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Posted: 3/15/2008 10:07:21 AM | It really frustrates me that people are still injecting bi-polar into the discussion because bi-polar disorder has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with BPD, it is a completely different problem that is treated in a completely different way.
And I can't count the number of times I have gotten into a conversation about BPD and someone pipes up about bi-polar disorder. It is like talking about the measles and someone pipes up that their kid had the mumps once.
Folks, borderline and bi-polar are not related in any way, they are completly different issues. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 1:02:34 PM | As for Borderline Personality Disorder, they have recently come up with a new name for this disease, which is " Emotional Regulations Disorder"
I'd like to discuss this disorder, one of my sisters has it......and Yes it is very treatable !!! like all other mental illness are, with the proper medications, and therapy.
Remember their symptoms are not all the same, however here are some...most are based on the word " Fear" just notice how this short word somehow touches about every aspect of "OUR" lives, not just the BPD, the only difference is theirs are much more intense.
Unstable, chaotic intense relationships characterized by splitting, yes based on fear !!! again.
Frantic efforts to avoid real, or imagined abandonment, based on fear....
Splitting: the self and others are viewed as "all good" or "all bad." , here is an example....
"One day I would think my doctor was the best and I loved her, but if she challenged me in any way I hated her. There was no middle ground as in like. In my world, people were either the best or the worst. They have difficulty understanding the concept of middle ground.
Alternating clinging and distancing behaviors, sort of like. (I Hate You, Don't Leave Me). Then they sometimes feel they want to be close to someone. But when you get close to them, they feel it's too close and they feel like they some space. This can happen often. Unpredictable...Yes !! but with meds and therapy No!!! as there is help!! if they agree, that is !!!
They also have great difficulty trusting people and themselves. Their early trust may have been shattered by people who were close to you, causing them to distrust, obviously not letting go as easy as others.
Sensitivity to criticism or rejection, but sometimes the hurt is kept will hidden.
Feeling of "needing" someone else to survive, when actually they are surviving quite well on their own.
Heavy need for affection and reassurance, never believing you really do love them, for some reason or another.
Some people with BPD may have an unusually high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight and empathy for situations.
Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms
This means feeling "out of it," or not being able to remember what you said or did. This mostly happens in times of severe stress. They need to be fully aware of stress triggers.
Here are some other "Miscellaneous attributes of people with BPD" Remember every BPD is different !! but here is most of their characters when not treated, or highly stressed.... creating a stress free environment is recommended if possible.
People with BPD are often sociable, bright, witty, funny, life of the party, you'll love them. You'll never know when you first meet them, they hide it very well.
However, here are some .... they may have problems with object constancy. When a person leaves (even temporarily), they may have a problem recreating or remembering feelings of love that were present between themselves and the other. They tend to live in their present mood, forgetting the last emotion/mood/feeling. They drift off, daydream, often being diagnosed with ADD, or ADHD...which would be obvious with this character.
They frequently have difficulty tolerating aloneness, even for short periods of time, funny though, as they often " Demand their own Space" and often prefer to be alone !! all depending on their situations/mood/emotions.
Their lives may be a chaotic of job losses, interrupted educational pursuits, broken engagements, or sometimes hospitalizations for different reasons, all depending on the severity and stage of the person. They have a difficult time with commitment, as changing their minds if very common. "Unpredictable Personalities"
Some have a background of either physical, sexual, or emotional abuse or physical/emotional neglect, either during childhood, or adult ....therefore the pains of the abuse still lingers deep within their soul, if so, therapy is highly recommended.
However I DO KNOW it is fully treatable with the proper medications, therapy, and tremendous amount of patience, and TLC !! but it can be done. They are beautiful people stuck with this deadly "monster" give them a break !! believe me I do know they live in " Severe Agony" everyday , without the proper treatment, it's so hard on them. They will also live in isolation, as a way "not to hurt you" !!! bottling up their guilt for hurting the ones around them !! preventing them to reach out. As much as it's a roller coaster ride for you, at least you can get off, for them it just never stops!!!
