| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/23/2006 2:10:35 PM | I find that assertiveness, Knowing what you want is a nice way to go about your day.
Women dont want pushovers. They want the best of both worlds.
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/23/2006 5:01:34 PM | | well im a nice guy and ive come to the understanding that it is easier for a woman to get a bad boy knowing she wont have to keep him.they also want us to just jump in to a relatoinship and then try to change us.nice guys take their time to get to know a woman so we know how to treat them better.ive had starts and stops .they will go out of their way to talk to me and then when i dont jump in they go dead quiet.the more woman we try for the better the chances. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/24/2006 3:52:56 PM | Looking over this thread from a year ago, I think FunLovinFella hit the nail on the head.
Overall, I claim to be a nice guy and an overall gentleman, but lets be honest most women associate "nice" with "boring" and especially for younger women who want to have a good time, not sit around the house all day long. I believe you can be a "nice" guy and still be a man. I can dress in a tux and take a woman out to the nicest place in town for a romantic dinner, then the next morning be in Daytona, sitting in a race car that is over 100 degrees sweating my butt off for two hours. Or maybe changing the oil in a car. Or even installing a garage door. You don't have to be one sterotype.
I truly believe women want a little of both. Hey most guys want a woman who is an angel in public and a slut in the bedroom! LOL! So why not the same for women? It is possible.
Don't take offense by that comment ladies - you KNOW what I mean by that.
Ok, the problem? At least from experience, many of the women I have dated don't think they deserve a good guy - deny all you want ladies, but I have been told this by other women and by therapists who agree 100% with me on this one. We all have had our share of bad dating or marital experiences - the key is to learn FROM them and MOVE ON! That is the only way you can go on to love another and live life to the fullest.
I'll step off my soap box now. Thanks for listening and good night... | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/24/2006 10:58:21 PM | Yes, we do! Of course it has turned out they are either shy, gay-good friends but no dates, non commital, or something else...but by nice I *do* mean a real man and not a wuss. A real man to me is someone who still opens doors for women, asks them out to eat, treats them well, brings flowers and/or candy, etc...I'm sure you get my drift, it just seems they are all leaving Florida or are hiding somewhere....I've met some nice men here and elsewhere online, it just seems the actual meeting in person thing scares a lot of men off...The jerks are a dime a dozen, truly nice men are good to find, but hard to meet...I'm not asking for a gold plate, just a real man or two...And yes, it does help when they read your profile, too...So when we will get a chance to meet you? Sure hope we can get some meet and greets going in Orlando soon! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 12:34:58 AM | I AM THE NICE GUY....................
.............one of many who always end up losing her to the jerks who'll treat her like crap.
I seem to be one of the guys who are "TOO GOOD OF A FRIEND" to date.
I'm the guy who will text you every single morning and tell you good morning and every single night to tell you sweet dreams.
I'm the guy who will hold you when you're crying and wipe away your tears.
I'm the guy who still thinks you're beautiful with no makeup on wearing sweats and a big t-shirt.
I'm the guy who won't pressure you to do things you don’t want to.
I'm the guy who will show up at your house with soup and a movie when you aren't feeling well.
I'm the guy who kisses you on the forehead.
I'm the guy who doesn’t kiss and tell.
I'm the guy who actually listens to you when you talk.
I'm the guy who's excited all day because I’m looking forward to our date that night.
I'm the guy who's just as happy holding your hand if you don't feel like kissing.
I'm the guy who is content to just be able to hold you and wants nothing more.
I'm the guy who can't help but smile when you walk into the room.
I'm the guy who's perfectly content with staying in and watching movies and cuddling.
I'm the guy who won't lie to you about where he's going or where he's been or who he's been with.
I'm the guy who gets butterflies when he hears your name.
I'm the guy who's not afraid to tell his friends he loves you.
I'm the guy who doesn't care about your imperfections and loves you more for them.
I'm the guy who will hold you while we watch the sunset.
