Enig
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Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 226 | |
| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:18:38 PM |
That's simple. Look directly to the left!
To the left, to the left, reminds me of the song "Irreplaceable".  With that in mind I think I might try the right way instead. LOL
Nice guys are always at the end of the line...waiting ever so patiently. Only until some lucky woman realizes of course. ;) They're there for ya when needed, and even when they're not n expect nothing in return. *ahem* Except maybe that some woman would open their eyes I suppose. Lmao | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:28:49 PM | | Hmmmmmmm I can't be THAT nice a guy then. I won't just date anyone regardless of their looks or grooming lmao | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:03:37 PM | I was responding to this
A nice guy is one who will quietly slip away rather than saying..."OMG You're fat and ugly!!" .
If a woman says that she is 5 10 at 140lbs ...then ya know she is not fat...however, when you get to your date and she is 5 10 alright, and is 210...then you slip away...I have no tolerance for people who lie. So they do not deserve my respect...
Also, how do we spot the nice girls??
One that is sincerely happy you’re going for beers, wings and watching the game with your buds.
One that does not pick a fight when you say you’re grumpy.
One that say they love you just because, not because you buy them something.
One that will not bother you to do house work when you’re working from home during regular business hours.
One that will not feel compelled to talk when you want to sit and chill and be quiet then ask you what’s wrong.
One that will not pick a fight over a dang toilet seat. man that bugs the hell out of me...
grrr
One that knows your not a morning person and will respect that you like to sleep in on the weekends.
OH I could go on..... But I won’t...is there any nice girls out there...ha
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:24:39 PM |
A nice guy is one who will quietly slip away rather than saying..."OMG You're fat and ugly!!"
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:58:46 PM | | The whole looking for a nice guy is not true it is right by saying nice guys finish last not all the time no. Having good manors does not show a nice guy. That is just courtious. Doing good thoughtfull loving things for you loved one and others. Putting others first . All men would love to be tigers in the bed room. But alot of women now a days donot want to be happy they get bored and think grass is greener on the other side You can surprise them with flowers and dinners and listen and do everything everything right faithfull honest respectfull and at the end of the day hear that I am going through something, woman get bored with nice guys that give it all . That whole toliet set thing if it not such a big deal why do you not flip it up when you are done just looking for something to **** about. Know one wants to fight and argue. Being a clean freak is not a sign of a nice guy. Bad boys. we are all bad boys You donot know everything about us. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:39:50 AM |
we all know how to spot a player but what about a nice guy?
a few traits I know of are:
he pulls out the chair for you
he calls when he says he is going to call
he looks in your eyes when speaking to you
he truly listens
he apologizes when he has been wrong
he is a gentleman
I know the saying "nice guys finish last" but I dont believe that for one minute....
how do you fellow fishies spot a nice guy!
^^^^That is a good start of how to spot one. Respectful of others in general is another one. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:29:32 PM |
I just have one thing to say to all the nice guys that say women don't want a nice guy. The problem is that we DO want a nice guy. The jerks we end up with TELL us they are nice guys and at first, they are. THEN they turn into the jerks they really are. You see, those jerks have got our number and know we are looking for a good guy. It's only until later their true identity comes out. This makes us women gun-shy and question when a man tells us he's one of the good ones. I will forever have optimism that out of all these jerks at least ONE will end up to be truly a nice guy. Until then, I'm still fishing for him!
I couldn't have said it better myself - you right on the mark.... All we need to do is find ONE truly nice guy. I have lost count the 'nice' guys I have met who turned into jerks - most of the time less than an hour after I meet them. It is easy to figure out when someone is genuinely 'nice', when you meet them more than twice and they are still the same person as the first time you meet them. So many guys pretend to be someone you are looking for to get what they are really wanting to meet you for. If they seem too good to be true - they probably are. The good thing about that is, it doesn't take very long for guys like that to show their true colors.
