| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/12/2005 2:41:02 PM | | Gee I honestly never knew there was a problem with deaf girls. I've seen some of the ones from the school in St. Augustine Fl.......they're hot. Communication barrier.....part of the fun is learnign to communicate with those you care about. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/13/2005 6:18:11 PM | | Trust your inner sense. If a guy is too flashy avoid him. If a guy ever seems to put down people in any subtle way, avoid him. Now that you know what you want out of a guy, don't hesitate to walk up to someone that you think is a good match for you and introduce yourself. I have always respected a woman who knows what she wants and tries to achieve it. You said earlier that you can watch peoples body language. Use that skill now. I am not saying that you must walk up to a complete stranger and say hi I am saying use that skill and notice who is out there and when enough time has passed take a chance. Of course someone might be interested in you so don't discount that possibility but definitely use your inner judgement. Heck I might take my advice myself! lol | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 8:40:18 AM | I can help witht his post... I can answer a few of your questions if you'd like to email me you can too. I used to be deaf on my left ear kids were mean to me all through school even when I had this operation on my ears to get them fixed so, I could be normal and not wear hearing aids I still got made fun of it wasn't easy for me to bring this up but hey I will help. I was only deaf on my left ear but we found a doctor for me to fix my left ear. I am pretty much normal but I am slow at learning a few things but fast on learning new technology. I do still lip read but I hide the fact to some people that I was deaf fearing of what they might think. But I do tell the person if I am dating them I just don't tell them until some point later on because, like I said fearing of what they might think. They already freak because I had open heart surgery and I have scars on my right arm also on my chest. Kids made fun of me on my scars on my arm they kept saying I was doing drugs and I am not that type of girl to do drugs! But other then that describe this girl who you are talking about because, I communicate pretty well and I don't know what is so difficult about dating a deaf girl we are all normal  I didn't read all of the replies so...  | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 9:01:33 AM | I get that sometimes, that I am drunk or on drugs. Not because of any scars but because of my accent. Hearing people are so used to hearing that they take it for granted sometimes. They have never been in close contact with the deaf community so I don't get upset I just let it slide and usually one of my friends will correct the person and say, "Look he/she is deaf." Then everything is ok :) I have had my share of people who have mocked me and the best thing to do is just walk away. There is a scripture in the Proverbs that says, "Correct not a scorner, lest he hate you". If you read some more you will find that the best way to deal with those types is to push them out of your lives, forcefully if needed.
Being deaf has allowed me to contemplate things that I am sure that most of us think about but in a way that exposes a new side to things. So deaf people are special and my hope is that we realize that and not let it be a hindrance to our happiness. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 9:12:49 AM | Hey Strawberry lips:
Don't sweat it, eh - I've got the cochlear implant which on its own is very strange to look at.. I get odd looks from people because most people have never seen a guy walking around with a cord coming out from behind his ear.. my accent turns heads as well, because it's got a bit of a thick German swagger mixed with some guttural Scottish consonants.. I often can feel people looking at me when they hear me speaking, and while I do find it unsettling, I try to get used to it.
As for scars - guess what hon, I've got operation scars all over my stomach.. a doctor once joked that my stomach looked like a battlefield. It comes from some major life-threatening and life-saving surgery that I had as a baby, and it was the antibiotics from that that killed my hearing. So I have one long one going from my sternum all the way down to just above my ----, and another cutting right across my lower stomach, about 6 inches below my bellybutton and cutting across from one side all the way to the other. I've got a big one on my knee from when I wiped out on a scooter on a gravel road, one pulpy red-looking thing on my shoulder from another operation, a deep gash on my left shin from when I nearly fell down a manhole in eastern Ukraine (and yes, lived), one on the inside of my left arm from the IV that I had when I was a baby, and two or three other minor scars. And yes I used to feel very insecure about all of that, and my accent too.
But now that I'm older it's really about having the right attitude... most people out there are good, understanding folk, and they'll understand if you give them a short explanation... they respond even better if you have a sense of humour about it. When I'm in bed with a woman and she asks me about the scars on my stomach, I sometimes roll my eyes and say: "Oh no, do I have to tell that story again?" and go into some ridiculous story about I got attacked in an alleyway in Detroit or got caught by a bomb in Fallujah...
Anyway my point: don't fret about the yahoos out there who like to make fun of you. They're everywhere and they are just jacka$$es. Don't let it bug you. You've got something that sets you apart from the rest of them... so use it to your advantage!!
