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Posted: 6/11/2005 8:33:26 AM | | ^^ You would know it! Besides that was a 2 liner! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2005 8:45:53 AM | | What can I say, I was an ugly child and bad at math. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2005 12:17:29 PM | | ^^^ OMG me too! Weird! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 12:54:57 PM | 6 months after I had (oops, make that my partner) my daughter, I went in for a V... It was the logical thing to do as far as I'm concerned. I definately wanted to have at least one child of my own. Which I did, and she was an extremely healthy baby (still is of course).
I looked at it like this... I knew that supporting children (wether they are with you or not) is not a cheap thing. And theres no way in hell I want to be putting all my money towards kids. Besdies, at times I have a hard enough time looking after myself... lol
And if I get to the point that I would like to have more kids around I can always adopt, or find a woman with kids already.
About the procedure itself. I went into the doctors, the nurse handed me a razor, and told me to shave a small section of the front of my bag. I did that, went and laid down on a table with my legs apart and covered by a sheet... the doctor (a guy, about the only part of it that bothered me) sat down between and gave me a freezing shot and we started talking. A couple of mintues later he asked if I felt that, I said felt what?? lol. He said okay I can start know. We talked for about 3 mintues while he was doing something done there.. he sat back and said okay, I said okay your ready to start, and he said, no I'm done... lol
I went for a coffee at the local coffesshop and was talking to some friends (with my legs spread quite far, lol) and once the freezing started to wear off I could feel some discomfort... unitl one of the guys with me told us a joke... at which point I laughed and then damn near cried... lol (avoid funny people for a week)
Now heres a couple of thoughts about the whole issue...
Intelligent, well thought out people who know they've had thire share of kids (whatever that is to them) go and get a V done... Uptight selfish uncaring guys sit back and make excuses. The result? The intelligent people stop producing kids, the morons keep having them, spreading the gene of stupidity... and the worlds intelligence decreases... lol
Somebody should do a study on this. I know just by looking around at the people I know... the morons jump from woman to woman to woman, gettting them pregnant and moving on to their next conquest.. meaning that they end up with half a dozen kids (or more) running around... while as I said earlier, the intelligent ones know that there are enough kids in screwed up homes anyway and do their best to not act that way...
In short we're breeding a race of morons... lol
for those who made comments like... well the woman can go get her tubes tied and such... its still possible for a woman with her tubes tied to get pregnant, and it is a serious health issue once their tubes are tied both for her and the child.
About it being reversible... it is.. within a certain time frame... after ten years its a pretty unlikely thing that they will be able to (not impossible), and it is expensive... in Canada, getting a V is free to the patient, getting it reveresed is around 10k... which is fine, becasue if you cant afford to pay the 10k to get it reveresed, you can't afford to have another child anyway...
If it come down to wanting more children afterwards, go to an adoption agency, there are millions of kids that need parents... | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 55 | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 4:30:59 PM | I admire men that do the process, just make sure that's what you really want. I look forward to the day when the birth control pill becomes available for the men. Actually in the 70's, they came out with one, but the side effects were when a man smoked pot, his eyes turned red.
I think men should share in the birth control, but unfortunately, since it is the woman that gets pregnant, ultimately the responsibility falls on her. Ol saying goes too "no glove, no love" for those who refuse to wear protection. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 4:49:51 PM | His eyes turned red??? lol thats too funny...
