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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/19/2005 9:28:04 AM | | No, women do not want nice guys. There is not a single person here that can fail to list numerous experiences where this is evident. The problem is that nobody even notices a nice guy. If you aren't doing something to get noticed then you'll never catch the eye of many women. Yeah, if you are one of us that was brought up to respect others and follow rules and participate honorably in society then yes you will suffer. But I refuse to be anything other than a nice guy. It is a lonely decision, but one you must make in your own life. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/27/2005 8:08:57 PM | Yes, but they want him to charming, well mannered, sweet and aggressive enough to make them feel like they are losing control. Be nice, but they want you to be very addictive, so they may lose themselves in you. So figure how to steal her heart, do so without hessitation and your done. Take lots of time to study her well, know her first before making a move, and you shall have her. Women do like "bad boys" but there are a thousand styles of being bad. So be blunt, tell them you plan to get them addicted to you, how they will lose control and have to have you, even to the point of surendering their heart to you for more contact with you. There are a thousand variations.
PS some women just plain love jerks and then gripe about them. Amazes me!!! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/28/2005 4:56:33 PM | Look, the "Mr. Nice Guy" thing is a non-issue.
My own mother always used to tell me, "Nice guys finish last."
This is just the way losers console themselves.(And society enables it.)
It's not that women aren't attracted to nice men. In general,
WOMEN are ATTRACTED to MASCULINE MEN. (Note emphasis.)
A man can be masculine and nice at the same time. Likewise, a man can be real nice and be a weenie. Most women don't want pushovers. In fact, most women don't know /WHAT/ they want, because the constant barrage of hormones they live under makes forming a solid opinion on the matter difficult. Nature designed it this way, the same nature that makes you want to do anything... ANYTHING just to get back in the saddle again. (If you know what I mean, Cowboy.)
Cruel nature has designed it so that what you see as aggression in other men, women will see as assertiveness. What you see as a cheesy con-game, women will see as romanticism. The man you see as a daddy's little rich boy, born with a silver spoon in his mouth, many women will see as an alluring man with "that certain something."
None of this is neccessarily conscious... it's subconscious, and it is nature's way.
Don't ask me to even try and explain Brad Pitt... because I can't.
-- JC
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/28/2005 5:15:12 PM | Wow, Romanceat24, you just laid down the law! Yes!
What I am frustrated with in reading these forums and hearing conversations, what dumbfounds me, is the TOTAL DENIAL each sex has about what the other wants.
Sure, there are always exceptions, but what men mostly want, is SEX from a HEALTHY, ATTRACTIVE woman. Not lay down in a field of butterflies and watch the clouds pass kind of sex, but DOWN and DIRTY, all fours on the floor sweaty WILD ANIMAL kind of sex.
What women mostly want from men is more complex. But they basically also want men to be HEALTHY, ATTRACTIVE, ASSERTIVE, WEALTHY, and... ATTENTIVE. Women want to think there's a shot at a long-term relationship there. They imagine what kind of father you'd be, and what kind of children you'd have with her. If she's not planning on having children, she imagines what life will be like growing old with you; how you're going to fit into her world. Will you look good at the table speaking to her parents over Thanksgiving turkey... that sort of thing.
If you want to know how to please a woman, get a cat... a female cat... one of those fussy breeds, like a Siamese. If you can make the cat happy... if you can make the cat follow you with anxious anticipation, you can probably win a woman's heart the same way. (Withholding food is considered cheating.) | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/28/2005 5:18:25 PM | And for the last time guys... STOP WHINING!
"Awww.... Gee whiz. No one will **** me...."
It scores no points with anyone. | |
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kachan
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Joined: 4/30/2005
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/1/2005 5:24:36 AM | I cant speak for all women only myself, I want a nice guy, but I dont want an insecure guy. (I know everyone has insecurities, but you cant let them stop you from taking a few chances and living) I also beleive theres good and bad in everyone, the thing thaat makes a nice guy different is when he is bad, he trys to improve upon himself as a person.
I have found a lot of people i have met fall in one of two categories, they want to control or they want to be controled. I dont want either, i like taking turns in the drivers seat. | |
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~~JT~~
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Joined: 11/24/2004
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/2/2005 8:15:46 AM |
Yes, some of us really like nice guys. But there aren't any left. Prove me wrong.
Can't do it baby cakes.
lol baby cakes
I am a nice guy, but, I still have a side of me that wakes up drunk and rolling naked in the street on occasion.
I say DOWN BOY DOWN
but the a**hole kicks mr nice guy in da but and i end up having fun and rubbing sholders with bums in the alley over a bottle of ripple.
mmmmmm ripple | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/3/2005 1:51:56 AM | | well i would love to find a nice guy but they want the girls with the jerks and the modle bodies so wheres my nice guy so he can break my heart and i can say hey at least i had a nice gut lol well i dont want that but a nice gut love it so u know any tell me im on here as daisy6382 i live in daytona I LOVE NICE GUYS | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/4/2005 6:58:10 PM | Yeah! There ya go!
