| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:39:26 PM | | ^^^^ Possibly, but if people are happy with themselves, why would they need approval from anyone but who they are with? It baffles me. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:52:00 PM | | It sure is baffling why people get upset if someone else says that they wouldn't be interested in the swingers life themselves. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:05:41 PM | Gals? From what I have gathered....true swingers, happy with themselves and their partners, never push their beliefs on others. The same as those in religion. Others are simply accepted for what they believe in and how they wish to conduct themselves.
Some folks have expressed some anger here that I thought was a tad harsh to those who said they would not wish this lifestyle....Would appear to me that understanding goes both ways....those who do and those who don't. That is what makes our world as diversified as it is. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:11:26 PM | | It would seem that there's a double standard in swinging too, I have found. I was once approached by a man I was dating as to whether I would like to have a threesome or a foursome. My response was "Sure thing, there, darlin'. So, which of YOUR buddies is joining us? That really good looking one, I hope, and if you want a foursome you'd better bring two of them." The answer from him was dead silence. Then, I hear "errrrrrr, I meant me and you and another woman", to which I replied "sorry, if you don't do men, then I don't do women". That was the LAST time something like that was ever mentioned. Well, fair is fair, you know. Don't I get to pick too? | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:14:43 PM | ^^Sweetie? I so love you! You make me laugh and laughter is great medicine. I have no idea where you get your ideas or sayings from hun, but please keep them up! And for the record? I only love you for your humour not anything with respect to swingin darlin! Just in case anyone got confused by my post! | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:19:48 PM |
What age do we have to be to be able to just experience and enjoy our sexual selves without someone always judging us..............WHEN WHEN.............. I was a good girl all my life......... I am single now and un-attached. Why am I not allowed to have fun.... !
Isn't that why you are browsing this thread ?
The trick is to find like-minded people and be honest.
I had neighbors who belonged to a swingers group, and they were happy with the arrangements. I didn't see their family having any better or worse family life than anyone else. What people do, is their own business, as long as they are not hurting others.
I also had a girlfriend who belonged, through her parents, to a nudist group. She was nice, and so was her family.
Some people judge harshly, and I wonder where that comes from !
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:20:20 PM | Now see Sister Mary, that is exactly my idea of swinging :-) Big and Buff, that's what i say  | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:43:38 PM | | nudists are not swingers or vice versa, altho you do need to be at least semi-nude to swing | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 3:22:55 PM | "I had neighbors who belonged to a swingers group, and they were happy with the arrangements"
When I see a statement like that, I think to myself "And just how long is that happy arrangement going to last?"
I would have more faith that the swingers lifestyle is going to work, if I heard it from people who had been with their partner for most of their life, and they were very old when they said it. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 4:49:37 PM | Another Honest guy: I have never actually belonged to an official swingers club...or whatever you call it. But...in past lives, I have certainly tried open relationships. Very exciting...and intense. I would not however, begin to suggest that this is anything good for a serious satisfying relationship...especially if there are children involved!
Would I be interested in something like that now. Mostly not.... but like the OP... I am a little put out by the seemingly over-righteousness of the mature set. Who do we think we are, anyway? ha. Like most of you... I really want a partner. But, the self imposed almost ridiculous boxes I see us putting ourselves into on these personals sure gets tiring and questionable....(also), doesn't it. "I am now a Saint.... I will only settle for another Saint" I get the picture.... and I am as guilty as anybody else. But, I aggree very much with the OP.... do we really understand just what we are doing? Hmmmmmm? | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:29:38 PM | I think I would have more faith believing in a one on one monogamous lifestyle workin if I heard it from people who were very old too. I don't think you'll find more than 2% of the total population of our generation who would be able to make such a statement about monogamy either.
Sociologist say humans were never truly meant to be in life long committed relationships, and that as our populations are living longer these days than ever before, that idea seems even more apparent than ever before.
Things that make ya go Hmmmm | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:36:55 PM | Some sociologist say some things, some say other things.
If my late husband had lived, I have no doubt that we would have had a committed faithful relationship for many years to come.
Judging the whole population by what we see in datingland, I can understand why people would have a problem believing that people actually have committed relationship.
Some of us have been lucky, but still had a lot to do with that luck. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:48:41 PM | It's just a different generation and I'm not knocking swinging at all.. Whether or not I think it's right or the thing to do, should have no effect on someone who wants to. I don't tell anyone what to do, nor do I need to understand it.
If you want to see people who have been married 40, 50, or 60 years, go to an old folks home. They are there and they are happy. Maybe they were swingers | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:31:15 PM | Have we become a society of supply and demand?
Dilute something precious and it becomes valueless
If you want sex without love, intimacy and commitment, if you want an extra curricular F**K, threesomes, foursomes, bi, same-sex, S &M...orgies etc. Do me a favour will you? Put it in your profile. Double dare ya'.
Signed:One of the " Vanilla People" and proud of it.
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:51:16 PM | I have some questions for the "swingers".
Would you have a problem with telling your children what you are doing?
What do you think their reaction would be if they found out?
If you don't think there's anything "wrong" with it, why is it such a deep dark secret? One would think you would have the courage of your convictions, | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:07:25 PM | Well said Sistermary!
If I were involved in that lifestyle, I'd be worried about what my kids think.
Again, OUTSTANDING! | |
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| well....another question
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:59:35 PM | I have some questions for the "swingers".
Would you have a problem with telling your children what you are doing?
What do you think their reaction would be if they found out?
If you don't think there's anything "wrong" with it, why is it such a deep dark secret? One would think you would have the courage of your convictions,
Why is it any of your children's business (no matter what their age) what your sex life is? I'm 45, and I never question my parents about theirs.... | |
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| well....another question
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:12:54 PM | "Why is it any of your children's business (no matter what their age) what your sex life is? I'm 45, and I never question my parents about theirs.... "
That isn't the point. Point is no one should be doing anything they are ashamed of. Guilt being the main reason. If you aren't proud of what you don't, why keep doing it?
Another question - how did the topic get changed............... | |
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| well....another question
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:18:20 PM | ^^^^ I would hope at 45 you wouldn't questions your parents sex life.
I would be more concerned with people with young impressonable children than an adult child. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:28:03 PM | A lady who lives in a nice, normal subdivision near me, told me that her family including her children often see swing neighbours who live across the road having sex up against their outside garage wall. Personally, I think that is far too much to expect your neighbours and their children to have to see you having sex just so that they can get to their car, and leave their property.
I once found a condom between my fenced area and a treed area on my front lawn. But hey, I must not judge these people as my peer group thinks I have no right to point out that these behaviors are unacceptable. | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:32:01 PM | | ^^^ isn't that against the law? Indecent exposure if they are outside the house? | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/1/2006 9:36:27 PM | | ^^^ One would think that it is. They would probably plead insanity and get away with it in our permisive society. After all, we can't pick on minority groups | |
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| middle aged swingers ;0p
Posted: 12/2/2006 2:40:54 AM | I think parents & children really don't need to know what goes on in my private life. I am sure most people who know me know I have been sexually active over the years. I keep my business mainly to myself & have sex far less often than some people would believe. When one is a custodial parent, one cannot just throw caution to the wind.      oh, look, they have XMAS thingies here now! cute! | |
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