| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 2/23/2007 12:51:39 PM | | Hi .....I'm a nice guy but women don't want nice guys they want the idiots.....so that is what they end up with and that is what they deserved :) | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 2/23/2007 3:28:15 PM | I would have to agree with the fack that women do seem to be attracted to jerks. All I hear too is that they want a nice guy (in fact look at a lot of the profiles on here as an example) but they complain when they pass up a nice and great guy because someone else will buy them things or is Mr. Hunk...rofl.
Now I know I'm not perfect by any means but come on ladies time to wake up. If you want what you say you do ("a true nice guy), then communicate with those of us that say we are nice guys. Now I know that a lot of guys say they are nice that aren't, but spend some time talking with them on-line and pay attention to how they treat you the first couple of times if you decide to meet. If they treat you like a piece of meat, or they start talking about sex right away that might be a red flag!!
So to make this long story short and get off my soap box...Yuletide I feel you dude, and I'm a little tierd of it too.
Good Luck!!
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 2/25/2007 3:54:59 PM | | Nice guys get nowhere, I have seen it all the time, women precieve it as a wuss,,,,,,,,,, | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/3/2007 1:44:29 PM | | I often wonder the same thing.I mean you check out the profiles and all you see is:Real man wanted,Good-Hearted man wanted,Where are the Nice guys,Etc,Etc,Etc...But when the nice guy approaches them It's like we have the plague or something.Ladies,What is it that you want.... | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/4/2007 5:43:46 AM | | My profile is very specific in what Iam looking for,so I seem to find nice guys,but then again,I write what I want and dont want,that seems to weed out the bad ones! works for me!And I like nice guys,always have! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:06:53 PM | | Wow, this thread is still going. I wrote it over two years ago. I have found some women who like nice guys. Unfortunately for me, I haven't found the right one for me. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/7/2007 5:33:15 AM | Yes, by far and large women will and do go for the nice guy.
AS LONG AS he also meets the following:
TALL (over 5'11")
VERY well built
VERY, VERY handsome (angular features, perfect complexion, perfect teeth)
Has no more than one child from a previous relationship (preferably none)
Has no more than one divorce on record (preferably none)
And, I'm tempted to add; proof of a net monetary worth in the form of a very nice car and a big house that you either own outright, or have proof of an existing mortgage agreement.
Does this guy exist? Sure, he does. He's either married to Barbie, or gay. But, he certainly isn't on the internet looking for a girlfriend or wife. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/16/2007 9:50:32 AM | Well I have to agree on many points made through out this post that time has yet to defeat. I'm a nice guy and damn proud of it. but you know what I find interesting I've met up with maybe 3 - 4 people on here in the past (been quite a while though since I met anyone on this site) well I meet up date goes great dinner, movie, ice creame, beach, whatever we decided was a good plan. Well evening comes to an end it's that make or break point where she eigther shoots you down or shows interest in a continuation (which sometimes is a lie to escape without an emotional situation) And the few times I've been shot down the line "Too nice" pops out... One time I actualy inquired how someone can be "too nice" the girl stumbled on her words and couldn't come up with an answer, so I interupted her saying, "look, I'm a nice guy, I like to make people happy, but by all means I know how to have fun and enjoy a good time, however; if you want a guy who's gonna occasionaly slap you, call you a pig, or be down right nasty to you, though I could try to compromise I'm not that kind of guy, and honestly if you need that kind of drama in your life, I don't think I'm right for you, and honestly think you should seek help."
She looked down at her shoes as if she felt guilty about something, but I simply appologized for putting her on the spot and said, "When you go home ask yourself what you are looking for in a man, ask your female friends, and listen to the answers, it will be something along the lines of a nice, decent, honest, caring or romantic guy, who also knows how to have fun. After you hear that remember that the nice guy is going to try and get to know you a little before he puts himself out there so he doesn't hurt you or himself, and then remember tonight. It's too late for me, but next time you go out with someone who is Too Nice, and get ready to turn him down for it, slap yourself for being silly and give him a chance to show you nice isn't all that he is" At wish point I wished her a good night turned around and left, I felt bad about it but she turned around a few weeks down the road and thanked me an apologized, she told me she had been very stupid and that shock woke her up and she was very happy with the guy she had found who was a good hearted person. I told her your welcome and appologized for being a****about it that I was very frustrated at that time and that I was happy for her.
After hanging up the phone I sat with a bitter sweet feeling, I had helped her find happiness, yet, here I was still sitting in my empty apartment wishing to find a girl who had woken up as she had... I've never done that to anyone since, but I've also not met anyone online since who told me "too nice" I try to meet it half way, I'm still the nice guy I was but I try to be a little more proactive in letting a person know I'm not 100% nice guy, I have a fun loving side too... so far it's not gotten me far, but honestly I don't know what else to do.