Once Again.............Medications and Therapy !!! Yes !!! it works. | |
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| borderline personality disorder-any info?
Posted: 3/15/2008 1:16:20 PM | I was diagnosed with a personality disorder several years ago. Does it mean I am mad ?. Nope. Schizophrenic ?. Well, I am in two minds about that...(Sorry, old and bad joke). What it means is that sometimes my brain overloads and I get remitting and relapsing severe depression which can last for minutes, hours to days or longer!. It can come on at the slightest thing which my brain judges is too much for it to cope with. I also suffer with seasonal affective disorder so I am worse in Winter.
I live with it myself and have found that good company is a great lifter of my mood as it distracts my brain off anything it might consider bad or harmful.
If you want to know more then please contact me through my profile... | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 8:14:29 PM | Affectionatelyyours,
Excellent overview of BPD. I am in favour of the new nomenclature. There are a couple of missing pieces to your description. Many of us who have loved a BPD tried and would have gone to the ends of the earth to either help them or to get themselves to help themselves - that is how much we loved the "ideal" they gave us.
<div class="quote">Sensitivity to criticism or rejection
Often *imagined* criticism/rejection. We (their partners) learned this and walked on eggshells to avoid upsetting them - to no avail. They spiced many interactions to the extreme negative. If I said "No" to my partner, he heard, "No, you mother f*ckin loser".
<div class="quote">Heavy need for affection and reassurance
Which translated itself into serial cheating, even though they had a loving partner at home. Their infidelities are often spontaneous, careless and dangerous to venereal health. They assuage after guilt by creatively blaming their partner.
They leave in their wake naive lovers *almost* as damaged as they are. Again, an excellent essay. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 12:03:04 PM | | Another missing piece of your BPD description - Chronic lying. About everything and anything. Lying about important things (Like if he had paid the bills) and about minutia (Like making up elaborates stories about whom he encountered at the store, etc.) You cannot trust what a BPD says to you as far as you can toss a piano... | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 1:57:31 PM | | there are many mood disorders and much confusion about diagnosis, because bi polar/schitzo affective disorder and other mood disorders have so many similar symptoms diagnosis is hard. however medication ALONG with talking therapys such as cognitive behaviour therapy or C.B.T are the most affective treatments available , good luck and remeber this is an illness of the mind not a personality defect.good luck | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 3:38:34 PM | for op and others involved with others afflicted with bpd:
please realize that, regardless what the bpd says, you do not have to take responsibility for their emotional states. you may, at times, feel like what you have going on in your own life doesn't matter, that you should put your 'self' on the back burner while you focus your best energy on the bpd. but you can only do this for so long. none of us have the patience or, ultimately, the disregard for ourselves to allow another to consume our spirit.
while i believe in simple loving kindness, i've learned to establish boundaries. only boundaries can liberate us. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 7:37:15 PM |
i looked it up on NIMH and it sounded pretty accurate as to what his bizzare behavior is about.
i dislike labels in general, and the approach of medications as being the answer, so was curious if anyone had any experiences to share on the subject.
So i wasn't the only person to learn about this stuff a little to late ..google is something else..beleive what you read ..toss away all of your expectations that this person can ever be normal and think with considerations for you that are real for any serious length of time ..its a never ending up and down ..on the meds they are straight liners ..you can listen to what they have to say but do they listen to what you have to say ? no ..in one ear out and forgotten ..they get fat and sleep better then you will while on there meds..oh and yes those meds are addicting ,they stop working every once and a while and the dose is upped ,do you have a good benefit plan ?these types never seem to ever get any counselling ,,they prefer there pills. you will be the one who will need councelling if you stick around to long... | |
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| borderline personality disorder-any info?
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:28:25 PM | All psychological disorders are assigned by professionals Master degree minimum-ph.D, Psy.D or MD with psychiatry specialty preferred- using the current DSM manual. I simply googled dsm and borderline and below are the criteria.
So much said on this thread is highly inaccurate. Google more to see prevalances-it is very common especially among females and treatments-of which there are little. Be careful about the sites you learn from and look toward medical well known psychological or academic sites as anyone can put up a website.
