| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/16/2006 5:04:35 PM | | The search should take about two days. By then you will have found and contacted anyone you might be interested in. From there all you can do is watch for newcomers. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/16/2006 8:42:44 PM | I do personally feel that many seek too hard when it comes to a partner.
When one least expects it - it happens.
Speaking from a male perspective:
You can seek to hard. Especially if you are seeking perfection or have too many dealbreakers or requirements. However giving up the search is likely to be fruitless for a man unless he happens to:
1) Have confidence shooting out his ears
2) Is constantly asked if he is Brad Pitt
3) Has a sense of humor than will floor anyone
4) And/or is an strong extrovert, very socially adept, and a major people person with lots of female contacts in real life.
Other, more normal men, will need to be quite proactive to improve the chance of success. You can certainly look to hard. But in most cases, all that is really needed is an improvement in strategy. Fix your weak links and stop doing retarded ****. I think the reason most people have not developed good long-term relationships is due to lack of commitment and lack of effort. There are just too many choices online and even in the real world. First meetings are often shrugged off if everything doesn't seem ideal. People look for perfection and are less likely to give a normal relationship a chance. I would argue that if more people actually had the goal of developing a long-term relationship you'd see quite a bit more success.
How long will I stay here? You know...I like Winston Churchill too.
Frustration is easy to deal with by taking breaks. The breaks can a be a week, a month or even longer. POF is a good tool. I'll call it a sword because I want to be different. And people who learn to wield it will at least have a chance at coming out ahead.
Keep in mind....there is turn-over in membership. New people put up profiles everyday. And POF is growing. There isn't much incentive to leave. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 12/25/2006 10:22:06 PM |
Although I can ask myself this very question - Id like to know just how long people stay on a singles site before giving up. Feel free to make any comments you would like about why you have been on here for as long as you have but make sure you include just how long you have actually been on ok - Thank you) I personally have been on here for nearly 2 years and although I have met some wonderful people (as Im sure many of you have as well) but I (along with many others) remain single soooo is it me or is it the nature of dating sites that people become too selective and constantly hope that the next new mesage will contain their long sought after dream partner?
Wishing you all the best
I know someone who was on a dating site for about 5 years before he meet the women who he just got married to this year.
IF you expect to find someone with a few month then you will be disapointed.
Yes people are too picky in who they reply to email since a profile and photo is not enough to know if a person could be a match. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 1/26/2007 6:17:06 AM | A good question that I, unfortunately, do not have a good answer to.
Heck, I've been on here for over a year and the longest I've dated anyone I met here was a month. (OK but I've also only dated 2 people from this site, although I've made a *lot* of friends here).
But OP, maybe you are having better luck now with the site (I peeked at your profile and saw that you have given away both your roses so I'd guess that's a good sign.) | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 1/26/2007 7:04:48 AM | I've used a variety of dating sites over the last 7 years and have met some interesting characters and scary monsters too! I haven't met a man who connected with me in a serious way so I am still searching. I too, go on and off over the years. Sometimes, it's just too frustrating and other times I simply give up looking.
I just started hanging out with a friend from work and we seem to be quite comfortable around one another so far. He could be the guy or this may be just a fun break from the intensities of blind-dating. Who knows?
I've been enjoying the forums this past week or so and think I'll just stick to conversing for a bit. Who knows if someone picks up on my sense of humor and intelligence and decides to go further after reading my profile...
:) | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 1/26/2007 10:31:09 AM | Well...I personally have only been on POF for about 7 /8 months...only met one guy turned out bad...but o well..life goes on...well i dunno im coming to the point where i think this whole online dating thing is crazy and hoping to find someone somewhere else..And i find to many people on here have to HIGH expectations...or doesnt know what they want...well good luck hope ya find someone  | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 1/26/2007 10:43:11 AM | as long as they dont ask for your credit card number!!!!
Come on sunshine this is a FREE site, thanks big fish!!! you rock! and well, it all depends on what someones looking for there are a few options available right? friends ONE can never have too many of those, email /talk...its fabulous chatting with someone half way across the world....and the others.....
and that dear fellow PoFers...is ONE womans opinion | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 2/10/2007 8:19:53 PM | the only thing i don't like about pof so far is there aren't any guys in whom i'm very interested. the forums are interesting, but i can sum up all the comments in one phrase: someone either really likes you or they don't & vice-versa. i'd also like to see more detailed profiles addressing educational levels and the like. i'm looking for very specific types.
back to the thread. i've been on for maybe a week. how long will i stay? if i start seeing profiles that interest me, maybe a while. If not, then maybe a couple of weeks. might stay longer for the forums. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:59:59 PM | I totally disagree Denubis! I think you would have to be entirely nuts to imagine his view point was based on "please someone go out with me" I think its admirable that he obviousely has decided not to settle and is looking for a connection on a deeper level than he has found thus far.
