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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/7/2004 7:49:21 PM | Um, ok a 3 state killing spree is a little too much for me.
I buy new clothes and shoes, work out harder, take up a new leisure activity, drive to fast, starve myself. I do not cry after the first day of the break up, I do not allow myself to think about him unless it's a what a jerk thought. And after the last one I burned my sheets and had a priest perform an exorcism on my bed. LOL | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/12/2004 7:42:28 PM | there is no easy way to deal with a broken heart. just know it is normal to run the roller coaster of emotions back an forth, hurt,anger,deprestion, lonleyness and so on. this may take a lot of time. the trick is how you deal with it. use the anger not to be bitter. that will only hurt you. use it to learn, to better yourself and understand yourself. you can learn so much about your self in these times. but don't be to hard on yourself. what ever the reason if fell apart. your still valued, loved and wothy of that love. like a cut give it time to heal and don't pick at it. remeber if your always looking back you will never see whats coming! GOD says he is close to the broken hearted. check him out on that.
I am sorry for your pain, good luck in your search. | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/13/2004 12:50:52 AM | | Sometimes I find it hard to keep going, I miss my wife so much, her brain tumor has changed her personality. In one week everything changed. It is like she died. She moved 3000 miles away, and does not want to see me. I really need to be a husband to a wife again, it is an important job, and miss it too. I have a need to be a partner in a lifetime of togetherness. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 55 | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/13/2004 3:02:52 PM | I am sorry Velocity for your pain, Jimi, your description of the actual healing is soo right, you did very good. Something else that I want to add is that you are sure you are competely healed before moving on. You maybe emotionally cut and bleeding but it will heal, you may have scars... but if you allow yourself to completely heal before moving on... then you will be able to give your all to the new person in your life... other wise you are only giving them a small piece... and that just isn't fair. The one who hurt you will always have that small piece... but if you continue to giving only small pieces instead of your all... when the right one does finally come along... what is left to give them?
Chelle | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/13/2004 6:20:04 PM | i found the answer!!! when my ex gf broke up with me, i got so drunk, that i puked too hard to even care about her, and i did this for many days until i couldn't think about anyhting, including her. so i say beer, or whatever your drink or drug of choise, is the answer. but if your not into that another partner always helps.
we all have felt your pain, and we all go through it, i'm sure you'll be fine, and we all suport you. | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/13/2004 6:40:57 PM | | alcohol is good..but it doesnt get rid of the pain..it only supresses it when your hammered..it will always come back and bite you in the ass..the only thing that really helps is time..just move one when you are ready..no one is forcing you..and you dont need to be in a hurry.. | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/13/2004 7:10:42 PM | | I drank for about a month, but I guess I cheated because I took Chaser, a anti-hangover pill, so I never got the punishment the next morning. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 62 | |
| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/13/2004 11:04:16 PM | first off LOL at rad skater...not that he got hurt but his answer. but beer is not the answer. I tired that for the first few night as well and punching a few walls and trying to drowned my pillow with tears.
The first thing i did was cut all ties with her after i knew it was over. as hard as that was it was easyier then seeing her and setting myself back in that i love her hole. everytime i seen or talked to her it set me back. my so called ex friends told me she really wants to talk to you but you make her feel guilty.? i cant make her feel anything she chose to feel that when she cheated. I agree you need to heal before you move on. grabbing on to another is not going to solve the problum only comfort the lonleyness and emptyness but it won't heal it becaue you thinking of the other person and not giving your all to the new one. unless the new one kicks ass and is 100 times better then the old one. and i agree baby if you keep giving everything to every one what is left when the right one comes along? you burned out and convinced ahh there all the same and this will end up like before. I can tell you righ tnow some of the most beutiful paintings,songs,poems,ect come out of pain and pain gets us to move to places we would not go beofer and dicover things about our selves that we would not see unless pain moved us. | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/14/2004 1:10:31 PM | | Where on earth did you get all this insight Jimi, I agree with you. I recently was "dismissed by a guy who I just adored, he gave me the whole friends line, and you know what he was a really great guy (somewhat, a player though, that was clear), he asked me to call him in a couple of days. You know what he does not deserve my friendship, and I personally could not stand to watch him play someone else. My solution, tie severed, I refuse to call him. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 64 | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/23/2004 1:19:49 PM | | Dear Pastelpink: I have had to deal with a broken heart, My husband of 20 years cheated on me when I was taking care of his father(who had cancer) He said I was neglecting his needs so thats why he did it....what a crock... So I had to learn either to leave or stay and hope that he sincerely meant he,d never do it again, I chose to stay, I have two children, and I really want to make it work, But.. I still worry that it could happen again. I don,t think I,ll ever forget.... Dealing with a broken heart takes time, I did alot of reading on the subject and it helps, also good friends help too, I also suggest going to your family doctor if you get really depressed, or to a coucellor for help on how to cope. I did, and it really helped alot. Hang in there!!!!!!!! If you need to talk I,m here. MollySue | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/23/2004 7:02:33 PM | Dear MollySue: Pastelpink is no longer here. Sometimes people don't get the respect they deserve and leave. In her honor I will accept your message.
Thank you. | |
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| Re: how do u deal with a broken heart ?
Posted: 9/23/2004 9:36:00 PM | | If you really really love someone, it takes time. NO drinking can solve anything, it adds fuel to the problem. The only thing that helps, is keep busy! | |
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