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 bostonsportsgal789

Joined: 12/4/2007
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Posted: 2/18/2008 10:46:34 AM
So CG, when you were approached by a male, how did you handle it? Did you partake at all.. in that little bit of "checking things out" that you referred to? Were you the least bit tempted when you were approached by a woman?

You are every attractive. You can't possibly tell me that at a party like that, you were totally ignored.


Since you asked, I will answer the question. Several men did approach me. I kissed them and grabbed their c0cks, but I was initially nervous about having sex with them. I also wasn't attracted to most of men there either. However I did have sex with one man towards the end of the night. I had been drinking and began to feel comfortable. A few women approached me as well. They kissed me and grabbed my t-ts, but nothing else happened.
 Moonchild48

Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 2/18/2008 11:22:45 AM
CG is correct in her post regarding what she found.
Most gals are bi and looking to add another female into her married mix.
The hubby is more than happy to participate. Nothing better than 2 women at once, or so most men proclaim!
 Microchip

Joined: 11/4/2007
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Posted: 2/22/2008 9:39:44 PM


Most gals are bi and looking to add another female into her married mix.

Where do you get that stat?
 Microchip

Joined: 11/4/2007
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Posted: 2/22/2008 9:44:07 PM


I kissed them and grabbed their c0cks, but I was initially nervous about having sex with them.

That you for being so straightforward about this. But I'm trying to make a point here.
Why did you grab their**** if you were not interested in having sex with them? Was it because you felt it was the "thing to do" there? Or did you get SOME pleasure out of checking out a strange man's package, and then being able to move on with no strings attached?
 poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2008 7:58:26 PM

Personally, I don't care if others want to lust or swing, whatever. I just don't think they need to push their values, or lack of them on others. To each his own. And yes, it sounds like Jerry Springer to me, but hey, maybe that is real life, just not the life I want.


It almost looks as if you are the one forcing values on others. Almost...

Thank goodness for messages 13 and 14 to restore my faith in humanity.
 Microchip

Joined: 11/4/2007
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Posted: 3/1/2008 10:41:49 PM
Does a person have to be middle-aged to be a swinger?
 Uncle_Enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006
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Posted: 3/2/2008 12:22:44 AM
All the swingers I've ever known have been repellent and creepy...sort of like Federico Fellini's film characters.

The leering, the bad taste in clothes, the heavy BLING , the dumb conversation makes you want to steer clear of swingers and remain monogamous.
 AgelessWonder

Joined: 4/12/2006
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Posted: 3/2/2008 5:47:03 PM

Personally, I don't care if others want to lust or swing, whatever. I just don't think they need to push their values, or lack of them on others. To each his own. And yes, it sounds like Jerry Springer to me, but hey, maybe that is real life, just not the life I want.





It almost looks as if you are the one forcing values on others. Almost...

I don't force my values on anyone, and can't see how it could be even "almost"!!

Of 204 posts, I wonder why you choose to respond to this one.
 Shadrackc

Joined: 7/18/2007
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Posted: 3/3/2008 11:18:56 AM
After a brief read through this forum, it does seem to me that there is a lot of typcasting being done on here.
First off, no, I don't swing. My reasons tend to be more along the lines of believing in one person while I am in a relationship.
Now outside of a relationship I will admit to having thoughts about 2 ladies to satisfy! But not all swingers are "creepy" as some have attested to. Not all of them wear a bunch of "bling" and dress bad. Come on people, that is really sad that there are those out there who believe that. Funny thing is, those same people seem to be the ones having difficulty meeting someone.
My thoughts have always been that what two consenting adults agree on is fine.
I'd be interested in what you all think about "friends with benifits".
 Chocolatebrowne

Joined: 1/19/2006
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Posted: 3/3/2008 4:56:36 PM
I agree with you, Ageless Wonder. It's not for me....to each their own.
 novascotialass

Joined: 2/4/2007
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Posted: 3/4/2008 4:44:42 PM

I'd be interested in what you all think about "friends with benifits".


I have to be in love with someone to enjoy their "benefits". That's not a morale statement, though; it's just the way that I'm made. I understand that everyone is made differently.
 blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 5/31/2007
Msg: 209
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Posted: 3/4/2008 7:00:28 PM
Whenever I feel that tingle....and want to do the Wild Thing......it had better be with someone that makes my heart tingle also... Blue
 bostonsportsgal789

Joined: 12/4/2007
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Posted: 3/5/2008 1:38:54 PM
Why did you grab their**** if you were not interested in having sex with them? Was it because you felt it was the "thing to do" there? Or did you get SOME pleasure out of checking out a strange man's package, and then being able to move on with no strings attached?


Both of the reasons you mentioned are factors. But I was also initially nervous at because it was my first swinger's party. I wanted to gradually become more comfortable before having sex. Having sex is more intimitate than kissing and feeling a man's c0ck.
 LadyDancingAlone

Joined: 7/7/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2008 5:35:44 PM

Both of the reasons you mentioned are factors. But I was also initially nervous at because it was my first swinger's party. I wanted to gradually become more comfortable before having sex. Having sex is more intimitate than kissing and feeling a man's c0ck.


