| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:10:52 AM | | I was rejected by e harmony and I don't think that was very fair especially since I have been out of the assylum for 2 weeks now :-) | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 3/11/2008 1:37:03 PM | I found that eHarmony relaxes your selection preferences to give you matches. Eg location, background, etc. I met a few people from eHarmony but there was little chemistry. Some people just wanted to find a 'friend' on this dating site.
I found EHarmony’s structure to be a useful way to enter the online dating scene. After I ended my subscription, I was sent many offers to return at reduced rates. I would advise people who want to use eHarmony to cancel early to get the better rates. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 1:40:08 PM | | I tried eharmony here recently,I paid for one montht to see if it would be more real and different, not !!!!!!!! I canceled them a week later,from what I seen my opinion was they totally suck but I have it untill Apr 4 after that they are gone. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 3/11/2008 1:50:09 PM | Thanks for then heads up! Never have bitten on any of their ads.
POF rules!! Free rules!! | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 3/11/2008 2:05:58 PM | I tried these guys a while back....it sucked.Worst yet,I paid for it to suck. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 3/28/2008 8:29:22 PM | I don't have much success here, and it's getting frustrating, so I'll be damned if I PAY to be ignored.
I'd rather hire a prostitute. At least I would get SOMETHING out the deal. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 8:59:07 PM | I wasn't being matched with toads, but they were older than I am and I prefer someone a little younger. You don't have a choice as to age preference. That was the main reason I quit.
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:59:32 AM | Chemistry's website sucks too.
Both sites are the same and they both kill chemistry before it even happens. Its so slow and tedious. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:06:42 PM | I think eHarmony is pretty good for men at least: 3 women for every 2 men; initiating communication is as easy as clicking a few buttons (no wasting bunches of time writing personal introductory messages only to never get a response); pricing isn't too bad if you game it a bit and wait for them to offer you a discount.
I'd rather pay a little and actually meet people. This site is nice for the forums (though eHarmony even has free forums now), but I'd basically have to move (probably to Canada) to meet someone on here. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:15:39 PM | For me it was almost like they ignored *my* preferences and geared things toward the men's preferences. (Well, it was designed by a man, eh?)
Also, the tests they do on you are set up in a way that "ass/u/mes" certain things about you at the get-go, so can't be all that accurate after all.
JMHO of course, but it is expensive so I think when this month runs out, so will I.
Met some very, very nice men there, but sadly, no chemistry. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:59:41 PM | I think eHarmony can do a few things to greatly improve itself:
-- It is the only major dating site on the net that won't allow you to *reply* to an e-mail if you're not a paying member. Makes it awfully frustrating for those of us who were paying members that about 90% of the people we initiated contact with were unable to reply even if they wanted to. Or at the very least add an option so that paying members won't even see their non-paying matches so we don't have to waste our time perusing profiles of people who will never be able to reply.
-- Add a browse feature. Yeah, I know eHarmony prides itself with only showing us profiles of "perfect" matches, but it's pretty silly to think that an Excel spreadsheet is better at gauging who I am interested in better than I am. Sometimes the 90% solution is just fine when you find that the other 10% is negotiable.
-- Stop matching me with people who live two time zones away from me. Their "flexible matching" sucks rocks. I couldn't have made it more clear on their site that I want to be matched only with women who live close to me. I'm not relocating for anybody, and frankly don't want a woman who's so desperate that she'll move halfway across the country just to be with a guy she's never even met. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:22:31 PM |
It is the only major dating site on the net that won't allow you to *reply* to an e-mail if you're not a paying member.
I don't think any of the major pay sites let you send messages or replies without paying. Last I heard, you could not even read messages you received on match.com without paying.
Their "flexible matching" sucks rocks. I couldn't have made it more clear on their site that I want to be matched only with women who live close to me.
If you set "distance" as "very important" in your "Match Flexibility" parameters, it will not send you people from outside your specified distance, anything less than that, and you'll get matches from everywhere. The real problem with eHarmony is that it's user interface is difficult to figure out with respect to controlling what matches you get, and the default parameters are rarely ideal.
Also, at least in my experience, if eHarmony is sending you "flexible matches" is has probably already sent you every possible match under whatever parameters you have set, so being able to browse wouldn't let you find anyone else anyhow. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:26:57 PM | I tried to sign up for eharmony a few years ago because it was free and after filling out the insanely long personailty profile at the end all they could say was "we cant find a match for you" I was pissed to say the least. And I filled out the profile thing while bring a criminal drug addict and then again when I was a totally diffrent person and clean and both times "cant find you a match" whats up with that??  | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:56:50 PM | | anyone tried sugardaddie.com? I'm guessing it really sucks for the girls as far as getting replies wonder how it is for the guys, since theres a huge imbalance like 100 girls for every guy. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:58:19 AM | | I felt they even resort to matching you up with *every* possible person in your area, within age preference only, because they don't have enough customers to actually match you on "all dimensions." | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:16:34 PM | After a year's subscription with E harmony, I have unsubscribed. When I unsubscribed, they left me a message box to tell them why. I suggested to them that they were purposely mismatching me. Of all the sites of many, this one has a great sales pitch, but does not deliver at all! I truly believe there is something very wrong with the site and the system. My advice is, stay away from Eharmony!
As far as dating sites in general goes, I am moving away from them. I have joined it's just lunch. I like the personal approach. I like the personal interview. I like that it's expensive. Anyone who's is willing to pay that much money had better be serious about finding a true love. Well, at least that's my thought. LOL so far so good. I have been matched with women that actually match me. So far, I have been introduced to three women. First one we did not click second one we have clicked. But there are some issues she is currently having. That are keeping us apart. Third lady. I have a second date with, and she is very sweet.
Hey, if something is working for you, keep using it. If it is not working for you, find something that does.
Good luck all :-) | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:38:18 PM | My own eHarmony experience was relatively pleasant. I met a couple of nice ladies, one with some chemistry, things fizzled after a few months but I learned a lot about dating. I don't agree with all their selection criteria.
With gas prices rising, proximity is important and they don't place much emphasis on it. I would never want a long distance relationship again, I prefer a little more spontanaeity. Conversely place a ten mile perimeter on potential lifemates seems quite short-sighted.
All in all, I concur with the consensus that free offers up just as many real choices. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 3:10:55 AM | will never paid to find women
I have been spying some of my friends behaviors and have found out
that by going to the bars and getting drunk you will get a lot of attention
most of my friends have the woman of their dreams and they found them at the bars. | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:37:56 AM | | well damn, i am so happy i read these. i hate eharmony. i join, unjoin. go back join again. they never are able to match me with anyone i would reasonably consider. when they do have someone i'm interested in either they are some nigerian scammer, felon in prison that has computer access once a week, or some guy that thinks he is too good to date me. i have seen most profiles with no pic or the gap jeans ad guy posted. match.com is not a lot better. the men think that they are entitled to being picky, which yes they are. most of them are on there 5 yrs + cuz they are so picky. makes you go hmmmm. tried singlesnet, found a few guys was getting along very well for about a month with one guy that seemed a great match. after a month of talking all the time and two dates, he decided that i'm bigger than he likes. there's always some reason why you aren't what the guys are looking for no matter how much you have to offer. bright spot-the last one told me how awful pof is. decided to check it myself. all in all it's informative. and i don't have to pay for men to reject me. lmao | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:34:32 AM | eHarmony said I wasn't compatible with any one in the world.
Talk about depressing.  | |
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| Beware: eHarmony sucks...
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:29:11 PM | | I second that. In fact, I would rank Eharmony as the worst pay dating site out there. Even match.com is better. I know...ouch! | |
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