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Posted: 1/29/2007 8:45:58 AM | | So This sounds real bad but hey sex is sex. so one night I got so drunk at a bar and met two really really hot guys. so I decided to go back to their place and I ended up having a threesome with the two of them and it wasent all that its cracked up to be. it was just okay. lol | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 2:37:01 AM | My opinion only, here......... If someone of either sex can find a partner that they can openly discuss and talk about their fantasies, they are lucky indeed. Finding someone who would assist in the actualization of same - WOWSER!!. Although my relationship track record stinks, I have always been all about pleasing the lady I was with, so I guess you'd have to put me in the 'yes' column here - it's all about my partner and what she wants. After reading the comments to this thread, I can see several valid caveats with this that anyone should certainly think about before actually doing something like this, but as with most things involving more people than yourself, everyone is different and will react differently to different situations. It would seem to me that you should at least have a pretty darn good idea how all parties included, whatever the mix, would react before rushing into anything. A set of ground rules that are discussed beforehand with all potential parties present would seem essential if things were to go anywhere near smoothly.
In attempting to get back to the OP, if it were the lady who wanted this, it should be she who would tell the 2 guys what she would like to get out of the experience, whether it be DP (MFM), total attention to her from more than one man (MFM), seeing 2 guys do the 'bi thing' (MMF), whether she wanted to just watch or to join in, etc. It would then be up to the 2 guys to set their own limits as to what they see as 'acceptable behavior' for this situation. If all 3 can agree (good luck on this one), and all jelousies could be set aside (good luck with this one, too) what could be the harm in pleasing your lady. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 3:49:45 AM | | LOl, No I definitely would not take part in that ritual. I actually opportunities in the field it's not my type of gmae, i like one on one. don't apologize grasshopperme there are plenty of bar-hopping wayward women in the world you are not the only one. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 8:16:55 AM | I think if the ground rules are discussed first, any sexual encounter could be fun and adventurous for those who want it. It sounds like most men ASSUME that MFM absolutely means that the guys will do each other. Guys, just because you want the GIrl on Girl action doesn't necessarily mean your woman wants Guy on Guy during a MFM. I fantasize about it because I enjoy the idea of my pleasure being of utmost importance. It's a selfish thing. I don't expect the guys to go after one another, but having two men desiring me, touching me, caressing me, kissing me oooooollaallaaa
I don't think I would do it in a LTR but I haven't had that opportunity roll across the desk yet so who can say for certain? It depends on where you are in life when the opportunity arises.
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Posted: 2/2/2007 9:42:19 AM | | I kind of think of myself as a person that has been around the block a few times. I've had a few mfm times. Enough to know my way around. As for fmf, I lived with two women for two years in a one bed room apartment. Back to the question of {do women want to men}. Most if you get them to open up to you will tell you they atleast want to do it one time just to know what it's like. What goes wrong is that it like anyother encounter. You need to be with the right person, then make it persons. With most of the mfm it was with a married couple. They,or she wanted to know what it was like. Most of these people have known me for some time and know that I'm very sexual and that I would be ok with what they wanted to do and also had so expearence at this. To tell the truth. For me. fmf with toys is the best way to go. I can't say anyone has walked away without a smile on ther face. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 11:04:05 AM | Hey GOOD question string!!
It IS a fantasy of mine two guys and me (spit roast/DP/sword fight in my mouth etc) and one I’ve *almost* been a part of on more than one occasion (one of the other party chickened out/got p'd off that the third was there, go figure?!) but yeah in my fantasy it is about 'me'  though i was offered a chance to be a third with a same sex couple (one was gay, the other bi), it was (and is) wrong time/place for me now, certainly wouldn't have been a turn off, I've watched gay porn and well it wasn't a huge turn on, but it certainly wasn't a turn-off, but then i am a pretty open minded gal!
To those questioning my morals/skankiness based on my openness to sex. You're entitled to your opinion and I probably shouldn't BUT I will just say I have pretty high morals. I don't lie, I don't (never have/never will) cheat on a partner, I don't steal, I put people before myself more often than not, I don't write people off for their actions in the past, I believe strongly in the sanctity of marriage, I am comfortable in the knowledge that I’m a 'good' person, so what if when I’m single i like to mess about a bit, I am selective in who I mess about with  | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 6:26:14 PM | I'll start by saying I am not even remotely gay or bi. I am an adult and not a homophobe. I think if all parties involved have trust, communication and cleanliness then go for it.