It be one hell of a way to know if a guy was safe anyway... lol
Here smoke this joint... hmm your eyes didnt turn red... did you forget your pill??? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 5:12:18 PM | | I've had this done 5 years ago. I have two children and I love them dearly. But they are the only one's I want. The problem now? Finding a lady who doesn't mind that I can't give her a child. This has proven more difficult than you would think. *Sigh* Maybe I should just give up. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 5:37:52 PM | I had one in December. I still haven't submitted my second sample to make sure I'm completely sterile. Maybe I should do that. I don't want kids, it is a personal choice. As for me, I am not married and I have thought about the procedure for over 10 years before I got it done. My insurance covered it and I wanted to get it done before I left my job. The doctors really frown upon single men getting it done and they question your "sanity". However, the doctor understood my position and didn't try to disuade me too much. It really is a personal choice. Already having kids and then getting it done might be an "intelligent" choice but I don't believe it any less "intelligent" to have one when you are single without kids as long as you are certain of your conviction not to have kids and have thought about it completely.  | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 5:47:36 PM | | My doctor asked me why I wanted it. I said, "I have two children and the reason I have two children is because I don't want three!" He said ok and we setup the date. It's part of their job to ask if you have children and if you have none, they can refuse to do it for you. | |
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 60 | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 7:14:56 PM | | Scryer - don't give up. My big complaint is fellas my age (49) with really young kids. I don't know how you feel about older women out there, but that may be a benefit with dating them, is they may be past wanting or having kids. | |
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Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 61 | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 7:27:52 PM | | Sure, I had it done. I had the doctor put me under for it. I didn't have the courage to stay awake while somebody was snipping away at Goliath. Never went back to the doctor's office to run off a batch to see if it worked. It's been long enough now to know that I'm shooting blanks. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 8:13:18 PM | IsNacht... theres nothing wrong or unintelligent about deciding if you want to have kids... the only person who knows wether you should or not is you...
When I was refering to the intelligence level of people it was in regards to those who run around fathering children every other weekend with no desire to actually take part in their upbringing...
Deciding to have one done without having any kids show that you know (or at least think you do.. lol) which is better for you and made a decision based on that... I think youve shown a great attitude about it all... | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 8:59:04 AM | | I want to say that I had a vascectomy because I have been paying child support now for eighteen years due to an accidental pregnancy.I had it done when I was thirty eight.I am hoping to be done paying it soon but with these f...ing laws in this country I could be paying till the kid is goddamn thirty years old.At least now I will be able to hopefully retire with some money and not have my life ruined over a piece of ass. | |
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Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 64 | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 9:09:26 AM | nocturn:
That is what your child means to you? A ruined life over a piece of ass? Those laws are in place for people exactly like you, to force you to take some level of reponsibility for the life you helped create.
Having a vasectomy is probably the most responsible thing you have ever done. Congratulations, at least, on that. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 9:09:47 AM | lol, accidently pregnancy?
You were at a nude beach, tripped over a pail and landed on a girl and got so excited you ejaculated? lol | |
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Posted: 7/21/2005 2:40:25 PM | I agree with XPXPK. A child you create is part of YOU. To feel as if it was created out of a mistake is wrong. Though I'm divorced, I see my kids almost every day. They need me in their lives. I need them in mine. I don't need the law to tell me to pay for my children's needs. I do it because I love my kids.
But I will say that the laws for child support are a bit skewd toward the mother. It's rare for a father to get the kids, even if the divorce was on good terms.
But as I've said. I am the father of two children. Two is enough. Two was all I ever wanted. They bring to me the joys (and sometimes sorrows) of being a parent and that's all I need.
Now... if I can just find a lady who understands my position on this and who lives close to me! LOL | |
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Posted: 7/22/2005 2:28:13 PM | | ok- so got one a few years back at the birth of my 3rd child- after that we broke up and divorced- do i want more ? hmmmmmmm could be with the right woman but that is not a cheap answer- take your time guys - maybe wait a year after your last child is born then see how you feel | |
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Posted: 7/22/2005 4:29:38 PM | Here's something I wrote to a friend when she asked me about this situation.
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Ah... Nut Pruning. Yes... All men should experience this. But not the way I did. By “Nut Pruning” I, of course, mean getting a Vasectomy. This took place about six months after my divorce and meeting a woman named Daphne.
I had already been thinking about getting this done, since I was (at the time) 41 years old. I have two children and the reason I have two children is because I didn't want three! I love them very much and they are the only two that shall ever be produced from my loins.
