| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/2/2004 8:25:47 AM | My daughter had her first kid at 16----------yes it was young but the key issue is about support from family and friends.
Also its important that you have time to go out and have a break and meet people.
Some young parents can become isolated---------try and avoid that.
Yes my daughter was young having kids and it was a lot to take on BUT she adores her kids. It can work out.
If you have time try and study something------------whatever you might be interested in.
I've told this too my daughter so that when the kids are at school then she'd have a good chance at a good job.
Have fun
Sueuk | |
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| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/2/2004 9:43:05 PM | Eh Dawson,
A couple of years ago I was listening to this talk show and young mothers. This one lady called in who was in her 30's I believe and she had her son at 13. Now I'm sure like you she had a hard time with school and all.
But she was saying that she was so close to her son, that they were best friends. And her son respected her greatly. She attributed that to their very small age difference.
I can see how this could be cool. In a way, you'll be 34 and hopefully he'll be out of the house and you'll be able to live for yourself, unless you want more kids of course.
There's a millions ways to look at this. | |
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| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/2/2004 10:47:11 PM | is 14 to young to be a mommy?
if you want a straight answer - then yes.
but there are so many factors that come into play (financial, family, community, maturity, etc....) that it is difficult to give a straight answer
however, if you asked whether or not a 14 year old can be a GOOD mommy (as this is more important), then i would say 'yes, i do' | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/8/2004 12:59:17 PM | | k i agree that 14 is to young to have a child but sometimes ppl make mistakes. I had my daughter at 19 and sometimes i wish i would have waited but i dont regret having her at all but for this to say thank her parents for raising her child isnt right jsut becuz they helped and supported her doesnt mean they raised her son my parents helped me out and i was 19 and im 24 and my mom still helps me at times. Its a blessing that she has her parents to help her out in this situation some parents would turn there backs and those are the unfortunate ones that end up on the system and find it hard to get out of it. | |
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| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/8/2004 7:23:50 PM | | You are probably a good mother because you care enough to worry about whether you are a good mother. In other words, your fear of not being a good mother has probably pushed you to try really hard to be one and you consequently probably are. However,in general, it is not good for someone that is not emotionally and mentally and physically mature to have a child. It makes them grow up faster than they should, it puts stress on their still developing bodies,it causes them emotional turmoil as they grapple with wanting to have a good time as a young person and go party with their friends but knowing that they should be at home caring for their child, and it taxes their minds with maternal preocupations that they should not even be dealing with yet. However, it is possible to be a good mother even if you are still a teenager. You should really try to concentrate more on mothering and less on worrying about whether you are a good mom because you cannot change being a mom but you can be a better mom through continually striving to be. Take care and God bless. | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/8/2004 7:33:14 PM | | My daughter is turning 14 tomorrow. Yes, I certainly think it's much too young, you've not even had a chance to be a teenager and enjoy the things you probably should have. The responsibility of having a baby is huge and raising them is even bigger. I'm still raising mine and wonder if I do a good job at raising them. I think if you feel love and give them love then it happened for a reason. You are blessed with a child and you took the responsibility of having the baby. Which I totally respect and admire, even if I thought you were too young, you did the responsible thing of caring for the baby. | |
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| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/9/2004 10:38:39 AM | | I think 14 is too young to get pregnant. But, if you give birth to a child it is never too early to be a mom. Just remember, when a child arrives life as we know it is over. Our FULL responsibility is to them. Live first. Gain experience. The more you have, the more you can share. | |
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| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 12/9/2004 10:58:58 AM | If you are 14 when giving birth, you were 13 something when getting pregnant. Reherse if you will, what advise would you give your son in a very short nine years if he acted or expressed as if birth control is not important.? Think about it.
You are asking the wrong question. It doesn't matter what occured 4 or 5 years ago. Your focus now should be how can I be the best to this blessing I have. Personally, I think you are doing a remarkable great job. | |
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| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/27/2005 9:56:12 AM | | you guys are all so sweet. and when he gets at that age i'll tell him what i hope he'll do but if he makes the same mistake i did then i'll still support him. | |
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