| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/21/2006 3:52:52 PM | Merry Christmas to all of you who'll be alone. I'll be alone, too.
Don't kill yourselves or anything like that.
It's too bad we're all so far apart. It'd be nice to get a small group together. I have the space.
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| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/21/2006 6:03:11 PM | I going to be with my family and friends this christmas, but I do feel lonely with out someone special to bring to meet the family and friends. I always feel out of place going home for the holidays being single cause it just seems everyone is a couple doing xmas couple things.
That is the time i feel most lonely and alittle depressed, but I try not to think about it and have a good time. I will still hope that there will be a time when I will be with someone and I will be able to enjoy the holidays even more.
Anyways, I am wishing everyone a very merry christmas, and a Happy New year!!
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| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/21/2006 11:51:13 PM | | well i'm sure that i wouldn't want to get into a relationship this soon before a holiday or even a girls birthday for that fact. men, we don't have enough time to find out what they would actually want and if we do, when would we have the time to buy it 3 days before x-mas when we still have the rest of our family to wory about. | |
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| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/22/2006 1:03:38 AM | Its been the same for me for the last 23 years.....
My family all have significant others and children and go to the in laws for christmas
My parents live interstate....
So ill be spending christmas day sleeping the early part of the day after doing a night duty....
then im going to cook a traditional christmas dinner for my self and my 15 fur babies...smile
they will love being spoilt rotten with all the trimmings
My ex partner who still lives with me will be working that day...will get home about 5pm...will probably help himself to half my wonderful cooked dinner and will then go spend the rest of the evening with the new love of his life....some girl over here on holidays...who goes back to her studies in february and will undoubtably break his heart....
Some men are so stupid sometimes.....hey in all fairness, i did say some men....lol
Next year i plan to spend christmas day with my foster child....smile
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Posted: 12/22/2006 8:52:22 PM | I knew that there would come a time when I would not have any of the children at home with me for the holidays. This year is it!
I haven't had a significant other in my life now since 1999. My friends have been telling me that before this 'time' came along that they were hoping that I would have found a companion to be with but so far I haven't. How am I feeling now? I am not depressed. I am sad though. Feel kinda funny to be spending it all alone for the first time in 33 yrs. What am I going to do for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day? Not sure exactly but I know that I will spend it productively. Just because I don't have anyone around doesn't mean it still isn't one of the most special days of the year. I still will be celebrating the birth of Christ as I do every year. I can go and volunteer somewhere. Go visit people in a nursing home or shelter that don't have other family members with them that may just need my smiling face to brighten their day. These are some of the things that I would do with my kids anyways so might as well continue that! Sure! I wished that I had my family and friends around but I just recently moved from where two of my kids are and the one that I moved closest to left to go out of state to the inlaws this year. This is the year that all of them were to go to their inlaws anyways. I think that the sadness that I do have is the fact that I don't get to see any of them during the entire holiday. Before moving away from the kids I at least would have been able to see them right before or after the holiday but we are now many states away from each other and financially and due to work schedules it isn't possible.
I am going to contine dealing with the fact that this is a new chapter in the book of my life and I will be sure to blazin the pages of it with many new experiences and many more special moments to come. Never know! I might even get lucky to run into someone over this holiday and have a Christmas Day Date! Whatever happens I am going to enjoy it and take advantage of the rest and relaxation of it all. I will be able to sleep in and get up whenever I want or just stay in bed if I so choose to do so. Cuddle up in front of the television and watch old family classic christmas stories or read a good book while sipping on a good cup of coffee or cocoa.
I say all of this but yeah, it would still be nice to share whatever I end up doing with someone that is special to me. But, I am special to me.. so its ok. I will be fine. Maybe next year I won't be alone physically. That would be nice.     | |
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| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/22/2006 9:12:18 PM | I dealing with it by going out on X-mas eve and knocking over everyone's lawn ornaments. Then I will kick a few mall santas and to cap it all off I am going to tell my neighbors twin 3 year old boys there is no santa.
Seriously, it usually doesn't phase me about the no SO but this year I can't spend it with family either. It is a little sad. Ohh great..now I am going to cry! Like a poster said some pages back, there are worst things than being alone for Christmas.
Now I gotta go see if I can cut the electricity to my neighbors lights without getting shocked. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2006 10:34:44 PM | We are all on a beautiful journey.
Being alone, is good for the soul, it helps us to be independent, thus more stronger, and to deal with certain emotions we experience when we are alone for the holidays. This is my 3rd christmas being a new alone/solo lady. The first was very emotional, and sad, the second was happy with bouts of sadness, The third, is wonderful! I love my life. I love winter and I love snow, I really like Chrismas, jazzy christams songs, catchin up on my to-do's list, (as my life is extremely busy) and taking the time to visit people, making an effort to connect with friends.
I promise you, it does get better and easier, I changed new life completely, i have different traditions and do the opposite of what I did during my marriage. I focus heavily on my children, because after all Christmas is for kids, Its not material things, but its lots of love, and laughs and really good food, as well as getting down to their level. When I tell my boy No, Santa cant afford that. He gets it. He understands, and Im glad because there is great teachings in being alone, and not getting,
We all go thru our stuff, but when we "come out of the furnace " It wasnt so bad, I respect the strength I have earned, It has been a great tool,
in the end ask your self; " And what have I learned from this?"