Daphne also wanted me to get it done because she was afraid of becoming the mother to another Hell Spawn. "You know I'm Fertile Myrtle,” she would say to me as well as "And you are Potent Pete!" And, of course, that was quite true.
So, I set up a day to meet with a doctor. Now, I was given an appointment time and I was there half an hour early. It was set for 3pm. I was there at 2:30pm. I hate to be late, plus sometimes, when you get there early, they’ll take you early. People came and went... and so did the time. I was still in the lobby at 3:30pm and wondering why I'd not been told to come into the back.
Finally, around 4pm, they took me to a room where the doctor did his "work". "The doctor will be with you in just a moment," said the nurse and left, closing the door behind her. Now, I knew that their closing time was at 5pm, so surely I wouldn't be waiting long. That "Moment" lasted until 6:30! To say that I was upset was putting it mildly. I opened that door and looked for the nurse. No one was near the desk!
I heard talking but when I finally saw the nurse, she had her purse and was heading to the door! "HEY! You got me here still. Where's the doctor?"
"Oh... he's with someone. He'll be in shortly." She smiled and walked out the door.
Two minutes later, the doctor came around the corner with some guy and was talking with him. The guy was holding himself gingerly, as if he'd been really punched in the groin! Oh boy, I'm thinking to myself, what have I got myself into?
The doctor finally lets the guy out and then turns to me. He walks into the room I'm in, offering to shake my hand (which I declined. I mean... I don't think I want to shake hands with a guy who feels other men up for a living! Actually, I was just mad and I wanted him to know it,) and he apologizes for the delay. "Complications," was all he would say about the situation.
He then proceeds to ask me my medical history, allergies, injuries, etc. and then tells me that after two years, it can’t be reversed and then said, “Do you have children?” I told him, “Yes. Two.” And then told him my little joke about not wanting three kids. He laughed politely and then gave me a date to have my surgery.
Between the time I got the appointment and the time of the surgery, Daphne dumped me. I was in such a depressive state, that I almost called the doctor to tell him to forget it. But, I had paid for the work to be done already and I knew that I did NOT want more children. So, I went ahead with the operation.
This time around, I only had to wait half an hour before the doctor came in and told me to “Drop em.” I did what I was told and the doctor proceeded to stick needles into my scrotum. This was to numb the area for him to work. Well, the left side went well. The scalpel cut cleanly through the skin and he pulled out a white tube. ( I was allowed to watch all this so I know what he did.) The tube was very small and I wondered, “How in the world can my might men get through that little passage?” I remembered that hundreds of my little guys swam that line all the time. But I was about to put a bummer on my little guys by saying, “Ok… everybody! Out of the pool!”
Like I said, the left side went well. After snipping the line and burning the tube closed and putting it all back in and stitching it up, he started on the other side.
Again, the needles came. But for some reason, that side wouldn’t go numb. I found this out after he began slicing me open. “Do you feel that,” he asked, making sure that I was numb.
“Ummm.. yeah,” I said in a sort of whimpering voice.
“Humm. Better try and numb it again.”
“Ok.” I squeak.
The needle goes in again and I feel it. I also feel my lower lip being sucked into my mouth as I try to stop the pain from making me cry like a little girl.
We talk for a bit. I ask him about some of the people he’s worked on. He tells me the story of a very obsess man who wanted the surgery. But the doctor couldn’t get to him because his body mass was literally in the way and it prevented the doctor from doing the job. We both chuckled over that. Then he made another slice with the knife. “Do you feel that?”
“mmm yeah.” By now I’m still feeling the pain from the first slice. The second one just added to the fun.
“Well, we’ll give it one more shot.”
In goes the needle and I almost jump off the table. “Hold still, please,” is all this guy says.
“Ok,” I grimly say.
Finally the pain begins the fade and when he takes the next stroke with the knife, I don’t feel it. “Ah.. good. Now we can finish up,” says the good doctor.
