| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/9/2007 4:29:19 PM | You are rocking funny.... just about right ..... P absolute U .... those geezerfreaks are just nasty and Arrogant no less.... good, they shoud date themselves, break up with themselves and complain to themselves afterwards...
... we are better off here where we can have some fun with smart, funny people.... thanks for the laugh.... | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/9/2007 4:40:35 PM | E-harMONEY is by far the most unsatisfactory date site i have ever explored.
( yes, i have been on more than a few). The “science” behind it depends on
every member being both honest and somewhat self-aware, It is a classic
example of the old computer line about GIGO ( Garbage In, Garbage Out).
For those who have had trouble with quitting or removing their profile
on any of these sites( they especially like to keep female profiles around forever)
try adding lines about your desire for sexual debauchery with small furry animals
and pictures that prove it. That is what it took for me to get off of Match.
If you have been a member and are not sure, it is not a bad idea to check back in to see if you are still a member even though you think you quit. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/9/2007 8:32:52 PM | Both dates I have had from being on Eharmony at different times were the same guy, just different names. They even looked similiar and made me want to  I don't know what 0f the 29 dimensions we were compatible in...
Edit-btw, I recieved LOTS of matches. Most were maybe to having kids though and I put I definitely wanted kids. They were in my geographical area. I had one date in the one month I was on again Closed three once we got to open communication and some of their statements in their "real" voice blew me away. And it is expensive! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/10/2007 5:09:56 AM | Eharmony had no matches for me in the ENTIRE WORLD for the first month!
After that I was hooked up with a very loud, racist fireman whose vocabulary seemed to consist of mostly the f word, with a few mf's thrown in for more color.
The second guy was missing a tooth right in front.
After that I canceled and never looked back. | |
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Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 155 | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:19:11 PM | A complete waste of money! I think the odds of meeting someone would be better at McDonalds Playland!  | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:24:23 PM | | I hate paying for sites mainly because there's rarely ever anyone new joining. I was on match.com and went out with one guy. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:38:33 PM | | Well after reading all these posts I know I am not alone is this game called dating. I have tried many sites. EHarmony being the absolute worst. Did the free thing and was told there were no matches that I was part of the 20% (aka you need to pay) After trying some others, Match , Cupid and matchmaker with no luck I went back retook the test. Well a few matches were sent but I was never able to log into the account and see anything about these people except the few details they provided in the initial email. took awhile to contact anyone for real there by then the 3 month thing had run out. They said they never took the money from my account but they had. Went to the bank and they called them and they were told same thing well the bank told them they were paid. then i found out it was because when i took the free anaylsis i used one email and months later when i actually decidedt o join i used a different one. Which is bull because all the stuff was sent to one i used when I signed up being a paying member. They would not refund money. Someday I hope MR. EHarmony himself finds himself in jail for all the money he has ripted off. Haven't had any luck here either. AFF at least I have met some people but all in all just jerks. I have paid the big bucks for a professional matchmaker, but nothing there yet either. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:44:55 PM | | singlesnet.com is rather bad. you get a zillion email notifications long after you sign out of the site. so annoying. i will never pay for a dating site unless it is seriously cheap. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:41:04 PM | | ALL the pay sites suck. At least if nothing happens on POF, you got what you paid for. The only match Eharmony could find for me lived in another state!!! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:39:47 PM | Again, each experience is different. eHarmony really isn't that bad. I got over 100 matches the first month and I'm still corresponding with a few to see if it is worth meeting up. We definitely have things in common. Truly the only terrible thing about eHarmony is their age bias. If you don't pay attention, it gives you a "default" age range, never asks what you want it to be. I suppose most men might like it since it seems to be a -15/+2 years for men. Opposite for women. So while many of my matches are definitely compatible, a large majority are 50 years old or over with grown children, sometimes even grandchildren which is something I'm really not ready for yet.
The other thing I suppose is their rating system which supposedly helps the computer "finetune" your matches, but I can't get them to tell me what factors it is looking at.
So, it's not great, not bad.... pretty much similar to most online sites, has it's pros and cons. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:59:39 PM | I tried eHarmony when it first started. One of the big issues was the fixed age range which was matching me with women about 5-7 years older to 5-7 years younger and that was that. The system would not allow me to lower the upper age limit so I routinely closed out the matches too old for me to date. I finally wrote eHarmony a letter and told them I was closing out all the women too old to date and that eHarmony was doing them a disservice and needlessly hurting their feelings by matching them with men who were not intersted in dating them. eHarmony soon afterwards allowed members to select the age range they want although when one enters an upper age limit younger than that 5-7 above the member' s own age the system beeps and provides their suggested range. One has to deal with that, but the system will take what one wants now.
I explained to them their suggested age parameters were fine for the 20's to early 30's folks but they do not work for older people.
eHarmony also allow women to lie about their ages. When the discrepancy is reported eHarmony ignores it, doing nothing about it although lying about one's age violates the eHarmony contract. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2007 2:38:22 PM | Notard, while it is good that one now gets to choose an age range, there is still a default and one has to know that they can go edit and change it, so it's not totally fixed yet. I would like to say though, that eHarmony was doing no disservice to women by matching them with men within 5-7 years of their age older OR younger. I would say that is an ideal range and happens to pretty much be the one I use as a rule of thumb. Perhaps matching them specifically with you was a disservice, but I can speak from experience when I say that I'm sure none of them minded being "closed" by you. You are obviously looking for a trophy wife and the more quality women around your age can spot that from a mile away. Trust me, they're not looking for you either. Too bad, there isn't a spot on eHarmony to list that. Oh yeah, but then, you'd be rejected. So sad.