I'M THE GUY WHO REALLY WANTS TO MAKE YOU THE HAPPIEST GIRL IN THE WORLD. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 9:08:05 AM | I doubt most woman know what they want if they are confronted with a man who is not stuck on himself and a real person they run and hide but it seems that if your a low life drug useing aids infected louse you have women all over you i just dont get it......... then women actually wake up after years of tourtue finding that they wasted their lives and ambition( not to mention self esteem) on a loser just to try to find another loser ......maybe they should look inside the wrapper instead of looking at the pretty ribbons and bows if you can see the guy is trouble why persue it your not going to change them ...time to wake up ladies .... i know this sounds angry and well maybe i am.......... i lost my wife of 17 yrs to a drug pushing ***hole she chose him over me and the kids (i have 2 ) i guess the drugs were better ...........anyway good luck  | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 10:32:19 AM | | Yes, women do want nice guys. From my experience on here there are men who do not want a nice woman -- they want a woman who gives sex freely and nothering else! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 10:57:15 AM | Ok guys....remember there are two sides here.....one is women and the other is men. Yes, both have this habit of turning to find those that aren't secure, reliable, trustworthy, etc.....me, myself, definitely a turn on for a guy to be a nice respectful....that does know where or what he sorta wants in life, that perfers to settle for one woman. Most of the time I run into the other types that is less desirable, and/or live far away, to where the effort is not meaningful, or it is too much trouble to travel. Or they are looking for the social butterfly, not a woman of average or little chunky. So you see guys, before questioning what women really want, have you ever thought might have put some of those actions they show or intentions come from? Maybe from some of the guys they have met or seen or dated? Yes I know...you aren't like the rest...you wouldn't do that.....you make things right.....just think how many times we have heard these things....only to see the opposite be either said or done.....only if both sides that say what they mean, walk the talk......maybe we wouldn't be in a similar boat.
I myself is a simply basic person, that apparently my lifestyle is too boring or not exciting enough..... I am a one man woman....not matertialistic.....don't lie, steal, nor cheat.....treat others as I would want to be treated....excepts others kid(s)....loves to fish, do things together....takes things slow, not in any rush....might have a couple of beers every once in while, but definitely do not drink like a fish....don't mind getting my hands dirty....would love to find a man that can walk the talk..... | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 11:17:20 AM | I totally agree with this post. In my experience, nice guys seem so intent on making their woman happy they lose themselves. Its almost like they have no spine to stand up for themselves anymore. Thats where the bad boy comes in. I think women like a man to take charge alot of the time (I know I do) Trust me, when I was in my 20's it was all about the sexy bad boy. But now in my 30's I have matured and have learned there is much more to life than Firebirds and rock concerts. I want love, trust, respect, and honesty. But also you cant have that with out some physical attraction as well. Not saying the man has to be George Clooney but easy on the eyes certainly helps the equasion. And also as I get older I find it harder to find a man that wants "relationship". Most I meet have already been there and done that so all they are looking for is someone just to spend time with and essentially be a "friend with benefits" type situation. And the younger ones want that as well because they arent ready to "settle" down yet. But in the long run I refuse to give up because if you lose faith, you've lost it all.  | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 11:17:26 AM | | I feel u man its like take this story as an example I meet this girl we spend a whole week together she even brings me to her home to meet her parents so im thinking this chick wants something serious longterm right. Well its been more than a week now and she sent me a text the other day saying im not ready yet and i want my space and freedom bla bla bla. so whatever im thinkin that shes just not ready like she says she told me she was so in other words guys im paying for her ex's bf jealousy mistakes u get me lol. today she calls me but im not picking up anymore i think i should just move on and not waste my time anymore wat do u guys think? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 2:21:47 PM | I agree with you, funeeface, there are men out there who seem nice but they are not sure of what they want so they don't have the spine to step forward and find out. It is not going to come to you. You have to step out and take charge of what it is you think you might like and then if it is not, then you change your perspective. That is how you learn and grow to find out exactly what it is you want in your life.
I, myself, prefer a nice man but I also want someone who is going to be honest and forward enough to tell me what it is that he wants. I have no qualms in stating what I want -- I have no problem with communication -- but I know there are men out there who do have a problem with speaking out. It will not hurt you to speak.
We do listen. ;) Darlene | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 3:12:21 PM | | I have decided a long time ago that women do not want nice guys to date. They want to marry them. But being the nice guy friend does not get you the girl. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 4:34:31 PM | No, why do nice guys feel like they have to be friends and meek? Don't get me wrong it is okay to be friends but if you are interested in someone don't keep it secret -- tell them to at least let them know. I have never understood why everything has to be such a deep dark secret!
