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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:09:13 PM | | Yep, it does. I called within two weeks and demanded my money back. I don't like the "guided communication"...you can't even look at profiles yourself, you have to wait to be spoon-fed your "matches" (and I use that term loosely). It's like watching paint dry over there. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:27:46 PM | E-harming me is a money scam. It's like meeting people and wearing brown paper bags over both your heads until the 4th date. They want to emphasize people bonding through personality dimensions not related to appearances, which is completely valid...but honestly, if there's no attraction, it's pointless. I don't know what kind of rhesus monkeys designed their "29 points of compatibility" but there was nothing appealing even about the personality types they sent out.  | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 3:49:54 PM | | I have been signed up on there for a very long time and in all that time i only ever had two matches . I can't say the selection on plenty of fish is all that better though. Seems like here all the men have special man mirrors that make them out to look like total hotties when they are just average or below average. Us average chicks are not good enough for them. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 4:56:16 PM |
To the folks who tried e-harmony but were informed that a match for them could not be found, there's a rumor going around that e-harmony will not match persons who are atheist, agnostic, wiccan, or other 'alternate' religions.
I've never tried the site, I like to hang on to my money, but has anyone else seen this experience?
I don't know because they wouldn't even let me create an account. After I spent 20 minutes filling out the f*cking personality profile, they said they only matched "single" people. Fine... I understand people figure separated people aren't single, but then say so at the beginning. Dump people before they waste their time going through all those questions. Stupid asses. I'm glad Auto Trader spoofed their commercials. | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 106 | |
| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 5:11:54 PM | .......After reading this little tidbit I'm starting to think I'm a little too anal retentive for ANY sane individual.........(thank God for my twisted twin who loves me)
......After I spent 20 minutes filling out the f*cking personality profile,....
20 F*CKING MINUTES...................are you serious?????
it took me over 2 hours.........I am NOT KIDDING........I am definitely a perfectionist( I now understand this isn't a compliment when people say it) and didn't want to make any mistakes(again, I KNOW I KNOW, I'm endeavoring to make more mistakes).................yea, that's when I knew I was too analytical for my own good.....................20 minutes...................wow!
I'm in awe of YOU!!!
Diva
Oh and about the matches.........I met one of my dearest friends there.........he and I have a pact if I'm not married when I'm 50.................we are true friends and he is instrumental in helping me write one of my most successful campaigns yet.............So as much as I don't "trust" $harmoney (I couldn't close my account to save my life ), I met a wonderful life long friend...........so I really can't complain........
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/27/2007 5:31:02 PM |
yea, that's when I knew I was too analytical for my own good.....................20 minutes...................wow!
It's possible it took longer than that... it was 2 years ago when I did it. I don't think it was anywhere close to 2 hours... that I would have remembered. Maybe it was closer to an hour, but I was running between the computer and a football game so it wasn't one full block of time I spent doing it. Either way, I wasn't very happy when I got that stupid message at the end of it all. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/28/2007 10:31:34 AM | I agree with the OP about e-harmony. My best guy friend and I both joined at the same time, and we had about the same luck. I received 3 matches 2 of which told me they were already talking with a couple of other people, and the 3rd one was nice, but despite all the talking and interest he seemed to show in me it never went anywhere.
My guy friend had 2 matches in like 3 months and one never responded; the other was a certifiable loon! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/28/2007 11:30:58 AM | Hmm? I agree that it's a bit too expensive but most of the reasons on here are a little shallow. If you want to judge people first on looks, then find another site but don't criticize eHarmony because they believe some other system works better. I can't say that I'm an expert or anything because I've only been a member for less than a week but my experience so far has been really good, almost 60 matches and all really great sounding guys. Maybe a few have been older than I'd like or not really attractive to me, but eHarmony recognizes that you are going to "close" some matches because of those things. However, at least you know you're starting with people who are compatible personality wise. The other factors you have to decide for yourself. Also, the communication process really isn't any slower than it is here and it's more meaningful. At least the guys get some guidance on what to say so it's not just "hey! you're pretty! wanna chat?" LOL!
No site is perfect for everyone and seeing as my eHarmony matches are vastly different from my matches on here, I'm not surprised there isn't much overlap. That still doesn't make it a bad site, just different. | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 110 | |
| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 9/28/2007 4:10:24 PM | | When I was on eHarmony I was matched with a woman who clearly violated their rules by understating her age by several years. eHarmony refused to require her to correct her age. They are not a good outfit. | |
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| Beware: e-WhoreMoney SUCKS!!
Posted: 10/29/2007 5:38:42 PM | e-WhoreMoney SUCKS
I was suppose to get 3 monthes for the price of 1 month.
They said I wasn't a paid up money after the first month.
I couldn't find their phone number on the website to cancel.
They continued to bill my credit card $30 a month.
Everytime I called to cancel from the phone number I got they said the
call volume was to high and to call back later. I always got this message
no matter when I called or the 20 times I did try to call no matter what day of the week that it was.
I didn't know they continued to charge my account because I thought I had only purchased 3 monthes (of which I only got 1 month) for a one-time only charge of $30.
