| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 4:23:33 AM | Well, I think the best thing for you is to ask your b/f to let you play with it more. lol..
seriously.
After sex... when he's all relaxed..just have him lay there, and run your hands over it.. get used to the feel of it..
start by getting used to the way it looks and feels.. and get more comfortable with it.
if you want to try using whip cream, hey.. there's actually a chocolate whip cream that comes in a can... what girl doesn't love chocolate???? Just spray a bit of that on, and lick it off... go slowly until you enjoy it..
If you aren't a chocolate fan.. you can try caramel.. it's nice an gooey.. takes alot of licking to get it all off.. or there's strawberry syrup... whatever your favorite flavor is.. you can use it.
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 5:39:18 AM |
eat more bananas
it's better than using a dildo, it's cheaper
Banana's downunder are $13.99AU per kilo. Mr Purple cost me $30AU, and he never goes soggy.
OP: Better value for money with a dildo to practice with.
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 5:51:51 AM | | my advice is just relax and do what you like to do ,their are no rules ,and if your boyfriend is happy why put pressure on yourself ,the more you have sex and enjoy it the more relaxed and hopefully experimental youll become ,theres lots of other things that turn a man on ,try giving him a massage ,with oils !stroking him and loving the rest of his body will be a sure way to gain more confidence and youll have that heady feeling of doing something that brings him pleasure , | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 6:30:16 AM | StonedAlien and mr. ultimo expressed themselves well and I agree with them. Go back and read both of their posts very carefully.
As a woman, if I met a man who had a phobia about going down on me...there would be no relationship. I believe that StonedAlien speaks for a great majority of the population when he said that this would be a deal breaker for him.
1. As stated by another poster...you've got to learn to enjoy doing this or it won't mean a darn thing.
2. Once you've had a little experience and practice, you will probably begin to like it.
3. If you've got issues of hygiene - ensure that a bath or shower is taken before hand.
4. Alcohol might help, but it sure isn't going to 'make' you like it.
5. Watch some porn. Nothing like seeing the pros do it to encourage you to give it a try.
Bottom line. If you learn to enjoy it, YOUR sex life will improve 100%. Giving head is a powerful feeling. YOU and YOU alone are responsible for making his world rock! | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 6:52:21 AM | I think every female is scared at first. It is definately because of inexperience....I suggest just getting someone you are comfy with and tell him that you having done this much..Trust me I think any guy would be willing to let you practice lol.....You will get better and it will be easier...I used to not like to do it but now I do cause I KNOW Im DAMNED good lol You will get that way too..Practice makes perfect :) As far as a guy leaving you for not giving him head...F**k him lol...Not literally....It is something you give because YOU want to not something that is OWED to them...You will get better in time...Sounds kinky but you could always practice on a banana, vibe (turned OFF of course lol) or something of that sort...You can do it!!! | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:33:12 PM | Thanks guys, for being so sympathetic towards this 'dilemma'. And thanks for all the helpful suggestions. I'll try a few and we'll see what works.  | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 11/30/2006 9:39:03 PM | Dont stress chick, do it at your own pace.
this sounds dumb, but pratice, fruits and veggies make great substitutes
relax,take a load off and try deepthroating a big carrot..lol | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:06:11 AM | | simple just lay on your back and ask him to do it himself !when he is ready take it in your mouth and take it all in one big gulp that will cure your phobia. | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:09:41 AM | very interesting  don't sweat it you are a young woman and you will cum to realize a few things further down the road  which you will find very interesting  NOT THAT THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH IT  | |
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| Some help here?
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:26:57 AM | "hoo hoo"?
Vagina?
****?
What is up with "hoo hoo"? | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:46:55 AM | to the OP...I'd say it's just your inexperience that scares you. I was married at 20...and wasn't comfy with giving head until I was 29..and separated from him...and NO he didnt leave me cuz I wouldn't give him head lol....but as you get older and more secure with your own sexuality it's easier to be able to experiment more and get comfortable with it. I would suggest tho that don't do it just to keep him around...do it because you want to make him feel good in the same ways he makes you feel good. Also if you're worried about the good ol' gagging reflex...just hold the base of the penis...then ya won't gag ;)...As far as getting used to giving hand jobs...KY warming liquid works wonders,....keeps him slick and keeps your hand slick and makes it MUCH easier... | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 2/13/2007 1:53:58 AM | It's the first time I hear about this, but I'm sure there is hope.
Most phobias are curable through cognitive behavioural therapy. Read up on it, it works. You won't need a shrink either, you can do it by yourself, as long as you understand the principles behind it.
Try something that is at a comfortable level for you: watch some porn, look at pictures with penises until you feel more comfortable. Try rationalizing your emotions and slowly ruling the out as irrational.
Buy a dildo (maybe a small one, then a bigger one) hold it, rub it, do things with it you're not comfortable doing with the real thing. If it's too much try doing that in the dark at first, or use a glove, then try without it or with the lights on. Later, you can do that with your boyfriend, lights off glove, whatever you can tolerate, and if he's understanding and patient you'll get used to it and you might even start enjoying it.
Take myself for example, the first time I tried cunilingus I didn't enjoy it one bit, I felt somewhat of a repulsion. Not too long after, the thought started to increase my interest and to became arousing, and now I absolutely love it and wouldn't do without it 
I have covered mostly the behavioural part, but don't forget the cognitive one. Only you know or can figure out where the problem lies, and you might have to dig deeper than you feel comfortable, and you have to be truthful to yourself and once you find out, rationally try to reverse that process or dismiss the reasons for it.
Have patience and if you want to get over it, it's definitely possible.
Hope this was of some help, don't give up and good luck! | |
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| Some help here?
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:46:33 AM | | Keep doing what your doing. Either you will become comfortable or you wont. If he is understanding then their is nothing to worry about. It will all come in due time. | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 8/21/2007 8:00:54 AM | This is cool!!! I have to say your not the only one. I use to have the same problem. What worked for me was using sweets and thinking of it as a sunday... With the penis as the banna.... Years later I able to do it with out it... And become very compterble with it... You can even be soft with it and do all kind of thing to make it fun and easy for you.... If you like email me anytime and I be glad to chat with you...
Aloha Monqiue | |
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| Some help here? I have a penis phobia
Posted: 9/20/2007 1:33:14 AM | | Force yourself to do what you hate often enough, and you may develope a liking for it. Practice makes perfect. I once had a gf who hated the idea of going down on me. I told she didn't have to, but I would appreciate it if she could bring herself to do it. I never mentioned it again, and never pressured her in any way. She began watching porno movies, reading adult novels, and such, and worked up her courage to try. Six months into the relationship she surprised me by giving me a nice, long, head session. After another few sessions-at her choosing-she decided she liked it after all. After that, I couln't stop her from eating me if I wanted to. She got excited by the control she had over my orgasm...speeding it up, or slowing it down/delaying it, etc. She also liked the way I writhed, and moaned. It made her feel appreciated, and poweful. Attitude plays a major part in such things. | |
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