| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 10:33:20 AM | How to spot a nice guy....
First round: Take a poll and eliminate the few not self-identifying as a nice guy.
Second round: Internet questionairre on behavioural situations. Eliminate those not having enough "nice" responses.
Third round: Intense cognitive-behavioural testing in a closed-room setting. Eliminate those with hidden agendas and faulty cognitive processes.
Fourth round: Criminal Record check and Sex Offender Registry check.
Fifth round: Personal interview in front of a board of 5 interviewers to assess personality, presentation, and personal deportment.
The one with the highest score is the nice guy. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 10:57:15 AM |
First round: Take a poll and eliminate the few not self-identifying as a nice guy.
Second round: Internet questionairre on behavioural situations. Eliminate those not having enough "nice" responses.
Third round: Intense cognitive-behavioural testing in a closed-room setting. Eliminate those with hidden agendas and faulty cognitive processes.
Fourth round: Criminal Record check and Sex Offender Registry check.
Fifth round: Personal interview in front of a board of 5 interviewers to assess personality, presentation, and personal deportment.
The one with the highest score is the nice guy.
Most of the guys I have met wouldn't even get past the first round. Does a guy who has a score at all exist? 99.9% of the guys I have met so far -- ALL have hidden agendas. With some all it takes is a couple of hours - some are a little smarter and their hidden agendas take a little longer to see - like maybe the 2nd or 3rd time you meet them - NO longer....
PLEASE TELL ME....Where are the 'REAL' nice guys hiding? | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:46:24 PM | OK... I'll 'fess up for my entire gender. We're all evil b*stards that are only after sex. None us have any emotional needs of our own, and certainly no personality or substance. We're all just sex-crazed lunatics. Well, 99.9% anyway. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 1:03:24 PM | We're all just sex-crazed lunatics.
I am glad someone is finally admitting it. I wonder if there is .001% that isn't a sex-crazed lunatic. I wish I could try another planet, because all of the guys I have met so far have been playing games to get sex and who has no idea how to care for anyone only themselves. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 1:16:55 PM | I trully would not know how to spot a nice guy because i am the rudest ,mean ,miserable ,unmannered,lieing ,disrepecting ,dishonest ,fugly ,stealing,drug additcted ,acoholic ,smoking ,dirty ,scumbag piece of crap you will ever see . ......But besides all that i am a pretty good guy .UH HUH .......... | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:45:26 PM | Is there an application for a nice guy to fill out? Come on girls, a nice guy is someone who remembers that the lady in his life is a priority in everything. A guy bends over backwards for a woman and next thing you know her friends are mocking it "it isn't going to last'.
My grandfather had me opening doors for my sisters, cousins, grandmothers, and anyone else in need of a smile.
But the point is simple...it has to be true from the heart and not just a motion. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:22:10 PM |
OK... I'll 'fess up for my entire gender. We're all evil b*stards that are only after sex. None us have any emotional needs of our own, and certainly no personality or substance. We're all just sex-crazed lunatics. Well, 99.9% anyway.
Jeep,
We discussed this at the last meeting. Remember? You promised not to say anything about the "big secret". | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:42:56 PM | He calls just to say "Hi, I was thinking about you"
He knows that you feel like a fugly cuz ur sick and says "can I come and hold your hair while you kiss the toilet"
He sends you flowers at work for no reason at all
He sends you a simple text message when you are sound asleep just to say "still thinking about you"
He kisses your stretch marks
He kisses your stretch marks again | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:44:57 PM |
I think this is true to an extent. Jerks (in my experience) have larger egos and more confidence than most of the nice guys (having been conditioned to finish last)
I disagree with that statement to a certain degree. I think jerks are too stupid to realise that you should project confidence as a means to be appreciated, not as a means to control and to seek attention.... they are simply masking their low self esteem when acting that way. Unfortunately, women going through different phases of their life, or they have a lack of self-importance, seem attracted to that level of maturity.
For me, it's a simple solution... seek out women who aren't turned on by such a thing. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:46:20 PM |
Jeep,
We discussed this at the last meeting. Remember? You promised not to say anything about the "big secret".