The shallow guys are what bother me the most - especially the ugly guys who think that they are better than the rest of us. It is funny when you have the chance to get to know some of these idiots, they really have less going for him than anyone else does. I feel sorry for these guys. They will never find anyone they think is good enough for them. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:34:56 PM | | So....You're saying that jerks are better at pretending to be nice guys than actual nice guys are at being themselves?? OMG. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:52:41 PM | lol Jeep... I think it's just the fact that jerks suffer from a pretty common disease.
It's called Idiot-itis. Many have it (many i've dated) Nice guys are usually the ones who might have a small case of it but nothing even close to what some suffer from.
One of the symptoms is lying to get what you want. Another is having an ego so big that unless you're a size 2 model with big breast... you arn't worthy of acknowledging them. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:03:21 PM | Good lord, some people read into things waaaaaaaaaay too much...lol What we're saying is, in OUR experience (not everyone's), we have met more men pretending to be nice guys than genuine nice guys. Maybe the genuine nice guys are just too afraid to make the first move and they are over looked because we don't know you exist. The point is, no one knows if you really, truely are a nice guy/gal until the getting to know you stage. Anyone can say they're one of the good ones. The proof is in the pudding. Just have to find one.
I know I think of myself as a sweet person, I've been told by friends, co-workers etc they think that also BUT...I do have opinions and when a man may read some of my posts, he might not perceive what I've written as sweet. But that's all in the interpretation. So all you truely nice guys who moan and whine about not being wanted, or all you nice guys that have an opinion not everyone will agree with, you have to remember who's reading your posts. I take my chances with my opinions and if I'm seen in a bad light because of a mood I was in that day, or a particular point of view, I have to roll with the punches.
Nice guys don't finish last...it just takes a wee bit longer for the right woman to find you because of all the idiots out there giving you a bad name. The same can go for a woman. Unfortunately alot of us that have had some bad dating experiences will be just a little more cautious. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:12:43 PM |
One that is sincerely happy you’re going for beers, wings and watching the game with your buds.
One that doesn't mind you going out with the girls dancing, or hey even better will ask you to come along.
One that say they love you just because, not because you buy them something.
One that doesn't buy you something just in hopes to get a little something.
One that will not bother you to do house work when you’re working from home during regular business hours.
One that is willing to help you with the housework after you have both put in a days work.
One that will not feel compelled to talk when you want to sit and chill and be quiet then ask you what’s wrong.
All I can say to that one is ditto!!
One that will not pick a fight over a dang toilet seat. man that bugs the hell out of me...
Man do you know how it feels to get up in the middle of the night and go to sit on wet freezing cold porclein? Not to mention the cold water on your butt
Let's face it we all would like pretty much the same thing in the long run no matter what sex you are. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:14:18 PM | Simple answer to this after reading the back and forth slight bickering lol.
How to spot a nice guy? You can't! We're ALL in hiding.
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:28:26 PM | Oh that is where they are, time to play hide and seek then.
Come out Come out Where ever you are!!
Actually I believe there is a lot of great people on here but what one may find a good guy/girl another may not. All in the eye of the beholder | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:37:36 PM | Heeyyyyyyyyyy! I'm not hiding!! I've learned a lot being here. I'm just doing what some very very wise people know that we nice guys do!!! I'm cowering in a corner whining and snivelling while all wrapped up in mummy's apron strings!!! 
And that whole eye of the beholder thing.... I believe that... but I've been told so many times my pictures don't do me justice. Online just ain't the be-all-and-end-all that some people believe it is.
Things will happen if and when they're meant to. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:55:35 PM | pulls on mummy strings..."sorry got a flu here and need some of it to blow my nose" giggling.
Things will happen if and when they're meant to
Very good little grasshopper, you are learning well.
Running now for being a little shit tonight 
Yep think I'm starting to feel a little better. | |
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B.E.D.
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 243 | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/25/2007 6:22:54 PM |
Nice guys don't finish last...it just takes a wee bit longer for the right woman to find you because of all the idiots out there giving you a bad name. The same can go for a woman. Unfortunately alot of us that have had some bad dating experiences will be just a little more cautious.