hey girls looking for a nice guy "Pick me!" (sorry had to, just teasing around) | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/17/2007 1:25:12 PM | WELL I HAVE ENJOYED READING ALL THE RESPOSENS TO NICE GUY'S
LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE STORY STARTED JUNE 15 2006 MY WIFE OF 11 YEARS CALLED AND TOLD ME THAT SHE PACKED HER THINGS UP AND WAS LEAVING ME FOR ANOTHER MAN .SICE THAN GOT DEVORICED WENT COURT IDON'T KNOW 10OR12 TIMES TOOK MY KID'S TO HEAD DOUCTOR BUT ALL THE WAY THROUGH THIS I KEPT A GREAT BIG SMILE "LADY'S DIDNOT DRINK OR DRUG'S THROUGH THE HOLE TING"JUST TOOK CARE OF MY TWO KID'S . SO MY POINT TO THIS LETTERIS THIS I WAS AND STILL THAT GOOD GUY ALL OF YOU LADY'S KEEP REFERING TO .AND YOU ARE RIGHT SHE IS SO SOTOO LATE SECOND TIMME IT HAPEND AND WANTS TO COME HOME 1 YEARLATER .SO DON'T THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT WANT AGOOD PERSON IAM 37 AND ON A JURNEY LOOKING FOR MY SOUL MATE AND IT NOT ALL ABOUT THE LOOK'S BUT IHAVE GOT LIKE THE WAY YOULOOK. MY X WIFE WAS260 AND ILOVED HER SO ITIS NOT THE SIZE OR EYEHAIR COLOR ITS JUST WHEN IT HAPPENSYOU WILL KNOW IT
THE BEST THING I CAN WRITE IS THIS GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK GOOODLUCCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BRIAN | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/17/2007 4:03:50 PM | | I totally agree in that many men on the web say they are "nice" guys, but when you finally get into them, either mentally or physically, they become the "bad boy" who wants nothing more than a "friends with benefits" type relationship. Oh, I am not saying that a man who wants that type of relationship is NOT a nice guy, it's just that he is a bit of a "wanderer" who can't "stay in one place" but has a "good heart". There are many out there. And women, yes, they want a "nice guy" but a nice guy that can keep them interested -- albeit a "bad boy" persona.... got it? so the nice guy has to be somewhat of a bad boy to him to keep the "good gal" interested. Suffice it to say, it's like this: A man who has a "classy woman" on his arm but a "whore" in bed.....well let's say a woman wants a "nice boy" on HER arm, but the "baddest boy in bed....!!! It is the same for both sexes, wouldn't you agree??? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:58:53 PM | | Honestly, yes, we women want a nice guy, but we also want a bit of a "bad boy" who has grown up and has realized that it is time to "slow down" and smell the roses. So when my bad boy flirts, looks, daydreams, etc. about women the way that a bad boy does, what makes him settled is that no matter what is on his mind, he comes home and "takes it out on me". So the key here is that men, bad boys or not, never change but might modify their behavior as they age. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/4/2007 12:39:22 PM | | Gosh I guess I want it all just like a Man,Gentlemen in public and an animal in the bedroom..........lol | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 11/23/2007 2:53:49 PM | It goes both ways, I guess I wanted to say. I have met a few men in my time that also suffer from the "past rejection" or "pain" that a woman can cause. One thing that I have learned over my past years of dating......Trust is a must! Truth is very seldom told.....And may all the mean people of the world that take advantage of kind hearts? Suffer the effects of Karma ;) lol Not all people r the same.....and for that? Never give up hope.
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 11/23/2007 9:01:33 PM | | Action speaks louder than words. Some women say they like nice guys, but in real life, many more of them want a 'project' guy. A guy who is bad, but they will love him into being better. A guy who needs fixing. He just needs love. After all, look around. Nice guys sit home alone, while aggressive, abusive jerk types ALWAYS have someone to abuse. There are alot of sick people out there. Why do you think jerk/bad boy seekers will go right from one jerk to the next? They will cry on the shoulder of a nice guy friend, but give their love to the jerk. So, dont be so nice! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 11/24/2007 4:44:53 AM | | I have some evidence to prove you wrong. I've recently met a very amazing and wonderful woman from this site. It's taken time to find her as I've had quite a few dates with the type you're referring to. But that's OK, I know what I want in life and I'm not about to settle for anything less. So if it takes time, then what do you have to lose .....except half of everything you have when the one you settled for divorces you or vice versa. I look at it this way, There are a lot of woman out in this world who are indeed attracted to the bad boy type, but that's their mindset. Do you really want to have a serious relationship with someone like that? I doub it, so you keep looking. Eventualy you will find the woman of your dreams and she's going to absolutely love you for being a nice guy. She'll appreciate the lil romantic things you do for her. She'll be the one who wants to grow old with you. She'll rock your world like none of the bad girl types ever could in a million years! And she'll be the most beautiful woman you've ever laid your eyes on. Patience, it will come when you least expcect it. Till then don't lower yourself to the level of some of the arrogant, uncaring men who always seem, in your eyes, to have the good looking woman on their arm. Chances are that's she's just like he is. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2008 6:53:16 PM | I've always wanted a nice guy but I probably have only met 2 in my whole life. I didn't believe that they existed because guys will be nice for a little bit in the beginning and then they will pull the rug out from under you. This is very painful and you are always afraid it is going to keep happening so you don't want to get in too deep with anyone. So it is easier to be with someone you don't care about too much.
He has to show up for you to believe in him or else he is like the unicorn...you hear stories but there is no proof. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 2/15/2008 7:01:02 PM | But does this nice guy ask you out? How will you know he is interested if he doesn't? I have been single for long periods of time always waiting for the right guy but he isn't the one who asks me out. It is always some loser who is married or who wants a friends with benefit thing or someone who wants sex in exchange for something but he is nice for the first 2 months to throw me off. And then when I am unavailable because I hate him he thinks it is a game.
I know women can be just as cruel but I never was. I never took out on one guy what another guy was responsible for. I didn't even want to date anyone new at some point because I didn't want to hurt some new guy who was innocent in all this. I still left the possiblity open that a nice guy could exist. Only time will tell and clearly he will get the best of everything.
Maybe nice guys and girls just hang out at home or do other stuff because they gave up. The disappointment was too much. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 2/16/2008 9:22:34 AM | I'm a nice guy who will let the EVIL side of me come out once in a while. I think that's what women like even if they say they don't. Because if you're always nice, you'll seem fake.
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 2/16/2008 12:34:10 PM | I think all women want a mixture of naughty & nice ...just like us 
Peace, Love & Fat Girl Smooches,
Lisa | |
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