So if you have someone that you are interested in and they are your friend -- don't hsitate to approach them, they are probably just as interested in you,too!
Take a risk! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 6:43:24 PM | | Here's the bottom line: If she is getting what she wants and you are not getting what you want, she is using you. Being a nice guy is not a problem, getting used is a big problem. Give and take is a win/win deal. All give with no take is a win/lose deal. It sucks... and not in a good way. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 7:15:36 PM | Hey Dovestreasue,
Will you please pass that message along to every female you know?
Many women advertise that they want a man who treats them like ladies, but don't even give a guy an answer to his email. Why is that?
Like many other guys, I am giving up on womwn because every girl that I have dated since my wife's death has screwed me over. They say one thing and then do something else.
They talk the talk, but don't walk the walk.: | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 7:45:18 PM | PS Hey guys ~ take a look at how few women have responded to this question. That tells me that most women know that what we are saying here is true, so they dodged the issue entirely. What does that say about the women who didn't respond? I think it says that they are the players that either won't date us good guys becasue we don't have enough money to treat them like queens and/or they know that what we are saying here is the truth ~ they aren't worth a s**t.
I know that will piss some women off, but I was pissed too when they screwed me over.
Let 'er rip, girls. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 7:45:51 PM | Hey, greystone and reteach, not all women are like that. There are also men who say that they are looking for a good woman but don't know a good woman if she bit them in the .....!
Everyone complains and everyone keeps going after the same type of people that burned them the last time. Hey, why not change your technique -- why not go for someone totally oppostie of what you are looking for?
I have encountered many different types of men and yesterday and today I encountered two of them who have obviously not grown up and like to play head games! And I did not email them -- they emailed me! Oh, well, you have to have the faith and believe that there is one good egg in the batch! So do not give up!
There are some very nice women out there and I know that there are nice men here -- I have met a few. Don't let the bad ones ruin you for finding the woman of your dreams!
;) Darlene  | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 8:01:28 PM | Hey Darlene,
Thanks for your input. I respect your comments.
I was married to the same woman for 38 years, and I was true to her evey day of her life! I took my marital vows VERY seriously!
So, I KNOW that I am a good guy.
The next lady that is smart enough to snap me up will have a great guy and a wonderful marriage. Isn't that what we are all looking for here? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 8:03:09 PM | Oh no no nice guy I just want to be ravished! Uhm so hot! hard, long and steady for as long as you can do it umm!!! | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 8:51:00 PM |
Hey, greystone and reteach, not all women are like that.
I didn't say they were, nor do I think that.
There are men who use women as well as women who use men. Nobody likes being used. My point was that it is not about being nice, it is about recognizing when we are being used and moving on. That's true for both men and women.
I will not be a user, nor will I be used. I'll continue to look for the win/win. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/25/2006 9:14:51 PM | Hey Yanifdanger,
You sure sound like a good time girl. How do I contact you?
It sure is nice to read an email from a girl who wants sex, rather than the guys asking the girls for sex.
At least you know what you want, and you state it in no uncertain terms.
You don't post a lot of bullshit about wanting a soulmate who treats a girl like a lady, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, etc. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/26/2006 4:42:30 AM | | ok, i really do have an opinion here. being a nice guy does not necessarily mean that people can walk all over you. nice guys can be strong, handsome, polite, aggressive, and be in control of a situation. it doesn't mean that they don't have a back bone. and nice guys can be jerks as well. pg | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/26/2006 4:58:28 AM | Good for you, greystone. I like the win/win technique too -- however, it is not a easy task. Hope you find it!
Have a wonderful Wednesday!
;) Darlene | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 7/26/2006 5:03:17 AM | Of course, reteach!!! We all want that someone who is going to respect us and love us but I have not had the pleasures of what you have had and, boy, do I want it!!! I just have not had the pleasure of meeting a really terrific man who is willing to want a good woman like me and commit.
So, can you give me some pointers? How do I get a nice man like you? I want to know what it is like to be loved and cherish by someone who truly cares and respects me.
You should be very proud of yourself and, yes, should continue to seek what you are looking for -- there are some very nice women out there and I know I am one of them!
Have a wonderful Wednesday!
;) Darlene | |
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