| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2006 6:42:07 PM | I really wouldn't want my children staying at my ex's girlfriend's home either. I can think of worse things to happen though. Everyone doesn't have the same views as I do about that kind of stuff.
I wouldn't be to concerned right now as long as my child is taken care of well while she was there; not mistreated or neglected. I would start getting concerned though if it was a different woman all the time.
If you have questions or want to know what to do about it, I suggest talking to a lawyer. | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2006 7:39:08 PM | | Many people here may not wanna believe this however in the US you also will get hit with parental kidnapping. | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2006 7:50:42 PM | | Claz- neither of them are in the US so why does that matter? Oh yeah, it doesn't. Thanks for playing though! Now please drive through. | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/3/2006 9:34:12 PM |
Many people here may not wanna believe this however in the US you also will get hit with parental kidnapping.
Without paperwork it is considered equal rights. If she were in the US and the child's father did not want to return her to the mother she would have to go to court to get her back just as the father would have to do in the same scenario. At least where I'm from-just for reference. | |
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M_J_72
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2006 12:41:45 AM | ( my daughter had also mentioned going to church a few times with 2 of her children who are 5 and 7, then I come to find out that they were sending my daughter and the other children on a school bus to sunday school on their own, with neither one of them present. I lost it to say the least, my daughter goes nowhere alone, church or not)
I have to say something about the above Quote .....if the father only see's the daughter for the length of time he has with her why send a child off ...No offence but if i had them rights I would be with my daughter every second because of such little time .
If he knew he was helping someone move He should have said something in regards to it and made other arrangements " Lack of Communication" on his Part " He knew he was doing what he was doing he could have called and informed the mother and than go from there make the arrangements for another time !! | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/4/2006 3:12:13 AM | I guess the question I would ask myself is?
If the situation was reversed how I would feel?
and try to work it out for the best interest of the child.
Sometimes I think its how we say things to each other
that effects how they react good luck. | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/8/2006 3:10:13 PM | ^^^^
Excellent advise, we may or may not get along with our ex-s. Our live may be alot easier if they dropped off the face of the earth, however they are important to our children and our children are important to us. *gets off soapbox and shuffles back into obscurity* | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/8/2006 5:37:55 PM | | cherbear, you were not wrong to go get your daughter when her father left her with his girlfriend (or anyone). The visit was to be with him. The only relationship you are responsible for fostering is the one with her father and that is it. Sending her to church without a parent with her is also wrong. If he cannot be adult and discus it with you then don't talk about it, just don't let her go. Talk to his sister and find out if she is willing to let your daughter spend the night with her and allow your brother to come or go as he pleases, but not be allowed to take her, allowing your daughter a chance to see him and be with her aunt. This is what my son's aunt does when his father is feeling rebellious and forgets it is about our boy and not him. It is worth a try, else wise you sometimes have to treat adults, who act like children, like children....give him a time out. I am serious. If he doesn't listen to you then he doesn't get to take her the next weekend (If the sister is willing they can still see each other at her house, that way she still gets to see her father.), trying again the next weekend. | |
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| Am I in the wrong?
Posted: 12/8/2006 5:59:40 PM |
wants her dad to spend time with her and ONLY her
As bad as it sounds, your daughter is going to have to learn to share her dad with others. I've been there and done that, and it sucked being a kid. But as an adult I've learned that my dad needed a life. I do think it's crappy that he immediately left her to go help someone else or whatever he was doing, but as long as he's not doing it on a regular basis, I think you and your daughter are going to have to learn to accept it.
I know it's hard watching your child be hurt by someone else, but when that someone else also helped create said child, there isn't much you can do about it. Just be there for your daughter, let her know you understand, and move on to the best of your ability. If he really sucks that much, she'll eventually see it and not want anything to do with him. Trust me.
I remember being 3 years old and in my dad's care. I was sick and he left me with a female friend (his best friend's wife, so it's not like it was even a gf) to get me meds. My mom came over, saw that my dad wasn't there and snatched me. I remember it like it was yesterday. My mom was in the wrong. I'm not in therapy over it or anything, but I DO remember it, and remember her being wrong. Do you want that? I doubt it. As long as she's not being hurt, stay out of it. | |
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