Hmm, I don't even like to shake hands with people when being introduced, I can't imagine grabbing their privates! LOL
 Chocolatebrowne

Joined: 1/19/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2008 7:26:40 AM
I can't imagine having sex with someone I don't know from a can of house paint.....
 Chelseab

Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 213
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Posted: 3/7/2008 8:49:24 PM
Boy, do I agree with u!! I decided on a different career, trucking . I have never met
such a bunch of people. Now, I mean both women and men in this. I have always
lived with old fashioned values, one guy/one gal and boy did I get my eyes opened
up. I have never, ever,ever, been propositioned as much. Quickies,swinging, you
name it. Each to their own, but I have now left that career for dispatching as I am
sick and tired of getting propositioned like a prostitute. I have also met some
really 'family' oriented men and women to their credit. I guess I have lived a very
sheltered life and expected to meet someone eligible and one who would take it
slow and easy, not so. Its open up the door lady, Im gonna park my 'big rig' in ya!!
When you dont, its what the hell is the matter with you!?
 opnmydm

Joined: 3/23/2008
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Posted: 4/5/2008 1:22:38 AM
if it feels good...............go for it.:)
 Microchip

Joined: 11/4/2007
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Posted: 4/6/2008 10:43:08 PM


I guess I expected to meet someone eligible and one who would take it slow and easy, not so

Chelsea, they're out there. They're not easy to find, and some women wouldn't know a respectful gentleman if he bit her on her ear. It's called respect, plain and simple. If they're not going to respect you, then they're not worth your time. All I can say is "be patient".
 Enigma252

Joined: 3/1/2008
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Posted: 4/12/2008 11:09:17 AM
For the record . . . I know of two men that have AIDS. One of them looks 10 years younger than he is and totally healthy. Condoms do break and can leak sometimes. As AIDS patients they are told that even if they have sex with another sick lover the strain of the virus that they have may not be the same as their partners. Otherwise, they can pass an additional complications with a new strain of the virus to the lover.

I can understand the curiousity factor with "swinging". Personally, I think anyone engaging in such activity in this day is nuts.

The Big E
 oklacountrygirl

Joined: 9/21/2007
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Posted: 4/13/2008 5:51:36 PM
Wow! I couldn't have said it better myself! I liked your reply, then I saw your name! ROTFLMAO! Same as mine!


I don't like to judge anybody for their opinions or lifestyles, preferences, etc. I have seen things from a lot of different perspectives and you would be surprised how many swingers are living next door, working with you, etc. The stereo types are really kinda funny, 'cause most of those that posted against them wouldn't know them if they walked right up and said hello!

Another thought (and I saw a show on PBS today that confirmed this): How many animals in nature actually mate for life? If we are truly honest we must admit that the majority of us have urges or fantasies, most just don't ever let them leave their brain. Society and Religion are the reasons people "marry until death do us part". Yes, I would love to have a long term relationship if and when that person comes along, but it also has to be open and honest and they are out there. I have experienced an open, honest relationship with love.

Okay, just my 2 cents!
 Chocolatebrowne

Joined: 1/19/2006
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Posted: 4/15/2008 8:07:23 AM
I have no idea "how many animals in nature mate for life..." How many "animals in nature" have HIV/AIDS????????
 m_church

Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 4/15/2008 9:48:16 AM

How many animals in nature actually mate for life?

How many animals are as intelligent as people?
How many animals have been to the moon?
How many animals can read and or write?
How many animals have languages?
How many animals build complex tools?
How many animals eat their own droppings?
How many animals lick their own genitalia?
Rats have been known to gang-rape female rats.
Comparing oneself to animals is a bit silly. Swans mate for life, they can also fly.
Some birds can fly, but don't mate for life.
Some animlas have lifespans measured in days, some in decades.
Some animals kill their mtes after sex, until the advent of AIDS, this was not usual for people.

Please let's not compare people and animals. They're not the same thing no matter how many times people use this argument to justify swinging.
 SandyB1957

Joined: 7/22/2007
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Posted: 4/18/2008 7:33:14 AM
I say to each there own. W are not put on this earth to judge anyone. Life is to short to not be happy and to do what ever it is that makes you happy long as you are not hurting anyone in the process. No one peeks in my bedroom windows and I for sure do not peek in theres. So enjoy your life and do wqhat makes ya smile
 mvball3

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Posted: 4/23/2008 4:02:58 AM
I think it is simply said "each to their own". I have known people who are swingers, they are attractive, well to do, enjoy varied and sunstantial interests, well educated good parents, church going, and love one another to death. This counters many of the comments made on this thread.
Looking at this from my perseptive though, sex is something I enjoy more with someone I have a connection with emotionally as well as physically. That is when it is the best.
 littlered508

Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 222
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Posted: 7/6/2008 5:26:01 AM
I HAD ONE GUY I MET ON HERE ASK ME ON THE FIRST DATE IF I HAD EVER WANTED TO GO TO A SWINGERS CLUB. I TALKED TO HIS SON ON LINE , HE TOLD ME HIS FATHER HAD WOMEN IN EVERY TOWN HIS JOB SENT HIM TOO. AND THAT HE HAD CHEATED ON HIS WIFE AND THAT WAS THE REASON HE WAS DIVCORED .AND THAT HE ONLY DATED A WOMAN TO GET HER IN BED . MEN ARE PIGS .I'VE HAD ONE ASK IF I LIKED SEX IN THE FIRST CHAT. THATS A BIG RED FLAG TO ME .
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