I have been in multiple threesomes. I've never been the recipient (sigh) but have been invited into 4 or 5 couples. There was always the discussion of boundaries, preferences and fears if any. Ok so your balls touch. Oh well, crap happens. If you're into what you're doing then accidental touches won't bother you. I am confident in who I am and my sexuality.
That being said, I think the time for threesomes (unless she is bi) is in the beginning of a relationship/dating/just friends. Less betrayal, sneaking and hurt feelings.
I will also say that it is not a requirement for me in determining a possible mate for dating/relationship. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 8:38:42 PM | This is my only remaining fantacy.
I desperately want to have two guys do me.
Call me crazy though, but they'll have to be into eachother too, because bisexual men drive me wild!
I wouldn't have a threesome with two straight guys though. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 11:45:39 PM | | If it was just some random I met in a bar sure, but I would never date a woman who was willing to have a threesome with me and a friend. That would just be a huge turn off. But like I said, if it was no strings attatched then it would be great. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 11:48:42 PM | I just can't understand a person willing to share things with a f*ck buddy that they wouldn't share with a S/O... I mean... isn't that kinda the point of haveing an S/O?
I'm just the opposite. I wouldn't DREAM of having an S/O that I couldn't be as nasty and kinky as my perverted little heart wanted to be.
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Posted: 2/3/2007 1:42:24 AM | | Very good question, I am a third in a Polyamoruos relationship (Two guys one woman) and I have to tell you, the guys who say they could not participate with another guy present dont know what they are missing! The woman in my relationship has a very high sex drive and it is respected and truly a good thing for all of us involved. I say If you ever get a chance to try it with two guys that truly respect you you will not regret it. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 1:54:40 AM | This is on my fantasy list for sure. When I was younger, a guy I was sleeping with invited his mate to join in, and everything was fine until we were all in bed and then my guy got jealous and refused to share. Since then, the MFM has been a long held desire...
And to all the guys who go on about not being gay, do you think that 90% of the chicks in pubs and clubs, or even porno films, who have girl on girl action are genuine lesbians or bisexuals? It is all about finding sexuality in the person, regardless of their gender. I think many women are gorgeous, and would have no problem joining them in bed. I am not saying to go out and pash a man, just dont be so homophobic and/or afraid of male sexuality. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2007 5:18:41 AM | I've had experience with sharing both ways, in my time. Depends on the couple, and their relationship ethics. Some people are ALOT more open than others.
Even though we are no longer dating, THAT played no role in our breakup. I don't have a bottom line.
I enjoyed both of them equally as much. Well.....maybe one more than the other.. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 6:02:18 PM | kikilynn - wow, talk about specifics, first time I heard that one, only two bi guys, lol...C'est la Vie.
Got me to thinking, What if one guy was open minded but straight and the other guy was bi-sexual and the straight guy would not care if the bi-guy did him too...would that be close enough for you or a no go, enquiring minds and all that? | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 6:38:42 PM | HAHA.. Ok. I can see one guy looking at someone pounding his GF and her screamin' He'd be thinking, "Hey!! I don't make her feel *that good!!" The new kid on the block may end up with a pounding of his own.
For me it's a show stopper. I'm a greedy MF. I wont share with anyone. Male, Female, or Shemale. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 7:46:33 PM | Hey nostring, I would AND HAVE jump (ED) at it and have multiple times for my woman's pleasure. Since they have all been pleasurable I would NOT hesitate to JUMP AND do it again for my lover. For the record, I am straight and all the times we guys were focused on the lady.
Do women want 2 men? I would say more do then don't or H*ll yes!
would many men be willing? Most if they did not have to do anything to the guy.
Been there done that, more on this at the end....
You can't be jealous, sure you might feel it, but hey, that is going to happen anyway, when you love someone, you are going to feel insecure and jealous at some point in your relationship about something. It is not that you feel jealous or insecure that is the problem, nope that will happen. Rather its what you do when you feel it. How you handle it that makes or breaks the relationship. Does your partner reassure you, if you need it? Why not? They do love you right!
If you know you will be too jealous, then don't do it. Still respect those that don't want it, obviously you know yourself, nothing wrong with that! Keep up the good work, plenty of fish that feel as you do.
What I think is funnier is the women (and men) that want a fantasy, but rather then make it happen prefer to leave it a fantasy, more power to you... I respect you for knowing yourself. For me if it pleases my lady then I have and will be willing.
The double standards are too funny. Have had many threesomes (MMF) and a couple of menage et trois (FFM). All the experiences were great. So don't expect me to diss them, if approached in the right frame of mind its all good.
Safe sex is a MUST and easy, so leave the Ho stuff out of it, I don't sleep with Ho's ever.