That is VERY true……but on the other hand…when someone has had as many bad dating experiences with idiots as I have had, I know a genuine nice guy much quicker because of all of the clues I have learned to watch for to spot an idiot pretending to be a nice guy to get what he wants. Sometimes I can spot a phony if I chat with him for 5 minutes so I don’t have to waste as much of my time weeding through the idiots to find a nice guy any more. | |
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B.E.D.
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 245 | |
| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/25/2007 7:27:04 PM | | I think I believe that nice guys do finish last. No one gives you the chance to prove it. I've had women say to me here " Your mailbox should be overflowing" and "The women should be beating down your door, you're such a great guy!" Well, guess what? It ain't happening. It seems to me women state they want a nice guy, but don't really. Or they are not serious, maybe just "dating junkies". I think when I update my profile next, I'll make myself into a jerk and an a***ole, and see what kind of response I get. Somebody prove me wrong here. I'll gladly admit my mistake and take back what I said. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/25/2007 9:44:35 PM | I'm of the opinion that there's a whole lot of "window shopping" going on, both in the POF pond and the Real World ... (i.e. when folks continually look at something/somebody that's "out of range" for them ... but they just can't take their eyes off it/him/her ... with the result that ... they miss out on the "real bargains" ... chuckle!)
And, even then ... once somebody stops and looks ... it's like shopping for a used car - they think to themselves "the mileage is too high/there's GOTTA be something wrong with the rear end/under the hood ... haha!)
Hmmm ... maybe it's time to rewrite the profiles ...
Bargain! Dependable!! Not a guzzler!!! Guaranteed to start on cold mornings, will never let you down, will always get you there (and back)!!!! Has all the original parts!!!!! Come on down for a test drive!!!!!! Terms available!!!!!!
Hmmm ... whadda ya think? | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/26/2007 3:50:02 AM | P.S. How could I forget? (luckily another thread reminded me ...)
Passes emission tests!!!!!!! | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/26/2007 5:27:49 AM |
So....You're saying that jerks are better at pretending to be nice guys than actual nice guys are at being themselves?? OMG.
I think this is true to an extent. Jerks (in my experience) have larger egos and more confidence than most of the nice guys (having been conditioned to finish last). They also have a clearly defined idea of what they want and how to get it. Nice guys (again in my experience) generally are so awe-struck that an attractive/nice woman is talking to them that they fall over their feet. So the women are introduced to the outgoing 'nice guy/jerk' and believe what they are told until they get to know them better. (or the jerk gets what he wanted in the first place)
It's an unfortunate side effect when people can deceive each other, the ones who tell the truth don't have that other side which allows them to be that confident self-assured person (natively though some can learn) while the jerks can come at it using a little of their own selves and a whole lot of 'pretend'
Note: this is not intended to be stereotyping anyone, I'm sure there are nice guys who have confidence and jerks who don't. But this has been my experience in dealing with people. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/26/2007 5:41:46 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^ zunni, I think you expressed yourself really well with the above statement.
I've dated some actual nice guys and been fooled by some of the not-so-nice guys before. You are right, it really is a shame when people deceive each other. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 10:24:59 AM | I don't know what the problem is Blue eyed Dad. They way I see it men have the same problem as women.
I have met and talked to sooo many people I have lost count, but they all seem to turn out the same way. I give everyone a chance until I see there is something about them I can't tolerate. You have to find someone who enjoys your company as much as you enjoy theirs. Most people don't give anyone a chance. Is is most people seem to enjoy the revolving door, or is it they have met so many wrong people they know how to spot the problems quicker? I am serious about wanting to find someone to have a relationship with, but all I seem to meet are creeps. They all seem like nice guys at first, but if I give them a little time, they turn into creeps in front of my eyes like magic. I accept people for who they are and don't judge anyone for anything they have no control over. Honesty is a big one for me. If I see someone isn't honest - it is game over. I trust people until they show me they can't be trusted. The sad thing is - so far it hasn't taken much time. I have had so much practice with dishonesty, I can see when someone isn't being honest with me very easily. | |
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