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Posted: 2/3/2007 6:58:00 AM | | Hey Barney.. there is that remote chance.. but it's not like that doesn't happen to us women as well.. Men are looking at our pictures and making judgements unfair ones all the time.. More men then women want to see what their getting before they get to know .. so there .. LOL | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 7:46:43 AM | True. A lot is based on looks- there are a lot of guys who view my profile but simply don't write. That's ok. They see and are not interested. I'm ok with that.
Sometimes I don't respond to emails when the guy has not taken the time to read my profile. I expressly state for example, that I don't want to get involved with a man over 35 or a man with children. Despite this, I get slammed with emails from 40 year old men with children every day. I used to say thanks but no thanks - in a nice way- but now it's just frustrating and if the guy won't take the minute to read my profile then I will not take the minute to write him and tell him why I'm not interested. | |
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naro
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Joined: 2/6/2006
Msg: 228 | |
| does anyone ever reply to mail
Posted: 2/3/2007 8:40:58 AM | I'm not sure if:
"More men then women want to see what their getting before they get to know"...
I know for myself that I have to know first... if I realize that I'm going the other way, then it means it is not going to work for me in a healthy way... | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 9:32:33 AM | | I really don't think that it's all based on looks. I'll read profiles,pic or no pic,and if the profile interests me,I'll write. I certainly can't decide on someone until I meet them. I'd prefer someone attractive,too,but I've met some beautifull women who I've never gotten together with again. Beauty can be just skin deep. I'm sure many feel as I do. You also have to keep in mind that this site is very large,covering many states. People will view you,and see that you're in another state. That's why we get a lot of views,and nothing further. But having said this,response on this site is very poor. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 11:29:25 AM | Hello ..to answer your question .yes people do reply to emails ..i have recently met a lady on here from close to my home town..i wrote her and she replied..we have been talking for sometime and are going to meet very soon..i made my profile hinest and non diseaving .i was honest and she noticed the honesty so yes it does work ..be patient and keep writng youll get an answer..have a good day steve  | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 12:31:25 PM | I send out a lot of emails, and don't get a whole lot of responses, but I do like this site a lot because there seems to be a ton of people on here and a lot of features. I'm going to just keep updating and improving my profile and try to use all the resources the site has to offer. I figure sooner or later the fish will bite. I met my last girlfriend on a different site with a lot less people to choose from. I think the biggest challenge is finding someone who your going to be compatible with.  | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 7:03:33 PM | | I get no replies. and alot of girls on here will not im at all. I thought we are here to meet new people and not play games. You can not just go by looking at a profile. You have to talk to people for anything to happen. I am feed up with this site people do not want to get to know each other. It is rediculous. At least not when I try to chat with a woman. some people are just shallow i guess. I do not play games it is waist for me to send out a message and not get a response like ever. That is why i like to im more direct but knowone responds to that also. Well i wish you all luck later. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2007 7:46:57 AM | I doubt many women get so many emails they can't answer. Unfortunately people do judge by how you look and you might as well get that on the table right away.
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Posted: 2/4/2007 3:16:44 PM | | Out of 10 emails I send on this site 8 dont answer....Thought we were all here for the same reason to find someone.... | |
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| does anyone ever reply to mail--tearsattimes
Posted: 2/4/2007 10:26:33 PM | | I kind of thought we were here to meet someone,too. I also send out e-mails which get "read-deleted". This does annoy me. If I receive a letter from someone,and for some reason I'm not interested,they do get a letter back explaining this. Although this would happen only if distance would create a problem. Anyone writing me within approx. 30min.drive I will meet. This "read-delete" crap is just plain rude,but as they don't know you,they can be as rude as they want. This is probably the weakest part of these sites-no accountability. | |
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Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 236 | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 6:45:53 AM | No...my experience has been if you are a woman with no picture you wont get a response
and if your a woman over 35 you wont get any either
and if you are the staus quo weight wise you wont either
and if you dont live in a metorpolitain area that they guy has heard of you wont get a response either....
I live in the woods...there are people making a livng there also guys and nice people too??
doesnt seem to be too many men with any depth out there...all old guys looking for young chicks LOL | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 8:47:48 AM | I think the uploaded picture is a place to start. We all are what we are. Pictures how ever are looked at and judged, before any of the partys meet and find out what each other is about.
We complain, when there are not any pics. to see, and if there is a photo, we look at it, make an instant judgement call as do I want to go out with her or not, and move on. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 9:38:06 AM | WELL YOU TALK ABOUT PREVERTS WELL DONT USE A NAME LIKE BON BONS BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT IT REFERS TO .