Sorry... Having those memory problems again. Wish I could figure out which of my many sexually transmitted diseases from my sleazy lifestyle is causing it. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/27/2007 8:55:43 PM | I don't want to have someone opening doors for me. I can do that for myself. A nice guy someone who is honest, "GENUINELY" cares about other people and treats everyone with respect - not only me. I don't even care if he meets other people the same time as he is meeting me, if that wasn't something that was agreed to. I don't own anyone else and no one owns me, but it is important to be honest about it.
My definition of a nice guy is someone who is HONEST, doesn't play any kind of games with other people for their own benefit and is not pretending to be somoene he isn't - only and always being himself with me.
Nice guys aren't phonie - even if they don't open doors for me, call me every day to see how I am doing, or treat me to gifts, a movie or dinner. I am capable of paying my own way. A nice guy doesn't expect something of someone else he isn't willing to do himself, isn't critical or controling. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 3:31:55 AM | | well if you check me out you will see that i am a nice guy i am aussie and us guys are the best we know how to respect a woman treat her nice give her plenty of love .. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 5:31:25 AM | I see we have the same gal back under a different nic, but her storry has not changed.
"all men are jerks who only want sex". Again, I need to ask? Where are all these men? I have met quite a few men who's agenda with me does not include sex right from meet one. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 7:02:40 AM | I think the problem is, the truly nice guys will not meet anyone only someone who just came off the beauty contest run way.. but the creeps pretending to be nice guys will meet anyone who is willing to meet them because they don't plan on meeting the person twice. The people who I have the opportunity to meet, they only meet me for the same reason. They think that people who don't look like supermodels will be desparate or stupid enough to not see through their phonie 'nice guy' cover. Therefore everyone that I meet turns into freaks in a couple of days. I have no experience of meeting a guy who isn't one. I have had enough experience to know what to notice so I can spot the problem quicker, but some of the players are better than others. Eveyone puts on their 'nice guy' cover when you first get to know them. It is only when you give them time to screw up do you find out who they really are and what they really want.
I have had enough of meeting so many people who turn out to have the same problems. It is better to give up before I become even more of a man hater. All I expect is to find the same freak in another body with anyone I ever meet. I wish I could have met one nice guy to believe they actually exist to see some point to keep looking. Almost everyone I have met so far has made my ex look good. I spent 18 years trying to find something good in that man, even when he abused me in some way every day. I am not going to spend my time with someone who is worse.
I have talked to guys who have the same problem with women, so the problem isn't only with guys. Someone told me they don't want to be a door knob - they get a turn like everyone else...That is how I see most of the world lives. Dating is a revolving door where everyone meets someone once, isn't what they want, so they move on to try to find someone better. No one will ever be good enough.
I have read so many complains in here from guys who say the nice guy doesn't have a chance. The 'nice guy' problem is probably the same and the 'nice girl' problem - eveyone has been played with or tricked so often by people pretending to be 'nice' they don't believe they are who they claim to be any more than I do. They don't really believe the nice person is who they claim to be.
Is this all a waste of time because it is only people playing games with each other? I meet each person thinking they are going to be different than the last freak I met. They have all been different people, but they all turn out to have the same problems before the month is out.
If people don't think this is a problem and they have only met so many 'genuinely nice' people, I don't know why I can't be lucky enough to meet one. All the guys I have talked to have had just as many dating horror stories as I have had - some are worse. If there are so many 'genuinely nice people' in these places, why do I see the same faces that I saw in here and other places when I first started looking. These people can't be finding what they want either.
