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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 1/3/2007 3:50:58 PM | If you ask MOST women what do they look for in a man they'll say that they want someone who is kind and sensitive. Caring and sharing. Intelligent and responsible. Someone who makes them laugh. Someone who is confident (remember that one). But, what they say and what they mean are two totally different things. Here's the scoop.
If a guy IS kind, sensitive, caring, etc. MOST women translate that into no cahones. Even if they never take the time to find out if that's true. Enter Mr. confident. The guy with the biggest mouth in the crowd. Mr BS. The antithesis of their perfect man. And you thought confidence meant self assurance ! You thought confidence meant you didn't have to flaunt or beg for attention ! You thought it meant keeping your business your business !
Then, and all you good guys know (and hate) the ending, Mr. confident treats them like crap during their prime time years, and then leaves them with kids for a younger woman.
The exception to the Mr. confident rule is you Mr. money. | |
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| YOU ARE A WISE MAN.
Posted: 1/3/2007 7:15:17 PM | BRAVO!!!You broke it down to the simplest truth,there ain't no other way to look at it! A woman doesn't want a man that wants to be loved,A woman wants a man to love while he's loving himself.I hate the the prick I'm becoming but,now girls jerk me in a different way...MONEYSHOT!!!
p.s.YOU ARE THE MAN!That was some deep college professor,truer than life,inner-psych of the confused,contradictory mind of the female. | |
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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:34:59 AM | | Don't give false hope it defeats the purpose.What are you gonna do when a great guy like me shows some interest.I got my own car,my own place,I look JOHNNY DEPP with the body of an underwear model oh!yeah,I'm also hung like a mule,I'm romantic,caring,and have a heart of gold.If you don't find something shallow to turn me down,you're gonna use me up,THEN LEAVE ME AND BREAK MY HEART when I need you the most. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 7:26:56 PM | | .. I had two profiles listed at a dating site .. one was a nice guy , the other not so nice... I had more responses from the latter.... I guess most women at these places ( not here) are used to be treated like dirt and like it. It's not in my nature to be nasty or degrade women.. but neither will I roll over and let them walk over me... respect is a two way street... | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 8:59:41 PM | Hey JL, Wings, I understand and simpithize with ur predictiment. but how do 2 people who could possibly meant for each other find out if neither make a move. a LITTLE confidence can go a long way. we all start off crawling before we learn to walk. So i guess what I'm asking is, how hard is it to compliment someone? it generally leads to reciprocation. Imagine that, someone understanding or knowing how you feel about them with just a compliment. Which will eventually lead to the confidence to take more steps. take a chance, say something nice. and be your nice (Newly cofident) selves and all will be well.  | |
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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 1/5/2007 10:41:29 AM | What do you guys think 'good' means? I'll bet (some of) you THINK you are 'good', but really are only putting up that facade to impress women. If you are truly a good man, we will know, with no extra effort on your part.
The 'badboy' syndrome--always doing something for attention--whether the actions are rash, immature, or illegal, these guys always get the attention (whether from 'girls' or the local police). So those of you who think you want to turn into one of 'them', be my guest--if you are willing to sacrifice your pride and soul, you are not truly a 'good' guy, and will ultimately get what you deserve.
Now, to those men that are truly good guys.....maybe you are not getting the women because we just don't know you are there.....you still need something to draw our attention to you, make us sit up and take notice. Good manners and morals are really what we want, but we also want someone who is humorous and exciting.
Yes, a man can certainly be a 'good guy' without being dull or boring--I'm sure we all know dull and boring 'badboys' (a$$holes), too.
Darice
note--I certainly don't mean to speak for everyone when I say 'we' | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 11:22:56 AM | With all respect Lady Darice, no most women will not know a truely good man when faced with them. They will mistake the "Good" men who use a facade more often then not as a good man too.
The simple trueth is that women and men have stopped using their minds and interacting to find the quality of a person in favor of just using their eyes and believing everything at package value rather then the content. You Darice may well be the exception to this, however it does not saddly change the majority.
I truely wish your post were more true then it is, because my life both personal and professional would be far more simple. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 1:01:38 PM | Dear Knight,
Do you really want a woman who can not 'see'? Would you like the opportunity to shake her, wake her up, yelling 'HEY, LOOK AT ME!! I AM A GOOD MAN!!' If that's the kind of woman you want, then they are all around, as you claim.
Myself? I would prefer a man who 'sees' me--he will do a double take, take a moment to realize that first impressions are sometimes not correct. I will be his mystery to uncover.
And while there may be many more 'lookers' out there, will it not be worth the wait to find the one that truly 'sees'? | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 1:30:36 PM | You misunderstand me Lady,
I by no means have indicated such, infact I've made it clear in other posts and i believe in my profiles as well that I do not seek such. However the comment you made was that there are those out there who see... my answer is that there truely are fewer then you believe.
That rareness can be frustrating at times when one sees friends or family fall for those who are not worthy. When one is alone or even in a weak moment lonely it can be frustrating to see one you owuld have hoped had potential throw themselves into another disaster.
Still it often makes a good story later.
