| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/19/2007 9:29:54 PM | According to E-harmony the type of man that I am attracted to doesnt exist. Funny however, how I found a bunch of my type here on POF! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/20/2007 12:59:43 AM | They want you spend a couple of hours answering a profile, ask you for your money, you try it for a month, no matches, and the best part, you get matches after your 30 days has run out...duhhh!!!
Its all about money, how much they can lure you back with discount prices, no thanks. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 10:04:59 AM | it does suck i signed up once and it said to try a different site . and i had no matches. i like the free sites better cause you get more matches.  | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 7:03:10 AM | Actually, I met one of my very dearest friends on eeekharmony and am grateful ONLY for that. He and I are twins.......absolutely can finish the others thought or speak it before the other gets a chance. So that is why I can't completely bash them. However, Nothing annoys me more than trying to play me for a fool and they would "BAIT" people (their word) and I found that appauling. (second time today I used that word)hmmmm? All these fabulous matches would appear right before renewal month......nothing but hit and miss other times.........hmmmm?
Diva | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/21/2007 8:41:27 AM | | I signed up for that site about 2 weeks ago or so and they still didn't find a match for me! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 11:21:15 AM | No problems with E-Harmony here.
I spent alot of time on the questionnaire, thought very carefully about what was the most important to me, and what wasn't important. I tried not to be overly fussy in what I wanted... concentrated on the most important traits that I was looking for in a partner.
6 months later, have gotten about 100 matches, most of them dropped/discarded during the vetting stages as I learned more about their core values and goals.
In contact with one (who is actually very compatible in terms of values and outlook), but we've just started going on dates, so we'll see how it turns out. In communication with others with several that look promising... I'm not going to restrict my options until I'm in a relationship.
I found the number of matches went WAY up when you used the rating/feedback option. The personality profile isn't perfect, so it helps their system alot when you help them refine what you like/dislike in the matches they are giving you.
As for the chemistry thing, you just can't predict that. For alot of individuals, what sparks their chemistry is often the complete opposite of what would make a good partner/spouse (think nice guys/bad boys). They in fact warn you of this, that the personality profiles are based upon who would be a good match for a long-term relationship for you, not based upon an individual's particular obsessions.
I suspect that for those who are a little more serious, less interested in "dating" and more interested in seriously approaching relationships, E-harmony is just another tool in the toolbox that isn't perfect, but works reasonably well. For those who are severely conflicted in what they desire, or overly picky, it may pose some problems.
In the end, as long as I end up with 1 person, doesn't matter where I get them from. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 9:32:28 AM | E-Harmony is supposed to screen their members to find just the right person for you.
They hooked my daughter up with an ex felon down on sexual offenses.
She contacted them, told them the DR&C website here in Ohio to check for themselves, sure enough, there he was. They only met and never went any further. She was refunded her money, he was booted off.
She is a Corrections Officer for the State Of Ohio, I am a retired officer. We both check out our dates and it may not be a bad idea if others did too. Men and women. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 10:58:46 AM | | I was on eharmony when I first became single. Met some nice guys, just no real click. But that is just like real life. One thing I did like was that they did not just match you based on age and location. I only quit because of the cost. I had no problems with it. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/29/2007 11:25:19 AM | eHarmony does do a good job at identifying a person, but there are some things that they do not take into account.
Looks, everyone is unique in this area and in what they like.
Chemistry, they only match you with people that you can get along with.
I tried it a couple of years ago, my matches were great people, but they would be people that would be friends. I would not want to have sex with my friends.
Another bad site is True. I have a my space and all I see are ads for True. These ads are designed by luring you in with thoughts of sex. A camera focusing on scantily dressed women. I even went through their questionnaires for typing relationship and sexual labels and they are focused on how people need to be into anal and oral in promiscuous places if you are to be happy. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 11:26:29 AM | Sweet mother of pearl.