Give the men who go out of their way to be nice soggy graham crackers and eggy-smelling tapwater.
Leave the devil's food-cake with icing and cold milk for the jerks!
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~~JT~~
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Joined: 11/24/2004
Msg: 38 | |
| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/5/2005 8:47:20 AM |
Not unless he looks like Harrison Ford.
That's part of it. But, if you read some of the ladies profiles, and (generally) think
about how women are socialized into their role in America, you see they want something
that does not exist. The fairy tale ending, with the prince on the white horse.
Relationships are hard and they take work.
People are human and they make mistakes.
Oh yea and I took Womens Studies when I was at USF to get chicks, uh... I mean get in touch with my feminine side.
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/5/2005 3:49:43 PM | Judging by that pink outfit,jd, you went waaaaaaaay past just "getting in touch" with your feminine side!
And yeah.........if you're a nice guy, leave me a message. I want one. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/6/2005 10:38:29 AM | Ya might not buy this one but I'm beginning to think that we really do not know what EXACTLY is a nice guy.
So then when it is said it is really only in reference to "not one that will treat me like the last jerk", "now I at least know that he wasn't nice". "Geeeee, all I really want is a nice guy"...LOL
What is that again!?! | |
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~~JT~~
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Joined: 11/24/2004
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/6/2005 1:36:18 PM | Hers the thing ladies.
No ones perfect.
Come on, I mean, I love my kids, my pets, I don't trip old ladies in the street, I work to eradicate child prn on the internet, I am a foster parent, I volunteer minimum once a month in the community.
But I am very opinionated and I speak my mind. "not nice"
Or does nice actually mean, responsible? hard working? Fun? career oriented? wants to settle down? SO OPENENDED. By a lady saying a "nice guy" means SO much more than just that.
Say what you mean, and you will get closer to finding what you are actually looking for.
Communication is a huge part of any relationship even in the beginning.
I understand that no one should "settle" for someone else but I think anyone who is searching for "a nice guy" needs to find out what they are looking for themselves.
Now everyone into lotus position and we shall practice ohm's ooooommmmhhh ooommmmh | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/7/2005 11:07:55 PM | LOL and gee that reminds me of something else we've both spoke on once, anyway....
OOOOOOO mmmmmmm
Did it work!!!?:)???!?!!! | |
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~~JT~~
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Joined: 11/24/2004
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:57:41 AM | Yea, wasted i know the thread you are refering too.
"define no games" or something like that.
Pfft, why ask for help and then ignore it :|
She didn't reply, or put some damn clothes on.
LOL I KNOW THATS NOT WHAT I WANT TO SEE IN THE MORNING
Did I say that ?? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/10/2005 6:20:04 AM | Nice Guy - "a guy who is nice" Generaly I consider anyone who puts others before themselves, treats people like decent human beings, and someone who without reason does nice little things like flowers, notes, prepping a romantic dinner, ect. is a nice guy.
But also keep in mind we are human, we make mistakes, and we have our habits and character flaws. The thing that devides us from just being another guy is simply the fact that nice guys really do genuinely care, and when things are in a bad way they try their damnest to pull it back together, or if someone wants out of the relationship they try and let it go as easily as possable. A common jerk however will as soon as turn around and walk off and probably forget ever having anything to do with ya. I can say when things go sour for a nice guy, though we may not always cry infront of you at the deciding moment, we feel our heart has been wrenched free from our budies and crushed. And thats wether we are breaking up with you, or you are breaking up with us. (less of coarse things are on terrible terms like theirs cheating involved or what not, then we tend to think you're just a horrible person and though we miss what we had, we simply aren't interested in dealing with two faced people)
I tend to agree from the intial poster's view unfortunatly. I watch the greatest and most caring people get tossed aside like yesterdays news at the drop of a dime, then I know people who are being beaten by guys and they want to work it out! What the hell is wrong in this picture?!?! you want a nice romantic dinner or a back hand to the face, I don't know about you but I think dinner tastes better and hurts less.
As I read in a past post on this forum, Ladies let me give you a word of advice I found posted here in the past. "If it stinks, DON'T SNIFF IT!" If a guy seems like a sleeze move on. There are plenty of single guys out here who are lonely and more then prepared to show you how wonderful life can be. And if you are 18 - 25 and in central florida get in touch, I'm one of em  | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/14/2005 10:11:36 AM | I find it interesting that some of the women here who are saying they would take a nice guy over a bad boy anyday are divorced. Either they did at one point like bad boys and actually married one, or the nice guy they married turned out to be a bad boy.
The truth is, most people will never comes to terms with the fact that many people are not meant to be with one other person for the rest of their lives. I'm not advocating staying single and "playing the field" forever, but trying to constrain your choices and tastes for the rest of your life seems like a pretty rash decision. How many other decisions in your life would you be willing to accept and live with forever? None.
You buy a car or a house knowing that that purchase will last for a certain amount of time and then you'll go out and buy a new one or move to a new neighborhood. A house is the single biggest investment in many peoples' lives, and yet we all do it knowing that we will eventually sell it and get a new one at some point. (How many people do you know that died of old age in the first house they ever owned?)