DSM - (Diagnostic & Statistical Manual)
Official DSM-IV Criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder
A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
1) frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
2) a pattern of unstable & intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
3) identity disturbance: markedly and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self
4) impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g. spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)
5) recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
6) affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
7) chronic feelings of emptiness
8) inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
9) transient, stress related paranoia or severe dissociative symptoms | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 8:42:20 AM | | I’ve just recently been in a relationship with a woman who exhibited virtually all of the signs of BPD. To me it was often frustrating as she would make me the villain one day, then be loving the next. The closer we became emotionally, she would display the classic signs of the disorder with greater frequency and severity. In the end I realized that her destructive behavior was having a harmful effect on me. It was perhaps the sadist time of my life as I had felt that this woman was the one I wanted to spend my life with. But just as the BPD needs professional help, the non-BPD, as I realized finally, risks great personal harm if he/she lingers on in such a relationship. When it finally dawned on me that things weren’t likely to get any better it became easier to let go, but knowing what we had, even if for a while, has made it hard at times for me to recover. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:32:34 AM | | Please please don't label people unless you really are sure they suffer from any mental disorder, none of us here are Psychiatrists so leave it to the experts....you don't have to date this guy so if you are unsure of him then just walk away. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 8:59:30 AM | I am very familiar with this disorder. I agree labels are just that because no one is anything totally unless there is a physical element.
The most pronounced features of a borderline is they see in absolute black/and white ways. For an example if a borderline is truely in love if the person is not physically there they will begin to doubt if they are loved by that person. It is almost like any history is forgotton. The issue I believe is the borderline has extreme attention and confidence issues.The foundation of self image is constantly shakey. They can have days of high confidense and then days of very low. Many cut themselves to "feel". A physical pain is real . The emotional pain is too great for the individual to bear.
If you like message me and I can fill in more. Like I said I know the disorder very personally. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:55:15 AM | BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) isn’t a mental illness. No more then NPD APD well the list goes on. It is a very serious disorder due to the fact that many BPD do kill themselves unlike those that suffer from other personality disorders one which come to mind would be NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) even thru many NPD will use the suicide thread to get their NS (Narcissistic Supply). BPD can be treated but it will take many hours and years of therapy. Drug can be prescribe only for manic depression and possible fear of suicidal tenacious. One good thing concerning this personality disorder is that BPD do understand and want relationships but have a very hard time keeping them. Yes, many “cut” themselves to feel anything, pain releases this anxiety. Insecurities need to be check and keep in balance when dealing with patients with BPD. Many therapies have a hard time working with these clients due to the frustrating and constant projections and transference these clients expose in a therapy environment. Some therapies even refuse to treat them due to the amount of work in takes to help the client. With insurance issues this becomes problematic as well. Still, one should seek treatment and try to put forth any and all effort to understand this disorder. Once a BPD one will always suffer from this disorder. But can change and come to understand how best to manage it. Causes for this disorder is many. Which is still being research. Some say environmental, other past history abuse and still other hereditary factors (gene O type). Some say all of the above which I do believe.
*There are many good books on this subject as well as web sites* | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:28:12 PM | but is borderline personality disorder the same as personality disorder?....
There are different types of personality disorders. Some worse than others. Borderline personality is one of the harder ones to deal with. A high percentage don't think they have anything wrong so don't get any kind of treatment until they end up in jail (they also don't usually get much help there) or in other serious situations. One of my former foster daughters has it. She's 26 now & it's sad because she doesn't see anything wrong but my whole extended family has taken all they can so keep her at a distance & we can't include her in most situations. The first thing is he needs toget a diagnosis. He may be able to be treated with meds.
I am getting married next year
Why are you on here looking for a man for a long term relationship? | |
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| borderline personality disorder-any info?
