| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:58:34 PM | | My dad is in a wheelchair and because of him I played wheelchair basketball for 7 years. Because of that many of my close friends are in chairs. I've had crushes on some of them, dated some of them, etc. I've also hated some of them. It's really not about the chair, it's about the person. Anyone who dosn't get that isn't someone you want anyways. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 10/3/2007 2:05:58 AM | | Well this is a hit and miss like everything as I have a buddy who is in a wheelchair and he has picked up more women in the last year then I have. but I'm no screaming charm but he has a big edge over me and that being able to talk to women very well. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 1/12/2008 12:42:23 AM | | You're right, it really doesn't matter, does it? No point in asking why. Tha's just the way it is. Can't be helped....BTW, do you know off the top of your head why nobody gets sarcasm anymore? | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:53:49 AM | OK jerrigirl...here's a question 4 U:
would U go with a guy (be with, date, talk to) that is broke, poor, struggleing to
get ahead?
What does MONEY have to do with it???
cant women just go with wats from the inside?
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:38:33 AM | | No, I would not at this age go for a man that was struggleing to pay his bills. I did that when I was younger, now I am smarter. Money is not everything, but by God it helps. Its just as easy to love a well off man as to love a poor one. Heck even easier. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/18/2008 7:19:27 AM | Unfortunately many people are very superficial and shallow. Just learnt this lesson yesterday when my boyfriend broke up with me over the clothes I wear....I HATE narrowminded, shallow superficial people!
I would like to think though that at least you'll be saved some of the hassle of filtering through such people as I suspect you have a better chance that women who date you will date you for what they see in you and not the wheelchair, clothing style, money etc etc...
Hope this helps! Good luck!
Ps it might be worth noting that I have a 50% hearing loss. It's not the same thing but I do have at least some understanding of going through life with a physical set back ;) | |
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DonQ
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Joined: 1/10/2008
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/18/2008 9:11:36 AM | | You should check out the thread in this forum from a woman in a wheelchair who is complaining that no men want a disabled woman. Seems you two were made for each other... | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/19/2008 8:06:43 PM | | Perfect! Since everyone knows that people with disabilities are all alike, right? They all complain about non-disabled people not wanting them, so all they need to do to be happy is date each other. Right? *crickets chirping* Hmm... | |
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DonQ
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/19/2008 9:37:10 PM | What I meant was both of them were complaining because they were looking for open minded people who would accept them as they are. Yet they didn't say anything about THEM not accepting someone else's imperfections.
I've noticed people, and not just here in the POF universe, complain bitterly that others will not accept them as they are, imperfections and all, while simultaneously these same people will not accept someone else unless they are perfect.
Human beings are just the funniest people. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/20/2008 3:57:13 AM | | I dig disabled men { in wheel ~ chairs } : I went out on dates with disabled men , I think there rather very sexy : I have a good friend ~ Tommy , he's in a wheel chair { I met him about 5 years ago on a disabled dating site called ~ Date able } : | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:35:24 AM | Not gonna tell you about a friends hot mom who married a guy with wheels.
But will tell you not to guage your potential for finding someone on responses (or lack thereof) from what you get here. There are some good people here, but any site is going to be only a tiny fraction of the population, and not be a good indicator of attitudes in the rest of the population. Don't assume cause you don't get anywhere here, you won't anyplace else.
In fact you're guarateed to do better offline.
My experience indicates a bias here towards guys needing to be taller, to get any response in my area. So maybe you need to shop for a jacked up 4X4 chair, or a segway with hi-lift.
An added benefit is if they blow you off, you can run em' over on the way to the door. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/20/2008 1:22:16 PM | You know i love when people talk about the world like its so superficial and judgmental, when in fact those people are the biggest hypocrites.
Fact of the matter is EVERYONE is selfish, superficial and judgmental. Everyone has standards, i am sure a homeless crack addict with no teeth has at least one person in this world that isnt up to their standards, and for that reason i dont feel sorry for anyone in this world and i cant stand the sympathizers that are quick to point the finger yet arent rushing out to date the morbidly obese, disabled or what have you. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/20/2008 2:55:36 PM | I do feel that we as a society tend to be very narrow minded until we mature over our 30s. I would not have a problem with any disability once the personality was attractive. I have met people through my former job who knowingly or unknowingly actually make their disability an issue. Yes we are superficial i agree with last post, but if you see it as a block why cant you accept others would. When you learn your strenghts confidence will rise and with confidence comes attraction. Have you ever wondered why we go for guys not best looking- its their confidence and standards that they are worth our time and treat us well.