As for what is normal in the wild, give me a friggin break. Had this girl that use to rave about how great Wolf's were, they mate for life, lmao! She was so naive. Sure some do, but they all don't! Just watch your National Geographic shows on the subject. It's why the male member swells up and the male is dragged around for hours or even days like a friggin love bug by the female. You see the female is an equal opportunity mate r (as our almost all dogs) and by the male penis swelling up and getting stuck in her, it maximizes the chances his and only his sperm will be passed on and prevent the female from mating with other males...given a chance she most definitely will! LMAO, needless to say by telling her that I was not her best friend, people don't take kindly to their proverbial bubbles being burst anymore then their religious rocks being shaken or stirred.
Loved your attitude and posts chocho, Christine124!
Simply*Enchanted - I can pound with the best of them and have, but prefer very sensual lovemaking. One of my last girlfriends was ONLY use to being pounded. At first she was frustrated that I would not 'POUND HER' all the time. But she had strong feelings for me, willing to be taught and was good at following instructions. I taught her to make love, in a very slow, deliberate, sensual way. She told me that I gave her better orgasms then anyone else ever had. Sure I still 'POUNDED' her when she wanted me to, for her pleasure, but by the end of our relationship, she preferred the deliberate slow lovemaking to being pounded. (The reason I broke it off is she wanted to swing and I did not. Nothing against her, I will always care for her, but I am just not interested in swinging, nothing against those that enjoy it, more power to them. Just not what I wanted. Also I prefer SAFE SEX, she wanted to start doing unsafe things while swinging, no protection - unsafe sex... no thank you.)
ulao - I am straight, would not want to do it, but I could watch two gay guys with my female lover if that is what she wanted to see. It would not be about me, but rather about her pleasure. If she wanted me to do another guy or another guy to do me, yea I would have trouble with that too, not sure I would, could do that...its my only double standard - two women - hot; two men - not hot for me personally. But I can still share my lover with another man, we focus on her! Unfortunately for guys who like porn, this is one of the arguments their women use to not watch with them. Sad IMO.
chickey-poo - congrats on being willing to go where many women are unwilling, for that you get second place, I would have given you the first place award, but in my heart of hearts I cannot agree with your attitude about porn. I am sure it is about 'demeaning' or 'dirty' for some, but not all of us. If you wanted to be degraded, I could do that for your pleasure, but that would not be a turn on for me. I do agree with your thoughts about no strings, few if any restrictions being very liberating, so maybe I will reconsider and give you that first place ribbon after all! Keep up the good work in fulfilling your lover's fantasies.
Clearwater Missy- yes that was fun. The first threesome I had was in college; the girl later became my regular lover and partner. I initiated the entire thing, the other guy was too shy and would have never gotten around to it. Fortunately for her and I, he was willing to go along. It was exciting being blown while another guy was making love to the woman blowing me. And then switching and making love to her while he was getting blown. Later after she became my girlfriend, she confided in me that she never thought she would do that, ever. But because it was such a positive experience she would not hesitate to do it again. She loved it. I loved it because it gave her pleasure. While she promised to give me my first menage et trois, alas, we never came across the right female to join us, but she was willing. I had to wait until after a 12 yr marriage ended and I started dating again to have my first menage et trois, even though by that time I had, had three threesomes - all positive. Funny, that was the only threesome I had with her, obviously I was not opposed to the idea, but 'the right' guy to join us either did not come along or we were not looking. Funny now that I think about it, I honestly had not thought of that until now.
Leeanne - good for you. Out of curiosity, where they only strangers or was one of them a partner and lover?
Simple qurrl - easy for you ladies to find two men...a little harder for a man to find two women, but certainly not impossible. If you want it, you will have it.
cheekychica - great attitude, I agree with you, its about pleasing my partner, more then just me, that is what gets me going!
eightpartsgood - IMO that is the only attitude to have. If you are not willing to give your partner their fantasy of another of the same sex for them, then why should your partner do that for you! I am straight, but still have enjoyed the pleasure another man and I gave my lover! Count me in multiple times and they have all been good!!!!! And no Dr. Drew I have never been molested or messed with in any way, I am just open-minded sexually! And like happyg1rl I too have very high morals!!!
sunnied247 - right on the money it was all about my female lover with every threesome, I am not bi or gay, just confident in my sexuality as is Artistic_Cowboy30.
lil_miz_fine_thang - It is, it was and it will be should it ever happen again, nothing but good memories and high recommendations from me. You are going to love it!
daviane - Why can' t you have it? Oh, okay I get it, you need permission. Hmm, let's see, okay, yes you have my permission. Okay how about now?