Posted: 11/5/2008 7:38:17 AM | | You summed it up very well I lived with my partner for 20 years went through hell with her I have three children to the relation-ship which now they are in my care yes I suffered a lot been blamed as the villan for all her doings yes she had neumerous accounts of affairs whilist in the relation-ship not relising what is been happening she can hide very well and the lies she tells very convincing that it is very true I took her back so many times about 28 times even though when she formed a relation-ship with another guy I still took her back thinking that she will get better and hoping one day our lives will return for the better. Iwas wrong I rescued her so many times even stuck by her when addmited to hospital on three ocassions every day I was along side of her I nursed her I looked after her I gave a lot of T.L.C hoping that she will recover from the illness.Yet again I was wrong again . The worst thing about the whole affair is that she is denial of all the distruction. It so sad to see some one destroy their live and yet turn to people who encourages them in doing so she idolize friends who support her doing and yet have no values for family I lived with all those years not knowing the truth about her nor her family which been kept secret and very well.Until now the truth starting to come out into the open.some times people say they to leave her on her own and start a new relation-ship with some one else .i afree to acertain degree but I start wondering how can she survive with this mentall ilness on her own .therefore I assured that I will always be for her she is part of my limbs I tell her .I keep asking my self why do I keep rescuing her enough is enough but i keep going back on my words.I realy don't have an answer at all.But some times I do tell my self if some thing bad is to happen to her that my children will blame me for not been there for her she is there mother after all.I did post a topic about what I had experienced with her over those years .some people critisize me for taking her back .Which may effect the children in the future.Because of my weakness and soft heart I simply can't say no more rescuing her.some people may say that Iam sick or mental for taking her back .Iam sorry to say to those people they have no idea what I have suffered living with her.Yes she does take drugs Weed and very heavy and drinks alcahol .But what frustate me is that I keep telling that we are suffering from the drugs she is taking And yet she says she is not hurting any-one but her self by taking drugs And it is hard to live with .It has been 2 years since she formed a relation-ship with this guy and already she had 5 fall outs with him. It has been hard for me to let go and Iam still in greif 20 years in a relation-ship it is very hard to turn away from and get over it.Every day I go to sleep with a headache and wake up with a headache.I did get proffesional help at the begining ,of last 2 years and now I suffer from anxiety attacks and depresion I am still on medication and can not live with out it I tried very hard to give up the medication but was unable to function properly at times I couldn't fell to sleep for three days . | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 7:39:47 AM | | You summed it up very sassy .well I lived with my partner for 20 years went through hell with her I have three children to the relation-ship which now they are in my care yes I suffered a lot been blamed as the villan for all her doings yes she had neumerous accounts of affairs whilist in the relation-ship not relising what is been happening she can hide very well and the lies she tells very convincing that it is very true I took her back so many times about 28 times even though when she formed a relation-ship with another guy I still took her back thinking that she will get better and hoping one day our lives will return for the better. Iwas wrong I rescued her so many times even stuck by her when addmited to hospital on three ocassions every day I was along side of her I nursed her I looked after her I gave a lot of T.L.C hoping that she will recover from the illness.Yet again I was wrong again . The worst thing about the whole affair is that she is denial of all the distruction. It so sad to see some one destroy their live and yet turn to people who encourages them in doing so she idolize friends who support her doing and yet have no values for family I lived with all those years not knowing the truth about her nor her family which been kept secret and very well.Until now the truth starting to come out into the open.some times people say they to leave her on her own and start a new relation-ship with some one else .i afree to acertain degree but I start wondering how can she survive with this mentall ilness on her own .therefore I assured that I will always be for her she is part of my limbs I tell her .I keep asking my self why do I keep rescuing her enough is enough but i keep going back on my words.I realy don't have an answer at all.But some times I do tell my self if some thing bad is to happen to her that my children will blame me for not been there for her she is there mother after all.I did post a topic about what I had experienced with her over those years .some people critisize me for taking her back .Which may effect the children in the future.Because of my weakness and soft heart I simply can't say no more rescuing her.some people may say that Iam sick or mental for taking her back .Iam sorry to say to those people they have no idea what I have suffered living with her.Yes she does take drugs Weed and very heavy and drinks alcahol .But what frustate me is that I keep telling that we are suffering from the drugs she is taking And yet she says she is not hurting any-one but her self by taking drugs And it is hard to live with .It has been 2 years since she formed a relation-ship with this guy and already she had 5 fall outs with him. It has been hard for me to let go and Iam still in greif 20 years in a relation-ship it is very hard to turn away from and get over it.Every day I go to sleep with a headache and wake up with a headache.I did get proffesional help at the begining ,of last 2 years and now I suffer from anxiety attacks and depresion I am still on medication and can not live with out it I tried very hard to give up the medication but was unable to function properly at times I couldn't fell to sleep for three days . | |
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| borderline personality disorder-any info?