JUST A HINT | |
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 239 | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 1:54:44 PM | | I do reply to my mail. I think it's just rude if you don't. Even if you don't want to get to know the person. Just drop a friendly note with a pleasant no. I think the other person will feel better to know that it's a no then no answer. | |
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| does anyone ever reply to mail--maria82871
Posted: 2/5/2007 5:35:53 PM | | I'm in total agreement with you. The other person deserves a response...you have no right to just ignore a letter you receive just because you don't like it. You're not going to agree with every letter you get,but you do have to answer every one. But people will continue taking the easy way out,and in this case,it's read-deleted. Which,on the positive side,says a lot for the person who responds to a letter. The individual who responds to letters obviously has a lot more going for him/her then the person who doesn't. So maybe this process weeds out the undesireables. This is a positive way of looking at this dilemma. As for the pics,I still don't understand not posting one. If not posting one guarantees you less of a chance,then why opt for this? I surely don't wish to begin this with (at least) one strike? And that seems to be the result. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 5:51:14 PM | | listen steve, on these sites women can afford to be picky, it seems like there is a different man for every night of the week on here. if there is something we see that we like, we respond, if not, we don't. that's just how it goes. women look for different things, when your profile strikes someone, they will answer. until then happy fishing! | |
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| does anyone ever reply to mail --bigdfun385
Posted: 2/5/2007 6:22:13 PM | | I don't feel women have any more of a right to be picky then men do. But maybe that's why so many of us don't get mail...everyone's picky. So the end result is everyone reading profiles...seems like a waste of time. I didn't post a profile to supply someone with reading material. That's what these forums are for. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 1:23:12 PM | Well I did reply to ALL my email.. but I just started not to a few days ago.. I would write back to All that emailed me .. even if it was just to say hi.. and thanks for their interest in emailing me... but I started getting back emails from some people that I was rude.. and why wasn't I interested enough to write back MORE !!! .. or did I think I was too good for them .. WTF !!! Chill !!!! Relax !!!!! Hey I didn't have to reply to anything.. I was trying to be nice.. and take the time to say hi.. What did you want me to write back and ask you to marry me .. GEEEEEEEEZ so much for being nice on here.. there is just NO pleaseing some .. : READ my profile .. I'm straight and to the point.. if you don't like it.. or can't handle That .. Then don't email. me .. It's really that simple..
Bitchology
If being a bitch means...
I stand up for myself.. if and my beliefs
I stand up for those I love ..
I speak my mind.. think my own thoughts
or do things my way
I won't compromise what's in my heart
I live my life MY way
I won't allow anyone to step on me
I refuse to tolerate injustice
It means I have the courage & strength to allow myself
if to be me .
So try to stomp on me. douse my inner flame ..
Squash every ounce of beauty I hold within
You won't succeed
and if that makes me a Bitch .. so be it
I embrace the title and I'm proud to be a Bitch .. | |
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 244 | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 4:57:15 PM | | Wow I'm so lucky I haven't come across any of those. If I did I would just block them. I agree though I would be annoy if they couldn't take no for an answer. I'm sorry to hear you had bad experience. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 5:34:02 PM | hay hun dont worry about all the jerks there are some good guys out there.and women too it goes both ways belive me i know. i meet some nut cases..... | |
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| does anyone ever reply to mail ----theone4u2
Posted: 2/6/2007 8:30:23 PM | | I took your advice and read your profile. You are certainly very direct. I still believe that being nice is the best policy,but sometimes some people just won't take no for an answer. I had an instance like that a little while ago. Unfortunately,it took me 3 letters to finally convince her,and her last reply included words I can't print here. But these people have problems,and I refuse to be nasty. Nor will I stoop to their level. I still have to look at myself in the mirror,too. So we keep on keeping on,and we hope. | |
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| does anyone ever reply to mail - i do!
Posted: 2/6/2007 9:45:12 PM | I get plenty of mail, though a lot of it is just flirty stuff or people too far away telling me i am cute or have a great smile (thank you to those of you who say that!). And I thank them and tell them they are too far away. Had to turn off my IM because all I got was people wanting online sex - been there done that, no more of that... I give my number to people, they say they will call and never do, others ask me for a date and never follow through. I find it worse on this site than on any other site... have met people on match.com and cupid.com, but not on this one - maybe it's the fact that one doesn't have to pay for this service...
Or maybe it's this damn cat that I keep wearing! ;) | |
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| does anyone ever reply to mail ----theone4u2
Posted: 2/7/2007 4:34:13 AM | | Steve.. I always believe in being nice.. but to the point.. I don't like playing back and forth to get to the same place.. You're right Nasty is not the answer .. and I will never stoop to that level.. I don't see the point in that either.. But come on guys... Say what you mean and mean what you say .. is my motto.. And I'm not here to Have Cyber sex either.. so Please .. Please don't bother me with that .. cause it ain't going to happen.. and NO you are not the exception..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 3:53:13 PM | Rand..
Do not despair..
You are a funny guy and I am sure a nice young man, also..
With women, its just chemistry. They relate to something sponataneously (or not)//
You would be surprised how often looks or money does not enter into it..
Why they don't reply? I think women as a general statement, do not like to reject people or say "no"....It's almost hardwired in them. Yes, some are rude. But not are not.
Good luck and keep trying...
Janie | |
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| HAPPY VALENTINES DAY
Posted: 2/14/2007 5:36:23 PM | HEY Y'ALL
Just wanted to stop by and wish you all a Happy VD. Still waiting for the florist to appear but he must have gotten lost along with the jeweler and the candymaker. LOL
Also didn't get any mail today, e-type or otherwise. Too much snow outside for the USPS. Got almost 2 feet today so I have snow for sale (or for free,) but I also have the woodstove cranked up, the soft music on, and the candles lit. Going to go enjoy that along with a glass of wine. Anyone care to join me?
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