I didnt interpret moping from the post at all and being "a genuine girl" I must say his profile more than attracted me "unlike your own" And your whatever happens attitude is less than an attractive feature I am afraid
As for my view on the original post. I wish I knew when you give up on dating sites. Perhaps when you resolve to be single do you begin closing doors. I may very well meet my soul mate at the library but in giving up on dating sites am I shutting down something more than a profile. I guess if its in deciding the internet isnt for me but my hopes and dreams are still as alive as ever no harm.. but if I remove myself from dating sites and in so doing am giving up on finding my soul mate am I creating my own destiny..
Food for thought | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:14:27 PM | no wonder no one wants to date..... online. I have met a lot of folks here, all over the world.... I have been to alaska, jamaica, all over the us, canada, some places I will go back to, some people will be in my life forever. Some no. But to think that of a woman, because she is pretty, or a man, because he is handsome, does not compute to me.
I have known players, you would not think would be players,...... and the nicest people who you would think, "oh he is just a player". And that is the furthest thing from the truth. To Generalize... foolish, and insecure. I will be here, learning as I go.
Just my 2 cents, and first post here. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/21/2008 11:57:52 PM | There are going to be some people who will get scooped up right away and there will be people who may never find a partner (eg. angry, bitter, psychotic people), and everything in between. I hope I am one of the inbetween ones,  . I've been internet dating a long time (with some great relationships in my life as a result, so I've gone off for long periods of time too), and have a good time with it. I'm not sure if I would just give up on it ever (of course, I do hope to get off the site because of finding someone). There are times when I get tired of it, and stop for a while. But I don't blame internet dating for any lack of success, as it's much easier for me to find dates through here than to find them in real life. I think the toughest part will be just giving up the forums, since I'm so addicted to them now. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/22/2008 10:56:16 AM | Well for me is has taken some time. It's all about meeting as many people as you can to find your mate. I was on one dating site for over a year and my dating experiences were both good and bad but nothing really clicked. I finally met someone whom I thought was interested in dating but he was "too busy" to date and had decided to devote himself to his ministry to prisoners rather than date or remarry again. We had a few dates and kept in touch as friends until he got "too busy" to even write anymore.
I joined another site where I got few responses but the dates were better quality than on the first site so it was better. Met some flakes and some nice people. Met a guy (my most recent relationship) and dated him for a few months and then he just got "too busy" and actually answered my email asking if I had met anyone and suggested I try online dating. So I have met someone from online dating a couple times but neither guy was really serious about a relationship. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/22/2008 11:07:42 AM | Personally , if I didn't make a connection, I would leave after 4 - 6 months. Being from a small pond, the fish don't restocked very often, the same fish show up on sonar. So your chances of landing a keeper, don't increase with time. People in bigger ponds/lakes/oceans, have a larger variety of fish to choose from, so maybe hanging around longer works for them.
Now this is probably not right, but if I see a profile that has been for years on end, I wonder what fatal flaw that person may have. It's probably better to take a break, delete that profile, and create a new one when your ready to go fishing again. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/22/2008 11:13:34 AM | I don't think there needs to be a deadline. I mean I don't think you should wear yourself out "searching" but if you haven't found the right one, what harm is there in sticking around?
I've been around for longer than many people think is right. (no pic or proper profile right now because I'm not actively looking) I couldn't care less if anyone thinks I'm "fatally flawed" ^^ | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/22/2008 11:28:30 AM |
Personally , if I didn't make a connection, I would leave after 4 - 6 months. Being from a small pond, the fish don't restocked very often, the same fish show up on sonar. So your chances of landing a keeper, don't increase with time. People in bigger ponds/lakes/oceans, have a larger variety of fish to choose from, so maybe hanging around longer works for them.
Now this is probably not right, but if I see a profile that has been for years on end, I wonder what fatal flaw that person may have. It's probably better to take a break, delete that profile, and create a new one when your ready to go fishing again.
4-6 months is TOO short a time .. to give up and delete a profile ... | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/22/2008 11:32:37 AM | OMG I was 16 when I got here - laughing my head off.
No seriously - think the answer to this one is when the white knight rides in with his armour on and his standard flying in the wind.
Thats me here forever then. bugger  | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:04:15 AM |
4-6 months is TOO short a time .. to give up and delete a profile ...
After 4 to 6 months for profile is stale, anyone interested ha slooked and either contacte dyou, or decided your not what they are looking for. Better to leave and come back, as a fresh face. | |
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| How long should people search on a dating site
Posted: 4/23/2008 8:11:43 PM | I go off & on, for many reasons- met someone, other priorities, tired of b.s, the same old faces and lines. I never tire of forums, though, so comical and enlightening!
Stay as long as you want, just never take it serious. There's a big world outside this plastic box, and it's just as likely you'll meet someone at a ball game, in the produce aisle, at the gym. Can't happen if you're on here too much, though. Balance. | |
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