How many years do you look and not have any luck at all before you give up? | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 9:10:55 AM | | How many years do you look and not have any luck at all before you give up? life is like a bowl of chickens with hens appearing across the door steps .Problem is we all look for the goodness that is felt deep within us .We take three steps forward to see ,but then we find the the real person which make nonsense at all . I guest where just blind and a part of us see that where better off single......Their is love somewhere in this world maybe it's threw the happiness in which we portray .....But then again friends are what we desire with little expectations .Countless nights of drawing a picture and building our dreams to make the best of it . Isn't that saying good guys finish last . We just want the best and settle for nothing less .AKA Bluenight | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 9:30:43 AM | | The "supermodel" strawman again. The same could be said for women looking for nice guys that just happen to look like Hollywood leading men. Going to extremes is silly. If you expect negative things and look for negative things, that's all you'll ever find. Human beings have always been selective in who they associate with and always will be. Its the nature of the species. It won't change regardless of whether or not anyone likes it. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:24:07 PM | The people who are too selective of who they consider getting to know because they don't look like "Hollywood leading PEOPLE" , are missing out on getting to know a lot of very special people. Just because everyone wasn't born perfect, doesn't mean they could be much better than the super star/model types everyone is dying to spend their time with but never will get a chance to. Super model/stars are too busy with all the other super models to have time for the 'common/average' people of this world. They deserve each other.
Some people don't think it is important to try to look like stars or models to try to be make themselves into someone they aren't so they can try to be accepted by the shallow people of the world. If someone doesn't accept me the way I am, they can go find some one as phonie as themselves to spend their time with. I am better off to be alone if I can't find anyone to accept and appreciate me for who I am. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:28:00 PM | HOW TO SPOT A NICE GUY
well i know how to spot PLAYER LOL
NICE GUYS well thats different story .xx | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:38:32 PM | | In responce to lookingforhonesty's many posts ,i must say that maybe you have a problem and not every man that does not fit into your criteria is a player or a piece of crap .Maybe some of them just don't like your attitude and run for the hills right away ,so take a look in the mirror before you go on and on about all men being no good rotten scoundrels ,maybe just maybe you are the real problem.........Just my opinion obn what i have read thus far ...sheeeeshhhhh.... | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:56:39 PM | Not every guy I met has run for the hills. I am not a terrible person to be with. Most of the time it is me who runs for the hills. I am not selective with who I would consider having in my life. The qualities I am looking for in a person, I had no idea it would be so impossible to find.
1) Let someone finish their coffee when you meet someone for the first time before inviting them to your apartment or to go to a motel. Consider meeting someone 2 or 3 times before it is suggested.
2) Show some interest in getting to know who someone is and what they are looking for. Most people write what they do and don't want in their profiles. Try to find out if someone isn't interested in a one-night-stand before wasting anyone's time. There is no point in pretending to be someone you aren't to try to get what you want. You aren't going to get what you want by playing games.
3) Don't need to always be in control and have some idea how to communicate.
4) Don't waste anyone's time telling people you aren't married if you are..it isn't hard to figure out.
Why is it that most of the guys I have met so far have one of these problems? | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:58:51 PM | | Is there such a thing as a "nice guy"?? I believe in "actions speak louder than words" when it comes to meeting the so-called "nice guys". | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:06:32 PM | I do think that some people are quick to say someone isn't a nice guy because that guy just happens to not be interested in them. I see it all the time.... they go on and on about how great of a guy he is, he confesses to not sharing the same feelings towards her as she feels for him and BOOM next ya know he's an @sshole.
To one person a guy could be such a sweet nice guy and to someone else he could be an @sshole. I guess it all depends on how they come across to you.
Some women b*tch because guys don't say what they are thinking and other women b*tch because they were honest with them.
I have male friends that are considered @ssholes to some females but they treat me like gold so in my eyes I think of them as nice guys. It's not like they go around being d!cks to these girls... they simply just didn't share the same feelings as them and because of that they are now being put down by these females.
Many guys are really nice guys... they all have good qualities to them and no one is perfect. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:09:44 PM | I'm nice.... but honest. Honesty about some things scares most people away. I'd rather do that up front than be disappoint or be accused of being dishonest later. Some people don't even think honesty is nice (ie. Looks do count). 
Disclaimer: Nice to people I choose to be nice to, or to people that are nice to me. "Life is a bowl of cherries" nice is too sappy for me. Nice is where you want to find it, and sometimes its in surprising places. | |
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