Posted: 11/10/2008 12:15:34 PM | Buy the book: "I Hate You, Don't Leave me". It will help you understand. But sorry to say it doesn't mean it can help a relationship. Even if your significant other doesn't have it full blown you can learn some things that may be a part of some of the symptoms.
My ex wife was diagnosed with it be 1 doctor and another doc said she didn't have it. I bought the book, overnighted and read it all withen a few hours. It helped me understand that some things people can't help. Sometimes nothing can make a person happy. Sometimes they leave you and hate you and then realize they aren't happy either way. The book explains that a person with such a disorder can come and go many times and it never means they will stay. You have to have a MAJOR commitment to a person like this almost tot he point of sacrificing your own sanity and time.
My suggestion would be to support them from afar and allow them to learn on their own. It's very hard to love someone so much you'd do anything for them but you can never make them happy.
On the label part just ignore it. Use the idea that SOME of the symptoms may fit but read about them all. You WILL learn something that will help you cope with the pain and help you learn to communicate with them and anyone else in any relationship better. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 6:52:49 PM | Glen Close did an excellent job portraying a person with Borderline Personality
Disorder in Fatal Attraction.
Diagnosis is not as simple as reading through a list of symptoms in the DSM-IV-TR. It's a tad more complicated and should be left to qualified diagnosticians. With that said, I choose not work with individuals with this disorder and I refer them to therapists who specialize in this area and are willing to deal with the drama and games.
It is a very challenging disorder and a difficult one to negotiate within a relationship.
Best,
ACP | |
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| borderline personality disorder-any info?
Posted: 11/10/2008 10:11:22 PM | | just reading through these posts and i thought id add a comment personality disorders i dont believe in them some silly psyciatrist dude has made all this bullshit up what has really happened is they have come up with these labels for ppl who they think arnt normal when i actul fact they are they just behave in a different way to what ppl think is normal for instance a child who is a bit hyper oh he has adhd a person who suffers from up and downs oh bi polar a person who talks to themselves oh lets see scizophrenia maybe just maybe if ppl started being a bit more open mined and stopped looking down their noses at ppl who act differently ppl wouldnt be given these terms and labels i work in mental health and some of the ones i work with are the most amazing people i have ever met in my life and i value their thoughts and opinions more than some of the ppl i class as normal who gives a flying **** if your partner is a bit possessive or jealous maybe its because they really love you and the problem doesnt lie with them its you i would love to look thorugh the mind and eyes of a person who is classed as abnormal cause i bet ya their having a ball EVERYONE SHOULD GET ON WITH THEIR LIVES AND STOP LABELING PEOPLE THERE IS NO ****ING NORMAL PEOPLE BEHAVE IN DIFFERENT WAYS BECAUSE THEY ARE DIFFERENT GET ****ING OVER IT | |
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Posted: 11/12/2008 6:15:29 PM |
just reading through these posts and i thought id add a comment personality disorders i dont believe in them some silly psyciatrist dude has made all this bullshit up what has really happened is they have come up with these labels for ppl who they think arnt normal when i actul fact they are they just behave in a different way to what ppl think is normal for instance a child who is a bit hyper oh he has adhd a person who suffers from up and downs oh bi polar a person who talks to themselves oh lets see scizophrenia maybe just maybe if ppl started being a bit more open mined and stopped looking down their noses at ppl who act differently ppl wouldnt be given these terms and labels i work in mental health and some of the ones i work with are the most amazing people i have ever met in my life and i value their thoughts and opinions more than some of the ppl i class as normal who gives a flying **** if your partner is a bit possessive or jealous maybe its because they really love you and the problem doesnt lie with them its you i would love to look thorugh the mind and eyes of a person who is classed as abnormal cause i bet ya their having a ball EVERYONE SHOULD GET ON WITH THEIR LIVES AND STOP LABELING PEOPLE THERE IS NO ****ING NORMAL PEOPLE BEHAVE IN DIFFERENT WAYS BECAUSE THEY ARE DIFFERENT GET ****ING OVER IT
While your enthusiasm is very refreshing, and like Argentum Crinis Philogus, I work toward social justice, not social exclusion-unfortunately, labels are required for "afflicted" individuals to receive the level of services that they require.