Believe in yourself to allow others too! | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 3/20/2008 5:32:35 PM | | Others will only accept people to a degree. That was my point. Not that some people are more accepting than others. While true that is irrelvant and besides my point. Is someone a saint because they will date someone thats a little fat opposed to someone that wont? Please...the former will have their limits too, it doesnt make the latter any more noble. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 5/21/2009 1:38:23 PM | | I agree with Metallic.. not saying you feel this way.. but I met a guy here on POF that is in a chair and he was mad at the world. His anger radiated in how he spoke and the things that he said. He was upset about being in a chair and wanted to blame anyone who would listen. He even said I called him crippled in which I did not. I called him emotionally unstable. He said well I hope you feel bad when I kill myself. I was shocked and I didn't know what to say. Right there showed his emotional instability. I would not subject myself to that. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 5/21/2009 3:12:06 PM | | i didn't read all the posts so i'm wondering if this was mentioned yet. can you have a normal sex life with your disability? because honestly i couldn't be with a man who couldn't have sex with me. i hope that doesn't sound shallow but it's a BIG part of a relationship in my opinion. if i wasn't getting that from you, i'd probably want to find it with someone else. also you might consider dating women who are also disabled and in wheelchairs, i'm sure they could relate to you much better and you would have a lot in common. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 5/25/2009 12:56:48 AM | thats not true at all.
im not in a wheelchair but ive seen a guy in a wheelchair in a bar a few times a long time ago and he use to go there with his gf.his gf was super hot.so as u can see being in a wheelchair has nothing to do with getting dates or anything.i think its all about the attitude.if your in a wheelchair and still act confident and feel confident u can still get any types of womens for dating. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:51:32 AM | | There is actually one woman I would date if the opportunity arose to, simply because she turned her wheelchair liability into an asset. She's in college, with full intent to help others with disabilities. You might also want to go to youtube and watch, "No arms, no legs, no problems". I myself have a mental disorder (Bipolar II) that allows me to have a truly twisted sense of humour, and is a source of ideas for my inventions. Occasionally, it interferes with productivity, but it's alot more of an asset than a liability. I'm also an alcoholic, sober since the day after father's day, 2003. That liability is an asset the moment someone comes to me for help, because I've been there, and know how they feel. The wheelchair isn't the problem, really. If you feel handicapped, you will always be seen as handicapped, and inferior, from the outside looking in. | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 10/23/2009 5:40:28 PM | | i am in a wheelchair too i am a male 25 alomst 26 i have cereal palsy arthris and chronic fatiue i can not do a lot on my own but i am careing have a big heart any woman intered in getted to know me | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 10/23/2009 5:44:27 PM | Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
They don't wanna push.
That, or you're too short.
Try developing a six foot tall wheelchair and see if your luck improves. 
PS. Grammar and spelling are HUGELY important here! Trust me on this! | |
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| Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:13:44 PM |
I want 6 kids, so is this man going to be able help me make my dreams of motherhood come true?
Does this man need assistance getting into and out of bed? Getting into and out the shower or on/off the toilet? Does he need every meal prepared for him, or is he as self sufficient as he can be?
Can he drive? How often does he need to see a physician? Does he have tools in place to help him such as a motorized wheel chair or does he rely on himself and others to get him where he needs to be?
Can he work, or does he live off disability and SSI? If he can't work he can probably barely support himself let alone, me and children. I am not saying I would rely solely on his income, but I am not rich by any means.
Does he use his chair as an excuse to do nothing or does he make the best of his life and his situation?
These reasons may be shallow to some, but for me they help me to decide two things. One if I could have a relationship with this man, and two if I were to have a relationship with this man would the physical demands be greater than I could handle.
I have no problem helping those who need it, I work in a Dr's office as a medical assistant. However I have my own physical limitations, I also have to work in order to support myself, but if the man needs to be waited on hand and foot, I won't be able to do both.
I simply see no point in getting attached to a person only to find out that it isn't going to work. Being friends sure that's great, but to fall in love with someone only to hurt them or you is just cruel. I chose not to inflict that great pain on anyone.
Even though this may be true in a few cases I think your statements are based on assumptions and your own ignorance, not in reality. There are people in wheelchair who have children, work and have substantial lives. Yes people in wheelchair can drive, work, have children, and take care of themselves.
Yes it is important to think long term and see if you are willing to look beyond someones disability.
But do it with an open mind and if you have doubts ask questions instead of assuming all wheelchair users live like vegetables in a nursing home. People with disabities are not as weak as you think, after all they all survived tragedy somehow.
Also most people think of disability as something so external to themselves, like it will never happen to them. Believe me it can happen to anyone at any time and then your view of things can have a 360 degree turn. If your husband becomes disabled will you stick around, what if you become disabled?
And to the OP, please do not lower yourself asking people why they don't like you etc. Don't seek validation through other peoples opinion it isn't worth it and most people will be either patronizing or just trying to justify their own fears of becoming like you. Live your life and date like you don't have a disability. Sometimes you will kiss frogs, but it is all part of the learning process.
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