I like, just finished selling my eHarmony stocks and buying True stocks.  | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/29/2007 11:28:55 AM | | ^^^^lol, yeah, POF is the best, but I don't think that they have stock options. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 4/29/2007 12:28:32 PM | | Ugh. I tried E-Harmony and I was to "Unique" for them to find matches for me. Total Bullsh*t to me. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 12:50:08 PM | There is ALREADY a thread currently running on EHARMONY sucking.
(Go to forums, then testimonials, subject is on first page, 12th one down.) | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 10:40:03 AM | | I agree. eHarmony is a site designed for women. A man can't specific what he likes in a woman. What it does is give women the feel-good stuff they like. Few men stay there. I would not join if it was free for men. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 2:09:59 PM | | E-Harmony sucked for me because it would keep giving me matches out of state. What the heck?! It is to hard to get to know someone out of state. As soon as my membership ended, I dropped them like a hot potato! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2007 6:46:01 AM | I'm on the fence about eharmony. They keep matching me with people who aren't really matches. I like it better than match.com though. I signed up for the deal that if you don't meet someone in 6 months, you get 6 months free. But there's certain criteria you have to fill every month, the hardest being that you have to email at least 5 members a month. The problem is I can't find 5 new members to email every month. It's hard to find that many people on there a month that stand out in any way.   As soon as that subscriptions expires, I'm out of there. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 6/2/2007 12:19:26 PM | | Not only do they suck but they are now being sued because they refuse to gays... | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 8/6/2007 3:42:58 PM | eHarmony does suck.
The matches I was getting were all intelligent and well-educated (yay), but they were all exercise junkies looking for activity partners. I walk with a cane, so that's not a match.
I wrote to the customer support people, and they had me fill out the questionnaire again. This time I painted myself as a lazy couch potato who's permanently glued to my Barcalounger. My friends would laugh.
I still got matched with long-distance hikers, cyclists, and guys in love with their soccer balls.
I wrote back to them about this. They wrote me an email explaining that perhaps I just needed to put up more photos of myself. I wrote back, saying they had to be kidding--the only reason eHarmony matched a "cripple" with nothing but jocks is that I didn't show enough cheesecake?!?
eHarmony sent me a formal apology. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 8:08:55 PM | Been there, done that. The problem with E-Harmony is that you have to jump through almost a week's full of hoops just to contact a match. It really is annoying and wastes a lot of time.
I was also displeased with the fact that, although I had to fill out a lenghty profile questionnaire, and specified things like "no kids" and "must have photo" I would all sorts of "matches" who answered no profile questions, had no photo, and had children. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 8/6/2007 8:49:45 PM |
I was also displeased with the fact that, although I had to fill out a lenghty profile questionnaire, and specified things like "no kids" and "must have photo" I would all sorts of "matches" who answered no profile questions, had no photo, and had children.
Same here. They are a complete waste of time. All the questions you answer apparently do nothing because they still try to match you with people whom you have ZERO in common with. I also selected a few items to weed out people, but it still did not help as I kept getting matches.
I was only a member for a month and after I canceled, they tried to rebill me. Then I kept getting spammed like crazy. I had to block them on my spam filter because it was so annoying.
I think they have unethical business practices. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 10:33:25 AM | I found some of the last minute "teasers" to get you to enroll again about 2 years ago when I first tried eHarmony. However, after two friends had pretty encouraging success, I tried it again and I am getting plenty of matches, and most seem like reasonable matches for me considering what is important to me. Of course, the rest is up to the individual to really "fine tune" it and see what "clicks".
eHarmony isn't for everyone. It IS for people who believe relationships are successful when more meaningful factors are considered first. It is NOT for people who judge mostly on physical attributes, who believe true love can be hurried (or are just impatient for it), or for people who don't really have a good sense of themselves yet (which isn't bad necessarily but the test won't really work for you). | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 11:16:59 AM | To the folks who tried e-harmony but were informed that a match for them could not be found, there's a rumor going around that e-harmony will not match persons who are atheist, agnostic, wiccan, or other 'alternate' religions.
I've never tried the site, I like to hang on to my money, but has anyone else seen this experience? | |
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