Cheers
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 9:21:50 AM | | Yeah I try not to let it bug me I saw this girl bethany the other day I don't even know who she is I went to school with her and she flat out hates me! What did I even do to her to get her to hate me???? I don't get it... Everytime I run into her like I did last year at a concert she just glares at me and she also whispered about me. I didn't do anything to her nor do I not know her at all what is her problem LMAO. I know her name yes but every time I run into her it's like I feel like I want to walk up to her and go what is your problem dude. But I ignore it I just realize she is just jealous but oh well her problem. I rarely see this girl so, it doesn't bother me I also have to tell guys when they ask me if I have a friend for there friend that I don't have any friends. When they says why I tell them the whole story by detail I don't know how else to explain it to them. I watched this show on lifetime called "odd girl out" I love that show now it is true, girls and people just put other people in misery because of there past. So I just ignored it though it did take me until like I was 19 to ignore it but I surrvived the mean people. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 9:51:46 AM | | It is not hard to date a deaf girl if she can read lips. However there may be some deaf girls that a particular man does not want to date and the girl blames her deafness. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 11:10:31 AM | | I guess I was lucky to have grown up with a couple of deaf friends. It made me see people for who they are instead of their handicaps. As for the speach patterns of the deaf, how the heck could these idiots mistake you all for "being drunk or on drugs". I knew the difference even as a kid....hmm, maybe 'cause my dad was an alcoholic. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 11:47:22 AM | first off b/c shes hot.
2nd b/c blah blah blah (who's gonna listen nod and laugh) LOL
where is the helper if they can't help but not listen
because she's always already acting like the gal about break up with you (distant...acting dumb like she can't hear you)
speak to the hand lol
I don't konw are you deaf...sorry if you are..its just something to get over...I speak with my hands being some italian...and mass media has made me fingers do the walking...phone book...
you'll find someone (if this what happening) | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 11:50:42 AM | can a deaf girl tell when a guy is making the noise of a sea lion - in bed
because she does it for him?
sorry poor taste
will buy better taste
(sorry that sounded like the trick for reading chinese fortune cookies)
your decent and you will find someone who wants to "talk" with you at length
and for you...the soul matters...everything is is BS (specially on your death bed)
best wishes
I have to hand it to you
you're someone special | |
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| guys difficulty deaf girl - most guys dont read body language and baby language like woman do
Posted: 4/14/2005 11:55:25 AM | maybe like this email thing..its gets like WORK to READ the person if you can't get the quick
i'm fussy
I'm hungry
hey baby
come here
words are lazy and easier way to communicate for guys...so I guess...having to turn to face you (or not being to sign to you) may have reduced your constellation of elligibles...
YOU NEED A PATIENT guy in an impatient world (or someon taht can sign or turn to you so you can read his lips..or write to you>>)
hmmm thansk I never thoguht about it...I've been a mute for so long myself..(a non talking MIME) I was depressed because I lost someone that was my life...(andn hart in san fran bwahahahh boo hoo) Anyway frig it I'm back
Must be active and talk....not everyone can read me (if I be silent and in active....)
hellen keller scene...with water...and water pump....splash splash splash.....WATER WATER WATER (everywhere and many drops to drink!!!)
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 4:07:13 PM | | Attention all women! If you have a cute butt I will date you! If I found out a girl I was dating was the Anti-Christ bent on deystroying mankind I would - hey but she has a cute a*s! So I don't think deafness would be a problem. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 4:24:46 PM | so great, now we've established i'm speical.. yeah.. I have the whole accent thing.. I've had people ask where I'm from. Ive been told that i've got an west coast accent- and get this I've never been to the west coast!!! I just giggle when they tell me and go aww ure just flattering me and theyre shocked when they find out i grew up in wisconsin but then explain that i'm deaf. Then they go... *ohhhh* *silence* *mumbles to self* how... and they just had a ordinary converstation with me a min ago. and... sure i do have a cute butt but hey taht's not why your gonna date a girl.. ur gonna date a girl hopefully bcz of their personality.  | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 4:39:30 PM |
sure i do have a cute butt but hey taht's not why your gonna date a girl.. ur gonna date a girl hopefully bcz of their personality.
lol don't tease these guys!
Anyways, today I went in and enrolled for summer classes the advisor started signing when she saw me and I stopped her saying, "I don't know sign lol". She then asked can you hear? and I said yes lol. we were just talking right?
I run into this all the time  | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 4:44:40 PM | from the profile of the person who called you special --
Looking to meet the average, cool person to go do stuff with.I don't want to toot my own horn but BEEP BEEP TOOT TOOT I'm awesome but enjoy others as well.
your'e not the only one who is special goofy lol
lol we all are special! | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 4/14/2005 5:25:45 PM | | I spent a year learning ASL ( took ASL 1,2,3, and a fingerspelling class). I dated a couple of deaf men in this time. I met them at the Silent Dinners and activities at the Deaf Service Center. It was not hard to communicate- it just took a little patience, more on their part, having to slow their sign down for me to understand. As I learned more, I communicated better. I believe that if a person is willing to take the time to learn to communicate, then anything is possible- that is applicable in any relationship really. | |
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