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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/13/2005 7:44:50 PM | Hmmmmmmmmmm....A certain person on here said---Nice guys might be insane or something.
Does this mean you prefer crazy guys, because you think they are normal?
I'll stick to being nice..thank you.
Some people don't know what they have---even when it's right in
their face!....... (bad judges of charactor)
Too bad for these people. They are the ones who keep missing the boat. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/19/2005 7:31:08 AM | well there are alot of girlz out there that expect to much from men..like u guys are their daddy or some sh*it....nice guys don't always finish last....if you meet someone who can't appreicate you for who you are & focus to much on the size of your wallet...then move on sweety cause all you are heading for is a heartache...
I'am not that kinda of girl....I was raised to appreciate everyone...I see God in all people...if I don't I can't love someone....& love I don't mean "OH I think I want to have your baby" I mean love as in being a friend and understanding a person needs and wants....emotionally and mentally...
Most people have problems with understanding themselves and what they want in life...so they supplement their needs materially...one day they will understand that you can't take them things with you when you pass...God measures the size of your heart not the size of your wallet....Relationships should be unconditional...loving someone without a condition...
So stay strong Yuletide there is someone out there for everyone....if you are not satified with who you have move on...if you don't feel you have all your needs meet....tell them that you can just be friends...because there is always someone out there who is better then the last...you just have to keep you standards high and be patience with yourself and others...
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/19/2005 7:47:55 PM | I totally agree with Angel.. And whoever said nice guys finished last, was probly some a$$hole thats too focused on being first. It's not a race guys, so calm down and act right.
And ladies, the size of my wallet shouldn't matter, i mean i'm not rich, but i have heart and soul. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/21/2005 7:22:06 PM | Unfortunately, you're correct! I am on about 8 of these 'dating' sites. Most women are on here for: (1) Tease & (Shooting the)Breeze; I have come across NUMEROUS Phoney & Duplicate Photos purporting to be the listed 'member; The Dating sites use 'artificial' listings 'contacting' you when member fees are due, then never reply ONCE you can again!! {Wire Fraud!}; The Internet is only an extension of Society!! (Same crap as in local bars except it comes to you electronically! 3 things have 'spoiled American Women that I did NOT experience in Europe while doing 20 years with Uncle Sam. (1) Feature Films - outlandish expectations and improable situations in 'chick flicks' makes them think 'they are 'next' to have a Brad Pitt or a George Clooney want THEM! (2) Other Entertainment -
Every female wants to know whats happening to Brittney or Anjolina or Jennifer Anniston and 'how' can I get there..:P (3) News Features or Oprah or 'The View' - Hen Parties with 'You can have it all' themes which doesnt indicate much of it was Sheer Luck/Ancestry that certain people become 'celebs' (WHY Paris Hilton IS still boggles my mind!!!) Sooo.
Where does that leave a SANE, REALISTIC but NICE guy? On the 'outside' looking 'in' becasue YOU'RE not phoney enough to join in the madness! I'm considering a RUSSIAN or EURO female now.. I have had 6 months of this online and its lame... GOOD LUCK | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/25/2005 12:33:51 AM | | Wow, I put this post up months ago and it is still going on. To the guy that is thinking about Russian women that is an even bigger scam than paid dating sites. The women just try to get money out of the guys and then dump them. To the lady who said to stay strong, don't worry. I am incurable romantic so I keep searching. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/28/2005 5:19:43 PM |
Do women really want a nice guy? ... blah blah blah...
No!
Now, babe, drop that zero and get with the hero. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/29/2005 4:45:50 AM | | ohhhh spit out those sour grapes. If you advertise for a crop duster you should not complain that others know how to go about getting a classic jag and all you have are temporary crop dusters. You need to KNOW what you are looking for, have what you are looking for be REASONABLE and be willing to pay the price and it isn't always in dollars and cents .......... just sense. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 6/29/2005 10:42:37 PM | Nope, not the young ones.
Something in the young female's genes to seek out and pair off with the 'Bad Seed' kinda guy. Some wake up and get tired of getting verbally and / or physically abused and 'settle' for the accountant or engineer, being a tad boring but a good provider. Others never grow out of it.
I've seen it as a prosecutor (domestic violence cases) and in the process of handling domestic cases in private practice.
I am convinced that attraction is primal and defies logic, particulary in ladies.
Not true for all of course, but happens often enough to be a recognizable trend.
Since I've become a jerk I get lots more dates!
Woo-hoo! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/2/2005 1:36:06 PM | I just want a real man. My soulmate. Why group men into "nice guys" or "bad guys"???
We should seek someone who compliments us-- personality wise. Personally, I have always
thought the same as many men I have talked with. I want someone who is personable in
public and can be naughty but nice in private. Every person has needs and wants and they are different for each of us based on our personality, our past experiences, our perspectives on life, etc. Sometimes we are not tuned into that which we truly need and desire and keep dating the people with the wrong attributes over and over. There must be a balance of both
physcial chemistry and personal chemistry. I think that being able to relate spiritually is vital too. A good relationship will provide both stability and excitement; but it is important to remember that romance must be sought and made a priority in our hectic lives or all can be lost. Never take love for granted when you find it, for it can become lost to you.
