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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/27/2005 10:29:18 PM | I DO NOT NOW WHY? BUT I TELL YOU SOMETHING A I WILL STABLISH SOME COMUNICATION WITH YOU IF YOU REALLY LIKE IT. I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A FRIEND LIKE YOU IT WOULD BE MY PLASURE TO TALK TO SOME ONE LIKE YOU I HAVE NEVER HAD A FRIEND THAT IS DEAF LET'S HAVE SOME CONVERSATION OK  | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 1:34:06 PM | | Being a deaf woman myself .. I find people are intimidated .. too worried about" what could I possibly say?" ... can she understand the english language .. If people would just take the time .. they soon would "SEE" .. it's easier than it seems! | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 5/29/2005 1:40:15 PM | | How about a tap on the shoulder to get her attention? .. sure it may a second out of your time .. but taking that very second could mean alot to that woman! .. speaking in a clear voice without exaggerating your words .. use body language..facial expressions .. she's not daft .. she just can't hear ... even hearing people use gestures on a daily basis .. they just don't apy attention to them... go ahead give it try ! .. you may end up with your soulmate! | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 7:04:46 PM | | Well, I myself have perfect hearing and dated a deaf girl, We are still friends and keep in touch through email. My best friend married a deaf girl and has learned the language, they have 4 kids. I like deaf people, they are more honest than people who can hear for some reason. BTW, I myself learned sign language while in school and have been involved in efforts to help people with varying dis-abilities | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 3:28:11 AM | Absalom
Thank you for your comment! " I like deaf people, they are more honest than people who can hear for some reason." Now everyone here Pay attention ! 
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Posted: 5/31/2005 6:44:21 PM | I dated a female who's partially deaf.
It didn't bother me too much, except sometimes, I had to repeat things so she wouldn't misunderstand me, or I'd ask her to repeat stuff 'cause I couldn't understand her all the time. Our relationship didn't dissolve because of that, so I suppose I'd date another female who was hearing impaired.
I did learn how to communicate with her pretty well, eventually, though. I'd date another female who was hard of hearing. Just not that one. Wouldn't bother me. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2005 12:55:29 AM | Not hard at all. Nothing wrong with sign language and touch is always a nice thing.
Maybe I'm biased, but every deaf girl I've met has been exceptionally nice.
I find people that pick on deaf people usually don't like me after I talk to them for some reason. | |
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| why is it hard for guys to date a deaf girl
Posted: 10/16/2005 5:37:41 PM | Brilliant to read some of these comments. I'm hard of hearing myself and tis v interesting to read people's views on this topic.
Interesting too, I myself for some reason am brutally honest and if anything too much so...does anyone have any idea what the link could possibly be between a hearing problem and honesty? I don't really..
I guess the only thing I can say for myself is that communication is too valuable to be wasted on lies... | |
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Posted: 10/16/2005 5:44:37 PM | I took ASL classes alongside interpreting students, so we studied Deaf culture a lot.
I always figured the brutally honest thing was just a culture issue.
At any rate, it is very true.
If a Deaf person sees you for the first time in a while, and you have gained weight, he or she will blithely tell you so. :P | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 8:01:10 AM | Wow...cool to see at least two others with Cochlear Implants!! I have one, as well! :o)
Would love to know where GBG get's his "facts" from regarding deaf persons making better drivers, not getting headaches, etc?
SOME deaf may make better drivers for the simple reason that they have less distractions such as radio, cell phones, kids screaming, etc...but at the same time, they are not as keen to emergency sirens, horn honking, etc. So it is a flip situation...kinda evens out and puts them right up there with the rest of the drivers...normal. LOL
Headaches...you may get less headaches caused from environmental sounds, such as kids screaming, a jackhammer, loud music, etc...but another flip side, if you wear hearing aids, you may get MORE headaches from same because aids amplify and distort those sounds! LOL
I don't know ANY GUY who has had a hard time dating me...but I am not a "typical Deaf" person...meaning I am about total communication...I socialize with anyone, and do not just lump myself into a deaf society.
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Posted: 11/26/2005 8:07:16 AM | Harley, if you have a cochlear implant, the Deaf people I know would tend to consider you deaf, not Deaf. The capital D is the culture, the little d just means you can't hear.
Do you consider yourself part of the Deaf community? If so, do they accept you?
I have encountered much bias against cochlear implants in the local Deaf community. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 9:25:49 AM | | I don't think it is. I dated someone who is hearing impaired and it was great. I did things on a date I don't normally do and it opened up a whole new side of me. I learned how to sign and for a short time she taught me to experience things using all my senses at the same time. She is a very special person. My only regret was that it didn't last. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:10:42 PM | My sister is deaf, she's had a tough time dating hearing guys. There is usually a communication barrier. The last hearing guy she dated took her to see the Sound of Music!!!! What a putz!!!! She's now engaged to a really nice deaf guy, thank God!!!!  | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 11:22:12 AM | Hi Smith...
Yeah...I posted similar in another deafie thread...all about the Big D versus little d deaf. I considered myself deaf prior to my implant...always have been about total communication. Now I consider myself hearing with my CI, deaf without. It's sad how people with so many commonalities can be " at war" with one another with the CI. I know of Deaf who "hope" their child will be born Deaf...who have children that are deaf and deny them the chance of a CI because they think the CI makes a person a "robot" (go figure!) or that it was "meant to be" for them to be deaf. I wonder if it is pride, fear, or ???? To me...and as a parent of four who also have my hereditary hearing loss...I feel it is neglectful to not allow my children the most opportunity to have all that is available for them. I mean, to justify it with how they were born with it...seems preposterous to me. They were also born with little skills, knowledge, etc...but we still offer those to them. *sigh* To each their own choice when it comes to themself...but when it comes to their children, it just aggravates the heck out of me!