Ruby 2 Shoes - It never hurt at all. LOL...what did you think would hurt, whatever it is, don't do that and enjoy what will not hurt!
canibaljoe - good post, right on the money.
swanner - I agree with you.
Nogoodnames - that's part of knowing yourself. Congrats at least you know you can't go there with another guy, IMO then you should not expect a woman to give you a menage et trois (FFM) as that is only fair, of course this is just my opinion.
mmmnicky - I agree with you. I love sex, but sex with someone I have strong feelings for and honestly care about is the only way to go! All the women that are multi-orgasmic with me over the last few years have been in relationships and there was honestly love. (Before others get on me for having more then one relationship over the last few years, you should know this: I was married for over 12 years and faithful, so cut me some slack as I have been divorced for over 8 years and I was not going to jump right back in another marriage with just anyone. I want relationships and define that relationship with what we BOTH want!)
kmhstx - I understand and respect what you want. It's also why I would not date you, nothing personal, but that kind of too strong 'possessive' has always been accompanied with negatives in my experience. Every woman who has been abused by some guy was by a 'possessive' guy. No exceptions there. Be careful what you wish for!
janalta - good post, congrats for at least trying, even if you don't want a 3Pete .
indrinita - intelligent well-made posts, what do you think of my Artic Wolf story above? And Safe Sex always. Amazing what a rubber can protect you from if you are not 100% all parties are disease free and have only been with each other over the last few months minimum.
airedale53 loved your post, I agree that it is all about pleasing your lady!!! For me too. Of course finding a partner that appreciates you for that, well that is harder, but definitely not impossible, eventually, if you keep looking, you will find someone that appreciates you for you! This has been my experience, when one door closes, others (sometimes multiples) open. No pun intended, but still funny.
happyg1rl - you are very moral...couldn't agree more...being open about sex does not imply poor morality in my opinion. Wish everyone felt the same.
Artistic_Cowboy30 - "I am confident in who I am and my sexuality." - Great point you know yourself which you must to enjoy this sort of thing.
rederer1 - I have heard this so many times. Two strangers no problem, but not with a person I care about! To each their own. I want to experience things with my partner, thus we differ there, "how could I love her and not provide her fantasy?" I have no interest in just being with a large number of random strangers anymore...so guess we differ here. More then most feel as you do, but I still find it not normal to do with a stranger what you would not with your lover...just me, nothing personal.
perthminx - great attitude, love it, I am sure your fantasy will be yours one day and those lucky guys, excuse my wistful thinking! You go gurl! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 8:30:16 PM | See my answer above... I have and would do this again...
I was going to go read other posts when I read your post crashtestedok. LOL, If you could steal a woman away from me, then she was not my woman. Nothing personal but let me tell you a story. And trust me, you are not as big as this pilot was...only person I have ever seen bigger then him was a man on a nude beach in Ft Lauderdale (I was there with one of my female soulmates, note, not lover in the biblical sense, not that, that matters) and Long Dong, that old school porn star...this pilot had better girth then Long Dong, but was an inch or so shorter, but that’s all, he was huge. Here is the story:
crashtestedok - I understand you hesitation, it is hard to be confident enough in your sexuality to handle even seeing that. I have seen what you are describing first hand and man was it something. The pleasure on my lady's face was fantastic. This pilot had a****that was more then 2 times larger then mine.
(Girth of a coke can, length literally to his knee and he was over 6'9" with very long legs, da*n that thing was huge. To be honest I felt sorry for him as I know quite a few women that would prefer my average size to this guys lethal weapon in bed, a couple of women I have known over the years have told guys, h*ll no, you are not getting near me with that because the guy was too big, so count me thankful to be average! And imagine how much it would suck not to be fully enveloped, think about it and count your blessings!)
I told her if she did not want to go through with it I would certainly understand. It was huge.
Well she wanted to give it a try. She could not get all of him except about 4 - 6 inches in initially (granted she had had two children in her past and no they did not live with us, you don't mess with kids in my book, not even let them around stuff like this, but that is another topic all together - we were three consenting adults in a hotel room) but she slowly worked it and eventually got it all the way in. The look of pleasure on her face was fantastic. I loved it! Never made me think different of her, but that is me. I think they broke the mold when they made me, lol, because if you knew of my story book upbringing and extremely good parents who are still together (married since 17 - 18 as people did in their generation) and still happy, in church every Sunday and more you would be like what?.... again another story.
Well to make this long story shorter, get this. My lover had always been multi-orgasmic with me, pretty much from day one. I had shared her with two other men before this guy, for her pleasure, (yes she was willing to share me with another woman, but it had not happened by this point in our relationship).
