| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 5/1/2007 9:25:36 AM | Now doesnt that depend on your perspective...a sub is allowing her/himself to be dominated right? so arent they in charge?
I prefer to be more submissive and do what ever my partner wants...anything goes there...if he wants to give oral i will hold his head there till its time to come up for air though...I dont think sub should be equated with just lying there | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 5/1/2007 10:35:02 AM | i prefer for the guy to dominate. im usually the one who makes the first move outside the bedroom, or the move that gets us in there in the first place. also, there's nothin like seein a guy's chest, arms, and shoulders as he's ****ing you as hard as he can.
not to me at least. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 5/1/2007 11:14:25 AM | I've always dominated in the bedroom scene. It seems to be my natural personality. It would be nice to one day find a woman that can pamper me some. But, I just seem to be the aggressor.
Probably due to finding wrong partners. But I've only had 2 partners so its hard to say all women are like that. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 5/1/2007 1:07:52 PM |
Now doesnt that depend on your perspective...a sub is allowing her/himself to be dominated right? so arent they in charge? There's no single answer to that.
Certianly the person asking is in the submissive posture. That's likely why it's normal for a sub to ask for a collar rather than a dom to ask to caller a sub. It also adds another reason for obligitory compliance... not simply that the sub complying is submissive, but because the dom asking would have been submissive.
In that respect, the dom is in the dominant position as he isn't asking.
There's the control aspect from the ability to say "no" (call safe anways). Certainly the subhas that, but so does the dom. So I would conclude that dominance was shared there.
Finally: the one who can walk away controls the deal. That's all up to the individuals... how strong their need for each other is and how much that need weighs with their need to have the relationship on their terms. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:05:39 PM | In my daily life, I am always in control...so when it comes to the bedroom, i really appreciate taking the back seat and being completely dominated...it's a nice change from the day to day.
That said, I do own a domibatrix outfit which I resort to from time to time (gotta share the fun) | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:09:11 PM | Oh gee lemme think about this for a minute.....NOT ME THAT'S FOR DAMN SURE....
It would be a cold day in hell before I dominated any man in the bedroom.
Thanks but I love being a submissive.
Just my humble opinion as always
Sher | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 2:00:13 PM | | hmmm this is a tough one for me. I love being a tease, i like to kiss, nibble, and lick my girl all over before we get into actual sex. I've had a couple girls say they like it cause it feels like I'm "worshiping their body" lol. i just do it because i enjoy it and so do they. I do like a girl who takes control and is dominant though, and I've also been known to enjoy a girl who is dominant in the terms of BDSM as well, lol, but so far has only been minor BDSM, nothing big. So I guess I like a girl who can be either dominant or submissive, but I do enjoy a strong woman :) as in commanding and what not. I don't want to feel like i'm with a little girl after all. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 3:34:10 PM | | I love it when a man dominates me, it makes me feel that I am with a real man. But I also like to have my fair share of dominating him as well. Something about the power that we hold over each other knowing each one of us wants to be the dominator. It gets me all horny and ready to take the challenge all night long. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 3:50:55 PM | I've been reading this thread and enjoying it, but every time I think of a response I'm just not sure...hmmm
Okay, this is the way it is...I'm very dominant in everyday life. Or maybe the right way to say that is I'm very in control in my life. Or maybe that I'm not submissive out of the bedroom. (?)
In the bedroom... hm.. well I do very much like a man to take control...mostly. Sometimes I feel aggressive, but for me the power of sex is more in the teasing, revelling in being female and seeing you can drive your lover crazy, which a lot of the time is pretty submissive, but not really... the Dom/Sub thing is actually quite complicated and the "aggressor" is not always the one exercising power.
As a woman there is something incredibly sexy in a man who can take control in the bedroom... but since as a woman I usually control the access and timing..oh, it's all so confusing. It's not something I think about usually...you just go for it and follow the mood.
So I guess it's mostly submissive, but I like to mix it up once in a while | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 3:52:23 PM | Dominate....aint happening on either side when you are makein love...passion overcomes...it become meutual...so much better to be equal..... you...when you look in her eyes...deep enough to read her mind...ooooohhhh ya... | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 4:17:28 PM | Nobody at the moment because I'm not having sex before marriage... with that said once I do marry, my wife will rule the bedroom for sure. I know who I am and although I would be a "switch" once in a while, for me I'm very much a sub.
Very very hard to find a woman though that does not want sex before marriage but knows that she would be into the D/s lifestyle and that she is a Domme. Ladies if your wondering the question of are you truly able to be Dominant period and I don't just mean in the bedroom then it all comes down to this. Actions can be taught, but you are either a Domiant personality or your not. A person can "switch" roles so to speak but a persons personality is either mainly one or the other. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 4:33:02 PM | | Shiloh said it best ..two people dominate their own intimacy together and if you get into control and gatekeepers behaviour there will be issues in the longevity of sexuality of the couple and it will likely end as this is a very controlling and degrading activity which alot of couples get into. Desire between two people should permit two willing participants to enjoy equal energies and comfort ..... too many women allow domination without communicating their needs and then get tired of this and close off which becomes the gate keeper and then you either express real needs or end it .. | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 4:34:40 PM | I like a dominant man in bed. So nine times out of ten, it will be him who's the dom in bed. But every once in a while I like to take control.  | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/5/2007 8:47:17 PM | An 'Even-Trade' is always preferable . . !!
I rather Like that ' I'm gonna Jump Your Bones ' look . . on occasion . . !!!
Mostly . .it's who says ' Wanna ' . . _First_ . . !!! . .  . . !!! | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/6/2007 6:43:38 AM | Generally I dominate in my bedroom...but I do love a power struggle every now and then! Either way it is a power exchange that doesn't work unless everyone in the bedroom is in agreement as everything MUST be consentual!  | |
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| Who dominates in your bedroom?????
Posted: 10/6/2007 6:49:08 AM | I'm 6'5"/260lbs, retired military, and I referee basketball.
By nature I'm very dominant. I like to exert that dominance in the bedroom. Women who are attracted to me are usually looking for me to be in control.
It takes a strong-willed and confident women to turn the tables on me. | |
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