I am borderline, and have been pronounced "recovered" by my therapist an MSW. Does that mean I'm no longer borderline...nope....it means, that with the help of special "services", I should be able to lead a productive life. Without these services, I would founder in deep water.
I embraced my LABEL and decided to change the meaning of it. I work with borderlines and the SO's of borderlines, trying to help them make sense of nonsense.
As my Mother was borderline, I have been on the giving, and receiving ends of the nonsense. While relationships are a give and take venture, I can tell people when they are getting something that they don't deserve.....nonsense.
I am also bi-polarII and I can tell you that bi-polar, and borderline are very different illnesses, although they can mimic each other so closely, that for a physician who is classically trained, sometimes the differentiation is nearly impossible. The secret is to discover the "intent" of the thinking.
The secret for success for a borderline to overcome their illness, is to embrace the diagnosis, and change their thinking patterns (behaviour modification). Medications can help with anxiety and depression, but the "personality" will overpower the medications if the borderline feels threatened.
Bi-polar is much more amenable to medication, although finding the right dosage and/or****ail of medications can sometimes be a challenge. Another secret...behaviour modification can also be very helpful with bi-polar disorder.
My personal choice for behaviour modification is CBT. I have evolved from having "frequent" suicidal ideation, to being virtually free of any suicidal ideation. Suicidal ideation uses an enormous amount of energy....I am more than happy to be free of that.
Don't ever lose your enthusiasm, lil miss love armagh! | |
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Posted: 11/12/2008 9:27:21 PM | There are three good books;
"Stop Walking on Egg Shells - Taking your life back when someone you care about has Borderline Personality Disorder" Paul T. Mason, M.S. Randi Kreger, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. ISBN: 1-57224-108-X copyright 1998 (Paperback)
"I Hate You - Don't Leave Me - understanding the borderline personality" Jerold J. Kreisman, M.D. & Hal Straus; Avon Books; An Imprint of Harper Collins Publishers; 1991; ISBN 0-380-71305-5 (www.avonbooks.com)
"Surviving a Borderline Parent - How to heal your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries and Self-Esteem" Kimberlee Roth & Freda B. Friedman, PH.D. LCSW
Foreword by Randi Kreger, coauthor of Stop Walking on Egg Shells; New Harbinger Publications Inc.; 2003; ISBN 1-57224-328-7 (paperback)
Unless the person with BPD acknowledges that the personality disorder exists - Run baby RUN. I was married to one who wouldn't see anything wrong in her view of the world and luckily I got out - sorted a lot out, (obviously not enough) and was able to be relatively stable for my daughters. They will do fine because they have each other.
I still have trust, boundary and self-esteem issues, not only from that but from other choices I made both prior and subsequent to that marriage. There is good reason for me to be phinished. That is why I am not able to be anything other than a friend and that is a risk - a big one. I am not fit for human consumption. The girls however are fairing better.
This is REAL life - NOT a dress rehersal. Take it VERY seriously. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2008 9:46:34 PM |
I still have trust, boundary and self-esteem issues, not only from that but from other choices I made both prior and subsequent to that marriage.
I hear you. It's a life altering experience. In retrospect, I believe that I've been in two PDed relationships and know that I don't have enough left in my bank account to emotionally survive another. Consequently, my antennae are overly tuned to the point that I might pass on something good out of fear of being sucked into it again. | |
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