A lot of readers are now thinking I'm an a-hole for even mentioning material things and relationships in the same vein, and I'll admit that the analogy is rough, but the sooner you come to terms with the similarities, the sooner we will all be able to have relationships based on honesty and truth instead of myth and lies.
My last girlfriend and I were very happy together, but eventually we decided that we had to part, and it was amicable. We're still great friends, but we aren't romantically involved. Neither of us has met another significant other yet (after two years apart), but we still trade dating stories. I'm very proud that we broke up like adults and were able to keep it civil, even going through the kitchen cabinets deciding who bought what in the utensil drawer.
Sorry, got a little off-topic there.
Anyhow, what it all boils down to is this: Find someone who makes you happy. If it doesn't last forever, find someone else. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 4:08:46 AM | This is what I've learned....there is a pattern and I've done some research on this.
Most women are attracted to the wild and naughty tough guys, however........usually, that's a chasing a dream thing. In the end, after all the playing around and finding dead-end fun,they find out in their hearts/heads that they do actually want a nice guy,to settle down with. Then they say to themselves......where are all the nice guys . Hellooooooo, they were there the whole time, now they moved on and found someone else who was ready for a real relationship.
Guys......we are better off with women over 40, because most of them have already learned that lesson. However, there are many in that age group, who still don't know what they want. Remember----Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. They are different in the head than we are...........FOR SURE !!!
I have also been finding out that a lot of women like to ignore you, just when you seem to be getting along very well. I think that's extremely rude and show a lack of maturity.
I'm sure there are guys who do this to women as well. I'm not attacking women here, merely voicing my experience and hopefully shed some light for my fellow men.
Hang in there as I am.....there are some decent women out there somewhere, or at least, that's what people keep telling me..............Good luck!!! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/29/2005 8:03:58 PM | | I THINK MOST WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR EXCITEMENT AND FUN AND DON'T TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW THE MEN THEY MEET. I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE THAN SETTLE FOR SOMEONE WHO IS GOOD LOOKING AND HAS TERRIBLE MANNERS AND TREATS ME LIKE DIRT. IT'S WORTH THE WAIT IF YOU TAKE YOUR TIME AND FIND OUT AS MUCH ABOUT EACH OTHER THEN YOU CAN DECIDE IF YOU SHOULD GO TO THE NEXT LEVEL, AND THAT DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN JUMPING IN THE SACK! I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE REST OF YOU, BUT I HAVE CHILDREN AND I'M NOT GOING TO BRING JUST ANYONE TO MEET MY FAMILY. THAT SAID, I'M LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP AND WILL TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOU.(ONLY MEN THAT IS) SO IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR HONESTY, INTEGRITY, DOWN TO EARTH, LOYAL, HARDWORKER, GREAT COOK AND LOVE A CLEAN HOME AND KEEPS IT THAT WAY. GIVE ME A YELL. GOOD LUCK LOOKING FOR MR. AND MISS RIGHT! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/30/2005 8:06:57 AM | | I hear you. I too like my materials but those are irrelevant when it comes to the company of another. I am a very nice guy who gives more than most and would treat my gal with a god like love but...its so true that they want a ho's rather than a decent man..or they want our money | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 5/30/2005 1:35:10 PM | | If I hear another "You are so nice to me it scares me" I'm going to scream. Is there any woman out there that wants to be treated nice. I would think so but I haven't found one yet. I'm the one that starts getting treated bad. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/8/2005 10:23:33 PM | I am over 40 and recently divorced after 21 years of marriage.
My side of it is, Is there a man out there that is a "good guy" and alilbit of "badboy" ?
Most women do look for the badboy image. Its fun, exciting and somewhat exhilirating when you catch one. And most women know that it doesnt last but it was exciting. Its like they say in Texas..A badboy will last the 8 second ride. And has his score.
Well guys if you can, and I know its difficult, but look at it like this. Let a woman know that you are a good guy by opening doors, pulling out chairs, and being polite. And let them get to know you for you and then maybe just maybe alil of that badboy will come out when you are comfortable with her. We are not all out to get remarried but merely to have some fun while we can.
And i know its difficult to walk up to a nice looking lady and say "Hi" and not be nervous, but hey they may say this guy has cahones and is pretty cool....
I'm no Dr. Ruth i'm just voicing my opinion.
I like good guys but i'm starting to think there are not any left. Or maybe I just have a bad picker........Are there any good/bad boys around ? Girls if u know of a place give me directions. Haha
And guys if you are just interested in a one nite stand usually you can tell on a girls profile what they are wanting. So don't waste your quarter on the call and be all smooth and then
get turned down and never talk to her again. That sucks royally. Been there and done that too many times.
ANd there are nice girls out there as well. And not all want your wallets. Maybe alil TLC and attention. DOn't forget...compliments do work.
Oh well...Enough ya'll be honest and stay true to yourselves and all else will work out !!
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