$180 and six monthes later they refused to refund my account even though they admitted that they knew I hadn't logged onto the site for the last 6 monthes.
I call them every night for an hour since I want to get even by tieing up their tech people and customer disservice people. I advise everybody else they have ripped off to do the same thing to them--maybe they will get the message then.
That is some nerve to charge someone for 6 monthes of service they never got.
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| Beware: e-WhoreMoney SUCKS!!
Posted: 10/29/2007 5:41:34 PM | e-WhoreMoney SUCKS
I was suppose to get 3 monthes for the price of 1 month.
They said I wasn't a paid up money after the first month.
I couldn't find their phone number on the website to cancel.
They continued to bill my credit card $30 a month.
Everytime I called to cancel from the phone number I got they said the
call volume was to high and to call back later. I always got this message
no matter when I called or the 20 times I did try to call no matter what day of the week that it was.
I didn't know they continued to charge my account because I thought I had only purchased 3 monthes (of which I only got 1 month) for a one-time only charge of $30.
$180 and six monthes later they refused to refund my account even though they admitted that they knew I hadn't logged onto the site for the last 6 monthes.
I call them every night for an hour since I want to get even by tieing up their tech people and customer disservice people. I advise everybody else they have ripped off to do the same thing to them--maybe they will get the message then.
That is some nerve to charge someone for 6 monthes of service they never got. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2007 5:44:21 PM | | E-WhoreMoney wouldn't refund my money even though I never logged onto the site for 6 monthes! $180 down the drain. I could never get through to their customer service and their phone number is not on their site. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2007 5:45:52 PM | | I took their personality test once and they told me I wasn't the kind of person they want on their system..... | |
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| Beware: e-WhoreMoney SUCKS!!
Posted: 10/30/2007 5:47:50 AM | They continued to bill my credit card $30 a month.
Everytime I called to cancel from the phone number I got they said the
call volume was to high and to call back later. I always got this message
no matter when I called or the 20 times I did try to call no matter what day of the week that it was.
I didn't know they continued to charge my account because I thought I had only purchased 3 monthes (of which I only got 1 month) for a one-time only charge of $30.
$180 and six monthes later they refused to refund my account even though they admitted that they knew I hadn't logged onto the site for the last 6 monthes.
You should have gone into your account and canceled it there. Then if they'd kept debiting your account you could have disputed the charges with your bank and gotten your money back.
Not being able to get through = your account is still open. You can cancel any pay site by going into your account and doing it there. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/30/2007 7:10:16 AM | Attracted to physically? What, not cute enouugh for you?
For me, if I can talk to someone, really talk to someone, then I can get beyond the fact that they are not an Adonis. Who is after 25 or so anyway?
Believe me, skin hangs, and things don't work as well as they used to, if you catch my drift, after 25 or so.
What's left? Hey companionship. Friendship, shared activities. And maybe, if the guy can get beyond dreams of mermaids, decent sex.
What really gets me, here and elsewhere, if someone calls themselves fit and has to repeatedly sit down on an easy five mile uphile hike, then even if they have a flat stomach, they are not fit.
I can cyle 50 miles a day, swim an hour in a 68 degree ocean, dress a deer, etc. but I DO have love handles. I am a great cook and I like to eat. And folks in my age range 40 to 50 CANNOT keep up with me. Do I care?
No. But oh boy, if i am not tres cute, no guy, even an ugly flaccid bald guy isn't interested. Go figure. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 2:34:00 PM | Wow, my experience on eHarmony has been vastly different from the majority here. But maybe some of that is timing. I've been a member for about 2 months and this thread was started almost a year ago.
I get an average of 7 matches a day. 5 of 7 of them are usually spot on for complete compatibility, including not having kids, not wanting kids, needing a non-couch potato and someone who likes to travel. But then I spent about 2-3 hours filling out ALL the questionaires and was very specific about what I did and didn't want.
I may get more matches than the typical member because I don't limit to my geographical area since I am willing to relocate for a successful long-term match.
In the two months I've been a member I have had over 500 matches of which about half were ones I would have spent time getting to know better if they were interested in pursuing. I always wait for the man to initiate. I've had a few dozen get in contact. A little more than half of those have been closed out for one reason or another somtimes by him and sometimes by myself. I have met 3 of the gentleman. All three were just as they presented themselves on the site including appearance. Yes, they all had pictures. Maybe that is another difference form those of you who posted about your experiences last year.
I have found all of the matches I have corresponded with either via the site or by phone and those I have actually dated to be highly intelligent, thoughtful, kind and interesting men that I had a lot in common with. I haven't found eHarmony to be any more detrimental to finding good dates than any other online forum.
True, it is a paid site. And yes it isn't a free for all as in you can search out your own matches. But that's one of the things I like best about it. I like that they do the work of weeding out matches that wouldn't be a good fit personality and value wise. And as far as there needing to be a certain chemistry for two people to make a go of it, eHarmony doesn't dispute that, but that is no different than meeting people anywhere else either.
Also, the one time I had to contact eHarmony's customer service I was more than pleased with their availablity and willingness to help. Maybe they have upgraded their customer service since many of you were members as well because of the complaints they were getting from people such as yourselves who felt like they weren't doing a good job.
