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 Rottiemom
Joined: 10/20/2006
Msg: 26
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ummmm, could you clarify that last response for me???
 fun_sassy
Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 27
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 11/30/2006 5:52:36 PM
Yeah NBBruin...are you saying that if we get played that we're players too?

AND if that's the case you are so dead wrong!!!
 KBS_SLAVE
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 28
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 11/30/2006 6:00:01 PM
There are so many way that guys play girls,Now days its hard to tell,however as mentioned in the earlier post I would have to agree with the going with your gut feeling,guys will come arround and tell you they are there for you anytime,and they usually will be,talk nice and keep sweet all the time,others will push for sex all the time.or make you feel so special that they will make you float on cloud nine,I have been throught this topic with my sister so many times,some guys come out with the best lines and excuses,I was busy last night,"My job is very imprtant to me" "I need to keep it".I have to see my family alot and wont have time o see you.
if it sounds to good to be true then it is,if the guy is arround when you need him and wants nothign more then listening and sharing a few laughts,maybe.

But as a man I like t be freinds with girls,for many reasons I get along with them better and they are fun to be arround its not the same topic all the time,sex,parties,drunk...etc etc..who cares.I prefer laughing and talkign about realistic things.Now I have been told that why is such a caring a sweet guy like you still single.
Well this is my life I am dealing with and I wont settle for nothign less then perfection to my eyes,I will not jump for the first girl who comes my way.and maybe regret it in a year or so.

anyway I am getitng off topic,just listen to what he says,and what the excuses are,if they are diffrent and constent,then he is only there when he needs you,not the other way arround.
A true man will be there no matter what,and will respect you and talk with you on anythign and have a good time,his job is to provide and protect,be a freind and perhaps a lover,sounds liek alot of bs to some I am sure but its how I was raised and I am damn proud of who I am.
 BlondBlueEyez
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 29
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:42:21 AM
happylovely----------
1. if something just doesn't feel right in ur gut about some guy....
2. you have to overanalyze everything they did and said.....
3. you're feeling frustrated and worried ALL the time.......
4. the pain outweighs the pleasure of the relationship.......
5. he's receiving texts from other women......
6. says he lost his cell phone or he never answers it when you call.......
7. when u have to make up excuses for his behaviour to ur friends.......
8. you never hear from him on the wknds, only during the week....
9. he doesn't take you out in public as much anymore....
10. his stories don't match up....
11. you goggle his name and find out some interesting info/pictures that he never shared with you....
12. when he stands you up 4 times in a 2 mth peroid...
13. if he says he has to work late but when you stop by to bring him something to eat, he's not there....
14. when he takes a shower AS soon as he walks in the door without kissing you HI first...
15. he doesn't try to have sex with you when he was always wanting it before.....
16. he disappears for a few days with no explanation...
17. doesn't call when he says he will...

i could go on and on and on and on as we both know at our ages, there are tons of different signs that ure being played.....the stories and tales that women could tell....

but most importantly look at how the man is making you feel, how the relationship is making you feel.....we want that "warm fuzzy" feeling.....hold out for that for a lifetime, not just for a few months.....
 HappyLovely
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 30
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:57:05 AM
BBE!! so right on and alots of them are really really familiar....and you know about it....you cracked me up lauging at your number 11 one:11. you goggle his name and find out some interesting info/pictures that he never shared with you... src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_204.gif border=0> <img
 HappyLovely
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 31
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:00:31 AM
BBE!! so right on and alots of them are really really familiar....and you know about it....you cracked me up lauging at your number 11 one:11. you goggle his name and find out some interesting info/pictures that he never shared with you...

Yeah and sometimes, they can be very surprising too!!!
 HappyLovely
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 32
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:01:58 AM
Computer problems, sorry for the double
 nbbruin76
Joined: 3/27/2006
Msg: 33
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:32:30 AM
ummmm, could you clarify that last response for me???


Doesn't need clarifaction, the poster below you, got part of it.
And yes that is what I meant. If someone thinks they're being "played", then they subscribe to the theory themselves. I would also suggest that if someone is unhappy that they're being unfairly treated and constantly complain about it, yet stay with that person or attract similar types, that they likely desire it, as the only constant is themselves.

Its funny, because I posted this comment early yesterday morning, and another woman posted pretty much the same thing about "profiles mentioning games = red flags go up" and lots of agreement/replies.

My premise is this....if you think you're being played, then by your logic, there is a player/playee and a game is going on.
My take... It takes two for a game to be played...thus both must subscribe to the notion....thus both people are the player/playee.

As soon as I see "games" in a profile, I lose any interest I may have had.
I've let go an ex because of it too. Sorry, not subscribing to it.
 nbbruin76
Joined: 3/27/2006
Msg: 34
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:53:11 AM

Yeah NBBruin...are you saying that if we get played that we're players too?

AND if that's the case you are so dead wrong!!!


I don't think I am, but if I was, I'd appologize.
In this case, I'm sticking to my guns.
 Mr. Mxyzptlk
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 35
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:06:03 AM

are you saying that if we get played that we're players too?

AND if that's the case you are so dead wrong


"Dead wrong" may actually be an understatement. If anybody who gets played is a player, shoudl we assume that anybody who gets conned is a con? That anybody who gets ripped off is a thief? That anybody who gets insulted is rude?