I wish you the best sucess in finding one who sees you for who you are and appreciated those qualities. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2007 7:28:19 AM | definately, my new man is 'truly' a good guy, a great person, loving,giving, has a brilliant personality and makes me laugh constantly-the fire is definately alive. And he has definately got the 'girl'
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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 1/13/2007 6:40:13 PM | Women don't know what they want? Perhaps you should have rephrased that some. This woman knows what she wants and I have no intentions on settling. It appears the pretty boys are out for the hot girls and a broken heart. The average Joes and Janes aren't confident enough to approach the extremely attractive to find out if they are also a great catch.
I think if we stopped being so self absorbed in ourselves and talking about how great we are, we will hear what the other person is trying to describe to us. All we do is talk about how great we are... and how horrible our exes are that we forgot to reevaluate the truth.
I had to take some time and get to know myself to try and figure out why I kept meeting those bad boys... I will define it in one word... I was attracted to them and I went after them thinking I could change them when they were not ready for that.
Those bad guys and girls are not bad at all... they are just intimidated by something they feel is too good to be true that is all.
Before we go stepping on each others toes, and insulting nationalities and having bats about ones opionion... keep in mind this is a forum where we all are discussing our opinions on said topic.
Be kind to those even if they are unkind. Don't be so subjective to your inner ignorance... Be subjective to your inner and outer beauty and knowledge of how you can honestly become a good guy or girl.
Happy Saturday Night
Ms Sassy | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:13:36 PM | yes the good guy's get all the girl's i would pick a good guy over a bad guy. beause latly i been getting all the jurks. till a few week's ago now i have the beast boyfriend i could every ask for. so in my book good guy's are in and bad guy's are out.  | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 2:24:02 PM | | Nope. Never. At least not for this one. If you want proof, read my new profile. This good guy never gets the girl or have to settle for the girl that he normally would not date and still get the boot. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 2:46:28 PM | | Do not feel bad skull I am the exact same way, I am the type of guy that does not show up fora date without flowers, I hold the car door ( all doors for that matter.) it seems that every woman I meet just wants to be "just friends," ok ladies do you know how friggin annoying it is to be a nice guy not a jerk and continuously get the "just friends," line. and all the little pretty boys get the girl, you know the jack off's that dont want to get their hands dirty taking out the trash, or doing manual labor. Sorry if I seem a little embittered by this but I have always been a nice guy, and it seems all I do is get crapped on for it. | |
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Posted: 11/18/2007 8:02:52 AM | | It is the socially shrewd guy that gets the girl. You can't just talk to one girl. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. You have to approach and date a lot of women so that you aren't needy when you meet the right one. Women like a man that has options. They have to work for him. Then you shouldn't care. That is the origination of confidence. Being nice or not is irrelevant. Break it down to our evolution. In the cave man days the most powerful man had his pick of the women. It isn't real strength now but it is that attitude. You have to instill a fear of loss in the woman. And when you chose her she feels that it was earned. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 10:28:44 PM | idiot said: *Being nice or not is irrelevant* *You have to instill a fear of loss in the woman. And when you chose her she feels that it was earned. *
Are you freakin kidding me? No wondering you're not getting any! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2007 9:58:33 AM | You know what men?...I apologize for all of the miscreant women that have caused perfectly loving, honorable men to question whether or not being a "good guy" is of any value when looking for love. There are some women that I've stopped hanging out with because they have a man-hating vibe or they just want to play guys , or just act to slutty. That's not my style and I don't like being associated with women like that. Men, be who you are...if what you need is confidence, then take some risks and step up...yeah...falling on your face is a little uncomfortable at first but so what? Isn't finding the right person and becoming all you can be as a man worth it? | |
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Posted: 12/15/2007 2:39:03 PM | | WWell i consider myself to be "a real nice guy"and i get my share of women,but if your going to act like a ****,plz excuse the language,u can expect to be treated like one as well, Rich | |
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Posted: 12/15/2007 2:41:56 PM | | oh yeah,meant to say that if u do in fact act too nice ,u can come off as being desperate,a backbone?priceless | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 3:39:07 PM | | Good guys get the girl after the 'bad boy' that got them pregnant and abused them is out of the picture and need someone they can walk over so the aforementioned never happens again. | |
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Joined: 1/10/2008
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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 2/15/2008 12:37:24 AM | I want to point out that your statement about doing anything they ask makes you come off as needy, there are good guys that are getting the woman, you Just don't hear about them cause Low and behold they have no reason To post about how Nice guys can get the girl. This Ultimatly has me thinking that the Guy in question either lack s a total understanding of women or lacks the confidence to get the girls he wants.
Knight Women act more on what they feel, then what they see. Thats not to say that looks are not at all important, But looks are not what makes a woman act or want a guy it's how she feels about him. Woman are much more sudtle with showing that they are intrested unless the guy is extremely attractive to them. Someone Made the Comment about Complimenting someone, if your going to start an intreaction the best way to do it is to ask her opinion about something. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 1:10:12 AM | women are to be adored, worshiped, cared for etc etc.
Real women like a kind considerate man. What healthy human being would really adore being abused?
But there is a time and place to be a "bad" guy too.... | |
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