You will be amazed at how much wiser/stronger you are. | |
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| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/22/2006 10:41:51 PM | I'll be alone for Christmas this year but so far it's not really bothering me. I guess it will just be another day like every other day.....I won't dwell on it or feel sorry for myself.
I'll open my gifts (yes, I did shop for myself) and then I'll make a nice little Christmas dinner and share a lovely bottle of wine with myself. With any luck, I'll be passed out drunk by noon and won't have to worry about it!
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Posted: 12/22/2006 10:49:03 PM | Alone all the way. NO family close to me nor significant other. I deal with it. I keep busy with my hobbies and I just dont let myself be down in any way. Life is too great to let it down.
Alone, so be it.
No I would not rush into a relationship, that would not be wise. I'll stick to my principles. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2006 11:02:53 PM | This is my third year, been divorced for 10, and for the past three years, the kids have not
been around having lives of there own.
I have to admit, that it has been hard being alone, but this year I decided that I was not
going to be sad, or get depressed, I don't turn on the TV or radio, because of all the
x-mas stuff blasting about families, shopping, and running around.
So I do things that interest me, and just get by for the most part.
This year I have been invited over to an open house at my brothers place, so that is where
I will head, it would be nice if I had an S.O. but I have no need to get involved with some
one just so that I don't have to be alone.
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Posted: 12/22/2006 11:34:08 PM | Personally, don't care. I just don't understand the need to be with someone for a holiday just to not spend it alone. I have a great family and awesome friends and I never feel "depressed" because I am single. Being single is my CHOICE, and that will change when I find the "right" guy for ME, regardless of the holidays.
Less than 2 months until Valentine's Day!     LOL!!! | |
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| ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 12/23/2006 2:38:50 AM | Hey Greeneyez...Your post was so funny and I like your outlook and could relate to it too....
I personally am at my 7th Christmas alone....it does get better with time...well better I guess I mean; you get use to it....and I try to treat it as just another day...My ex and I are into a 50/50 split of time with children and we know what to expect every year...
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Posted: 12/23/2006 8:25:41 AM | Well, better to be honest than not---my ex-boyfriend's gettin' married today and yes, it's pretty much left me in "panic" mode---even though I'M the one that did the breaking up. No, I don't want him back, I'm just nervous that I'm being left behind.
I'm not going to let the holidays and being without someone get the best of me, however. I'll buck up, face the music and ride this one out! What else IS there to do, after all, right?
But, I sure would like to find that special someone soon --- I ain't gettin' any younger, y'know! | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 9:17:20 AM | OP said:
I was wondering how some of you folks feel about spending the holidays without a significant other....does it make you want to "hurry up and find someone?...will you be depressed if you are boy/girlfriendless over the holidays?
I'm a little wistful that I won't wake up Christmas morning spooned up against someone, but I got through my "hurry up and find someone" phase earlier this year, so now I don't anymore see my my single-ness as some lonely gap that needs to be filled. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 11:55:41 AM | Just had to mention , i write the same with , with the enter key
and lately , everyone keeps pointing it out
and buggin me
but yes , much easier to read i think!!!
Keep up the considerate typing....lol
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Posted: 12/23/2006 7:18:46 PM | I will be without a "significant other", but not really alone. I have a fantastic group of friends, Central Park dance skaters and dancers, who will get together at the Sapphire Lounge,
249 Eldridge Street (at Houston St). They are a friendly and welcoming bunch and you are all invited. It's from 7:00 O'clock PM until ? Free Admission. If you live anywhere near NYC, just take the F train to 2nd Ave Station, stay in the front, take the exit on your right and it's right around the corner.
Hope to see you there!
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Posted: 12/23/2006 7:23:13 PM | My kids and I have just moved to a new town.....a new state actually; so it's taken my mind off of the fact that I don't have an SO to snuggle up with during the holidays. I'll just snuggle up with them instead!
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Posted: 12/23/2006 8:58:06 PM | I'm alone...not with family, kids, and there isn't a significant other. The fact I'm sitting in an internet cafe this close to closing time rather than unpacking my things coz I'm sure I'm not going to leave town if the opportunity presents itself after Christmas speaks for itself.
One decent game plan with a future for me and me alone is all I ask of myself and 2007. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 9:14:09 PM | I have more money. . . One of my boyz at work just dropped $500 on his GF for Xmas.. he's only 17 LOL
It kinda sucks being single... but you always have to look at the other side of the coin.
Single means that you can go out and get as drunk as you want, hit on as many girls as you want, play with those girls, buy yourself the perfect super expensive Xmas present, only have to visit and buy presents for your own family, and not to mention rake in all the overtime at work!
One more thing. . . plan for a wicked night out on New Years! | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 9:31:55 PM | I work on the 24th and 25th (11am-8pm).
My 29/son lives in New Mexico
My 22/son has plans
My 16/daughter is w/her Daddy
I've had 4 different invites to spend w/very close friends but means driving an hour . . . so I will skip!
But work is not going to "rain on my parade" . . . I'm throwing a "tamale party" for me, myself and I. I've prep everything and I'm ready to start making my tamales after work tomorrow . . . some great wine and AWESOME MUSIC and I will be dancing as I make them . . . YUMMY! YUMMY! YUMMY!!!
Ooooooh yeah!!!! | |
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