Fun sassy, Rottiemom, I'm sure you're right to take offense at this. Our world has both predators and victims, and blaming the victims is a heartless cop-out. It's hard to imagine anybody taking this line, unless they're making excuses for their own playing.
 Rottiemom
Joined: 10/20/2006
Msg: 36
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:49:03 AM
Oh, I didn't/wasn't taking offence. I just wanted to know "exactly" what was being implied. Wanted to make sure that I was reading it correctly. I think that if you are willing to turn a blind eye to things that go on or don't go on between you and your man....well....you really would have no one to blame but yourself...and feeling sorry for yourself dosen't change or help the situation. It comes back to the old theory of either shit or get off the pot
 nbbruin76
Joined: 3/27/2006
Msg: 37
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 11:04:01 AM

If anybody who gets played is a player, shoudl we assume that anybody who gets conned is a con? That anybody who gets ripped off is a thief? That anybody who gets insulted is rude?


No, we can't assume that, because those examples are not good ones.
Do people who get conned/ripped off/insulted tend to stick around with the perp? No they don't. They tend to learn, move on etc and prevent it from happening again.
If they stuck around with the perp or consistently found people who conned/ripped them off/insulted them, would you begin to question their choices?
Like I said, people who think games are happening, tend to go looking for them, even when they're not even happening.
 SIZZLE63
Joined: 2/14/2005
Msg: 38
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:26:50 PM
.. a ring, ring mark, or tan line of a ring on the ring finger.....Here's your sign
 fun_sassy
Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 39
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:32:47 PM
Well I did take offense to it because I have been played and I believe it's because I'm too f***ing nice (and maybe naive) and the guys I've been with used it to their advantage.

I would never use anyone for some sort of silly gratification, whether it be sexual or monetary...so yes to say that all people getting played are players is wrong and hurtful.
 nbbruin76
Joined: 3/27/2006
Msg: 40
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 4:14:03 PM
Sorry, but I disagree.
If people are that are "played" upon, truly desire not being "played" upon, then why the need to continue advertising the past as a component of their future? MOVE ON!!!
As far as I'm concerned, its DOES nothing but advertise, which subsequently invites more of it.
Player/Playee....its all the same.
I just don't subscribe to it.
 Rottiemom
Joined: 10/20/2006
Msg: 41
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 4:54:35 PM
sorry, I have to agree with nbbruin. If you don't want negativity in your life...don't "post" it. By that, I mean..no need to air your past "problems" move on...get over it...or choose to dwell in the past and accept what you get....
 BlondBlueEyez
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 42
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:02:58 PM
what i can gather ffrom what nbbruin is trying to say is that it takes two to play along...if ure in a relationship and YOU know something isn't right and the person is being a jerk, ignoring you, canceling dates, texting others, etc..... and you still stay with the person b/c u love them, even though all the red flags are there, ...then yes you do know what is going on but are choosing to ignore or avoid things for "fear" maybe.....so the game continues until one decides to end it.....

am i right Nbbruin?.....
 Bubbly and Fun
Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 43
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:23:10 PM
lets get a new perspective.......you know you are being played if they have named a violin after you......

or your boyfriend has a nickname like gameboy or sega or xbox....you know there might be something up with that............

Sorry couldn't resist!!!!!!
 Mr. Mxyzptlk
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 44
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:51:46 PM
His "PLAYA" license plate might also be a hint....
 fun_sassy
Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 45
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/2/2006 10:22:33 AM
Girlnextdoorwithsizzle...are we playing the "here's your sign" game! lol I love Ron Englin!! lol

NBBruin...maybe I misread what you were trying to say and I apologize for jumping the gun and now that I've had time to think about it...You're right. If we know he/she's playing us and we continue to 'play' along it's our own damn fault. I'd like to think I've learned my lessons and know the signs to watch for now!
 SIZZLE63
Joined: 2/14/2005
Msg: 46
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:09:19 PM
Yes Sassy I luv the heres your sign game.....



You consistantly allow him to spend the night .....but wake up to find him gone........

Seems that every friend and relative of his is very close to him and female......here's your sign!!
 nbbruin76
Joined: 3/27/2006
Msg: 47
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:50:46 PM
BBE, yes you got it.
Sassy, there is no need for apologies, nor was I expecting one, afterall this only a forum on the internetswebstubes.
 Bubbly and Fun
Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 48
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/2/2006 7:35:22 PM
... he has a score board on his bedroom door with the caption "he shoots...he scores."..........

Yup.. good indication...
 fun_sassy
Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 49
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/3/2006 8:25:40 AM
He only has time for you when it's convenient for him and will stand you up, not once, not twice, but three or more times.....here's your sign!!!

When he does have time for you, all he wants is a quickie and no quality time talking or going out on a date......here's your sign!!!

AND THE BIG ONE: He "lost" his only tool for communication with you (his cell).....here's your sign!!!
 izzcam
Joined: 10/23/2005
Msg: 50
Indicator signs that you are being played....
Posted: 12/3/2006 5:32:20 PM
When you go on a date and you see your date handing out her "cards" .....its a sign

When you graduate to knowing her "home" number....and it starts with 1-800.... Oh yeah Peewees....that's a sign

When you sneek a peek in her medicine cabinet and there are more than six toothbrushes.....it's a sign
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