This is just my personal opinion...you are free to take it or leave it as you wish.
PS. If I caught my boyfriend cheating on me sexually, he could pack and go or I would.
It is very unfair for a mate to expose you to another persons sexual partners and
possible death. I believe that most people who cheat do so because of a weakness
or insecurity within themselves..not because of the person they are with. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/19/2005 9:02:44 AM | Fist off women want a guy that has a strong self image, us nice guys tend to send off a low self image,because we get to shaky or tougue tied around women we like, but ones were just not as intrested in we, in our minds become layed back and we can think clearer.
We just need to stop for a moment and gather ourselfs around the ones we like.
Change your thoughts twords something you feel relaxed about, before opening your mouth.
The layed back guy always gets the girls 8 out of 10 times more than the one whos not. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 8/30/2005 10:03:24 PM | You know...after years of dating the jerks and running(and I mean running!) from the nice guys, I finally learned my lesson. But it took time and experience to learn it!
Just a new spin on the whys....In my 20's, I had a pretty poor self esteem and was convinced that whatever I touched turned to sh*t. So the thought of taking a "nice" guy, dating him and breaking his heart(thereby, ruining any niceness that existed) was more than I could bear. So I pursued the jerks...for 2 reasons...1) when they did hurt me, they hurt me a lot less because I saw it coming the minute I met them or 2) if I dumped them, then it was automatically assumed that they wouldn't be hurt because they were jerks. Since I'm still single, guess how all that worked out!! 
So, now I focus on the nice ones...the ones that fall over themselves when I'm around and blush if I look at them just the right way!
It's so cute, it's sexy!! 
And for other women out there who find this type of reacton sexy, I formally request that you NOT gather yourselves together and NOT think about what you're saying!! Go ahead and trip all over yourselves...some of us like it! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/12/2006 8:31:04 PM | Here's the nightmare scenario, and I bet it's going to sound familiar to a lot of people here:
The jerk steps on her, so she cries on your shoulder. Think about that. The jerk got laid, she got comforted, you got a wet shoulder. But that isn't all you got. You have just been informed, in no uncertain terms, that in her eyes you are inferior to the jerk. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/15/2006 2:49:00 PM | | yes they do, lol. Keep thinking that. A bad guy isn't all that bad (if he is honest), and keep in mind, a "bad guy" doesnt have to be a ***hole. I meet a lot of women who like the "bad boy" personification as long as I am honest and good to them. being "bad" doesn't mean you have to be a prick. But there are a lot of women who (believe it or not) like a person who is just who they are. Stop whining, if it isn't working, change it. Don't get me wrong, if you are a good guy or a bad guy, you will find one for you. You just have to make yourself desireable. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/15/2006 5:48:43 PM | I have experienced enough bad guys in my 20's and early 30's to say even that gets old as time goes on to a woman. Maybe dating pricks and abandoning our nice guys is a right of passage for women. Maybe we must experience enough heartbreaking handsome bad boys in our early life's to really appreciate a good man later in life.
I am sure , I speak for many women when I say," We want a nice guy ".
Being nice is not the only reason for a woman to be attracted to a man, there must be chemistry and common interest. Without those 2 things, it will not matter if your nice or not.
There will always be someone that she finds more interesting, if you don't peak her interest. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/15/2006 7:21:23 PM | | I think all women would agree that they want a nice guy. But here's the tricky part. Nice does not mean needy!!! Some guys are very sweet and sincere and they know how to ask you out like a true gentleman but then once you go out with them, they want to marry you on the spot. Now I'm like the next girl. I love flattery, but that just goes too far. I say a guy should be a gentleman but then you've got to have common interests to take it to the second date, not the altar!! Guys make sure that you have a life and some hobbies and interests other than trying to find Mrs. Right. It's not flattering at all!!!! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/16/2006 12:14:48 PM | Coming from another womans opinion yes we do want a nice guy. I dont want Mr. Perfect, Just Mr. Perfect for me. Comparable likes/dislikes and common interests and goals. I am wondering though are most of us willing to look for it long distance? Even if it means overseas and intense strategizing to get together? I know that I sure am, why limit oneself to just here. I believe the world is full of possibilities, lets run with em and see where we end up.
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/16/2006 12:18:46 PM | | Little add-note, NOT all women want the money, the cars, the fancy restaurants. A select few of us just want that handsome smile, that gentle touch on the arm when you walk in the room and that cute smile at the beginning of the day. I would take a hard-workin, money concientous (know i didnt spell that right lol), pays his bills kind-of-guy over mr big spender anyday!! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/17/2006 9:29:25 AM | by Dovestreasure: Darn yuletide .. your a serial killer , i never would have suspected.
Time for my nice guys are sexy speech. Pull up a chair and get cozy.
