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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 12:26:39 AM | I have been on and off dating sites for the best part of 7 years :-O
Been on here for a few weeks and doubt very much that i'll ever meet anyone for a date because noone can be ársed either to send you a message or reply to one
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 7:00:33 AM | | I have been at POF for nearly two years, and have not met anyone yet. At most other sites, I have had similar experiences. The forums are more fun, than wasting time writing to women who are not interested. By age fifty-something, I should know better. The good thing, I suppose, is that I have successfully evaded marriage for my entire life. And that is not likely to change. | |
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RJB888
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 7:02:30 AM | Well I've been on and off for 2 years. Have met some great men and not so great men. Which is not different than meeting in the real world. Don't expect every person you meet on line or off to be the one after just a talk or meeting. If life were only that simply none of us would be on line. I personally just go on for the forums now.  | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 9:06:03 AM | But the forums are a good way of spouting some inane rubbish
AMEN to that Sister! More often than not the forums are way more entertaining than what is on the telly. Even the best of us have to take a break between bouts of chandelier hanging sex once in a while, so the forums are a great timesink as well. Nuff said.
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kce33
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Joined: 4/8/2006
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 10:30:39 AM | I would tell people to stay on.... have a couple smart girls help write your profile and then wait, people are leaving and joining every day as long as you have the time to spend on her...
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 10:42:54 AM | Don't plan on meeting the love of your life anytime soon....the odds are 1 in 10,000 of hooking up permanently with someone from a dating site....
Only 9,980 more to go...for me!!  I've learned to love being single... | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 12:10:09 PM | Oh yes....I might add....it's coming into year #6 for me....and I've probably been on every single site available online at one time or another.
...but don't kid yourself into thinking that any one site is better than another....they're all virtually all the same....usually the same people frequent the same sites...perhaps just at different times!!
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 2:13:18 PM | | I've been on POF for 3 years now, a few with my profile on hide while in relationships, just posting in forums, but I never just leave...because I actually like it here. So I don't think there's a set length to stay on a dating site. Some people seem to come here, have bad luck or get pissed off at a few bad encounters, then leave after a few months. I don't see the point in that. It's free! And there's a really good selection (way better than the people I've seen even on paid sites and more people in my area too). For instance I've joined several other sites (briefly for like a day just to see the people in my area), go through the hassle of creating a profile etc. to search and see maybe 3 pgs if I'm lucky in my city, here there's literally 30 pgs! It just seems pointless to leave if you're not married or something. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/7/2006 9:15:48 PM | Irish Eyez
I do personally feel that many seek too hard when it comes to a partner.
When one least expects it - it happens.
I mean, some people are too busy watching the door close behind them, rather than see the door open in front
Exactly what she said............you can't put a time line on something so random.
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/8/2006 3:13:43 AM | | Stop searching when you find someone. Nowhere is it written that if you don't find someone compatible within a certain period you are a failure. Start dating someone seriously and then you can change your profile to note you are involved with someone romantically and are now only interested in friends. Life online isn't different than anywhere else; the perfect person just hasn't appeared yet. Doesn't mean they won't sign on to POF the day after you quit. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/8/2006 10:43:25 AM | Dating sites are amazing in a way. It sometimes takes lowly rated people and elevates them to a level that gives them an ego that they never had before. Many reality shows on TV take an unknown person and makes them a hero. I used to know a woman who used to be nice and I was supposely her equal. Then she was the winner of a reality show and now does not even want to talk to me since I am not a famous person like her. These dating websites has the same effect. Suddenly a woman or man who could not get dates in real life gets more than 100 people running after them- it goes to their head.
I would keep my options open. Do not give up the dating website but also try to meet people in real life, the old fashioned way. At a store, at a ball game, bar, school, and work, etc. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/8/2006 12:39:05 PM | Well, I signed up with another online dating service in October 2005. Logged onto POF in January of 2006.
I met many wonderful men on both sites and had my share of nightmares too. On October 1st, 2006, I had what I hope was my 'last' first date.
Been an item for 10 weeks now and going strong.
And for those buttholes who will invariably ask why I'm still here...it's for the Forums as clearly stated on my profile. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/9/2006 4:31:05 AM | ^^^WOW 10 whole weeks?? That's a lifetime!! I didn't know buttholes weren't allowed to ask questions?!?!
You should search as long as it takes or until you give up hope or all else. Until then, enjoy the browsing!! | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/9/2006 5:30:36 AM | i have been on here 18 mnths in all taking sebatacles to have a couple of short relationships in that time. have had my share of dates in that time. some girls want to meet you the next day if not sooner (emergency dates can be the best ones as folks dont have time to think about being nervous), some want to know your life story (then have all week or longer to worry about what th other person will think etc) so the testimonial section does help to put folks at their ease a bit.
i do my best to put girls at their ease, passing on compliments or trying to humour them
dont think i have gone 10 weeks before meting but there is one girl coming to the pof party in birmingham next week thati have been chatting to for years online but she is up in the north of england so meeting up has been difficult!
at the end of the day- do what you feel is right. if the other person is understanding they will wait until you are ready. if they get impatient or too pushy then you are better off without them. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/9/2006 12:39:14 PM | | I have been searching for nearly, well, over 2 years, but with some breaks. I've had short relationships, but not from somebody i've met online. I just started the online dating, before I did the free telephone dating. But anyway, I think im about to give up. People that are on line are not really looking for the same as me. It's more of a joke. Well, men and women are different. It is easier to find a woman, for a man, than it is for a woman to find a man. I don't think im going to find my dream man online. So im not going to depend on it so much. I'm looking into speed dating. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/9/2006 12:44:24 PM | it could be a while before the person happens to come across your profile..the one that may be the perfect one..just have a lil patience.
I prefer to contact the ones I am interested in...and the ones that do say hello, they sometimes can become good friends if nothing else | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/12/2006 9:02:02 PM | | I have only been on a couple of weeks and am ready to hang it up! I went out once - not great - emails were good, phone calls good but not in person! And this is all supposed to be about honesty - right? I really hate hurting someone's feelings but Jeez, I am not going to pretend! So when I told him the chemistry just wasn't there he hung up on me! Then I chat with a few and they say they "like my profile" but never want to meet. I think I will take my chances in the real world and see what happens. It just doesn't feel natural to try to meet someone - it should just happen...like being in the right place at the right time | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/16/2006 3:33:35 PM | When dating becomes all consuming or a chore, then I would think it was time for a break. I would stay on as long as you feel optimism for meeting new people, even if they only turn out to be friends.
What is important is not to date someone, just to date someone. There is a difference in being overyly picky and not giving anyone a chance, vs knowing there just is no potential. Only you can know how your choices have been made over the past years. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/16/2006 3:41:19 PM | I'd say there are quite a few people on this site that arent really here to meet someone like the ones that have over 300 + on their favorites list. How many of those 300+ are quality people. Plain and simple. they love the ab shot you have up there or the clevage shot.
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/16/2006 5:03:26 PM | | It is definitely not you. I've been on here a short time but was on Match for a long time with no success. A couple points. One, this should not be your primary source of dating though I realize for a lot of people it is. Two, I have a theory about saturating yourself with on-line dating. You are exposing yourself to a limited number of people, that is, new people can sign up but for the most part those people are not local to you, do not meet your criteria etc. The longer you stay on a particular site, the more 'exposed' you are, people see your profile, at first it is new and maybe you get responses, then it get old and seen by the same people over and over. So, the longer you stay on, the lower your probability of meeting someone special. That's my theory. Some people change their pics, profile and go off and on sites to try to freshen things up. But you are not alone there. | |
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