After finishing the procedure, he puts gauze on my poor scrotum to help stop the bleeding. I gingerly put my clothing back on and he hands me a prescription slip. “Go get these right away. You’ll have swelling for the next couple of weeks. Absolutely no sex.”
“Are you kidding me?” I thought. “What would I want with that right now!”
“And keep the ice pack on it at all times. It will help the swelling.”
So I leave and go get the meds. But little does the good doctor know that I had a job interview that afternoon. So, after getting my meds, I drove 40 miles to get this interview.
“Are you ok,” asked the interviewer?
“Oh… Yes. I had some minor surgery this morning and I have to watch what I do for the next couple of weeks.”
“So.. you won’t be able to work for two weeks?”
“I can come in to work, but I won’t be able to do any heavy lifting during that time.”
“I see. Well, we’ll give you a call.” She shook my hand and showed me the door. I didn’t get the job.
I went home, and watched TV. with the ice pack all weekend. My poor sack swelled up to the size of a Softball and boy, where they purple!
My theory on "Nut Pruning"? Once it’s done, it changes your scent. People laugh when I say that… but it has proven to be more difficult to get ladies to date me. Sort of a double whammy when you think about it, me not being able to have kids now or even attract women to have sex with! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 12:39:03 PM |  HI...............ok so I am turning 38 (LEO----men who have been with true LEo women know what this means), haha.......and ofr those that don't well we luv to looooooooooooooove and make loooooooooooove haha.
One year ago I came out of a 9 yr VERY PASSIONATE realtionship where both of high libidos where matched perfect. He was scheduled for the surgery when met and I had the biggest grin on my face when found out....have known since teenager I never wanted children.....and lets just say we started making out within 1.5 days after and he worked the aftn shift after his surgery at his job haha. No problems----searched out great doc and we were able to make out anywhere anytime.
I am not nor have ever put that crap in my body---the pill. Talk about complications for woman---we have enough going on...haha.
Especially if in the USA where ya all have lots of bad unqualified doc's...investigate and make the investment and be healthy when you go in.
Ciao----Adios---llllllllllllllllllllllllllllllater Alexis | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 12:43:43 PM | | i dont know what the issue is?? It was more logical for me being the man, to go.. I went in on a Friday morning, got to relax all weekend with my friends Jack Daniels and Jim Beam, and then I went back to work on Monday!! For a women, it is a surgery, not worth all that trouble, my op took about a half an hour... done!!!! | |
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xander
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Joined: 7/17/2005
Msg: 71 | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 1:49:22 PM | I had basically the same.
My doctor didn't ask me any questions whatsoever in order to give the referral. Just said, "Ok".
30 mins from start to leaving the building. An evening with a bag of cold peas, and 2 tylenols for the whole weekend. As said, no jumping jacks but no problems. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 1:53:09 PM | | xander, I totally forgot about the frozen peas!!! Half hour on, half off........ | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 2:18:24 PM | The big V is the only way to go. Fast simple and relatively painless, I didn't even use the meds prescribed for pain. The Doc asked me why I was getting it done. I told him that if he had met my kids he wouldn't need to ask. lol (they really are great) The truth of the matter is that when you as a man decide that you no longer need to or desire to bring any more children in to this world then you as a man need to take full responsibility for your seed. As for myself, the other birth control methods have too high a failure rate to be trusted. (My ex-wife poked holes in the condoms shortly after we were married because her mother  told her "that we would be closer as a couple if we had children") | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 2:53:35 PM | | As for women, there are lots of great single moms with great kids out there. It’s just a matter of finding one that doesn’t want any more little bundles of joy, and is smart enough to know the risks of the other forms of birth control. Especially after age 30. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2005 2:56:25 PM | | mike2066, I knoew that I didnt want anymore of my own, I made the decision at 24!! Some may think that is too early but I have a son and a daughter, and if i met someone with kids, that would be great, I knew i didnt want to make anymore!!! Its lots of fun trying though!!!! | |
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