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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:08:04 PM | Well basically your right. BUT at heart a girl does like a nice guy (but a "nice guy" to a girl is more of someone who is not adventurous or doesn't have most manly qualities - after much talk with my girlfriends on this point....it's not the "bad boy" we want..it's the nice guy who has some bad boy mixed in :)
Just a man who is a MAN is nice...:)
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:36:44 PM | alharb79
You are RIGHT,RIGHT,RIGHT, all the way. Fantasy than reality makes the reality alot better. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/15/2008 11:33:45 AM | I posted that comment 3 years ago but it is still true now.
I met this nice guy. He's supposedly shy. It wasn't traditional dating he treated me like a friend and I did too. We were close but he asked me out I ended up liking him. He treated me well a perfect gentleman etc we went on vacation. I was happy he said he was happy. We were even happy in complete SILENCE with each other. That is rare.
I gave him plenty of space he thought I was sweet etc he said I was nice for giving him the time of day :/ Okk. Then he didn't call as much and I withdrew also. I mentioned to him the next time that he didn't call me. He told me that I could call him. I didn't like the way he expected me to just come over at his convenience.
I called once but not again. So he didn't call me so I guess it is over. I guess it didn't mean much to him after all. I guess what he said in the beginning 'Just give me a chance to take you out and treat you right. I want to see you for a long time' was not true. He was calling for 2 weeks just to go out with me because I wasn't wanting to go out at the time. Only for 3 months he forgot to add.
He was ok with letting it all go yet he said 'Women are afraid of commitment'. I wonder how some people look at themselves in the mirror after lying to themselves.
This is the same guy who said he wants 'drama free' but he's the one with all the drama.
You can just tell by his previous relationships even the women didn't do any wrong. They were trying to figure out what to do. But he hates them because they left. I know why they left because of his extreme detachment and coldness.
Some guys play the game well enough they fool you into believing that they never cared anyway and they get mad at you because you didn't throw yourself at them. What an awful thing to do.
A good companion would have been nice but not at the cost of everything else. How often do people really connect not often enough.
Yeah women want a nice guy but no wonder they stop caring after a while. Nice guys are unpredictable.
At least the jerk is predictable.
The people you don't want always want you which means if you want nice guys they won't want you only their con artist friends will. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/15/2008 11:55:55 AM | A nice guy can be adventurous with his hobbies and such. Maybe he's sexually not adventurous but he can learn. That's not the worst thing. In my experience the worst thing about some nice guys is their lack of backbone or not standing up to people who insulted you or who insulted them. But I've still not walked away for those reasons. I walked away because of disrespect took me for granted things like that.
I think nice guys don't think well of themselves and after a while if you are still around they wonder what is wrong with you. How come you're still here. How come you're not using me. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:43:18 AM | no they don't
both my ex wives said ai was the best thing that ever happened to them
no I'm divorced broke and bitter as hell | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/21/2008 10:13:39 AM | The sentence (usually heard when one woman speaks to another) that starts with "He's a nice guy..." is usually followed by the word "...but...".
Apparently being a "nice guy: just isn't good enough. It's equivelent to being "boring" .
If a woman tells a man he's a "nice guy", it means there is no romance. Platonic relationship, at best.
However, that doesn't mean that men need to be "jerks" to attract women. One can be "nice" by being polite and respectful, but still be exciting and romantic. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:56:06 PM | ..A True Lady Would Settle For Nothing Less...that said no Man or "Guy" is or Will EVER be perfect,I for one wouldn't want Him that way? The ability to be vulnerable and "Falible" as 'WE ALL ARE" is in my opinion a charachter Trait I find Rare and Sexy in and of it's self? If everyone were all the same,just think how BORING Life would be! That said....TO:
"ALL THE WONDERFULLY FALIBLE PLEASINGLY PLUMP SLIGHTLY OR TOTALLY BALDING
NEVER TAKE THE DAMNED TRASH OUT CLOTHE'S AND TOWELS LEFT ON THE FLOOR
"DAMN WAS IT OUR ANIVERSARY?" REAL MEN............
" YOU ALL ROCK " and not all Ladie's unapproachable as we may appear,
Believe that you Don't Exist?
HAVE A SEXY ROCKIN RELAXED WEEKEND GIVE THOSE GAS PUMP'S SOMETHIN TO COMPLAIN ABOUT FOR A CHANGE,SIT BACK AND JUST BE "MEN"!!!!!!
RESPECTFULLY,
JUST ME LISA | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:12:34 AM | The bad Boy will always get the girl, piss on her & leave her, then she will want the nice guy, so she can call him up & cry on his shoulder.
Here are a few of my personal experiences.......
