| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/4/2007 2:21:29 PM | | I tried a free "compatibility based" site... and the people it's saying I'm most compatible with are nothing like me, and don't even have any common interests. I think it's hit and miss with net dating.. period. I've stopped trying on here for exactly that reason, but I do love the forums so I'm staying on the site. I refuse to pay for dating sites for exactly that reason. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 4:09:56 PM | | e-Harmony i think is a joke i tryed it and was very honest about things and they replyed back that my match was un-matchable ,now come on ! i wasnt looking for the impossible person and i am down to earth and i did find a match that is working just fine | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 6:35:55 PM | | I tried eHarmony - "Tried" the operative word. I finally got to Open Communication with 1 guy - Said the wrong thing, I think, and he Closed the Communication. That is THE most frustrating experience I've ever gone through. So many steps to go through, before getting that chance to even talk .... DON'T SPEND YOUR MONEY ON EHARMONY !!! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:11:12 PM | | Eharmony is the WORST dating service I've seen. You have to hit the approval button about 10 times over a period of 2 weeks to meet the person. I've never had first contact be such a pain! I've dated no girls on PoF, but I also feel I've gotten my money's worth. I've gone out with 2 girls from match.com and cupid.com. I actually had more success on those sites than I've had at any bar lol. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:14:23 PM | You guys all beat me.
I'm one of the 5% of people that can't be classified. Thus, I don't get to meet people apparently... | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:27:39 PM | I'm on there now. It only works if you don't rush through things, take your time, answer things honestly and don't rush things. I've been on there almost 3 months now and have closed over 300 "matches" including 2 dozen that I had been chatting with in the open communication phase.
The site works on opposites do not attract. Honestly, I'm beginning to think they are right!
When I was in Michigan I met a totally compatible person but due to the economy I had to move. I don't think it works in all geographic and socio economic regions for obvious reasons. For some they swear it works. For some they say it doesn't. For me it did once, so I figured, Meh! I'll try it again.
but the forums here are so much more fun! | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 7:41:23 PM | | I tried e-Harmony.rip-off (I mean .com) twice and was disappointed both times. Almost all my matches were in Alaska, Hawaii, New York, New Zealand or somewhere else hundreds of miles away. I felt like I had no control over the process since e-Harmony did all the selecting and the selections were very few. When I finally did correspond with someone I felt a connection to it turned out he was a nudist who said he expected me to go to the nudist camps with him. I thought e-Harmony was Christian based???? I laugh when I see the ads now on TV. I guess there will always be gullible people. It might be possible to meet someone on e but I think the odds are really stacked against you. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 9:04:06 PM | | every online dating is a joke ...anyone can be anything they wanna be... except themselves. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 9:13:06 PM | Yeah Kari! Who wants to have a heart-to-heart with an oversized Iguana!! Eeeewwww!! | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 9:16:23 PM | | I did the free personality thing on Eharmony and actually got lots of matches. Too bad 80% of them don't even live in the same country as me! Hell I had one match from as far away as New York state! Last time I checked, that was pretty far from Winnipeg, Manitoba (and for those of you who don't know where Winnipeg is, it's about 2-3 hours straight north of Grand Forks). I never paid for it. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/17/2007 9:19:39 PM | Ditto--they are a total ripoff. Their advertising is brilliant. Appeals to what all of us want.
But the matches they sent me---one I recognized here from DC locally--he is a total dipstick. And the others--evidently my ideal match is a very old fat man in Utah! I live in DC., 2000 miles away. So much for their famous personality test. It is totally bogus--I have more in common with anyone I meet off the street than anybody they sent me.
On the other hand, I do know of at least two cases of friends who married someone off eHarmony. Recently. Wonders never cease. Even a broken clock is right twice a day. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 9:28:39 PM | There is a setting for how far you want them to go out radially from your zip code. If you live where there are more caribou than people, it ain't gonna work. In large metro areas I have been told it works. However, you have to tell them how far you are willing to go to meet the love of your life and unfortunately there isn't a setting called "no more than 2 blocks away". The lowest value is 25 miles.
The key is the survey and being honest. If you want a smokin' hottie and lie about that want, then you will get matched with everything including a super mega fugly. If you don't tell them to match you with someone with similar education levels and you have a PhD, they will match you with a high school drop out. It all comes down to honestly answering what you want.
I know that if I didn't have to move I'd be married, from a match on Eharmony. It only works if you are honest about it and honest about your expectations. Its not everything for everyone.
Me personally, Match and Yahoo bite the big one. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 5:31:30 AM | Unfortunately, onesimpleneed, I have to agree with the majority on here. I was a subscriber (Gads, what was I thinking) on E-harmony twice, 3 months each, over a 10-month period. I was matched (yes, I was realistic and honest in my survey questions---and the assessment was pretty much spot-on) 348 times, not bad. But, if these matches are so compatible, someone and I should have accidently hooked up. How have I done on there? I've met 2, face-to-face. One informed me, after our first meeting went really well (it only lasted about an hour), she'd met another guy off the site, and they "hit it off" and she would be choosing him. The other? Still in contact (via e-mail, mostly), but all she wants is just a friend---sorry, I didn't subscribe to E-harmony for "just a friend."