Anyway, to each his own. eHarmony works for me. Apparently it didn't work for most of you. The trick is finding the place that works for you whether that is online or elsewhere.
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/30/2007 2:36:03 PM | | You get seven matches a day!! My lord in 3 months of being on there i have only gotten 2 matches. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2007 2:45:01 PM | ^^^^^Believe me, I'm still shocked that I get that many matches a day, especially since all of them state they don't want children either. I thought not wanting children would severely limit my chances at getting a lot of matches.
I've been pleasantly surprised to find out that there are plenty of men in my age range that don't want children or at least any MORE children.
I'll admit that about half my matches are usually divorced men with children who don't want any more children, but the other half have no children and don't want any children. And there are a lot more men out there in their 30's who have NEVER been married either than I ever thought there would be.
You have to realize that the main reason I probably get so many matches is because I don't limit my search criterial to just my city or state. I live in a part of my state that is close to 3 surrounding states and some of the cities in those other states are closer geographically to me than cities in my own state.
Although, I don't limit my search geographically because I am willing to relocated about 1/4 of my matches are within 50 miles.
Oh, and I don't live in a large metropolitan area either. My city (which I really think of as a small town) only has a population of 40,000. That's why I do the online dating thing to begin with. I need a larger pond to fish in. :-) Most men my age in my city are either happily married or divorced with young kids. And sorry, all you men out their with young kids, you may be great guys and all, but I've made the choice not to have children of my own and I don't want to take on the responsibility of helping raise some one elses children.
Oh AND another thing (sorry the posts are so long - maybe that's another reason I get so many matches. I'm very detailed oriented and specific) I personally know two people who have met and married someone they were matched with on eHarmony. Both are still happy AND married to that same person. :-) | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/30/2007 7:15:44 PM | | All the more reason not to join. 60 responses from guys suggests to me that the site is mostly men. No man gets that many matches on E-Harmony. Too many men not enough women. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/30/2007 9:45:32 PM | I'm nearing the end of two 3 month runs . . . . out $ 120 for those 6 months. Net results:
1 match in Arizona I regularly IM . . . . but 1200 miles away
1 match in Florida . . . . occasional IM
1 match in north Oregon . . . . some contact (~2 calls/mt)
1 match in town . . . . e-mails but then silence
20 matches with some back and forths in Open Communication (as they didn't lead to the above).
And 900 closed matches - mainly due to distance (even many in Oregon, go figure). And what real good is a match is the other person can't respond? (well except to get some $ub$cription for eH)
The main part of the passive system is to get more paying members . . . . no pay, no play in their guided communication. However, they have free weekends maybe 4 times a year. Odd, though, they are highly rated which I why I had joined eH.
I think the best use of pay sites is another avenue to search for others with similar interests, then seek a way to contact them outside of that site . . . . if they leave clues in their "About me" sections. And for your profile to have such clues. 
Oh, and True, truely sucks.
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/31/2007 4:11:11 PM | bhcpp, I averaged about two new matches a week, and they weren't "matches" at all.
I mean, I guess if you put in an age range of 18-99 and are willing to go 100 miles to meet someone, you can get a million matches. Most people have a little more specific preferences than that, so they get fewer, depending on where they live. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/31/2007 4:32:16 PM | I Googled EHarmony and found almost nothing but complaints about that place. A very few, it seems, have had marginal success with them, but the vast majority of people seem to have nothing good to say about them.
There's an ongoing list of complaints on the ConsumerAffairs "dating services" page. If you can't find the url to it and want it message me and I'll give it to you... I keep it bookmarked. LOL!
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 10/31/2007 4:34:55 PM | | I hated Eharmony one bloke had the gall to tell me he was communicating with a woman he was intrested in but if it didnt work out he will contact me. He initiated the contact in the first place so i told him to GET STUFFED . What a wanker. | |
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| Beware: e-WhoreMoney SUCKS!!
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:40:18 AM | Just to add another experience....I was planning to de-activate my account before they automatically billed me for another month, but wanted to use the account right up until it expired, so I waited to close it until the very last minute. I had paid up until Nov. 4th and they re-billed me on Oct. 30. I have now clicked on 'close account' and found out that I can still use it until Nov. 30! So you have to really plan ahead if you want to leave.
Did you know that the default setting for age is 5 years younger but 20 years older -- at least for women (or at least for me)? They were matching me up with guys the same age as my father. I changed that setting and all of the other settings that I could find.
I thought it was dumb that they ask you how important a guy's height is but they don't ask you which height you prefer.
My final rant is that they tell you to contact them with any comments or suggestions, which I have done on several occasions, but they never respond.
I guess they need all of that cash to pay for their ads because they don't use it to provide a service.
I do like the psychological profiling idea, but like others have said, all of my matches at eHarmony live thousands of miles away and even though we have 'good phone', it's just a fantasy relationship. Who wants to move somewhere when you don't even know the person? And my town has a population of 2000, so slim pickins.
Happy fishing! And please don't waste your $$$ on eHarmony. It's a scam. | |
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