1). When i was married & lived in new York City, my wife traveled with business, so if on the odd chance she was going to be home one weekend, i would make a big effort to make sure the house was clean & there was a nice dinner for her when she arrived from the airport. All the women who were my friends or associates ,would coo at my efforts & say they wished that i was their boyfriend or husband. In return my wife would say that the house wasn't clean "enough". One time a spider pland had fallen & there was dirt on the floor umong the indoor garden i maintained, and she went bullistic. Needless to say, i began to enjoy the company of those who admired my effort.
2). I was once dateing a woman who was much older than myself, it was hot & passionate. She had a bathroom sink that had a leaking drain, so on a sat. afternoon i borrowed my dad's plumbing truck & went to her house & fixed the drain with new pipes. I then discovered that the line was also clogged & put in some drain cleaner to clear the drain. In return she got ;pissed off at me for being "too nice", and went off on me for putting drain cleaner in her fragil eco septic system.
3). Dateing a girl here in Florida, her truck had poblems, so i took it to my dad's house & we did a tune up on it & got it running correctly. She went off on me for being .....( yup you guessed it )..."Too Nice" Yet she continued to go back to her husband who treated her like shit. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:03:33 AM | Women are drama seekers themselves. They are always envious of their female friends, fighting about this, that, crying for this little reason, for that little reason etc. If some guy is not giving them a reason to cry or reasons for her to say to herself "how miserable her life is" then nice guys are boring, there is no attraction, there is no chemistry etc....
If women did not like drama, there would be no soap operas. Think about it. A nice guy is the furthest thing from drama. He is boring, whiney, he does all they want, he tells them nice things, he is detail oriented, and for women, this means he is desperate, so he does not stand a chance.
Women want to always feel like there has to be drama so that they can be there to try and "control" the situation. They need that illusion of "I can change him, or I can change this situation" or stuff like that. When they realize that there is no way to change things (or men), then there is another reason to say that all men are dogs, and to keep crying. Remember, they love drama. Without drama inducing males, they can not make their own soap opera, so you nice guys will always finish last.
Whether they want to accept it or not, they still want that macho man to make them feel feminine, and put them in their place.
That is women. Otherwise, players would not be so successful with them. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:44:22 PM | Geez! when are you guys out there gonna quit being galactically stupid??? You're being complete idiots! Women are not looking for nice ok? They are not looking for a guy that's nice. And any woman that tells you she is, call her Satan and give her a pitchfork because she is LYING to you. Get that through your thick, hard-headed skulls now!
Chivalry is gone. If you don't believe that, go to your local grocery store tomorrow and help an old lady to her car.....or volunteer at a soup kitchen....or visit at a nursing home. I promise you you will not have women come up throwing themselves at you. Why? Because none of that matters. It doesn't matter that you have a heart. It doesn't matter that you're a romantic. It doesn't matter that you can be a good provider. It doesn't matter that scores of people like you. It doesn't matter that you treat women with dignity and respect. It doesn't matter that you're a religious person. It doesn't matter that you have morals and values. It doesn't matter that you think family is important.
THE ONE AND ONLY THING THAT MATTERS IS ATTRACTION! And, for some unknown stupid screwed up reason, chemistry also matters too. Attraction is not a choice! Period! End of thought. No debate. ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE! Just because you might be a great and wonderfuly guy, doesn't mean a woman is going to be attracted to you. Frankly, I don't agree with the whole chemistry viewpoint that it has to be there automatically. I've seen couples that had no initial attraction to each other, but they're happily married....some of them well over 30 years too. In other words, stop with the hang-up already on the proverbial "nice guy." It's nothing but a crutch. There are a lot of heartless, cold-blooded, insensitive, abhorrid, vindictive women out there who will have nothing to do with a guy that treats them the way women should be treated. those are the kinds you wanna stay away from lest you want to be tossed into the meat grater.
Face it........society has dealt you a losing hand...and you have 2 choices. You can either fold and come back another day, or you can take your "chips" to another casino and try your hand there. Somewhere, at some point, you're gonna hit a black jack and rake up. But as long as you keep up this stupid method, you're gonna go bust every single time. you've got to stop being the doormat, and find the caliber of women who aren't looking and intentionally seeking out guys that are losers. Then, and only then, will you get your black jack. Happy gambling! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:02:04 PM | Well thanks Dovestreasure I am happy to hear nice guys are a turn on gives me a bit more confidence. I think some women have been in bad relationship and really don't know how to handle a man that gives them the attention they so want. It is spoken that nice guys finish last but they finish ( dont like finisning last.) Women like adventure so if you are a nice guy and boring that is not going to work be nice and exciting and you can still enjoy the woman without being a jerk. I am a nice guy but very adventurous as well and I enjoy life I really think that it is harder for a nice guy to find a good woman ....
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