As for your claims of honesty, I was. Guess what---I can't say it works. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/18/2007 6:05:58 AM | I have about a month left on my subscription. I had a coupon, so I figured I'd give it a try.
Honestly, I think I like the profile system better here. It's hard to find people with similar hobbies... sure our personalities might not match in a bajillion different ways, but sometimes that doesn't matter.
Also, the "match" can be "compatible" while being someone that you probably wouldn't want to talk to.
I'm sure that it works.... but it involves a lot of fishing for a great deal of money. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/18/2007 12:51:05 PM | | I avoided eHarmony 'cause I couldn't stand that spokesperson guy's looks. (He had a weird mouth!) | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 1:02:15 PM | | You know I bet those people who are 'couples' are just paid actors... I did the trial and they matched with with guys with lived far away and posted no pics.. Oh yeah, like I am gonna pay to see their pics..NOT!! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 10:08:51 PM | | Nope. They just tell you that they won't renew your subscription when it expires. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 2:21:28 AM | I have a better one for you...I was required to sign up for e-harmony{ free membership, that is} just to get a free test results...Well, I *did* get the test results, but I was rejected by e harmony, probably because I choose not to date men my age or older. I am a first born and I never was one to date older men, I had one dad and that was enough for me, no need for a dad substitute or some miserable control freak...{I know, just IMHO, I aways got along better with younger people, both as friends or dates...} And the funny and/or ironic part is I still get email from e harmony asking me to join....Oh really? Too weird for words, for sure...LOL! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:43:32 AM | Like the vast majority here, I did not care for eharmony either. Maybe I am superficial, but I prefer women who don't outweigh me. The majority of the matches I received were quite hefty. Not bashing those women, but it's just not for me. You have to have some physical attraction and that is one of my biggest turn offs. So the majority of people who 'matched' me were dead on arrival.
But that said I do have an ex-girlfriend whom I stayed friends with whom met her husband off eharmony. These two click very well and make a good couple. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:05:42 AM | ::pouts:: You folks could have started this thread like 3 or 4 months ago. Wouldn't done me no good if you started this way back last May.
I don't think I've missed a single site.
EHarmony was my last straw. It expires in June.
I had some luck with Hot or Not. Though I mostly like it for that rating thing.
But I am done paying. I promised myself one year on dating sites and then leave it be as yet another lost cause.
Match.com.. I viewed lots of profiles. Probably got 100 responses. You'd be amazed how many were from Ghana, Nigeria and Russia.
I found two more that way too.
I'd pay for 3 months testing and move on.
Hated Myspace.com... That is not a dating site. Don't know what it is, but it isn't for meeting singles. I say that because none of the women there want to chat at all.
LOL.. I had to beg two of my friends to let me add them to my friends list. Well, didn't have to beg hard. LOL
I've probably tried all the paid sites. Then the moment your subscription runs out you instantly get a lot of these really hot ladies wanting to talk with you. If you sign back up, suddenly they are gone again.
I've decided to drop all dating sites when the subscriptions run out. Even Yahoo doesn't seem worth the money.
I know 12 months isn't a long time to search for a date. But it isn't worth the expense. I could have paid for at least 10 great dates already.
Don't waste the money folks.
And yes the most expensive is EHarmony. I finally gave in and felt, most expensive, maybe it means most extensive and better. Not worth it.
POF??? LOL.. I was going to delete it due to lack of being able to meet anyone here too. But I found these thread things and its lots of fun sharing stories and reading peoples views. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:38:56 AM | I tried e-harmony for the same reason as some of the otheres here, thinking that if you paid more you'd get more. To be honest I found the majority of women (not very many by the way) were very close to what I was looking for. I felt that most could be a good friend if things didn't work out. The one thing that was missing was that even with a picture in their profile the chemistry still had to be tested only when we met.
I met 1 woman that I became involved with for a year so I guess I'm the only one that thinks that they do what they say. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 1:01:42 PM | Well...
Friday night - booked
Saturday night - booked
Sunday afternoon - booked
I'll see what happens, three strikes I'm out right? It did take well over 300 "matches" to get to three dates tho...
Cheers! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/19/2007 3:21:21 PM | "And you can't even view the persons pictures to see if you are at least attracted to them"
"Dated a dozen. No chemestry"
"Not one I was attracted to in the least bit"
These types of responses indicate why e-Harmony doesn't really work. All the personality tests and compatibility tests and what not aside, it doesn't matter, it's going to boil down to if the chemistry is there or not when you meet. Are you attracted to each other or not in real life, is going to be the deciding final question.
That's probably the real reason they don't permit pictures up front, otherwise their whole system would be over before it started, they'd be like every other site, and wouldn't be able to charge expensive prices for their different type of "service". | |
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