Edited to add: There are sites that are specifically for women looking for older sugar daddies. Even if you are having luck on here, I would guess the fishing would be even better on those sites. I'm not knocking your choice; everyone has different things they want. But please don't go around assuming that all men think like you do. It's not fair, and it's not true. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2007 3:44:09 PM | eharmony has some shortcomings but it's still better than most. It has two primary problems:
1) The way the thing is marketed as a "marriage" service. It makes people (especially women) think they take a little personality test, pay the money and out pops prince charming.
Nearly every single date felt like a job interview.
2) Semi-deceptive business practices. When you quit the service, until you go into your profile and turn off matching, they will continue to shop your profile around. So women may be requesting to talk to you and you don't even use the service any more. Nowhere during the cancellation process did they make this known to me. I happened upon it because I was sick of getting match and communication emails from them after I cancelled.
Ultimately, this decietfulness creates an environment where the users question how legitimate their "matchmaking" process is. And if you have no faith in their process, then it's just another dating site, and an expensive one at that.
The upside to eharmony is that it costs and so people who are there are usually not fooling around. They do want to meet someone. It cuts down slightly on the flakiness factor. But, as I said, because of the unrealistic expectations the service creates, you get dates but they usually don't go anywhere. Most of the women I met were ridiculously picky and when I detected this in their personalities I just shut down and tried to think of a way to end the date as soon as possible.
"Wow you're handsome, you're funny, I love the same music as you, I.... wait, are you putting cow's milk in your coffee??!!! Oh. I only drink soy milk. This will NEVER work out." That's sort of how it feels on some of those dates. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2007 4:01:17 PM | [QUOTE] The other thing I suppose is their rating system which supposedly helps the computer "finetune" your matches, but I can't get them to tell me what factors it is looking at. [/QUOTE]
I feel strongly it is based on the MBTI (Meyers Briggs Personality Type Indicator) and that's where the "deep compatibility" supposedly comes from. I'm an ENTP and I supposedly match best with INTJs, and I must say that 99% of my matches were of the occupation "engineer" which is laden with the INTJ type.
Very few men in my area are on eharmony.com and I also found out that women outnumber men 2 to 1. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/29/2007 10:46:10 PM | | I know someone who has a profile on eharmony. A friend of my brothers... he is dating 7 women that he has been matched up to. All at the same time and none of them know about the others. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 11/30/2007 3:23:25 PM | "Try it you'll like it!"
"I tried it and thought I was gonna die!"
That about sums up my experience with "Ew-DIS-harmony"
I have tried many different pay sites, some of which have already been mentioned.
Yahoo!Personals, Match.com, etc etc.
Then I stumble upon some interest specific sites. BaptistPeopleMeet.com, PetPeopleMeet.com, SingleMothersMeet.com and so on. All run by the same company obviously. On some of them the matches were horrible. On others they weren't so bad but not in my area. And still others they were local but wacko!
Out of all the online dating sites, I did find one where I actually have met some fairly level headed, attractive, intelligent, local women to date. My current GF is one who I found on the -----------PeopleMeet.com sites. Not too expesive either.
All in all, I think one just has to keep searching until you find that one you are looking for. Makes sense to me at least. And do NOT limit yourself to online dating. That is just asking for trouble, IMO.
I like it here for the forums. I only found ONE other site which had forums and I like being able to communicate in a way other than "rokincowgirl" sent you a flirt. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 12/1/2007 6:05:19 AM | Yes I had bead experiences with Eharmony too. I got alot of closed matches that gave the reason "no physical attraction/chemistry" after viewing my profile....OUCH. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 10:43:38 AM | | The only Good I've heard about E-harmony is in their commercials! And after reading this forum thread I'm even more convinced that pay sites are a waste of time and money. I've only tried Yahoo personals, nothing, nada, zip zero. not a single response in 6 months! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2007 10:43:37 AM | Hi SingleMomE,
It is not only you that had problems:
I was with eH for 1.5 year. I was matched with about 400 girls. I was "fortunate" enough to met with 5 girls (not women. about 30+ year old full of complexes girls).
First one - 31 year old, full of compexes introviert, with big attiturte problems.
Second one - 33 year old, who seemed to be fine, but was so lost and insecure that did not work at all.
Third one - had some emotional problems. She thought that everyone is using and abusing her.
Fourth one - 35 year old video-game addict. She would have rather virtual s*x than real life one. :)
And the last one. 33 year old, also full of coplexes, running away and hiding her hear in the sand. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2007 3:21:31 PM | Hmmm ... seems most people have been on several sites.
Which tells me that all the sites are just more of the same people.
So why pay for a site to meet the same people you will meet on a free site.
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 12/27/2007 3:37:55 PM | | True. I don't think I got a single decent email the entire i was a member. It was always someone who wnated to steer me to a webcam service. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2007 3:39:47 PM | I havent tried eharmony- I'm on a students budget.
But I did try out a catholic site that I like which also has lessons and chat rooms. I got tired of guys on this site when we got as far as a actual face to face date, would expect to sleep with me on a first date, no matter what I put in my profile. I think I'll stick with the catholic guys,---at least I know what they are supposed to believe.
I know that in todays world it may be old fashioned- but- for me it is how I believe, and is definately safer. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 12/27/2007 3:43:05 PM | eHarmony is a riot. I have 25 matches there now. Most are sitting there... going no where, because those users aren't paid or may not even be alive at this point in time. Some, are slowing moving along in eHarmony's super slow "get to know you" guided process. And 3 are sitting in "open communication", but are going no where because all 3 men, are just toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo busy to do more then send me a howdy-do messages every other week. And for all that... I paid?
TOO FUNNY!!!! | |
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