KitKat....I would have loved having a date offer to take me to see the Sound of Music! Most shows ARE interpreted...and the visuals are still enticing to a deaf person! Plus...the guy could have been a charmer who attempted to interpret what was happening/what the story was about. :o) | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 1:51:28 PM | I dated a guy who was deaf in one ear and used hearing aides in the other. It was great when we were alone, but difficult when out in crowds because he felt isolated most of the time which left me feeling guilty. It started to feel more like caretaking...something I am familiar with and don't want in an intimate relationship...not to mention he was allergic to everything outdoors and I LOVE to be outside all summer...not my match but an awesome man!!
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Posted: 11/27/2005 3:54:30 PM | >>>The last hearing guy she dated took her to see the Sound of Music!!!! What a putz!!!!
Yes, that would be deaf with a little d.
Deaf are not the least bit embarrassed that they can't hear. They don't consider it a handicap. As long as the movie had subtitles, or was interpreted, they wouldn't mind watching it.
Harley--I understand why they want their kids to be Deaf. And why they don't like the CI.
It has to do with their culture, and their beautiful language--and would not both die, if deafness were "cured"? | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 10:08:55 PM | Okay, I guess it's time for me to have MY say....I'm also deaf, although I never really considered myself as such until speaking up at these forums...just 'hard of hearing', although it is considered 'profound'. I wear 2 aids, and lip read extremely well. I also took ASL in college, although since I had no one to practice it with, I forgot most of it. My parents fought in court over whether I would join the deaf community and sign, or learn lip reading in a public school system, and my mom won, and so I learned lip reading, and mingled with the normal hearing folks. I honestly have no regrets about it.
As for the bit about driving better, if you go to another thread about the deaf, you'll see my experience with that and you'll know that there is at least one cop who will disagree.. LOL!
@NBL #62...Boy, you are right about the having to concentrate to hear. Phone calls were always the worse...I love the internet...it has become my 'phone'. It's so nice to be able to 'hear' without all the concentration that tends to take all the fun out of it.
One thing that I've never heard from any of my deaf compadres, is how nervousness affects hearing, at least on the phone. Is it only me? If I'd meet someone on line here who is going to call me, most likely I'd have a hard time hearing, maybe because I WANT so bad to make sure I hear, but after I know someone better, it's much easier. Of course, that could also have to do with the fact that after someone knows you, they are willing to work with you and make sure you hear, and you KNOW that...(Uh oh, I see this going full circle, because at that point you are relaxed) ACK! Am I making any sense???
What is SEE? I'm lost.
@Gary msg 98, & LLS msg 113, (and others following along the same lines)..who signs/writes notes during sex? C'mon! Most of us can hear/make moans and sounds, and aside from that, hands can be used to show what works and what doesn't, and words aren't needed to shift someones position. Like I said in another post, the only thing lacking is that I can't hear those 'sweet nothings' whispered in my ear, but it's my loss, not yours. (You can still whisper them...they don't require a response, do they?) I've never heard a complaint in this dept, and my sexual encounters have all remained long term.
@Smith msg 140, As for the honesty issue, I, too, am very honest...I've always described myself as "Probably the most honest person you've ever met". However, I DO have tact, and would not mention a weight gain. I wouldn't lie..I just wouldn't say something that would make someone feel bad.
........And msg 147, Are you kidding me? People actually WISH for their children to be deaf, so that sign language won't die? That has got to be the most selfish thing I ever heard of!!! If people want to keep ASL alive, do it by sign-singing...it is so beautiful, and you don't have to be deaf to appreciate it!!! Lots of things are kept alive for the Historical value, but to wish this on your kids, just isn't right!! (That's my opinion, anyway) My mom has always said that if she could have one wish before she dies, it would be for me to hear. (This is really more of an issue for her, than me). This is what unselfish love is about...
My daughter was born with hearing that is 'better' than most..(she can 'hear' lights in a parking lot!), and I'm so happy for her!!
@HarleyKat...good to see you again. I read this thread from the beginning, and kept thinking, "I wonder why HarleyKat isn't on here?" Then at the last page, there you are, and as usual, I'm in total agreement with everything you have to say. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2005 7:09:25 AM | Hi Smith...
Thing is...the CI is not a "cure" for deafness...it is simply another sort of hearing device...though a miraculous one! They can turn it off just like a hearing aid and still be Deaf...and, the biggest no-brainer, they can still utilize ASL!! Most interpreters I know, sign no matter who they are talking to...for practice, habit, etc....
So no...their culture would not die. If anything, it opens doors of appreciation for multiple cultures. Hey...we are supposed to have hearing. Eventually, there will be a pill to swallow to restore hearing in those with sensorneural loss...and Deaf parents can assure that their children are living the fullest life with every possibility presented to them and still keep their culture alive. Heck...I am German but I don't need to live there to know about my culture and ancestry!
Hi again, Dcee!! :o) As I said in the other post...tomorrow is your big day and I am so excited and anticipating hearing from you to see how it went!! | |
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