Nice guys are a major turn on for me. A man who treats a woman with respect and are willing to give of themselves from the heart are deliciously appealing. Nice guys are not self centered , self absorbed morons. Nice guys are tender and romantic. Nice guys are willing to compromise and go out of their way to express kindness. Nice guys who are able to give of themselves and not only think of their own needs are by far amazing in bed. Nice guys will make sure you are satisfied before they take care of themselves. I would rather have a nice guy in my bed over any bad boy any day of the week.
See, this is why older women get more respect these days than younger ones because they know what a 'nice' guy is. Most of the time, when us guys spout that we are nice, women automatically think that the person is weak, boring, strange, etc, etc. God forbid he is actually a decent man with manners and respects women when they return the same.
I really and truely believe it's all about moral values. If a person is brought up with little or no morals and has no idea what a 'decent'(not nice) person is, then they will be suspect to anyone who seems to be, or is a well rounded individual.
Me personally, Im a sinner. I know that I am a bad person that has been redeemed from my wicked ways. Doesn't mean Im perfect, because Im far from that. When younger women wake up and realize that daddy spoiling them, did them no good to prepare them for the real world, the sooner they will open their eyes and see folks for who they truely are.(I know theirs some spoiled older women too ;) ) Guys, contrary to popular belief, arent your personal sugar daddys for life. ;) | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/23/2006 9:58:47 AM | x soldat, your an attorney so your a born natural jerk, bad boy, whatever, its funny cause when i treat a woman with respect, i see it comin, the big axe, but when i act like a****they dont stop callin, they may **** but they wont stop, i hate ****ing and drama, i think most of these woman are insecure and think getting beat, black eyes, broken bones is their conviluted way of thinking "he loves me", ha, he just knows how to keep u down, the more and longer this happens, the more the case is proven that women are still 2nd class and inferior, ladies, u can blame them for your set back in society, i have no respect or pity for these women, if u ladies want a man who is fun, honest, caring, doesnt beat his woman to a pulp, downgrade them, make fun, treat their dog better then you, im not pertfect, and can be a jerk sometimes, male pms, lol, but granted, we cant be happy all the time, shit happens, but if you want to be treated right, im your man, i dont ride a white horse or have lots of jewels but i know i can make life fun, interesting and ful-filling, im not some babys daddy, thats got to be the worst, when i hear that come from a girls mouth, i think trash right off the bat. ladies, if keep tryin to obtain something u cant have, you'll never get what u really need, and die an old maid, just like my ex, she's 34 no kids, and she aint gettin any younger, also ladies, your no saint either, stop lookin for mr perfect and start lookin for the man u wanna wake up to every morning when your 60 or 70, looks fade, personality doesn't, my poor mother is miserable, she married a good lookin, built, ***hole 20 yrs ago and now he's fat, old, ugly, blind and cant walk, while she's fit but miserable and stuck, well guess i could go on and on but i think my eyes are gonna fall out of my head and ill just end up not makin sense, u know what to do ladies. jason
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/23/2006 11:16:28 AM | I am a nice guy which seems to attract the "bad girls". It repeats itself over and over... I get the girls with "drama". Since the girls are used to the "jerks" which never treated a women like they are supposed to.. now they carry over all that drama from the past relationships.. they learn to lie.. cheat and much more.. last few relationships were terrible.. I would get a lot of compliments.. "you are so sweet".. "I like the way you stop everything just to listen to me". "aww you didn't have to do that".. well I was just being myself. Now the bad part , one told me she had two kids.. I was like mmmm ok no biggy I dated a women with kids before.. then a month later after we had sex and all... she tells me out of the blue.. "oh I have 5 kids".... the same girl brough in more drama she said she used to have a friend that was gay.. and she used to spend some time with him ... well all of a sudden he gets my phone number and starts to call harrassing me.. then she tells me that he "all of a sudden" wants to be straight and be with her. this is just one girl... the one prior to that would not leave me alone for one second.. she thought I was "GOD".. she would stalk me.. follow me even in the bathroom I had to tell her what I was doing in order for her to stop following me.. and again another girl was suicidal .. I had to deal with that for such a long time .. because I liked her.. or perhaps I petty her.. umm really don't know.... and finally the one that I though was true love.. came all the way from Holland .. I met her online.. we had such wonderfull moments together it was only 5 days but perhaps the best days of my life. Again on the 5th day she gives me an ultimatum "If you don't come to Holland then it's over". Well I did not know the launguage and would not be able to find work there either! So I told her "NO". .. that was the end of that spark of love. Concluding this topic .. all the girls I dated somehow were impacted by Jerks, Rapists, Verbal/Physical Abusers, attention lackers, guys that have been in Jail , and drug abusers. Even if I don't find the right girl.. or a beauty queen to show off to society I will not change for nothing... I will keep my dreams alive because I know that these "jerks offs" will NEVER find love, and even if they do.. they would not know what to do.
So If I ever have the chance to meet that special someone, I will take it follow through with my heart. | |
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