 (kinda late by some's standards)
Please just dont give up
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/26/2007 11:52:18 PM | Well, Wheels27, if you're still reading the Thread here that you started months ago, lol, if it helps to encourage you, I just wanted to state that I, an able bodied and somewhat attractive and successful woman, a homeowner and intelligent woman, ha, was open-minded enough last August to correspond with a handsome, intelligent man who had broken his neck as a teenager and was a quadriplegic (C5), with limited use of his right hand, but mostly no feeling from his chest down. I'm in California, and he's near Tampa, Florida. Not only was I open to correspond with him, but I actually flew across the country three times, actually twice to see him, and the third time to take my kids to Disney World, and he drove out to meet us there one day. It was something very different for me to be open to... but I was. He's very independent for a quad, lives alone in his own condo, drives his own van, customized features on his chair to allow him full independence of any caregiving other than morning and bedtime... and yes, I did have to consider the differences there would be in my life if I were to end up with him... but I was open to exploring the possibilities anyway. After the second trip was over, however, I decided that he wasn't the right fit for me mostly because of the lack of intellectual stimulation and the lack of a great sense of humor. I have to be with someone who makes me laugh and who I can make laugh as well. That and a few other reasons, not the wheelchair itself, is why I ended that relationship, although we still chat on My Space now and then.
Anyway. in a nutshell, if you glance at my profile, maybe you'll realize that there are some nice, smart, fun and attractive people that are open-minded like I was. Would I date another quad? Hmmm... it would be easier to date a paraplegic than a quad, to be honest, but if he possessed all of the other qualities I am attracted to... I probably would! 
Oh.... also, if you haven't already discovered a great networking and support site for people in wheelchairs, check out www.apparelyzed.com - its a great site for anyone paralyzed, or anyone in a relationship with someone in a chair!
Best wishes to you...
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:26:46 AM | this was started years ago, but someone must still be intereted.
I would date a guy in a wheelchair if his mind and my mind liked each other!
No man in a wheelchair has shown an interest in me. They always just roll away..... | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:51:58 AM | | Same could be said about women in wheelchairs. Personally I wouldn't reject a guy for being in a wheelchair, but I know a lot of people who are coz my sister has been in one since she was 16. So I guess I understand what it's like. You're the same as everyone else, and the stuff about being a carer is crap, I'm sure that's already under control. If people won't accept you the way they are they aren't the sort of person you should be seeing. There's other things more important than that when looking for a partner, so don't waste time on those people. | |
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BR27
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Joined: 12/10/2006
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/16/2007 3:35:30 PM | Hello everyone again this is Wheels27 i ended up deleting my profile and came back but i would like to thank everyone for there positive thinking and even the negative stuff was good too. Anyway i just thought i would update you on if i found anyone yet and the answer is no but im still keep my spirits high and one day i will click with someone happy fishing to all | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/16/2007 7:43:33 PM | | That may be in part because depending on why you are in the wheelchair, certain intimate parts of your anatomy might not be functional. And, people are generally too afriad/ uncomfortable to ask. | |
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BR27
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Joined: 12/10/2006
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/16/2007 9:56:09 PM | | People shouldnt be afriad most people that i know that have a disability are comfortable answering questions after all thats how you learn new things isnt it. I can only speak for myself but everything works here in that area. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 4:49:09 AM | I have no problem with men in wheelchairs. The man I am talking to now and hoping to meet sometime soon is in a wheelchair. Distance is the problem at the moment. And as far as women being afraid to "ask those questions" , I was not. I was honest and so was he.
BR27, you seem like a great guy. There is someone out there, I guarantee it. It is difficult for anyone of us to find "the one." Good luck to you. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:45:13 AM | Why is a person selfish, shallow and callous if they don't want to date someone in a wheelchair? Maybe they just prefer people who walk. Maybe they are into running or sports and wanted someone who is into those things, too.
That doesn't make them selfish, shallow and callous. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:50:41 AM | | same as if you a big woman people want perfection they dont want anything but things that are attractive in thier eyes but hang in there my mama always said there is someone for everyone good luck youll find your special lady | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 9:22:44 AM | | There are a few guys I have dated from POF that I would like to put in wheelchairs,then after that I would not go for them again. Attraction is no different for anyone irregardless of limitations. If Rick Hanson needed a date,cause the wife was too busy I would be happy to oblige .... hot has nothing to do with a wheel chair. Best optimum health with or without the chair is where it is at. You take care of your brain and the rest is icing on the coconut cake. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 10:03:12 AM | | Dear ejesq are you kidding us???? The largest intimate part of anyones sexual anatomy is the human brain, and if it is not functional you should not be looking for a relationship. Where do people get this idea that piston and cylinder sex is it. Sex is about the brain and if you meet a guy who is not into making your sexual experience his job because it turns his brain on bigtime you ain't met a real man yet. I am betting that the sexiest guys on the planet who "get that" are men in wheelchairs. For anyone with fear of communication regarding sexuality with men the best way to get over it is to expose yourself (no pun) to as much information ,science, and allow yourself as many mature conversations as you feel comfortable with. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 10:19:05 AM | | FriendlyIntense, just not wanting to date someone in a wheelchair doesn't make a person selfish, shallow and callous... assuming that they couldn't possibly be into sports does. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 10:51:50 AM | You are living in an illusion. Surely, physical does not last forever. And surely, someone worth spending some earth rotations with will not care about the physical but moreso see the beauty in you and love who you ARE. Need I say more? | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 11:18:17 AM | I had a boyfriend in a wheelchair, lasted 2 years. He had muscular distrophy, which worsened with time. My views in life are a lot different now, than what they use to be. He was a great person, and have nothing bad to say about him. Point is people are people, enough said. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 2:51:49 PM | My son spent a little over a year in a chair after a car accident, then probably 2 years after that either part time in a chair or with canes and walkers.
I could not believe how many really hot, attractive, and neat women he spent time with during those years. His chair was not an issue.
I can't speak for anyone in a chair, but from my viewpoint, it looks to me that attitude is the key. Women (and men too) will be with people they want to be with, because being with that person makes them feel good. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 3:30:53 PM | reading this thread reminds me of a video/dvd I watched last week of a 27 yr old guy from Melbourne, Australia who sailed single-handed non-stop around the world setting a record with screws and plates in his back [broken spine]. He cpuld not use his chariot [wheelchair] on the yacht and had to haul himself up the mast while sailing the Atlantic ocean to repair a broken stay with only the use of his hands. Danged if I could do that, and I have 2 legs.
Last Friday I picked my bike up from the bike repair shop. The owner uses a wheelchair due to an accident many years ago during a moto cross race, operating his own sucessful business; and had worked on my bike. We had a brief discussion on his customized chariot, the different set up of his chariot was of interest to me as I work in Rehab. No big deal to him as the discussion was not about his 'dis-Ability' but the adaptation of equipment to suit his purpose.
To suggest that no women cannot see beyond the wheel chair is naive, or thinking that all see things as oneself. Just as some cannot see beyond grey hair.
As someone said "People are people"
P>S> Good Luck with the paraLympics Wheels27 | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 9/17/2007 3:51:29 PM | Instead of blaming the uninterested parties, why not just stress that there ARE people out there who WILL date people in wheelchairs and being in a wheelchair will make it easier to find them. Why not try something positive rather than the same old victim-mentality routine?  | |
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