That night I took her home, we took a shower (I always do before bed, so it had nothing to do with looking at her as 'dirty' or anything lame like that, just typical for us) and we went to bed and made love.
She was just as 'tight' for me (yes I worried a little about this, just because I am open minded, does not mean I too don't experience momentarily feelings of insecurity). Well I should not have been worried, she felt just as good as she always did.
Only one difference, this wonderful woman who I was still madly in love with was suddenly not multi-orgasmic anymore, after over a year with no problems in that department, the sudden departure of her multi-orgasmic nature did not go by me un-noticed ...to my credit I did not mention a thing at that time.
I figured it was just a temporary thing and figured that time would take care of itself. Honestly if you worry about something that creates more problems then it solves, something I intrinsically have always understood.
Anyway, another day goes by, good sex, but no multi-orgasms.
I wait one more day, lol, finally after the third day of no multi-orgasms, I confront her and ask what is wrong?
She gets real quiet and says what do you mean? (probably not wanting to volunteer anything, figuring as with most men I would not have notice the change in her, lol, unfortunately for her, while I am far from perfect...I noticed, lol)
So I called her on it, but in a nice way. I simply in a normal, quiet voice, while holding onto her in bed, after we just finished making love, asked her.
"You have always been multi-orgasmic, now you are not, in fact you have not been since the pilot and I would like to understand why?"
She got real quiet. I just shut up and waited to see what she would say (something for me as I talk allot as you no doubt can tell by my long posts, lol).
After an extended period of time of quiet, she finally said, "Well I don't see how you could love me anymore?"
Me in disbelief, "What do you mean, of course I still love you."
Her quiet, sheepishly, "You do?"
I now in normal voice, but still quiet as we are in bed inches from each other, "Yes, of course, why wouldn't I?"
Her in still a quiet voice, but a little louder, "Well you saw how he (pilot) made me feel, you saw how good it felt to have his co*k inside of me and you are not as big as he is, well you are not that big, I mean how can you still want me, love me, when you can't make me feel like that?"
Laughing softly, more of a chuckle, I reminded her, "Has it ever been a problem before now, my size that is?"
Which of course she replied, "No"
I said, "Then why should it be now. Besides, there are toys, strap-ons plenty of ways to make you feel 'filled up' if that is what you would like, right?"
She said, "well I suppose", but not entirely convinced from my perspective.
I continued, "And it has not been a problem so far, right, I mean you are multi-orgasmic with me, at least until the last couple of days, right?"
She said, "Yes".
I said, "Then I don't see what the problem is."
She asked, "You still love me?" to which I replied "of course."
She said, "You do?"
And firmer, looking into her eyes, "Yes of course I do, I love you?"
From this point on started a very passionate kissing, hugging and rolling around on the bed, lovemaking session. And guess what, that's right, you guessed it, when we made love she was magically multi-orgasmic again immediately.
What a surprise! (actually it was for me, lol, but I did not tell her that) I mean how could I possibly know one way or the other as I had never encountered this issue before.
She just needed to be reassured, while nothing had changed for me, she, mentally, had begun shutting down, not because of anything I did, but because of buls**t societal and miss-construed thinking. IMO opinion because of her religious upbringing and family, but that is just my opinion. (Nothing against religion, society, family, etc... but you need to use the brain that you have and think some things out, you know.)
My point, it was all in her head. Once she was reassured and realized that I still wanted her, she was just fine.
I wonder how many other relationships end primarily due to some silly misconception one party or the other has in the relationship, that they do to themselves because of government, society, family and/or religious backgrounds. Sad when you think about it.
Or worse yet, how many relationships never start because someone has the wrong initial thought. Say they see something in your profile and assume! That too is another topic.
So for the record, unless the woman is a size queen (those poor misguided souls are out there - it’s only in their heads but you will never convince them of that) no man, regardless of size or difference has any leverage over any other man.
So please put your insecurities aside, put them down, let them go and when insecurities and jealousies arise as they always do, please, please don't let your own misconception ruin a great relationship with a wonderful person right in front of you, that really is sad!
And don't get mad at your lover when they have them, we are only human after all. Rather we should all expect such things and compassionately deal with them when they arise as they always do eventually.
I know this post is long, but if it helps even one person it will have been worth my time to post it. Everything I write here is the truth, granted the exact wording might very a tiny bit as I don't have a photographic memory, but the intent and feelings were real are being honestly conveyed! Enjoy!
And for all you fishes, start looking for ways to connect, rather then ways to separate and you will find your soul mate in short order. | |
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